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Daddy Freeze has no right to even comment on this: is he not a divorcee?

The statement has been taken out of context.

By the time an individual has introduced the other half to the parents, that is as good as saying: we are ready to get married. Afterall, most of us showed of our other half first to friends, before even family members.

What she is saying is: seek spiritual counsel first. Some have the gift of hearing from God directly. Others may have to rely on their pastors for it. Anyway that it works for you, get confirmation in your spirit man that this is the right person, before you move it to the next level of officially introducing the other half to your parents.

I don't know how it will look to keep presenting a different face to one's parents anytime a relationship does not work out. Not with phenomena like "Abuja marriage" which we have these days.

Grupo:
You seem to not know that the person you quoted is the infamous scammer with multiple monikers including fidelmalek, MesuitOzil, Forevermore.

If he writes ten posts on this thread, 9 out of the ten are lies. He is just trying to gain the trust of people and then scam them.

Well. that is his problem.

TOMMIEYIKES:
Hello house.
Should I be scared or should thank my stars that I've met a goldfish client?
This guy has sent me an offer to write (4) 1000 words articles for $250 each.
That is a thousand dollars for writing just 4,000 words.
He's hired me and funded the job and I'm still having a hard time believing that a client will pay that high.
What are your thoughts?

Client has funded the escrow and you are still doubting? God don carry rain clouds of blessing come your house. You still dey wait make destiny killers here discourage you abi?

People do not even understand the entire concept. Freelancing means you pick a skillset, acquire it, and offer it to the world. You can use the freelance sites as an avenue to offer these skills or you can do it privately using your global network.

You are more or less like a consultant. There is no big deal here and no mystery to it all.

ASPIREX:
Thanks for your candid suggestion.

In all my trips abroad I network extensively with Nigerians but I never considered relocation at that time. I am thinking about it now and thats why I came on the travel section seeking 'your' advice. And I getting a lot and trying to filter through it objectively. And please ite that I am reading all the posts and jotting notes as I take this project seriously.

I could consider an International job......a good one that would give me fulfillment.

As regards further studies that could improve my chances at the labour market I am not taking that path. I am more interested s out of the question in doing a business of my own with he attendant challenges and consequent fulfillment as reward. I will eventually take on a Masters degree (and maybe a phd) but this will be only for the acquisitionof learning in an area of interest and not for career enhancement.

Many countries that will provide an investor visa for you to do business will require hundreds of thousands of dollars. Besides let me even ask: what kind of visa are you even looking for to leave Nigeria? Have you looked at the various visa categories for the countries of your choice and known the documentation required?

Of course they will list just like Freelancer did in Australia 5 years ago. Can't understand why they started raping freelancers with 20% charges as opposed to 8.75% during the Elance days.

Tomorrow she will accuse him of rape. Guys don dey wise up.

WetinConsignMe:
Big difference. Overt racism is : ^we only hire white people" or "we don't serve blacks here" or "we don't admit blacks to this school or hospital etc" Huge difference.

"These jobs are only meant for our people".

"if you allow these people, they will take over this place from us"

"Rivers money for Rivers people".

"I only take tenants that speak my language."

"Bastard nyamiri corporal" (heard this in a military barracks)

How do these statements which I have heard over the years differ from the examples you just mentioned?

Mizwisdom:
Brother, Do you feel like a stranger in Nigeria because of your skin color?
Are you stared at by other people in the street because of your color?
Are you picked on by security because of your color?
Are you less likely to work in corporate companies because of your color?
Do you feel uncomfortable in some top clas recreational places like hotels, bars et al because of your color?
Are you restricted by attitude of people from entering certain public places because of your color?
Are you limited from political growth because of your color?
If this happens in Nigeria, we agree that there's racism. Racism is discrimination based on the color of your skin and other physical features, while tribalism is segregation based on your ethnic group, it's not part of your body but your identity by choice or birth.

The content is the same. Whether it is discrimination by colour, or discrimination by tribe.

Semantics is not what we are arguing here. I am literate and know the dictionary meanings of racism and ethnophobia. It might interest you to note that the definition of ethnophobia also has an element of racism in it.

WetinConsignMe:
At least they have laws that prevent u from being overtly racist. In Naija u can be happily overtly tribalist - eg u may decide to hire only people from your tribe.

Can I tell you an experience I had in 2015? A new house I wanted to move to, and the landlord said he cannot take me as he only wants tenants that speak his language. I had to slap myself to make sure I heard right.

In my own country?

dochenaj:
Racism and tribalism are related. In the one you are prejudiced because of your race while in the other because of your tribe. At the end of the day, the content of the treatment is almost the same.

Thank you. I deliberately ended this angle of the discussion because there was no point arguing with her. Something I have experienced in Nigeria and France and can easily make comparison. I am blessed to be a speaker of more than one Nigerian language and I cannot tell you countless times I have heard shocking ethnophobic discussions being made in my presence in various places in Naija by people who never believed I could speak their language.

Some time ago, a VIO personnel in Abuja whom I had a squabble with after he tried to conjure up a fake traffic offence (and whomI rightly put in his place), was muttering away as I drove off in Hausa how these "nyamiris" have taken over Abuja and should be sent back to the South.

Institutional racism exists abroad: yes we agree. But what we have here is "ethnophobic, genocidal racism". Look at what the Fulani herdsmen are doing here. Look at Jos, Nimbo, Benue, etc. Does institutional racism abroad even come close to these?

A lot of people don't know how far gone Naija is under the current leadership of the country.

OP my advise to you is this.

If you take a poll here, (to go or not to go, or even where to go between US, Canada, etc), you will have naysayers and supporters in equal measure.

If you are relocating with your family, you need to know what visa category will cover you, what you will do for money, cost of living, etc. Do not leave Naija without a standing business or income earning endeavour here. I mean a business that operates with a structure and not one that is based around your presence. So when you leave, it is from a position of strength and not weakness.

Secondly, take the plunge first. Do not yank your kids and wife off their school and work here to the land of the unknown. Know the industries or sectors where there are skills shortages and prepare yourself here ahead of time. For instance, Norway and Finland has high demand for forklift operators and truckers. So if you were to go there, consider equipping yourself with the necessary certifications to do such work while you scout for your dream job.

You should also identify what you want to do for money. Do you ultimately want to work or own a business? Each country has rules and visa criteria for such endeavours. Know these in advance and prepare accordingly.

Study the threads for different countries here. There is loads of information for the countries of your choice.

murphyibiam15:
I'm single at the moment and I'm 27 years of age..does it just involve going to Canada embassy here in Nigeria and applying for that?

I have a two friends from school who are in Canada as doctors. It may be easier using a specialist pathway via UK or Singapore. Straight movement to Canada as a doc from here is a lot more difficult.

Babyvet:
Lol ,I can tell you haven't. Living here and visiting is very different. People who lived here in the US for many years generally don't share that sentiments.

That's because they have been there so long that they don't know what Naija has become. You probably don't too. US is not the only foreign country too.

franchasng:
Harsh, not cool.

Its not his fault that he didn't make it big on time like his mates u mentioned and life is not a race, some will start early, but end up fast, some will start late, pick up late and finish best.

Some will start excellently, continue excellently but finish woefully!

Some will start slowly, continue slowly and finish excellently!

Some will start slowly, continue excellently and finish averagely.

We all have our timing in life.

Obama became president at 50s while Trump became president at 70s.

Yararua became president at 50s and died at 50s while Buhari became president at 70s and still alive.

Goodluck nko

Abiola nko

Don't mock people. Offer advice if u can, peace

God bless you my brother.

Babyvet:
Lol your naive and ignorant. Go look up the definition of racism. What going in Nigerian is totally different from what going on in the Us or Canada. I don't have to talk too much , just google it yourself.

I do not need Google. I have tasted both worlds practically and tangibly. It is not by Googling.

Babyvet:
Racism is EVERYWHERE, even Canada has problems with racism, don't be deceived some places are just more overt with their problems.

There is more racism in Nigeria than in any of these places you mentioned.

I was in a taxi in PH some time ago when a passenger was ranting at how Igbos have spoiled the Garden City, and stated that she would have no problems deporting every Igbo person from the state if she was a governor. I have heard such several times in Bayelsa, Oyo, and in many states I have been to in Nigeria. I have even been in Enugu and overheard in an office a discussion between two men of how they (the Enugu people) were being oppressed by an Abia man (who was head of that agency) and how they would fight him to the end until he packs his bags back to the Abia village he came from. This is Igbo to Igbo hatred. What can beat that?

I don't even want to mention the fact that Hausa is the official language spoken in a federal parastatal such as NEMA. As if we have nothing like federal character in this country (indeed, have we ever had it?).

So all this talk about racism abroad is not strange to us. It is here in Nigeria among us. So anyone who can survive the ethnic-based racism we have here in Nigeria can survive it abroad.

ASPIREX:
To emigrate or not is the question here.

I need very mature advice and inputs as regards a situation I am trying to resolve.

In the last two yearsI have been thinking seriously about relocating my entire family abroad but I am still held back by indescision.

Just this afternoon I made a decision to throw it open on Nairaland Travel section. I am sure the mature contibutions that flow forth here will help me to a large extent to take a final decision on which direction the pendulum swings.

Please note that my wife is indifferent as per where we are. She just wants us to be together peacefully. She is also not a very ambitious person inthe ense thay she does not really aspire to be Folorunsho Alakija or Dangote's wife. She is very satisfied with being an average, comfortable upper middle class citizen anywhere in the world provided there is peace.

I am the money man with a lot of ambition and an undying aspiration to beat (or at least compete favourably with Aliko Dangote.

It would help if you can indicate exactly what you want to do for money once abroad. It will have relevance on what kind of visa you will have to go for and the pathway you will undertake.

GboyegaD:
That is not the true picture of things and that was why I was asking you where you got your information from.

You are wrong. Laird has summed it up for you. I have relations and lots of friends and classmates in Canada and I do not want to repeat some of the stories here. In case you do not know, cost of living in Canada is quite high and as a elderly immigrant without a Canadian education or knowledge of French, it will be a lot harder.

Blackmailers should be put to death.

Why is she not listed on Forbes?

Everyone knows that she is a direct beneficiary of her father's rule in Angola from 1975. When the UNITA rebels were defeated, the MPLA government took control of the diamond-rich areas and added to their oil-controlled areas.

So who is kdding whom?

After Sai baba's 2nd term, they should tell us how many of them have transited from being bus conductors to owning their own buses.

Abitolola:
60k is not bad for 1 hectre in wasimi. All the best

Na wa o. I paid 20k in Nasarawa and fed the women who did it lunch.

Believe me, the trust factor is two ways. No one will want to part with such amount of money on a faceless basis beforehand, and no seller will just carry goats or cows with no financial commitment to a buyer's location.

The only way this can work is to create an escrow system.

Bolowolowo:
It is a refinery. Why on earth would a plantation be near a factory?

How do you cut the cost of transporting the raw materials from a plantation to the refinery if not to site the plantation near the refinery? I suggest you read this material: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/271019960_Economies_of_scale_analysis_and_location_studies_for_fuel_ethanol_refineries

and several others like it.

BigGuyMan01:
Ordained as a Fraudster

Make God scatter that your mouth, nonsense.

Women are emotional beings and are not wired to handle information the way men do.

That said, there is a difference between hiding information, and managing information. Managing information means that you only let out what needs to be let out, in a manner that will not evoke negative reactions from the wife, the same way a President of a country is privy to information from the secret service that ordinary citizens are not.

Someone mentioned Abraham here in the case of the instruction to sacrifice Isaac. That is exactly how such information is to be handled. Not everything shoud be divulged by a husband to a wife.

MyGeneration:
ASUU is an enemy of the state. education is not for everybody.

too many people with degrees few jobs.

why don't u make degrees hard so that there will be plenty jobs

Please can you explain the bolded?

This pilot is gonna be grounded for a long time.

Why we still have these 30+ year old Alpha Jets that were used during the days of ECOMOG in our air fleet just beats me. I was in traffic at Eagle Square when one of them buzzed us with low level flight displays. I nearly went deaf from the noise.

Kelvin30286063:
What are you guys talking about?
What if that is not his Ward?
Or are you telling me that anyone can just go to any Ward and cast vote?
Let's know the root of matters before jumping into an ocean of conclusion
The sentence is clear!
"this is not the place you have to vote get out of here..."
Means he went to the wrong polling unit!
Simple!

Is that the kind of language to be used to redirect someone in the wrong polling unit? Stupid policeman. When they get killed and their families are starving, they start running helter skelter for help.