Hate the part when ladies stare hard at their men soon as they notice a pretty lady passing.. at that point as a man, just put ur head and eyes on static mode.. its hard bt try.

Ok thanks all, they gave an option of using a bible or a ring tho

Please i'll love to know if exchanging rings in a court marriage is advisable since the white/church wedding will still take place where rings will also be exchanged..

mamagee3:
I met this guy few months ago who used to call me like once in a blue moon. But every time he called I would turn the phone off. After some time, I decided to answer his phone call and then he invited me over to his house to meddle. Well I thought meddle meant like hanging out, watching tv and talking.

Well, when I got to his house, he told me he wanted to give birth to his own kids and he was tired of carrying other people's kids. Then he told me I should go to the bedroom which I declined because I didn't trust him. Then I told him how I didn't want se.x before marriage.

This guy never wanted to go anywhere with me, every time I said let's hang out, he would tell me that he likes to study and he doesn't like hanging out. He didn't do nothing for me. After ways of telling me to come and have se.x which I declined. He then began calling me babe and acting like we are in a relationship and how he needed a wife and he was going to marry me.

Next I told him about my sleeping pills and my issues with insomnia and he would often tell me to take my pills and pass the night in his house of which I declined. He tried every means possible verbally to get me to bed without spending a dime but it didn't work.

Next he called me an Ogbanje for not wanting se.x. But I could tell through his actions and words that I earned his respect because I refused to fall for his tricks even though he didn't like me. He would even say things like "You're very smart, no man can ever deceive you."

So this was my experience, tell me about yours.

Bolded shld be d issue, I think He should spend b4 having it.

Doctrine has taught us not to judge.

So many young, handsome and rich boys/men here bt they dnt blow their trumpet.. bt these kids won't let person chew meat and swallow.

Sad moment, I can't help but remember... may God grant them the strength to bear this great loss.. its never easy.

As a matured man or lady, u should define your relationship from the start, so I see no need for proposing and all, that means they were playing all along and banging or something...

The ring then comes in later in the courtship signify your faithfulness to your woman..then go and pay bride price and start the real thing...

Chinese men naturally like cheap places...that's just them, always economical.

Too many kids on nairaland...well it's nice having u kids around..

Pride before fall! Aunty Linda, watch it..

Maybe it's ur english, or ur background, ur tie sef na wahala...the way ur pose....infact everything makes me shy abt u.. I shame for u.

God pls reveal unto me my own way of being a celebrity, "bread" and "not my real face" is taken already.

Posting unclad baby bump on social media is stupidity... quote me anywhere.

See as person mama fine, pikin come get table tennis head.

In some years, they'll realise how much they mumu'd

Young handsome men! This a warning!! Pls be careful, ladies are now on some desperate measures..

Receive sense in Jesus name! Meanwhile get a lady to pay ur bills too so it becomes equal.

Linda, so u bought a bag for 4.8 million naira, and people are starving...jst pray God does not pick someone's call n transfer all ur airtime to the person!

Oga! Marry the girl o, go pay bride price, no be to call person partner...

In naija a man of 40 lives in His father's house with wife and kids

Such miracle happened in my generation, I shall live to tell my grandchildren..

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

Bro, be strong, I went thru same thing and today a lady that loves me for who I am with a good job decided to get married to me, though God has blessed me also with finance too bt nt as much as the lady in question...it's better to wait and find a lady that'll be ready to be with you through thick and thin cause that's what marriage is all about... what will happen when u get a good job n get married to her and things turn upside down? of course u know life is filled with ups and downs... cheer up n pray to your God

I'm a witness o....had this babe, she never calls, no txt, no visit I ws always complaining, she only calls when she needs money...till my head come repair..i moved, only for her to come bck to start apologising..i jst tell her byeeeeeeeeee.

I'm awaiting marriage

U want a God fearing man, yet u don't act in a God fearing way.

The problem is, how do we make our wives reach climax?

Well, I just took my own list for the trad marriage, everything amounts to about 600k, but it hasn't been debated on, I guess after the debate i'll have to part wt let's say 400k, but that's for an akwa ibom lady, I'm just posting for u to have a lil clue on how these things cost, at least he shld budget 500k for the rites.

This generation is something else...