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dingbang:
Will she buy me a house in my name?

Is house the pivotal to marriage?

Advantage? Yes. A lot.
1. Maturity in decision
2. Tend to be calm
3. Love sincerely
4. Financiallly ok at least/not total dependent
5. Tend to nag a little or no nagging
6. Husband's stomach needs before makeup
7. Love their kids dearly
8. High tendency to be a Royal and
9. Very understanding
Yet, those items above notwithstanding, the younger...the better because of family duties ahead.

Imagine

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

[/b]We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.[b]

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

May God keep you stronger. That's the beauty of having wise old men. They shall live long, yes longer with good health.
What an ELDER sees from far, even youths within cannot.

@65yr + she will pay to have people around than staying alone.
Family above fame.

Ubiman:
What of his own fucking family that issued out of his loins and was crafted with the love of the woman he calls his wife? Dead brain commentator! �

I couldn't read meaning to this.
Could you please kindly explain.

cedricksly:
it is better to keep mute and be assumed a fool than open ur mouth just like u did now to clear all doubt of you being a fool... So the woman has no right to lament right?? If u like ignore and neglect your immediate family and spend all you have on your life extended family... When u die, automatically you place your kids and wife in suffering... Shey na u love ur family pass ode... OP pls I dint support buying properties without the knowledge of you husband, it has broken so many homes... Make him see reasons why he should invest in his immediate family..

Why name calling? Because we view her on different lens makes another a fool? Why pontificating on issues beyond your comprehension?
You just demonstrated that though you maybe educated in mind but sadly not in morals. Well.

zedegit:
How is it the reason?l

How do you explain that the mofo hasn't built a house but his younger siblings who

So the 2k stipend he's dashing them will hinder his progress? Will prevent him from building his own house?

zedegit:
How is it the reason?l

How do you explain that the mofo hasn't built a house but his younger siblings who

So the 2k stipend he's dashing them will hinder his progress? Will prevent him from building his own house?

flokii:
So after frowning.. what Next?

There are many ways a girl can lose her virginity e.g cycling, exercise, sports etc. The wife may be right or might be telling lies.

See reasoning!

"I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property."

This is obviously the reason for your lamentations.
Modified:
For those quoting me wrongly always bear in mind that family is blood however bad yours may be.
Helping family will never stop his progress unless he has no plan.

In spite of how you twist a wrong...it never make a right for Candle bears no cost lighting Another.

flokii:
@OP were you a virgin before you got married to her? If your answer is No, then fvck off

Instead of you to frown on the part that she lied you are diverting attention. Did op stated that he was a virgin?

Humanoid01:
Please don't let that guy into your home. If you want to help him, do that from afar, don't let him get close to you. The fact that someone seeks forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that they have changed. It's clear from the way he made that request that he's only putting up a façade.

He will destroy your home at any given opportunity. In case you don't know yet, the reason you had to go through those rough times in his home was for you to know who he truly is, you should have learnt your lesson by now. I'm not saying you shouldn't help him, my point is don't get close to him anymore to the point of cohabiting with him.

Put him in a good hotel not your home.
Pay the bill and if need be his feeding as much as you can....i repeat never house him.

pradoic:
I have 100 naira but they sell 110 now, if u can send me 10 I'll add it n buy the card

Hmm. Igbo man.

Bro this is the best time to understand business than understanding a girlfriend.

I repeat, there's time for everything.

When the brain is half empty...below the pants takes the function which is usually an empty content.

johnkey:
After sharing pussy to bestie, ex boyfriend's, lecturers, oil worker in her town, handsome dude in her compound, one night stands from clubs, sugar daddies...

Sorry i think this topic is for mature minds. I recommend you move to joke session.

duality:
Mario Balotelli. !!!!!!

How could we forget that guy

Not only Baloteli perhaps you add Zuma.

Gobengroup:
You mean Eto is ahead of
De lima Ronaldo
Romario
Henry
Gerd Muller
Marco van basten
Raul
Ferenc puskas
Eusebio
Pele
Bican
Lineker
Jimmy greaves
Fernando peyroteo
Arguably in Africa though �

Are they Africans?
Please kindly Show some respect to our African Best below in case you don't know him.

For now we have only one...Samuel Eto'o

Let him come back to his home

Return his money and preserve your respect.

Oluneutral:
Do you realize she's an adult?

The truth is that if she's not willing and ready to change her circle of friends, it is beyond what the husband can do, except if he wants to violently achieve that, which is not advisable.

Change comes from within.

Nothing is impossible to a determined mind, believe

Change her circle of friends 1st.

Essential:
Why handcuff the guy like a criminal? If the woman was the one that invited him to united state and he died of covid19. She will be working freely in over there in U.s. Stupid country and useless police force.

He has questions to answer. We are talking about the death of human being.

1.Why? But why?
2. Quite sure his business could jeopardise the fight against Covid 19 yet there's other ways to kill a fly than using missile.
3. However you look at this the so many people will be affected.
4. You can use it as isolation centre
5. When you pull down this hotel... you equally pull down;
a) the man's source of income
b) his family and dependent
c) the employee's source of income
d) their families and dependents
e) the hotel suppliers line of income
f) their dependents
Sometimes in life we say 'well' to a situation not because we are cowards but because of the multiplier effect of the action.
Certainly i like you as a governor but on this case you are wrong based on the available information that led to this.
A good leader should among all have a few that should tell him ...you are wrong so as to help him not to allow pride mix up while sensitive decisions are to be made.
Finally, yes a good leader makes mistakes but a wise leader fix it with boldness.

1.Why? But why?
2. Quite sure his business could jeopardise the fight against Covid 19 yet there's other ways to kill a fly than using missile.
3. However you look at this the so many people will be affected.
4. You can use it as isolation centre
5. When you pull down this hotel... you equally pull down;
a) the man's source of income
b) his family and dependent
c) the employee's source of income
d) their families and dependents
e) the hotel suppliers line of income
f) their dependents
Sometimes in life we say well to a situation not because we are cowards but because of the multiplier effect of the action.
Certainly i like you as a governor but on this case you are wrong based on the available information that led to this.
A good leader should among all have a few that should tell him ...you are wrong so as to help him not to allow pride mix up while sensitive decisions are to be made.
Finally, yes a good leader makes mistakes but a wise leader fix it with boldness.

Titto93:
So it took dem 2 years to repair d bridge China could do in 2 weeks

Please it worth saying Weldon.

1. Yes you can.
2. Yet marry her because of the qualities not colour
3. Yes virgin can get toilet infection and it can be treated
4. ...recently diagnosed wt hepatitis? It can be treated
5. Sadly you said "and toilet infection which I can't tell where she got it from cos I would vouch for honesty." My response to this is simple, If human nature (women)doesn't confuse you then you don't understand it.
6. " BT na am confused" I read meaning into it.This is not the time to betray emotions, or take a stand on emotions but rather the time to use wisdom. Thanks

donbachi:
What do u expect...a place where men gives out their wives to male visitors to spend the night with.

Have you received such palliative before?

Ganduje said, “There is no doubt that Kano is in trouble. And there is no doubt that we started on a shaky foundation. When samples were taken to Abuja for seven hours and came back again in seven hours, that was the shaky foundation I am talking about.

Please stop blame and seek for solutions. Must everything be blamed?
What has he done differently? I hope he hasn't run out of ideas.

Mutemenot:
Wish our country could do the same research before usage but here we see all gift as gifts from above

When they have seen business in it? You should know better that they are saving for 2023.

Seriously