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Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:47pm On Jul 05, 2020
yvelchstores:
It's funny how you think you have it bad. Your life is like butter and the world is like rough stones, and yet you already feel so much pressure... From what exactly??

Your mother even OPENED UP TO YOU TO TELL YOU SHE ISN'T HAPPY WITH YOU.
My mother was so careless with words while growing, she busted out in countless episodes of raging bitterness, hurling terrible words still, we managed with little effort. It wasn't a BIG issue.

Ultimately, you need the Holy Spirit to restructure your mind and thinking process.

A whole lot more will come against you and you must fight to the finish so brace up, and quit this self esteem issues of yours.
Hmm
Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:42pm On Jul 05, 2020
jeff35:
well my advice is that, in terms of low self esteem, a good thing to do is to play to your strenghts and accept ur weakness, look 4 what u can do passionately and develop a sense of pride and confidence in it

n please drop that suicidal thought!, it aint sounding sane
I can't even commit suicide. If I wanted I would've done that long...ago. But I'm really scared of the eternal punishment of Allah that comes with it cry cry
Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:36pm On Jul 05, 2020
Righteousness89:
Listen dear, the Problem began with you and it could also end with you.

According to you , you looked down on yourself when People began to say this or that about you..

As long as you wanna do things based on what people will say, you are gonna keep having a problem..

You need to get out from what people think about you, and live according to what God Almighty says about you.

He says you are created in His Image and likeness..

He Says you are wonderfully and Beautifully made..

He says, you can do all things through HIM..

Stop living according to what people say or what people will say!

That's the Solution and it is with you and in you..
Hm...
Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:32pm On Jul 05, 2020
Travellerslodge:
I can help you if you don’t mind .
I wouldn't.
Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:32pm On Jul 05, 2020
jeff35:
now that's a big lie!!!
i know u write!
I do.... But I gat more time for that only on holidays. Hence, I didn't include it.
Family › Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:23pm On Jul 05, 2020
jeff35:
Do u have anything u do that makes u happy?
Nothing really. Although I prefer being at school busy with lectures and other academic activities.- it dvert my attention.
Family › I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(op): 9:18pm On Jul 05, 2020
I've a very low self esteem, that everytime I'm being scolded about it, I always wish for death.
My low self esteem is killing me, and I feel this lack of confidence of mine, began from childhood when people would criticise my appearance. I hide my face from the world.



Something happened today that made my mum opened up to me that she isn't happy with me. We attended an event( more like a compulsory one for me otherwise I would have avoid going), and I hid in a coner throughout the party that the entire family was wondering the kind of person I'm. I know some thought I'm arrogant which is wrong.

I've cried severally today, that I wish for death....
I'm just a very young lady of 21year old.
This lack of self confidence also makes me avoid guys.
Christianity Etc › Re: What Do One Do When One Wish To Stop Living as a person( Islamic views)? by Stargurl20(op): 8:39pm On Jul 05, 2020
I paraphrased the topic now.... Pls, Muslims here should air their views on what on should as a Muslim, when one is tired of living
Christianity Etc › What Do One Do When One Wish To Stop Living as a person( Islamic views)? by Stargurl20(op):
huh
Family › Re: A Friend Is Cancelling His Wedding... by Stargurl20(f): 10:35am On Jul 04, 2020
Hm.... I suggest that your friend have a rethink truly... Because a woman who isn't morally upright wouldn't instill good values in their children when they start having kids. BTW, she can go any length to evade crimes she committed, even if she has to put the blames on someone else.
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 5:12pm On Jul 03, 2020
PrudySara:
Wuruola should let her husband know about it, before it turns to another thing.
Thanks for the update.
Most welcome cool
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Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 9:15pm On Jul 02, 2020
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Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 9:14pm On Jul 02, 2020
skubido:
Wuraola should inform her husband ooo.


OP u too much. More ink to your pen
Ameen. Thanks..
Literature › Re: Why Using Big Words Make You Sound Foolish by Stargurl20(f): 1:49pm On Jul 02, 2020
Nice write up cool
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 4:48pm On Jul 01, 2020
Folashadepro:
this update is small ooo
anyways, thanks
Most welcome smiley
More updates coming, InShaa Allah.
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 4:38pm On Jul 01, 2020
Lakesc:
Thanks for d update
Most welcome
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op):
Episode 11


Wuraola called Oluwole's line Immediately she walked into a stuffy atmospheric building that looked like a deserted warehouse. She puffed out her chest and struggled for breathe.


" Could I be at the wrong rendezvous?"she asked in soliloquy and glanced at her phone's screen for the second time, with the exact descriptions of where she was clearly displayed on it.


" No, you're not at the wrong venue, Wuraola mi." She heard a deep raspy voice said and spun.

She spotted a man's figure from a not so bright distance. The figure strutted towards the brighter side, and she stared in awe seeing several tattoos drawn from his neckline, to his forearm as well as his pierced ears.


" You're astonished by my looks, aren't you?" he asked with a smirk.

"iiii......" She stuttered and was cut off.



" It's so.... adorable...that you think you could outsmart me so... easily." He said and lit a stick of cigarette. He dragged it and popped out the smoke like a chain smoker.


" P- please, Wole. I'm happily married now, and I love my husband. I c- can't go back to the lifestyle I didn't advertently lived." She said in trepidation, hoping that would cool him off and wane his heightened lust towards her.


" You think I'm not aware of that?" He asked and laughed hysterically.


" Please... just let me live in peace."

" You will live in peace only when you fulfil my wishes!" He roared and settled his dark eyes on her wide hips that filled the denim Jean trousers she wore, and groaned seeing how her bosom clung together in her blush pink chiffon top, slightly exposing her beautiful valley.


'how could he forget the passionate moments they shared?' he thought briefly and licked his lower lip with the tip of his tongue.


" You see.... I'm being generous enough to not punish you for fooling me..., And eluding my plans. Hence, I have two options for you. just two." He said illustrating his words with his mid and index fingers as he sauntered around her in circular motion.

"The first option is for you to satisfy my sexual urges in ways I deem fit. I'm sure you understand what I mean by that, or I reveal your past to the entire world who think you're chaste and virtuous." He stated and tears pricked from her eyes.



" Never! I will never fulfil your lustful wishes, Oluwole. Why can't you just move on and get rid of the stupid obsession you have for me?!" She yelled, feigning confidence, even though she was ostensibly terrified by his threats.



" Twenty four hours is all you have to make a decision, Wuraola. And I'm sure you gonna make the wise one." He said and walked towards the angle he appeared from.



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Meanwhile, Bamidele has been noticing his wife's timid and worried countenance since the day she received a call from whom she claimed was a client. He observed that she cringes at the sight of a particular number and also how she wouldn't pick the calls in his presence.



He had decided to give their marriage a chance and turn a new leaf. He wished she could entrust him with whatever is eating her up, and share her trying times with her.



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Tears cascaded Wuraola's face and wished she could turn back the hands of time.

She reprimanded herself for the life she didn't intentionally lived. She blamed her self for not trying harder to sought other ways in saving her dying father.


She thought of confiding in Biola, however, the thought of Biola advising her to choose the former option, made her have a rethink.

The thought of telling her husband also popped in her mind, for she knew for the fact that she wouldn't give into Oluwole's demands.

That was in her past and she vowed not to be a dog that returns to its vomits.
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Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 5:27pm On Jun 28, 2020
Missmossy:
More please....
More update is coming tomorrow....Nepa has been doing us strong thing in my area.
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op):
Episode 10



Ding... Ding... Ding... Biola heard the door bell rang and sauntered towards the door. She peeked through the door's hole, and saw a man dressed in DHL's outfit with a neatly wrapped parcel in his hands.

". Good morning." She said as she opened the door.

" Morning, ma'am. Are you miss. Abiola Lewis, ma'am?" The courier man inquired.

"Yes, I'm Abiola."

" Mr. Maleek Mustapha had sent us to deliver this at your doorstep, please sign here, ma'am. The courier man said extending the parcel while Biola received the parcel and signed.


She walked into her purple painted living smiling at Maleek's gesture as she unwrappedd the parcel containing a beautiful red kneel length gown, a diamond choker and beautiful shining waist beads.


Biola's eyes almost poped out after seeing the waist beads.

"What kind of guy gift waist beads to a woman who's not his wife or girlfriend?" Biola wondered and Maleek's call came in.


" Hello, beautiful!" He said with excitement.

" I'm sure you must've received my gifts by now, yes?" He asked


" Yes, Maleek, and thanks. But, what's the waist beads about?"

" You don't like them? " He asked

" I do..... But from a guy...?"

" Baby..., It's doesn't really matter whom they are from. What matters is that you love them" he said.

"So....I was thinking since today is weekend, why don't we hang out like....having dinner or something." He suggested hoping she wouldn't decline him.

" Hm...let me check my schedule for today..., and give you feedback." Biola said

" C'mon baby.... I know you hardly work on weekends. Please....say yes."

" Fine....if you insist."

" All right, baby... Be ready by 7pm, I will come pick you up. And please.... wear those..."

" What!" Biola exclaimed.

" Please....baby..."

"All right, fine..." She said and rolled her eyes.



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Bamidele and Wuraola have been in good terms since his birthday celebration. It's Saturday's noon and they were at the dinning having lunch, when Wuraola's phone rang.

" Hello..., who's this, please?" She asked politely.

" It's me, Oluwole." A deep voice spoke from the other end and Wuraola became terrified.

Her cutlery fell on the glass dinning table, inducing an uproarious sound making Bamidele anxious.

" Hiiii....." She said incoherently.

" I want us to see" Oluwole said.

Bamidele wondered whom she was speaking with that got her looking so...scared and out of words.


" What's the problem,dear?" Bamidele asked looking worried after she hung up the phone.


"It's nothing, dear...j-just a client." She said faking smile.

Bamidele wasn't convinced but had to let it be. He stared at her timid expression as they complete their lunch.

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It was exactly 6:50pm when Maleek drove into 'Distinct estate' as described by Biola. He parked his black BMW at the building where her apartment is located and called her.


" Hello..., my amor. I'm at your building's parking lot."

" All right. I will be there in few minutes."

Biola looked at her reflection in the mirror and smiled.

' not bad...' she thought and grabbed her black purse.

She saw Maleek as soon as she came down the building leaning on his car.

' he must be damn rich!' she thought.


"Hey, baby girl! You look so... beautiful." He said hugging her.

" Shall we...?" He asked opening the door next to the driver's and gesturing for her to seat.


" Thanks."

They discussed their favorite songs in the car as they drove down to 'à la carte restaurant'.

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" Welcome to a la carte restaurant, ma'am, Sir. What would you like me to serve you? The male chubby cute waiter said, staring intently at Biola.


Maleek clenched and unclenched his fist at the
waiter staring at Biola who was busying reading through the the menu list and wanted to punch the fatso's nose until he bled, but he wouldn't want to constitutes nuisance at Biola's presence and make her think of him otherwise .

" Savoury rice, plantain and grilled chicken are fine." Biola said to the waiter.

" All right, ma'am" the waiter said smiling at her

" You, Sir...?" He asked with smile not as genuine as the one he smiled to Biola.


" I will have same thing she's having." He answered and eyed the waiter from head to his black shoes.


" It will be ready in few minutes" the waiter said and walked away.


"Tell me more about you, Abiola." Maleek said.


" You already know more than I imagined you knew about me, Maleek. So, stop acting oblivious." Biola said and rolled her eyes.


" Yes....maybe you're correct. But I want to know more than I already know. Like your previous relationships and the rest...."


" My previous relationships crushed because my past boyfriends and I weren't compatible, so... We had to call them off. She explained as the waiter served the food.


" I'm certain we will be compatible." Maleek mumbled and Biola pretended like she heard nothing as they began eating their food.
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Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Punishment For Suicide In Islam? by Stargurl20(op): 11:43am On Jun 28, 2020
MightySparrow:
Boko haram, isis, al - qaeda, tuareg . september 9 / 11 and the rest are falsehood? Probably because you are not affected yet.
All those are been done by their will. Islam is a peaceful religion.
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Punishment For Suicide In Islam? by Stargurl20(op): 10:44pm On Jun 27, 2020
jimohidris848:
All praise due to Allah,the Lord of the universe.May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon all His Prophets and Messengers.
Firly,committing suicide is a grievous offence.Why is it a sin or grievous offence?
It is a sin because the life that keeps alive does not belong to us and there were periods when we were nothing,no matter how tough life is for us we must never take our life,to such an extent that we detonate explosives,this submission is with an evidence from the Qur'an.
What is the punishment for committing suicide?
Allah(S.W.T) states in Q4:v29-30"And do not take your lives,verily Allah has been merciful to you(all).Whoever does that going extreme and been unjust,We will bring him to hell and this very easy for Allah.
Such kind of punishment is what await suicide bombers,bokoharam,isis,al-qaeda and the likes.
Thanks for the enlightenment.
Family › Re: How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 9:37pm On Jun 27, 2020
merieam16:
It nt really easy,buh just put an invisible padlock on ur mouth while u sit nd look
Lol... This is amusing. Thanks
Christianity Etc › What's The Punishment For Suicide In Islam? by Stargurl20(op): 6:26pm On Jun 27, 2020
What the punishment of taking one's Iife in Islam?
Family › Re: How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 5:03pm On Jun 27, 2020
sassysure:
Better to say sorry for walking away than sorry after vomiting nonsense. The person will understand that u were trying to control the situation from escalating further and exercising self control. It's not even easy to walk away. Have saved me on numerous ocassions.

If it's an elder like mum or dad, I will tell you I'm walking away, we will talk when tempers have cooled down.
I understand you. Thanks.

But, all our Yoruba elders take everything seriously and wouldn't understand one left just to suppress one's anger.
Family › Re: How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 5:01pm On Jun 27, 2020
flyingpig:
Yeah, I thought of that too.

I scold my gf when I shout at her and she walks out on me. So scrap out the former advise.

If you have temper issues, and being shouted at by an elder, try your best not to say anything please, the words will come out the wrong way, and will flare things up in a worse way.

Don't step out either, it is equal to disrespect.

Best thing is to apologise, it will calm his voice down, affording you some silence from him which eats you up. He will also appreciate that you apologised and accord you more respect.
Thanks for this piece
Family › Re: How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 4:51pm On Jun 27, 2020
Righteousness89:
Silence!!
How do I achieve that?
Family › Re: How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 4:50pm On Jun 27, 2020
flyingpig:
I have anger management issues too

Best I did was walk out from the scene
Won't it look rude? Especially when it's about an elder.
Family › How Do One Control One's Mouth Even When One Is Extremely Angry? by Stargurl20(op): 4:29pm On Jun 27, 2020
How do one control one's mouth or better still one's anger as well as ignore unpleasants things being said to one without voicing out, even when one is very angry? I need urgent response please...
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op):
So... Sorry guys. Please, await an update today or tomorrow wink
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op):
Episode 9


Bamidele drove into his mansion with few numbers of acquainted cars parked at the parking lot.

'What's going on' he thought as his brows furrowed and called the gateman.

" Akanni !, What's going on in my house?" He inquired.

" Ehn... Kilewi, Sir ( what did you say, sir)?" The gateman asked not understanding his spoken English.


" Kilonshele ninu ile mi( what's going on in my house)." He snapped, momentarily regretting why he employed the uneducated gateman.


" Awon madam, mummy ati daddy pelu awon ore yin ni,Sir ( it's your wife, parents and friends, Sir)."


Without asking further questions, he walked briskly into the large house.

He stepped into the dark living room wondering why the lights are turned out. Just when he attempted turning the switch of the lights on, they suddenly came on.

He became astonished by the beautiful decorations.

" Happy birthday too you...., Birthday dear
Bammy...., happy birthday to you..." They chorused and clapped.

" Thanks, everyone. I really.... cannot thank you all enough. Thanks." He said with enthusiasm.


" You should thank your wife more, dear. She planned all of these."Mr. And Mrs. Mobolaji said unison.


Bamidele stared intently at Wuraola looking absolutely gorgeous in her red floor- length gown.

'' gosh! She's so... beautiful'' he mumbled.

Hum! Hum!... Wuraola cleared her throat to gain his attention.

" It's time. Come cut the cake" she said smiling softly and pulling his hands towards the cake stand while Bamidele followed gawking at her killer curves.

After they fed the cake to each other, Wuraola sighted Olaniyi's figure and walked up to him.

"Hey, Niyi. I'm glad you came. Thanks." She said with a small smile.

" you're welcome Wuraola. By the way, you look so...divine." Niyi complimented and she blushed wishing the compliment came from her husband.

Bamidele scanned the entire decorated living room when he noticed Wuraola was missing. He flared up seeing her spoke to a man's figure and grinning from side to side.

" Not today..." He growled as he walked to them and without Wuraola seeing it coming, he held her waist possessively.

Wuraola was surprised at his strange behavior and Niyi became uncomfortable.

"Meet Olaniyi - My colleague." Wuraola introduced with her heart throbing at Bamidele's hold on her waist.


" I'm. Bamidele. Her loving husband" He said with mischievous smile plastered on his lips.


' what's wrong with him ....? ' Wuaola spoke inaudibly.

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" Hello, beautiful." Biola heard a voice said, and spun around.


" I'm Abdulmaleek Mustapha. A friend of the celebrant." Maleek introduced with smile while extending his hand for handshake.

" Abiola Lewis. A friend and a colleague of the celebrant's wife" she said receiving his handshake.

" You look so gorgeous." He complimented.

"Thanks, you ain't looking bad either." She reciprocated with her beautiful smile as they took a sip from their glasses.

They discussed few things and exchanged numbers.

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Bamidele got tipsy from few glass of drinks he had with his friends as they chit chatted and tease him about how beautiful his wife looked.


" Bam... You're one lucky bastard!, You know? Look how beautiful your wife looks tonight?" Korede said.


" I wish I met her earlier before you did." Maleek said

" What's that supposed to mean?" Bamidele asked and eyed him

"Fortunately, i met a beauty who happens to be her friend and colleague." he said smiling to himself.


" What! You.... Spoke to a lady?!" Korede exclaimed looking surprised as Bamidele.

" Yes.... I finally manned up. I couldn't let her go all because of my silly shyness." He confessed.

"Wow! Bravo!" Korede and Bamidele yelled while they clapped.


" So who's your new catch." Maleek asked hurling his question at Korede.


" Guys... I've repented." Korede replied while Bamidele and Maleek laughed.


" You... Korede. Mr. Randy himself has repented?" Maleek stifled.

" I'm serious, guys..." He said.

"So, what triggered your repentance? Did someone preached to you?" Bamidele asked trying to control his laughter.


" No, Kemisola changed me. It was lust at first, but she eventually succeeded in making this player fall hopelessly in love with her." Korede said with emotions his eyes.


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After the party was rounded off, Bamidele walked tipsily into their bedroom. He heard sound of water droplets from the ensuite bathroom proving his wife was in the bathroom.


" Sweet...Lord!" He mumbled as Wuraola appeared in a white towel tied around her upper torso.

" I...I..."

"Ssshhh... Why do you always have to clarify yourself? I'm aware you weren't expecting me so...soon..." He said as he placed his index fingers on her lips.

He stared at her trembling lips.

" They look so.... succulent.". He thought.

" Thanks." He said.


"For...?"

" Making me feel special." He replied as he rendered her speechless.
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Literature › Re: Married And Slaying: Diary Of Mrs. Nwakaego Etadafe by Stargurl20(f): 10:34am On Jun 25, 2020
MhiztaRange:
I really think that praise is doing all these on purpose, probably with Diana’s consent because with all these narration about the white witch’s features and Praise hasn’t eaten the forbidden fruit already it gats be on purpose mehn
Hm... I doubt it. It's a matter of time. If this persist, praise mightn't be able to control himself further?

I mean... What will he gain from doing that on purpose.
Anyway, let's keep the fingers crossed cool.
Literature › Re: The Undesired Bride by Stargurl20(op): 12:15am On Jun 24, 2020
PrudySara:
I hope things fall in place soon!
Thanks for the update!
Most welcome, @prudysara cool cool
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