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lightangel65i:
Women are trash, sluts and cum dustbins thats my generalization.

Since yours was calling all men cheat.
So shut up, and don't you have a brother or will get a son so pick the log in your eyes first.

When some men are love their spouses and are trying so hard to keep such relationship and not cheating on their spouses. Then we have f00ls like you saying this trash, that just shows all women are useless and men should cheat on them, instead of trying to be faithful.
And for this i pray Everyman you meet in your life will cheat on you, you would never meet a good guy thats my curse on you

Smiles. Pointing a finger at your fellow being and being oblivious that the rest of your fingers are pointing at you, is really a pity.
You sound so frustrated truly... Who knows maybe you've been pained ? Plus, you sound so guilty of this, and maybe that's why your conscience keeps pricking you. Anyways, i pray you get heal soon...
As for your curse, you said it and you shall carry it your entire life..... Even when it obvious you ain't a female, you will surely carry you curses because you said them.
When you have high expectations of people, it's more like you wanna intentionally break your own heart. Hence limit your expectations of people to avoid stories that touch - I don't have high expectations of men!

My account was hacked today due to my ignorance. it's been more than 7yrs have been using the account. My friends have reported the hacker and it's been blocked. Pls, help with the steps I can use in accessing my account again.

roybanjo100:
ori e daru

Lol... I know....it hurts. Truth hurts. Sorry, just bear it

lightangel65i:
So what makes you think women don't? Are you in the mind of every girl.

This is why i love using women like pieces of shit, cause you guys lack sense and are irrational.
I don't have to list stories you yourself know how horrible women can be arent you on NL romance section.

Men cheat cause they have high sex urge.

Women cheat for useless reasons just because they are sluts.

So who is worse

What a silly excuse for cheating!
So, men cheating for having high sexual urge is right, bah?
Just so u know, if any woman likes let her give man sex from morning until night... it still wouldn't satisfy a Randy man.
And as for you treating women like trash, maybe you don't have a sister, but I pray you have a girl child someday, that's if you haven't had any yet, and she's been treated the way you've treated women. It's not a curse, bro. It's a law of nature that what goes around, comes around.

ecstasy357:
Stargirl is just in its 3rd episode and ya already calling yourself that.

Girls be running after d NEWEST toy in town claiming it's the guy's fault

Can u elaborate this? Because I don't understand

comshots:
Who do men cheat with?

Women of course! Women whom they lied to that they're single. You will rarely see woman in her right frame of mind date man who's transparent about his relationship status

Fabulouzjoseph:
muhammad ali once told his daughter"every girl should expect to be treated like a queen" but for once do you know why a queens is treated like a queen? Its because a queen behaves like a queen. People treat you based on how you behave.


If a women behaves like a queen she will be treated like a queen if she behaves like a tramp she will be treated like a tramp.

I have been with old people who made mistakes in their young age and at the end they blame their failures on other people. I think you should spend more time with successful people who will impact your live in positive ways.

And how does this correlate with the discussion?

Fabulouzjoseph:
You have not met all the men in the world for you to conclude yet. Just because you have met a few bad men does not mean all men are bad just like i have met a few bad women but that does not mean every woman is like that.

I would say it's more like I haven't had any experience with men, but I've seen people older and close to me who's hurt severally by this specie

Fabulouzjoseph:
Cheating is common to both men and women.

I know cheating is common, but men cheat with no remorse

Vyzz:




Mtcheeew
Niggas theirs nothing here for us

Of course, there wouldn't be. Truths hurt, after all.

Men cheat and break ladies' heart all the time..., Yet, they come on this platform playing the victim game that women are wicked.
An elderly man specifically told me yesterday ...of course with valid experiences that " I'm a man but I wouldn't dispute the fact that men are very cruel."
This man stated that; although he knows women have their own shortcomings but the male folks are evil...
I'm no feminist. I'm just fed up with different posts males post all the time critising females.
If at all these allegations are true, it could be karma haunting them. Who knows the amount of females' hearts some men has broken?
And as for women, most of them turned bad due to their past experiences with males, why few are players like the male counterpart often call themselves.

Lol... childhood memories

Men...biggest hypocrites ever!
You came to NL to create a post on how someone has lived her life. Mind your damn business and let others live their lives as they deem fit!
I believe you ain't a saint yourself blaming ladies for sleeping with guys...
Tell me, what of guys who create posts and boast about how they've slept with multiple women? All they get is pat on their backs.
Mind your own business!

There was a time I always dreamt of flying in the sky - I keep wondering y ....

At this time, if you are a student studying other course( English not related), pls, watch movies which good English are been spoken and read novels, newspaper etc. They help a lot

UjuJoan2:
Who did she leave her child for to chase after a man?

Sense fall on her!

Her child stays with her aunt

mrblessed:
That she met an irresponsible man who wasn't her husband yet is not a justification to be narrow-minded and dense. Come on, this story isn't novel, a lot betrayals occur in relationships, yet it hasn't deter humanity from engaging in sexual relationship. Why attack all men just because one of them decides to be stupid?

In any case, we can't foreclose the importance of hearing the man's side of the story, to fully understand the rationale behind such vile and vicious act. Since this is clearly impossible, we have to make do with your account of the event -- no matter how bias and one-sided it might be.

I wonder why you didn't see any reason to caution your friend for being gullible to man who hasn't paid her bride price. Let her pick up whatever is left in her and be vigilant so that she won't prey to another monster.

Hmm...

bukatyne:
Sad story.

This life is in seasons, same with relationship life:

1. Late teens - late twenties/30 - - - - Women
2. 30 - 65 - - - - - Men
3. 65 and above - - - - Women & (Men who invested their season very well).

As always, there are expections.

And every season requires different approach especially when you are not in your season/window.

Now is the time for your friend to use her head not her heart.

First she should get something doing. An older non-productive woman is very unattractive. Let her find something to do to earn so she can keep her mind sharp.


{To give you an example of season, women would be willing to buy a husband of 40yrs (fend, feed an ambition less man) than same guy at 28 even though the 28 should be more in town because he is younger and healthier.}

Second, she should set a standard. Ironic right? Standard could be 'ambitious/visionary, thoughtful man, etc. and actively seek to place herself in the position to be found. Just how you don't look for a doctor in a courtroom or an Engineer in the hospital, let her know the kind of men she wants and place herself accordingly. I am sure there are good men in that East she ran from.

Third, she should drop childishness. What is getting herself drunk supposed to do to her? Apart from the fact she is hurting her body and looks, it is also affecting her health. Who does she want to be bear burden of her health (if it fails)? Her children or elderly parents? If drinking is also what she can resolve to, it speaks to her strength of character. If her husband loses his job years in marriage, what would she do? If her husband has erectile dysfunction due to an accident what will she do?

Fourth, she should shun desperacy: Men can smell desperation and manipulate it. A desperate woman is not thinking and will make series of bad decisions which she has to be the brunt of. She needs to breathe and be strategic. Now is not the time of 'he promised me X, Y, Z in future. When is he bringing to the table NOW? What can you see NOW? What is SHE bringing to the table NOW'? Imagine she said 'Oh, marry me then I would learn how to cook?'.

Fifth, She needs to be sexually responsible. Imagine she did not have the miscarriage, that is two kids for two different fathers?! If she wants to have sex which should be sparingly, use multiple layers of protection. And don't jump at sex early. If he wants you, let him put a ring on it.

Six, she needs to be reasonable: if a good man comes, it is not the time to say 'I want a barbie themed wedding' or 'I want a man earning seven digits' or 'a man who is a citizen of seven countries'. Come to earth and observe good, hardworking men in that locality. Sometimes, what we seek is within us.

Seven, draw closer to God for direction.

Cc: Stargurl20

Thanks for this

crackland:
This is very good, fear is very good... It means you will be cautious.

Only stvpid people are not afraid, and stvpid people make stvpid decisions...just like your friend who left her safe-place to go be with a man who only promised her marriage.

If she wants to continue being stvpid, she should stay where she is and keep crying that men are cruel - and you too, keep using soprano to give the song beautiful tunes as her backup singer.

You people will never learn.

Even though you're little harsh with your words, there's ounce of Truth in them.
Thanks.

DontBullshitMe:
Did the man promise his wife a monogamous marriage?

You are a very stupîd intruder.

I don't know if you have become a dad or not, but would u say the same if this is done to your biological sister or girl child?
I accept the lady have her shortcomings, no one is infallible. - we all make mistakes.
But, pls , put your self in her shoes

Heiterkeit:
This type of comment is not made to offer real solution but to appear good before my fellow women. I do not give respect to men who take pleasure in painting their fellow men bad just to appear good, same as women who do so.

OP

Maybe, the man made a last minute discovery about something bad about the woman that made him acted the way he did. Marriage is a life journey, so anyone going into it has to be careful.

He discovered nothing.the man is so... Randy. I'm not siding with the lady, trust me. My mom's apprentice has the man as FB friend and even though this man doesn't know her, he video called her one day thinking she's one of his random chicks and asked her that once our fasting period ends, he wants her to comman give him 'that thing' I was disgusted when my mom's apprentice told me that.
Men cheats like no man's beeswax. But I keep wondering why NL's men rants on women being whores almost everyday, when men themselves are worst. Oh... I guess they want what they cannot offer - loyalty. Uncountable Randy men are out there... I just pity the good women . Plus, I'm scared of entrusting my fragile heart with any man

Coder2Client:
stop hearing those stories and face you. If you keep listening to those disheartening stories, you won't add any meaningful things to yourself. Your friend made a horrible mistake that cost her so much. So, what you need to do is, learn from her mistakes and others and move on, not to be resentful.

Hmm... It's well

Kollyman:
Go and find out the complete story and come back to update us.

Unlike you, I have significant things to do than fabricating lies on every social media platforms.

Coder2Client:
You sound more like a single girl who still enjoy her celibacy. To refute your claims, there are many good men and women out there. One bad apple spoils the bunch.


The lady has problem, why would she be living with a guy in Lagos when he has not done the needful?

The shortsightedness of your friend led her into the dilemma which made you to generalize that men are bad.

I reprimanded her within me for trusting a man to such extent. But about good men left on Earth people keeps claiming a the time baffles me. I have heard worst stories. The irony is; it happens with good women...

Oluromantic:
Of course there's something you can do to help her. Just be there for her. Remind her of her child who is a bright future. There are lots of well aged ladies who don't even have a bf talkless of a child. She shd thank God that she lost d baby. If she had d baby, she would have been left a single mother of two from 2 different men who are not willing to take responsibility. Some women have gone thru harder situations so let her liven up. But try to do something very important for her... Go to the man's village with her and confirm first that the story is true before conclusion.

Guess the family of the man changed his mind. But what he did wrong was not telling her on time the change in plans and making peace with her.

Hmm thanks for this piece

izzou:
[color=royalblue] You see those men category of evening newspapers?
Those ones that uphold their culture and tradition 100%?
Those ones that are very traditional?

Fear those men oh . They can date a lady for 8 years and pay the dowry of another one in just 8 hours.

Dem no dey marry for love oh.
If she can cook, fck, obey him totally, give birth to children (males are compulsory), had a submissive personality, and is presentable,they go marry you now now.

That said, any woman that gives birth to a man before he wifes her is stupid. She does not have sense.
I expect a single mother to know this, but I'm surprised she still repeated a past mistake

My advice?
She should just go back to where she came from. No need crying over spilt milk, take more of the one wey the glass cup don scatter

Let her move on. And let her learn to use her sense before her heart in her next relationship[/color]

Hmm...

Pavore9:
First and foremost, the man has never been her husband so stop addressing him as "her husband" because there was no marriage as you stated the bride price is yet to be paid....so what is she doing in his house?

She should accord herself some respect and go back to the east.

I suggest you read my post carefully, sir. I never mentioned 'husband' but 'would be husband'.

purplecoco:
Can’t she go back to her people? Since the dusty man left

Exactly the same question I asked her yesterday o... But she said she's ashamed, and it's more like a disgrace to her.

Justbehave:
Go learn how to fabricate stories.

Pls, ignore if u have nothing sensible to comment. - my posts are meant for sane people.
Yet, I know if it was woman who did this to man, you wouldn't have commented this, whether fabricated or not.

Ofemmanu1:
Is the lady an Igbo?

Yes.

Sorry members, this will be little lenghty.
An older lady who's more like friend to me, narratted what her husband to be did to her yesterday.
Her would be husband who's far older, I guess. Went to where she stays at Aba or so... With her families, to seek her hands in marriage. This man hasn't paid her price yet... But requested her to come know where he stays in Lagos around February this year. Note: this lady has a female child of ten - year - old..., Which the would be husband isn't oblivious of.
She came to Lagos, and despite all the promises this man made to get her a job as soon as she gets to Lagos, he failed his promises and didn't allow her work, giving flimsy excuses that he doesn't want men to snatch her from him.
Recently, this man travelled to his hometown under the pretext of going to complete his house at his village. But, he actually went there to marry another wife even when he hasn't paid the would be wife he deceived to Lagos price. The lady has been receiving several calls from people that the husband is getting married to another lady but she trusted the man blindly, until one of the man's intimate friends opened up to her that he couldn't keep this from her because despite how his friend sings praises of this lady on her culinary skills and how she keeps his house clean and take care of him, he still went ahead.
This lady has no one in lagos. - no families or friends except this cruel man.
Plus, she got pregnant before the man went, but had miscarriage and has informed the man.
All these things makes me keep wondering if there are really good men left on this planet - earth.
This lady is really nice and well behaved that my mom's spirit works with here and she likes her.
She seats at my mom's shop and we chit chat with my mom's apprentice. Now she's changed to a drunk. I've tried convincing her that drinking isn't the solution, but she's just not convinced. I wish there's something I can do to help her

Evening, everyone. Any updates?