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Dey are getting paid millions of naira every month and Nigeria is still a shithole c. What's the definition of incompetence?

A government that does not understand that lack of stable source of energy is the foundation of our problem.

Provide a stable source of energy and watch the standard of living increase for all Nigerians.

#presidentp*ssyas*b*itch
#gorvernmentp*ssyas*b*itches

Child endangerment at its peak. Stupid parents.

This is perfect definition of cold blood murder.

I wish they kept the same energy for the real thieves - politicians

Just a poor man playing God on another poor man.

Someone called this country a shhhhle, and everyday we see evidence of this.

At this point, hope is too expensive for this country. Get out if you can

OlujobaSamuel:
It was a stray bullet. They were chasing their so called yahoo boy, he shot at him and went his way without considering the impact of his action.
The bullet hit the woman and people tried to save her by taking her to the hospital but she died enroute, they came back for the police officers whom were oblivious of their actions as they have gone ahead seeking for further victims (yahoo boys) to extort, the shooter was killed immediately while others were beaten and they ran to the king's palace for refuge.
Police spokesman said they were on trail of suspected kidnapper (laffs) and it was a stray bullet, but investigation would be conducted to unravel what truly happened. (Investigation after conclusion, I tire)
God saved me sha, i just passed when the kasala happened

That's what I am talking about. Deliver instant justice. They will begin to understand that all actions have consequences.

Better still, mess with them psychologically. Send that letter!

I bet those that went took refuge will think twice before they shoot next time.

The main problem with Nigeria "check" no one checks the politicians so they use our money for themselves.

No one checks SARS so they kill anyhow.

We only need few justice driven civilians, and you will see changes trust me.

So this idiot that just killed a lady, you wanna tell me he doesn't have a family? Kids? Parents? Siblings? Let's start by tracing all this bad bloods.

They come out and misbehave, find out where they live, and one afternoon just stroll past his house and drop a friendly letter.


Dear sir,

I hope this doesn't find you well. Yesterday around 3pm at ijegun, you killed a lady who does not deserve to die like that.

We were just curious to see where you live then we found out you have a wife, and OMG your kid is so beautiful. Your mother that lives around ..... is living fine too. We are just wondering why dey get to keep their lives while you took someone's.

We dont know what to do yet, we just wanna let you know you are under our watch now.
Share this with colleagues that you really love. Until we decide what to do?
Yours sincerely.
Joe

Seems like a simple letter?

Bobonowell:
now the NPf want the Nigerian Army to explain to Nigerians ,
so now the NPF need civilians support �,

Abi, like the same Nigerians you've been oppressing?

We have been forced to shut up when this happen. So they should shut up and deal with it too.

It's a country in a state of jagajaga. Revolution will happen last last, when people have had enough. Its starting already. I can feel it

Parollawd:
sorry to say
but you dont have sense

Dont be sorry. He actually doesnt.

abbey621:
We're making the same point here, the media manipulates people! When you hear something on the news, the last thing that comes to mind is manipulation, more often we tend to take it as facts. if more Americans actually investigated rather than just trusting the media unconditionally, they would see the truth. They would see that Africa is not just slums, they would know the dangers of some of the stuff they eat and they'll start appreciating the world at large.

Yeah I got you bro. Trump is not the root of this problem at all. He just fuels it more than others.

ubunja:
so it means someone is pushing these men. Someone behind the scenes

What do you think motivates the herdsman to continue killing? If our president isn't hausa, do you think they will have the guts to go to a yoruba land or ibo land a killer openly? It is called birds of the same feather. To some extent they feel justified

abbey621:
We've had mass shootings 2 days apart, we've had some one week apart. It makes no difference if it happened hours, days or weeks apart. Under this admin, mass shootings averages about 8 per year, under the Obama administration, it averaged about 5 per year. If you think somehow the small uptick is due to Trump then you have no understanding of what's really going on! Americans are getting more and more depressed, every time you turn on the news, it is politically motivated bashing depending on the network. Kids are all doped up on anti depressants and mood changers. More and more fathers are dead or in jail and more women are abandoning their children. If all these is somehow caused by Trump then there's no point arguing. I repeat America has a cultural and mental problem, Trump is not the root of it, he's just easier to blame!

You had me until you said turn on the news.

You wanna know what news Americans see when they listening to Nigerian news?? Ghettos and slums! Does that mean all Nigeria is ghetto and slums?

tyup:
so mass shooting is now about the president in charge of the country what would you say about the

> mass shooting at a Century 16 movie theater in Aurora, Colorado , in 2012 14 dead

> mass shooting at San Bernardino that left about 18people dead in 2015

> mass shooting at a nightclub crown in Jackson, Tennessee leaving about 20people dead

During Obama's regime in 2012 about 18 mass shooting was recorded that year and mass shooting happened every damn year under him even in 2016 before Obama handed over power there was a devastating mass shooting that left no less than 50people dead at a Gay club in Orlando so WTH are you talking about and how has Trump caused this

anyways anytime you're less busy come for your certificate of Stupidity

Complete lie! In 2012, there was only 7 cases of mass shootings. I'm pretty sure you are reading gugu and not Google, or better still, you just too dumb to find trusted sources.

Yes, mass shooting happen under every government, but how about this. Obama was in office from 2009 to 2017, and there was 37 reported cases. 307 or so fatalities.

Trump has been in office for 2 years.....30 cases of mass shootings, 300 fatalities. If you have brain you can see the truth in this numbers. But I doubt you and the rest dont, so I wont bother myself.

Everything you need is online. Yes there is a data for all mass shootings, you can copy that data, paste it in excel and analyze it yourself. My message to the rest of the fools that think otherwise.

abbey621:
Did you read the article at all? This is the 250th mass shooting in America, you mean to say past presidents were also bigoted and childish? Perhaps you hold Trump responsible for all of them....lol

You keep mentioning 250th. As it ever happened that there was 2 mass shootings in the same day? Hours from each other? Out of that 250th, count the number of mass shootings that has happened during his admin alone and compare it to others.

This is why you shouldn't have a bigoted fool as a president. A 3 year old in a 70+ man who doesn't understand the power he wields as the president of the most powerful and racially sensitive country.

All those Nigerians supporting him. I hope you the faces of those dead innocent people makes you and his other supporters happy.

amaniro:
Lol I saw a list of what they want in their Revolution now protest. Well, their list can't change nadan. Even if all is implemented that is not a Revolution. They should take cue from Jerry Railings. When they start assassinating Tinubu Elrufai Buhari Wike Jonathan Obasanjo Babangida Gowon Oshiomohole I'll know they are ready for a revolution.

Damn! This person just went straight to the point, no sugar coating.

We are not ready for that stage yet tho

If we have learnt anything about this country, protest does not do shii. They simply dont care if you protest for a whole year. I was excited when I heard revolution, but this ain't no revolution. We are not ready

gidgiddy:
I find it strange that armed killer herdsmen who kill thousands of Nigerians each year are given Ruga by this government but if an unarmed Nnamdi Kanu who killed nobody waves Biafran flag in the East, he will get Python dance and be declared a terrorist

I find it strange that Niger Delta Avengers will take up arms, kill people, blow up oil pipelines but this government will negotiate with them, but if unarmed Shiites protest for the release of their leader, and that protest becomes violent, they are declared terrorists

I find it strange that despite the fact that Boko haram has killed hundreds of thousands of Nigerians and counting and has been proscribed, captured Boko haram members are routinely released and will never see the insides of a court room. But all Sowore needs to be arrested and dragged to court is uttering the word 'revolution'

If this government is spooked, it's about the wrong things

All these things you find strange shows that our leaders are cowards. They have continued to show their cowardness over and over again.

See, I keep saying we are not ready. This our government solely rely on military forces to protect them, the same military that get poor treatments? Or the policemen that get chicken change as salary?

That's why I said we can beat them at their game. They have no strategy for times like this other than forcefully having their ways.

They dont have the support of the masses in Nigeria, the entire governing body is just a small percentage of the entire Nigeria.


This case is like a single mopol police with a gun commanding 1000 civilians. The moment the civilians realized that theres just one of him, and a thousand of them, and that he cannot kill everyone is the day they become liberated.

We are just not ready.

gidgiddy:
Of course! It happend in South Africa. Nobody needed to overthrow the government of FW de Klerk before apartheid system was removed in South Africal and replaced with multi-party democracy. It was the agitation and protest of the people that did that.

Freedom of protest is in the constitution and protest is what Sowore called for. The fact that he tagged the protest 'revolution' is of no consequence. Only an armed group can change government and Sowore is not armed.

I feel like we are saying the same thing. If a protest can get us there, then fine protest it is.
But theres no revolution without some level of violence. This government is paranoid already. They knew a day will come when people will wake up. So when sowore called revolution, he spooked them. Again, his only crime is that he called revolution and not protest even though he meant protest. But as a bad government comfortable with oppressing your citizens, the world revolution means war against them....and you should know they will come for you.

gidgiddy:
The oxford dictionary defines revolution as~

1)The forcible overthrow of a government

2)The change of a social order in favour of a new system

3) An instance of revolving

Buhari supporters chose the first definition of revolution as the only definition when everyone knows that Sowore called for a protest for the second definition

Do you think that second definition would happen without the first one?

Which government would want you to change them without a fight. I understand that sowore meant protest. But calling it revolution is the wrong move. Any government would wanna cap any revolution movement before it grows into something they cant control.

ifyboy60:
u are willfully being mischievous, what's the correlation between my statement and bombing.
Even America is what it is today because of the American revolution.
stop making wrong analogies pls

If you cant connect what I said with your inability to differentiate between freedom of speech and a open threat against a government, then I'm done. You good

ifyboy60:
Sir, do u watch any non NTA TV station?
if yes, u might have heard of Trump, and his Rivals, they've called him all they can, many have protested, called for his impeachment (bundle him out can also mean impeachment.) some dems have even called for secession.
Same in France, UK etc, but when it comes to Nigeria, u guys will always find good excuses for Buhari.

If you have any family in the USA. I dare you to tweet that they are going to bomb the White House. Let's see if the FBI wont Knock on their doors before sunset. Freedom of speech does not cover threat against a whole government. Calling for revolution is not covered by freedom of speech. Revolution is war!

If the revolution was well planned. This igp should be the first to go. Kidnap him and lock him somewhere. Weaken the police.

Let's not say much

If you want revolution, start with someone who shares the same desire....before you know it, it will grow, and it must be in secret. If the government finds out before you carry out your plans, it is doomed which is exactly why sowore is behind bars now.

Now the government is spooked, but it isn't all over yet. So instead of protesting tomorrow in the name of revolution. Make that tomorrow your first meeting somewhere secretive. Educate each other and let supporters understand the consequences of this movement.

More organized governments have been defeated by great revolutionaries. Nigerian government does not stand a chance against a strategic and well planned movement, they are not that intelligent. They only depend on military force and money. Mind you, this military guys are suffering too.

So revolution is not a joke. We are not ready

ElsonMorali:
You and me both.

It wasn't well thought out at all.

I like that he's got the energy and the drive and his antecedents speak for him, but nothing beats proper planning.

A revolution that will wipe out the "slave masters of Astapor" will take months and years to plan.

The guy was in a hurry. Even if the government had left him alone, it would have just been another street protest on the streets of Lagos. It won't even get to Ibadan, not to talk of Abuja.

Painting graffiti on side rails? Nah! That'll never do.

Yeah, that's why I was disappointed when he said revolution. I thought we finally got the soilder we longed for, with this now. I'm not even sure I'll follow the guy anymore.

I still think the problem is most people dont understand what revolution stands for. It is war!

ElsonMorali:
Revolution is not something you plan openly. It's usually something that takes the leadership/government by surprise.

Exactly. The revolution is doomed the moment the government knows about it. I like sowore spirit and all, but he should know better.

gidgiddy:
Exactly, you allow people to protest then if the protest turns violent, then you can call in the Army to restore law and order.

This has nothing to do with overthrowing government. When Sowore was calling for a revolution, he said he wants people to come out and join him in protest against the direction Nigeria is heading. He never said anything about taking up arms or being violent.

Arresting Sowore because he mentioned the word 'revolution' would be tantamount to arresting people simply for talking.

Only somebody armed can overthrow a government. So if Sowore and his group are not armed and only want to on a protest which they call 'revolution', then arresting him is only because he talked.

We are in a democracy where people have freedom of speech. The authorities should not be arresting people for merely talking. That is very bad and takes us back to the days of the military where saying the wrong words could land one in jail

The fact that he was arrested because he mentioned revolution speaks volume.

Revolution is WAR against a government. He should have said protest and no one will mind. Calling for revolution publicly is a bad vibe. Now the government is on alert, and they understand its war, so dont blame them for trying to war early.

Revolution is not an easy thing. It means war. So why would someone call for war publicly. I am in full support of revolution, but we are not ready

Formidable1:
On the contrary, I have a different advice: if you leave her for the USA, your marriage is done and dusted.

Many are advising you to ditch her, do a DNA test, don't go to the USA with her, etc. But I'll only tell you one thing: love her even more.

You're already married to her and what more? You have a child. I've always advised couples whose marriages are on the brink to work it out for the sake of their children. Trouble-laden marriages often have a ripple effect on the children; they grow up to have less honor for the sanctity of marriage, and they in turn start having problems too, spreading it to their own children and it spreads down to the next generations. The outcome?

I don't usually delve into issues like this without hearing from the other party. You can never get the full behind-the-scene story from one person. However, from all you've written in your post, OP, I failed to see the efforts you made to find out why your wife suddenly became aggressive to you. I doubt it's merely about the birthday as most people are suggesting. Have you tried to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her? Have you tried to find out what it is that you do that makes her despise you? For all I know, you may have changed as well. You may no longer be the man she used to know. You may have stopped showering the love you used to shower her when you were still dating her.

I'm married for 6 years now with kids and I dated my wife for 5 years before we finally got married. I can tell you that marriage isn't a bed of roses. It takes two to tango. My wife on certain occasions have been angry or aggressive with me, but each time she did that, we talked and most times I looked inwards and understood that I was falling short in a way. And the only solution to that has always been to assure her of my love by giving her more attention, affection and care.

Nobody is perfect, and I'm not saying your wife is without a fault. But if you really want your marriage to work, you have to look inwards and ask yourself what you've been doing when you guys were crazily in love that you've stopped doing. You said you could work for 48 hrs straight without coming home; I'll be frank, no wife can cope with that. And then when you come home, what do you do? You start demanding for food? No, bro...what you do is to consider first how lonely she's been and the lack of attention, and try to make up for that. Play with her, tell her sweet things. In fact, once in a while, take her out for a treat, buy her some nice things on your way home after such long shifts. Show her that she may be lonely, but she's not alone. Make her understand that your absence/work is a necessity in order to give her a comfortable life, and assure her of a better future where you'd find a better source of income without having to absent from home.

The truth is that women would always crave attention and that feeling of being cared for, and believe me they could go anywhere to find it. It is how they're biologically wired, and we the men have to understand it to that extent. If you don't give your wife attention and care, she'd seek it elsewhere, including from an ex. Now, I'm not saying she's doing the right thing, but once a woman starts comparing you with her ex, it means you've started falling short and you need to up your game. It's usually hard to move on from a past relationship, esp one that didn't break up in bad terms, but with the right amount of care and love from a partner, one can get over it. If you dare leave her behind for the USA, you can kiss your marriage goodbye. It'd just give her the conclusive reason to go full time with her ex. In fact, going to the USA will give her the focus she needs to be with you. You guys will be far from the depression that comes with living in this country.

From your post, I observed that you're kind of saving your money for the 'bigger things' while she's the one providing the money for feeding. She may feel like you're using her. How about making an arrangement with her in such a way that there is a balance in the finances. You have to be the man now by providing more money than she does for expenses. At least, 65/35 would do. It's no longer back then in school when she used to give you money, and cater for you. You're now the head of your family, and if you're earning more than she does, you should provide more than she does.

As for the issue of insulting your mum, talk with her. Find out the reasons behind her disregard for your family. Forgive her and give her more chance. With love, all things are possible.

Please, and please, don't ever entertain the notion of doing a DNA test. Whether positive or negative, it'd do you no good. I'd bet with my last dime that that child is yours. Your wife doesn't seem to me like that kind of woman people are suggesting she is. Your post also shows that you believe in her faithfulness and fidelity. She's just probably frustrated with many things she's not getting from the marriage.

My advice is already taking up a page. But I'd stop here. I'd just ask you to:

1. Look inwards into yourself and find out what you've started doing or stopped doing that has made her change.

2. If you still really want your marriage to work, then work on it, at least for the sake of your little child.

3. Show more love, play with your wife, try to do those things you know got her attracted to you. Always forgive readily.

I wish you a happy married life, bro. May God bless your home.

The only reasonable married man's comment on here. OP I hope you know all those saying divorce and all are kids, prolly doesn't have gfs. I would have said the same thing this person said.

Marriage is hard work. She seems spent, so try to replenish her.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

First of, I congratulate you on your USA path. With the USA, you are in the winning side. There are thousands of single mothers in the USA wishing they could get a good man. I give her a year in the USA and she will cherish what she has.

That said, I am not married yet, but looking forward to it. I will share the best marriage advise I had gotten from a wise man.


You seem very busy, I know a man gotta do what he has to do, but before she agreed to date you, you remember how you were all over her and had enough time for her? Apparently that should never go away. Most happy couples claim that marriage is not an easy thing. Like you have to work on it to be happy. I think your wife is spent, and you not really replenishing it.

Imagine you gave your wife 100 thousand, tomorrow you collect 20k from the money. You keep collecting until she has nothing left. What do you think she will say to you when you ask for me. Shes spent.

So replenish her, find time, do all the things that makes her happy. If she's still like that, just bring her to the USA, then she will appreciate you better.

lomprico:
calling for a revolution is as same as calling for coup. sowore shouldn't have called it revolution!

how am I being unreasonable?

Right. I am not blaming sowore or anything, but a revolution should not be something you plan out loud. The success of a revolution depends on how organized and planned the group is.

It's called beating them at their own game. They wont know until it's too late. But if we all are all on nairaland planning something, or announcing it? We might as well call it a protest. please the blood shed is enough already.


For anyone who loves the idea of revolution, read about successful and failed revolutions in different countries. Keep calm, it will happen, not just this way.

Lol so I just read through the comments. If yall only in this just so sowore can be released. This is not a revolution. It's no different from the Shiites protest. So it is a protest. Revolution means a government turn around if its doings are harmful to its citizens. Protest can be don on the planned date. But we not ready for revolution yet

Good move my people. The revolution is long over due. But please dont start a revolution now. Most revolutions have a 50/50 chance. And what separates the successful ones from the unsuccessful ones is as simple as planning. I'm in full support of the revolutionary movement, but rather than going out like that, take few months to plan, plan, plan. Without it we just going in a single direction. Many revolutions have failed because of this. Let's think before any quick actions