Bastard is derogatory and unnecessary. Its the parents that are at fault not the innocent child.

kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forget the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.

lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

Wow.You need to work on your selfesteem.That's after you left him.That guy is egoistical and wicked.My God! Other ladies are disturbing him?!!He should go to then now.My dear, take it from someone who has a baby.
Having a baby is not as easy as it seems.Let him do the right thing if he is ready! He doesnt have to spend much.Besides i doubt if he means well for you.*in omowunmi's voice"

santanamimi:
Kenwood Food Processor @ 10k

Location: Lagos

I want.How old is it
Pictures?

Happened to my friend's car.Thank God it was during the day and in a safe area

Writing is a skill

Great4God:
@OP, I feel your situation, I have not passed through such but how I survived the last quarter of 2016 is still a miracle for me, I experienced so many health challenges, to be honest with you, I could not remember how it all started, I was constantly having headache, body pains, hotness of the body, some movement like ant around my body, so many strange symptoms,I was terrified, I went for every possible test you can think of,I kept repeating HIV test almost every week,I went for every test that has to do with infection,I took so many self medication when I thought the one given to me in the hospital was not working,I kept googling every symptom,every natural medicine, I was taking, any night I sleep for one hour was a privilege to me,my BP was hitting close to 200/110,I thought I was gonna die any of the night.It was horrible for me,I suffered alone as I couldn't even explain my sickness to anyone. I knew what people pass through when they say they are depressed,life was not having any meaning to me, I took black seed,I took honey,my tongue was biting, I cant explain, My mind was messed up. BUT one day I took a decision

I discarded ALL the drugs I was taking, I took hold of my mind, I utilized autosuggestion to bring life back to my self, I stopped thinking of any symptoms, I stopped dwelling on them, I stopped giving them a thought, I was taking more of water and fruits, I consciously decided to work on my mind, I got hold of it,the less I gave those things thought,I discovered that most of those symptoms started disappearing,I just discovered that I was gradually getting back my self,the hotness stopped, the moving object stopped,the biting tongue stoped,I started getting normal again

Sometimes,the psychology around sickness is what really kill, so work on your self, you have been feeding so much chemical to your system, that might be your problem

Wow thank God for your life.You are a testimony.You should write a comprehensive post or book on how you were able to tame your mind

Greenbullet:
if you Dont want to get crushed ,never hit the tail of a crocodile.

Hahaha.Case in point.

Greenbullet:
my sister didn't assault her, we laid a trap for her because she is a woman of little Patience, my sister went there to provoke her and she hit my sister first, my sister acted under SELF DEFENSE and beat her up, Good morning.

You "laid a trap for her"? What a family!

kevoh:
They are talking bloggers adsense earnings, all these click here to see Miss X twerk or Miss X nude pictures copy and paste bloggers too are talking...

Funny enough, they probably make more money that those who produce good content

Sapiosexuality:
Thanks. I will wait for the end of July before doing that. I need the articles to be above fifty. Thanks.

Do you know how Facebook pages work? When I initially started, I was experimenting with different subjects and I placed a promo ad on Facebook. It got more likes but I terminated the ads after about 10 hours. My problem is, Facebook didn't deduct money from my master card account. I waited for two weeks, still they didn't deduct it. I was expecting a deduction for the ten hours, even if it is half the total price, the ads ran. I hope they won't think I'm trying to cheat? Do you know a lot about this? Thanks. Anyone else who knows can put me through.

Fb collects their money at the end of the month of when you reach your payment threshold

dayo2me:
i started blogging of a tin 2015 with the hope that btw 2015 and 2016 my adsense would be approved, but turns out to be a mirage, since when my adsense couldn't get approved in 2016 i just stop d blog jare, what works 4 u may nt work 4 me

Wow.That was a mistake you made.Is adsense the only source of income for a blog

jieta:
actually i want to vent my anger on you in respect to your provocative post but i was somehow busy.

so i came back to go through the post again.then i saw your typical fortunate average Nigeria house wife mentality.

Haha.Whatever.

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

Sorry i jumped into conclusion.You did not share all that in your initial post.God is the only solid rock so lean on him and dont expect much from humans.

jieta:
your reply is full of arrogance, i won't be surprise if people like you control their husband.

Lol.I saw your first response.When you waited for a while and didnt get a reply you came to edit it to see if youl get a rise from me.
Well sir iv noticed you.You can now enjoy the rest of your holidays.

stressedout:
they put my food for me. i dont take by myself. Anyone who can take me in should pm me. am fed up.

What is with the servile beggarly attitude?Mtchew.I hate it when i see men who can't hustle.
Look at the way you are even talking.You cant even ask for a job.You cant list things you can do in exchange for money, you just want someone to take you in.You are even an ingrate complaining about food and milk.If you want to rise above you need think of the value you can add to society and provide it.The world will beat a part to. Your door.And don't be too proud to do anything.
Here is coming from someone who has been broke, hungru and trekked unholy distances before.And im a woman so please-as they say-be a man

justwant2bhappy:
Hmmmmm. I realized I made the worst and gravest mistake of my life by marrying a man who neither care or value me. To him am just one of his acquired property. He doesn't share opinions with me. I am just married but living a lonely and miserable life, honestly I have been good to this man but I discovered recently that he's after other women(not one but plenty) I wouldn't mind if he's showing my own affection and respect but he don't just care if I exist. I already have a son for him so I can't leave my son and walk away. That's the only thing holding me back. My son is my world, he's the only thing I have on Earth. But am dying slowly each day, thinking to finish off the life. What is life without affection, what is life without who you can share your thought with, what is life with living with the wrong man, what is life if all I do everyday is cry myself to sleep, what is life with a serial cheating husband who don't care about me? What is life with a man who only come to me any time he need sex and will just raise my gown and dip his di.ck like he's fvcking a prostitute? Does the life really worth it? No it doesn't. I will end it soon
If this is what marriage is all about then in my next world I want to remain single forever

Do you have a handwork? Do you have a source of income? My dear its time to tighten up your seatbelts and become a wonderwoman.Work hard till you have enough money to sustain your lifestyle.Then leave.
Life is too short to let a man ruin it for you.
But please don't take rash steps.Gather yourself together first.And forget suicide.You will only be shortchanging yourself and your child.

We should all be feminists.I keep saying this.I recently had a baby and it made me think.A baby boy is not different from a girl.Onlu difference is the privates.They cry the same way and act the same way.They are not stronger than thw female child.But the society just conditions them.Theyl lie to you even when the child is a baby that boys eat more than girls.Its a lie.Men are taught to eat large rations as they grow.Everything is taught.
Sometimes the unnecessary pressure begins to get to get to some men.Too much pressure.The woman on the other hand is put through so much.All unnecessary values and expectations created by man.
All society taught yet ruining our ability to enjoy our brief stay here on earth

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What a savage thread

kwalakwala123:
Have you ever been a window before? Or a single mother? Or even divorced because of domestic violence? If your answer is no, then you should be the one to permanently shut up. Or risk being in their situation may be you will understand why they are going to a guest house. But my prayers for you and the writer is for you not to ever find yourselves in their shoes. Because if you do. You will never be able to judge them again. Because iam a very young widow in my mid twenties. So i understand these things better than you both. May God help us and continue to cover our secrets ijn.

Aww! God is your strength.E-hugs!

Evestar200:
Who told u that married women don't cheats ? Most married women do cheat, they do cheat on their husband with their pastor or Ex lover.

Hahaha pastor? That was so random

vanemo:
Dear Nairalanders, I am a regular on this forum but had to create a new moniker to post this.


Growing up, my father was abusive and hit my mum occasionally. I grew up seeing my mum suffer domestic violence. Eventually, my father abandoned us when I was 9 and moved in with another woman. My mum never remarried. She just focused on my upbringing and raised me alone without my father. My father just didn't care anymore after he left and didn't contribute a dime to my upbringing after he left despite efforts made by friends and family to make him take care of his responsibilities towards me.
After sometime, my mum left everything in the hands of God and focused on catering for me without minding my father.
This made me vow not to ever hit a woman not to talk of my wife because I saw firsthand how my mum suffered and it would be a shame for me to make another woman pass through the same thing my mother passed through.
I also vowed to do all within my power to keep my family one and give my kids the fatherly love I was denied as I know the negative effects of a broken home on children.
Mine is different because I have a God fearing, intelligent and hardworking mother who played the role of both father and mother in bringing me up.

Fast forward to now, I am married with a daughter. Met my wife in 2012 and we have been together ever since.
Now, my wife is a very sweet lady who has stood by me through thick and thin even when business was down sometime ago, she was there for me. Things were so bad that we could barely feed but surprisingly, she stood by me and supported me with prayers and she was even the breadwinner for about 4 months till things got better for me.
For this, I praise her a lot and cherish her for this. I am sure she loves me with her whole heart and I can say to some extent that we are happy together.

Now, the problem is that she takes me for granted sometimes and shows some lack of respect towards me which I am finding it hard to tolerate.
For example:

1. She knows I don't eat pepper. But, occasionally she would prepare meals laced with copious amounts of pepper and pass it for me to eat. This has been happening since 2013 and most times, I get angry and refuse to eat the food. 3 weeks ago, she did the same thing and for one week, I refused to eat her food despite her pleadings. Later, I forgave her and things went back to normal.

2. Sometimes, if she is going somewhere and I tell her to help me do something or buy something for me around the area where she is going to, she would always find an excuse not to do what I asked her to do. It has happened often that I have lost confidence in her.
Last week, she was going somewhere and I gave her some money and some herbal medication to give to a sick friend who lives in that area. To my chagrin, she came back without delivering the message telling me stories of why she couldn't find time to go to my friend's place.

3. This evening, she mentioned that she needed extra 300k to boost her business. This is after I had given her 600k which she asked for initially and another 200k which I didn't budget for. Our house rent is expiring in July and I have to renew it plus other expenses that are lined up. I tried explaining to her that I can't spare 300k now and we had a heated exchange. To my chagrin, she walked out on me and even when I called her back, she didn't listen to me. This is not the first time this kind of a thing is happening.

In all of this, I have never raised my hand to hit her since we met in 2012 all because of my vow never to hit a woman in my life. In the above 3 examples, I have been really tempted to break this vow but I am glad I got hold of myself.
I have told her several times that the day she will push me to the wall and I start hitting her, I would never stop and she will be the one to suffer it. I also told her that if we are to ever separate r divorce, it will never be my fault because I am pro family and I am ready to do all it takes to keep my family together and make sure my kids are brought up with their dad and mum under one roof.

I know within myself that I can never hit her no matter what but on the other hand, I can't tolerate living with a lady that takes me for granted and does not respect me.
I have thought about this.
Had it been I was the type that beat women, I think she would have been respecting me more and not taking me for granted like this.

Now, I am in a dilemma, if this continues, it is either I start hitting her or I walk away from the marriage.
Both options are not what I want but I might just be forced to do one of them and go against my vow.
If it gets worse, the better of the two evils is to walk away from the marriage with my sanity intact and take my daughter along as I would not contemplate hitting my wife because of what my mother passed through.

My dear nairalanders, pls I need your advice on this issue.

See the way you have dragged your wife in the mud.15 and 16 year olds are now insulting her and calling her names like bitch.Congratulations!
I hope you are proud of yourself.

Health16:

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3. Fashion:


Underwear took the top spot—hot damn! Be that as it may, be cautious how at an early stage in a relationship you spring for beautiful bra and undies.
Ask her close friends to tell you her size, you go go shopping to get beautiful tops
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2. Cosmetic Products:


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Naaa
More like attention,love,respect and loyalty

queenhecate:


delurking finally!
I went to my health centre last week and was astonished to find a big banner announcing that the rotavirus is now available and best of all..... it is free!

Please where o! When did it become free

RadicallyBlunt:
Your thoughts are deviating farther away from the right and sane standard. The earlier you admit this the better for you

Hahaha

Giddyperson:
I just called the hospital to ask about rotavirus vaccine and the person on the phone said it's N3500, she seemed to be speaking off the top of her head too. Biko for anyone that's paid for it recently, is that the price cuz I've been hearing rota is expensive.

What?! I paid N8000 at luth each.Our private hospital was even saying N15k

julybaba:
I've been using Whogohost for the past seven years. I will advice anyone to just stick with their domain service.

Their hosting service is bug loaded. You will always have bandwidth issue, because they don't have a good spam filter mechanism.

Please help me understand tgis "good spam filter mechanism" I currently host with them and my bandwidth usage keeps increasing without an increase in traffic.What is the way out?

That's why we should all be feminists.
When some men insist on being stuck in your old ways,why turn around and complain when aspect does not favour you?
The woman would work like an ass- cleaning the house, cooking, take care of the kids and the man would refuse to lift a finger.The man will actuallu come and call you from the kitchen to carry the baby while he continues lounging.Why? Because he is the man of the house.
You must do as he bids- because he is the man of the house.
Well, since you are the ultimate controller of the house take your traditional place and provide.Stop wailing.
Her money is her money, your money is our money. That is what it means to be a traditional Africa n man

I hardly go to all those okrika markets anymore.When i can buy from Lugaya Store on instagram @lugayastore .They sell at the same price that youl get from all these okrika markets

Nice post op.If you are discerning, you will get really quality things at a low price.I buy my quality ok bags from gabino market.@lugayastore on instagram

Oyinlomobambam:



shatup

hmm

sugah:

Welcome to the huge bosoms club
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Lol.Thanks!