soulstalker:
I have done that, infact I have a meeting with olori ebi(family head) today. but yet my step siblings insist I must pay the money. though am planning to contribute 250k, if they can't take it then everyone should do their thing separately. btw, amen for the prayer..

Maybe the reason they are tasking you so much is because you have given them the impression you are well off. If they are tasking your older ones 150k why are you dropping 250k? Even after this you need to re examine the way your present yourself so they don't exploit you because the honest truth is that they will always find a way to exploit you.

It’s the deception and selfishness for me.... Do you have time to care for those children at all? Or you just abandoned them. Naa... this must be a joke... maybe one of those stories to steer up conversation. I’m beginning to realize that the word LOVE is used too loosely. If you loved your kids you won’t hide them like a plague. If you love this man, you will be honest with him. This is selfish lust and you sound ridiculous.

DonroxyII:
That's the result of work, work and work without play ... Your brain is tired and fatigue ... Get into sport e.g football, gym, swimming , table tennis , long tennis .... Just try to diversify your life .... Also get a female buddy kinda chat mate or male buddy that reason along your philosophy....

you are just lonely ... and your brain is tired of playing with itself ... you need to let yourself out .... visit the beach ... watch the ocean (Pls don't jump inside oo ) .... Watch people play .... watch children play ... visit the orphanage ... see downtrodden folks ... see kids without home ....

Your brain will be diversified ... release new hormones that will make you feel better !

This is the response!
It sounds simple but that’s just it.
If you work too much without allowing time for rest and play, you’ll be depressed and tired of life.
There was one time I felt depressed, tired from within. I start constantly having existentialist thoughts. I was tired! Not just tired from outside-it’s this fatigue that comes from within. It’s like your soul is tireddddd!
I remember calling my friend and talking about it. She said I should come to her place to just chill. Then I remembered to pray about it. It was at the place of prayer that I got the understanding to stop working on Saturdays. It didn’t make sense at the time but I did. That sad hollow feeling has stopped since. The thing was that I was working Monday to Sunday. I filled my plate with something to do every single day. It affected me badly. Now on Saturdays, I try to chill and not do any tasking brain work. It’s been my saving grace.
@OP . You need to find a way around it. It may not be a whole day like me but you need time to blow off steam. Plus what type of job demands you with 7 days a week? There are better deals out there. Also why are you not telling your family about your medical condition? Tell them and accept the love and support. Tell your friends, tell your lover. Don’t wear yourself out carrying the load of life alone.
Don’t worry about the future, enjoy today. You are not Alpha and Omega. I can relate to you in so many ways. Thankfully I’m growing in wisdom small small lol. Enjoy today enjoy today! You are not promised tomorrow! Enjoy today! To enjoy, start by asking yourself what enjoyment to YOU is. Make sure your mind is not chained by the shackles of societal expectations and conditioning- the peer and ancestral pressures of predefined measures of success.

Well written.
I’l add that the most important is through His Word.

Visions , dreams etc are good but always test them against His word. His word is ultimate.

PaulH07:
Finally narrowed down to 2 places as prospective places I plan residing in, which is Yaba and Ikeja.

My decision was formed from the following:

1. Both being in the centre of Lagos, hence shorter commute duration to the Island and to other places on the mainland.

2. Both being relatively safe.

3. Yaba being also relatively affordable, with a College of Technology present, hence will be a bubbly area to reside in.

4. Ikeja, though not cheap, but quite lively, even more than Yaba, with enough serene clubs, Malls, hangouts, cinemas and even an Airport close to the base. Also being the capital, there's the status feeling that comes with it.

So guys which do you think is the best? Though I'm more inclined towards Ikeja.

Hey..
I have stayed in Yaba and live in Ikeja.
It depends on where you stay in both places. Ikeja is generally more peaceful and serene but there are rowdy places too.
There is constant light in Ikeja though it comes at a price. If you don’t have prepaid meter, you may be paying 35k upwards for light bill in a flat. That may be cheap or expensive- depending on you.

Commute to the Island? Yaba is definitely better.

Status? You shouldn’t be bothered about what people think. Personally if I had my way, I would look for a quiet peaceful place in Ibadan - or anywhere away from the bustle and close to nature.

Fun? Nowhere is that far. Even if you are not mobile there is Uber.

That’s why you need to keep them busy. Fill your home with books so they don’t have time for vices. I have been buying cheap books from @kidgaya on IG for my daughter. She is always reading now- screen time has reduced drastically.

Darling you need to move on...
Forgive yourself!
Otherwise you will spend your years being enslaved to this guy trying to prove to him you are sorry.
I read of a story of a lady who cheated on her boo. She spent 5 years trying to convince that guy she was sorry. The guy treated her like pure trash! Guess what? She later found out he was cheating after years of trying to prove she was sorry. You deserve better.
Have you read the comments and the ones with the highest likes? Men hardly forgive- we live in a double standard world.
Secondly, it’s more honorable to break up with a guy than cheat on him. Cheating hurts both parties. You need to have more self-love and self control. Sex starts from the mind- at least for us ladies. One way I avoid these kind of situations...once in a while there may be a guy that catches your fancy especially when you are having issues with your partner. At that point there is a void in your heart. So this person comes along and seems like he can fix it. For some it’s a seemingly ,yes seemingly ,deep emotional connection for others it’s a raw sexual connection. When this happens, flee! Run! Don’t even talk to the guy or do anything with him or look into his eyes-whatever triggers you-till you have sorted out with your partner. Personally I don’t let the THOUGHT linger in my mind! Otherwise in no time you’d be sitting on each other’s face- lol no one plans to cheat okay
Summarily, forgive yourself, move on and learn to control your natural sexual instincts.

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

The chosen ladies will be trying on clothes and modelling them in company promotional materials.
Location: Must be in Lagos.
If interested, please send an email with a full body picture and contact details to gabinoneo@gmail.com

Thank you.

myang500:


daughters of jezeebel...i sight una..

Case in point. I maintain- I pity the woman who has to live with you. I won’t descend to your level sir. I don’t play in mud.

SoapQueen:


Have you seen Toke Makinwa on ground? She looks dry and pale, quite a haughty look! It’s nothing anyone would wish for. What’s more? She douses her IG photos in filters so that her gullible fans, followers and fake friends can see her pictures and say “Goals”


Op. When you find yourself in a hole, the next best thing to do is to stop digging! Yank the cream from your regimen immediately. Start exfoliating with a cream that has exfoliants such a fruit acid peels.

What is affecting you is as a result of steroidal creams which are bandied to be “Organic and Natural”.

I’ve seen her and she looked gorgeous- come on now. We can make our point without bringing down another..

10k per month in Ikeja- the prices being quoted here makes me realize 10k is fair after all

deltateam:


Beware of scammers and ritualists.

I mean like free accommodation my foot! Probably the person’s departing spirit that will be handing over the keys. And in port harcourt of all places!

I actually feel sorry for OPs wife. His demeanor so far in responding to opinions tell all we have to know!

henrixx:
I spent carelessly and needlessly and i failed to do my homework as well. Got extremely confused along the way. Was faced with a tough decision not knowing wether to walk away or keep trying.

Capital got finished and i realized I should have walked away earlier

Recognizing whether you are being patient or you are wasting your time is one of the hardest things in business

This post will particularly be relevant to you if you want to go into the bag selling business or you like a good bargain.
So where can you buy bags cheap in Nigeria?

[b]INSTAGRAM VENDORS
[/b]There are a million and one Instagram accounts that sell bags and claim to sell bags at wholesale prices.
Some are genuine while some are scams. Some have the items while others will take your money then order for bags and you never get them.

GABINO BAGS
One trusted vendor is gabino bags. @gabinobags have a website too https://www.gabinobags.com/ and are a legit company because i buy my bags from them. Dm them on instagram or shop directly from their website. To buy cheap bags from them , the secret is to shop during their weekly Gabino Factory Price. They sell all bags at Factory Prices! Very cheap but its only on Wednesdays. If you want to take part, just follow them on Instagram and turn on post notification.

EKO IDUMOTA/
Another great place to buy bags at wholesale bags is Eko Idumota , Oshodi. One thing i have noticed though is that their prices are friendly but the designs are not as up to date as you would in the age of the internet. If you find a nice bag there, be ready to see it on the arms of thousands of other ladies because, be rest assured that someone brought it in bulk with his container months ago.

THE BAG SHOP LAGOS
Though i have not tried shopping with them, they also sell wholesale prices for bags. You can try them out.

KinSlayer:
weird grammarnazi is my mentor

Thanks for the correction.

Wierd how sexist this country is. The ladies are greedy. The guys arent? Someone who will descend to the level of killing another is not greedy.How myopic.
The truth remains- the only reason ladies are the ones falling is because the guys are the ones doing the rituals. Hence they target ladies- who are vulnerable and easy to overpower.
Greedy ladies on the other hand prefer to sell their bodies and hence fall into the hands of these greedy despicable individuals. These days, even the innocent fall prey.
The day ladies begin to do Yahoo plus, wel all think again.

I feel like crying.This man said we are lazy!My God! These thieves that God will judge.Raiding and raping Nigeria of its resources while its youths toil and sweat to make ends meet.These accursed ones, stealing and hiding loots only to rub it in our faces like they didn't steal it from us.We are lazy! Its because he surrounded with lazy young ones born with silver spoons in their mouths.The spoilt ones who were fed the milk of our land while the poor grew up on nothing but hope and sweat.
These cursed ones!
Its only a matter of time before the youth of this country will arise and eat them as they have left the country nothing but hunger

True but my question is why should any one speak up when supporting the other? As a couple you are supposed to help the other when that person is down. There will be times when the woman need to be taken care financially and there will also be times when the man cant help but receive financial help.So why the announcements?

Darhema:
She's pretty.
I just voted for her and it was pretty fast.

Good luck!!!

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GeneralOjukwu:


I slept off midway....yawn. ...

I am guessing you are a billionaire since you CAN see it ?

Yawn!

Keep sleeping my boy.

GeneralOjukwu:



Hhaahahahahahaha....thought i was the only one who saw that.

It's remarkably and surprisingly easy to be a millionaire, modestly speaking i was within 1 year of working

(Just earn close to 300k and live in an un-expensive city, in no time you can get there easily. A lot of young Drs are; obviously)

BUT being a billionaire is not beans at all....Let me break it down. It means you are worth at least 2000 millionaires' networth at 2 million each

I have a banker friend who tells me about clients with billions, i just doubt the pictured guy rolls in such circles

Lol.It is only the average and poor that try to look rich.
It is a matter of perspective.For some, being a millionaire is unbelievable, a dream.They can't see it.
But a lot of people on the streets are millionaires.
A lot of those igbo traders you see in the market?They are millionaires.You dont even have to be a dr.
Same thing with being a billionaire.If you cant see it.It will seem impossible.Unfathomable.But there are a lot of billionaires out there

michlins:
Move your funds in peace but please forget lying about having not one but two billionaires as friends

Aww.You remind me of the meme where the guy was reminiscing on when he felt buying a shirt of 15K and a shoe for 30k was wasting money.He confessed that he didnt know that it was poverty that was worrying him.

Spot on sir.

reminiscing:
I can recall how my home lesson teacher molested me sexually. God, I gave my mother signs but she didn't see it, I cried many times too.... The bastard was even a song leader back then and I heard he is now a Pastor. In future, he will pay.

Please lets learn from this-what signs did you give?

zero8zero:
kill your brother?
na family matter na
.

I would have taken time to insult your flagrant display of foolishness but i wouldnt.

DoTheNeedful:
Family don pafuka be that. By the way, don't trust any uncle with your children. I have seen cases of teenage ladies sexually abusing young boys too.

God bless you.Boys are also being seriously sexually molested.It's disheartening.There was a post on a site where people go anonymous and sometimes share their deepest secrets.One lady confessed on how she would tell a 3 year old son of their neighbour to lick her pussy.
It got to a stage,the child would come and pull down her skirt so he can lick.One day, he did it in front of the mum.The mum descended on him and beat him to stupor.
Lord.
May God give us wisdom.Because the mum should have sat down and asked herself some questions.Why will that small innocent boy do that?
Boys are being molested and it affects them emotionally.But because in our society men are supposed to be macho, it is swept under the carpet.Then they begin to say they enjoyed it.What a crazy world.

favourmic:
i can never never bath for my daughter incase if i have one talkless of letting someone take their bath, i cant allow anyone sleep beside my daughter unless their mother of sister is around....


back to the OP you have to separate them and let go what if the boy is the girl elder brother? so many things is happen in the world

Don't allow anyone make you feel what you said about bathing your daughter is wrong.You are absolutely right.
But i think we need to focus on also educating and empowering the child.So when anyone tries to violate them,they know they are being violated.

Simpledude0847:
The situation has reached an alarming level. Parents should start teaching these kids about sexual abuse i.e Don't let anybody touch your body, if anybody touches you, shout e.t.c

Absolutely!

Lord Jesus!Parents have to be watchful and careful.It is not a wise thing to allow a male bath a female child.In fact once a child is up to 5, the mum should not bath her!!She needs to learn that are body is hers and hers alone.You can monitor and direct her to make sure she washes properly but don't touch!That way if any one tries to touch,she knows the person is passing their boundary
Can you imagineJesus