asuustrike2009:
I bet you that phone will be priced for N25,000 please stay clear

But 25k. Seems fair.Take it to those guys in computer village and you'l know whats up

Wisdom filled

Boss13:
This is a pathetic case of mistrust and lack of communication. There is so much mistrust amongst men and women these days. It's such a shame. Everybody is considering the easy way out and shockingly divorce is not as easy as presumed. The people who say it is do so because they don't want to be laughed at and told they have made a mistake.

Adams, I'm sad you brought your issue to a public forum and at the same time, you might have been in a huge distressed. So it's quite understandable. However, if you read the comments posted on your issue, it should give you the chills and a rethink to never do it again. Strangers insulting your wife, asking you to carry out paternity test on your kids, recommending you flog your wife or get a side chick to make her mellow. Some calling your wife an ingrate. These are people who don't know you, your wife or your family. Others saying the root cause to your marital problems is because you got her pregnant 3 weeks into your relationship. Man, I feel terrible for you.

First, you insulted your wife. You called her unprintable names. You also accused her of cheating without verifiable evidence - for these reasons, you MUST apologize to you wife. Please note that I stressed "must". Whether your wife is cheating or not, you have no proof for now. I also understand you were furious emotional, it happens. Now, you have to apologize.

Second, you are NOW a family with two lovely kids who needs both of you to survive in this tough world. Nobody, I repeat, nobody will ever love or treat your kids better than you and get the same satisfaction from seeing them thrive. Not even the side chick you may be considering bringing in. Adams, most marriages go through tough times, even on a consistent trend. So this is your moment to dig in and remove the friction.

Probably in your mind, you keep wondering if you had not gotten her pregnant in this first place. You know what every man, in marital distress, think the same too. That you married your wife 3 weeks into courtship after she got pregnant, proves you are a better man and one who listens to sound advice. Many men will bail and even ignore the baby.

Third, there is mistrust in your home. You don't trust your wife's business judgement and she doesn't trust you in being with her still the end. Both of you need to sort that out. You must also understand that people fail and that your wife wants to push ahead shows she wants to succeed. Her success should also be your success. You MUST help her succeed. Also, note that I stressed the must again. If you don't have the money let her know, if you can help with the loan, please do. Don't shove her aside. Support her dream and she will be grateful. Also, on the gift stuff, I think she has a point on the name issue. If you are not comfortable with that, buy all properties in the family name. It's not a gift when it's in your name - it's a loan.

It's also sad that your wife is belittling you to her friends, whether male or female. It's very sad indeed. Maybe because she lacks support and encouragement from you. Remember both of you are partners and should be on the same team. Eradicate this mistrust and bring your wife closer, encourage her, praise her and love her even when she is wrong. I bet you will do the same for your kids, so why not for the woman who gave you those children.

Finally, remove the notion that your wife is cheating and you want to seek separation. My brother, that divorce grass is not sweet at all. It will destroy your children's confidence, increase your mistrust for women, destroy your home because the other woman is more likely to mistreat your kids, degrade your wife, reduce the happiness in your family, increase the chances of you dying on time from stress. Only selfish people divorce and trust me, selfish people are never happy. Go and make up with your wife. Don't start another family because you ALREADY have a family.

I leave you with this - if you seek happiness, you must be happy. If you seek love, you must love. Love your wife no matter what.

UnimkeAk:


I REPEAT ... IN THIS COUNTRY, NO WOMAN OF THIS GENERATION IS EVER GRATEFUL.... NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR A WOMAN , JUST TURN DOWN HER REQUEST ONE OR TWO TIMES , THE NEXT THING YOU'LL HEAR IS WHAT HAVE YOU EVEN DONE FOR ME.

Lol.Well i think it's a HUman tendency not just women.Upon all the sacrifices some women go through for men, they still get rubbished

kaziblake:
We need to hear your wife side of the story so that we don't sound bias cos you men will come on nairaland to paint yourself as saint while you are the real devil.

God bless you.
They will paint you like a demon while hiding their own flaws.

Cleopatra4:

Never say never!

Meaning? The guy is pledging not boasting.You should encourage him seeing that you are a female.I think.

9jayes:
I pledge never to raise my hand on any woman so help me God

Amen.God bless you.

Kolawole81:
I recently realise i may have TMAU, the worst thing that can ever happen to a man. I get ridiculed by my coworkers and I've heard insults from family members,( especially my mother) about my body odor. I've even had two coworkers spray perfume on me behind my back. My brother and sister cover there noses around me and sometimes avoid me altogether including my father. When I talk with my sister she puts medicated lip balm above her lip. When i am in tge midst of my friends every one lights a cigarette. I brush my teeth twice a day or after every meal and I shower two times a day. I practice good hygiene and I've changed my diet. But I've asked my sister and family if i smell and they say no. I've asked my ex-girlfriend and she is extremely honest with me and she said no. I've asked close friends of mine and they've said no. It seems to vary from time to time. Yet just yesterday on my way to buy fuel from the filling station : NOW LISTEN TO THIS..

He dropped the fuel pump, gave me a look of horror, what came out of his mouth was a shrieking cry of revulsion as he fled. People around the vicinity covered their noses and looked at me. All this despite the fact my car Windows were up. I hit the accerator on impulse to flee and almost rammed into a metal barrier. I ran home and began to cry., then I realised how stupid it was if me to cry, I locked all Windows and stuffed tissue paper to cover any hole, watched National Geographic all day, vowing never to leave my house ever again.Screw my job, I quit,


.....the thing is I can't smell anything bad. In fact, I smell the perfume I spray and the lotions and soaps I use. I've never had this problem before and I am very frustrated, disappointed, angry, paranoid and I can go on with a two page essay on how I feel. How am I suppose to function in the world if I MAKE PEOPLE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE AND REPULSE? AND MOST IMPORTANTLY WHY IS THAT PEOPLE MAKE THE FACES OR COVER THEIR NOSES BUT WHEN YOU ASK THEM DO YOU SMELL THEY LIE? YOUR HURTING MY FEELINGS BY THE THINGS YOUR DOING AND NOT LYING TO MY FACE WHEN I CONFRONT YOU............ I really can't smell anything bad about myself and truthfully I am withdrawing from family and friends and on the verge of committing suicide. Why should I have to cope with this problem I have no control over and expect the world to be understanding and compassionate................

Have you gone to the hospital? I suggest a good teaching hospital where they will be patient enough to do series of test to get to the bottom of this.

Dyt:


Pls add to it she should pray and fast
Wear red lingerie
Pole dancing

im dead.

Muafrika2:
Also keep members of extended family living with you to no more than one at a time, if you have to.

And children hang out with children only. No children hanging out with elder extended relatives.

Infact, tell them to say no if anyone other than his /her parents send her/him to the shop or to fetch anything. Let them be called rude but they will be safe. The times when everybody was a mother and father are long gone.

And also, let them know no one else has permission to punish them except you, and anyone who tries will get into trouble. Predators always get children to keep quiet by threatening to punish them. You'd rather have a spoilt child than a sexually abused one.

Nice insights

What of nagging husbands? Complaining faultfinding entities who always find a reason to alienate peace from the home?

aljharem:
Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

Sorry about your bad experience but the op did it as a sign of love-read his write-up. Please don't discourage him.If his wife took him and his action for granted she would not have being so grateful.
A woman that has 5 month old twins for that matter! She should be sick first before he shows kindness??

Liftedhands:
Four months is recommended.

Thanks!

Thank you very much

Akorkor:


Start from like when she is 2month 2weeks. I started training mine at that time and now she sit well at 3m+. Though i dont allow her to sit herself ohh until when she want to.

Then also involve her in exercise like folding legs on her playmat, stretching hands and pulling hand close to you to sit.

PS: To do this exercise, please make sure her neck is stable a bit before engaging it this. You can get more exercise tips on youtube or baby center.

babythug:


What's the hurry ma? It can still wait another month! Maybe even two sef

thanks o someone was saying her baby was already sitting at 2 months and i was wondering if i should have started. Im a ftm

roseval:
according to my Mum female 3 months male 4 month

Thanks!

Mamas please o when should i start training my baby to sit. She will be 2 months in 4 days time

Maxvasia:
Simply cos u lack the intelligence to understand my statements does not make me any less a Doctor so just dnt waste ur time venting ur anger. I would have told u a lot but u dnt seem worthy of any human effort. Ur username says a lot abt u. U may actually be a disgrace to ur family. But u see, its not my business either.

It is so sad that you cant see that you are the one who is a disgrace to your family.
Go home and show this thread to your mother or sisters maybe even aunts.

adontcare:
so two days after delivery with cuts n vijay and being d first time cannot make some one weak. U must be a quack doctor. For ur information am not lazy. U must be a very wicked person to say it was a stupid excuse. So when d head of d house did not want a helper in the house, I should kill him? I still cooked d food, though stressful and painful. Am a strong woman compared to what u imagined. My advice to u is dis when ur daughter marry, let her pound yam for her husband immediately she put to bed so she won't be giving stupid excuses.

My dear dont mind him please.You are very strong and very patient.May God keep your home and bestow wisdom upon your husband.

Maxvasia:
U want another strong lady to be cooking for her husband? What is making her weak 2 days after delivery? I am a Doc and i know thats an embarassingly stupid excuse! What happened to employing a helper as part of preparation for the "challenges ahead"? The only problem here is the attitude of ladies of nowadays. Apparently the real women are long dead. Our grand mothers wer never like this.

What happened to being considerate? For your information Omugwo started from "our grandmothers" and the woman is allowed to eat and rest well.
I don't blame you for the mentality you just displayed. A lot of things are wrong with this society and for things to change it has to start with the family.

oseiwe:
When a gf came over for a weekend a certain time in the past, I know say to be a parent no easy.
Children will not let you have rest of mind. They want to explore and spoil your belongings. I prefer infants and toddlers. Still expecting to be a daddy sha, when the Child is grown, straight to boarding house.

Rotfl you prefer infants and toddlers?! Haha.You obviously have stayed with them before- they can test your sanity- they are also the cutest through

A lot of Nigerian women watch porn.
You are lucky she admitted it.
It only shows that she is open and can be trusted to tell the truth.

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

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Thanks i got a Microsoft phone.

It's seems durable but i never knew how restrictive it could be- like there are a lot of apps i wish i could get but i cant find find in their store.

I'm OK with it though.Thanks for the advice

The price has been added.

ifetoyosi:
Ao much is it going for

The iPhone 5s is neatly used and has no issue at all what so ever.
Every part of it is intact, from the camera to the screen, charger and so on.
It also has a screen guide to protect it against scratches as a result of falls.

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MizMyColi:
Are you saying you do not want Chinese OEMs in general?

Would you be willing to go for a second hand device then?

No its just that Iv heard too many horror stories about infinix and tecno. my Sister bought a one and in 3 months the screen was cracked. My friend too and another cracked screen in months. Though their camera s are good.
I'm never lucky with second hand electronics

Hi guys.

I want to get a new phone but I am on a low budget- 45k.

All I want is a good camera, battery and a screen that can stand me dropping, sleeping on it and sitting on it without breaking. I'm very careless with my phones.(my Sony Xperia has been able to stand that For years now without cracking)
I don't think I want infinix or tecno products though

Any advise please- I need it.

Hi guys.

I want to get a new phone but I am on a low budget- 45k.

All I want is a good camera, battery and a screen that can stand me dropping, sleeping on it and sitting on it. I'm very careless with my phones.

I don't think I want infinix or tecno products though

Any advise please- I need it.

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