₦airaland Forum

Pregift:
Please anybody in the house I need help. Am a married woman with two kids. My husband lost his job early this year. Since then my life has been in a mess. My okro selling business couldnt sustain us. So it has been hand to mouth. Right now there is a woman who wants to introduce me into hookup. Am confused, bcs I can't bring myself to sleep with other men for money. And still I can't continue to put myself and kids through this hunger and shame.
Please if anyone has any job for me, especially nannny or house cleaning job pls contact me. I need serious intervention.
I stay in portharcourt. This is my no. 08067212911

as a matter of fact, I am looking for a nanny with experience. but how do you intend to cope with the job leaving your husband and kids behind? do u have a plan in respect to that?? I already have 3 girls working for me and they are well accomodated, I dont know what people working for me eat as we dont care to checkmate anyone. they eat same thing my kids eat. but one of them got admission and she would be going to school by next week while the other is leaving by March to get married.

please let me know your view..

ehissi:
All this una DM dey too dark for person to enter. When no be say you keep sharp knife whey you wan use take cut person neck for inside DM!!

Except na motor whey you test drive from Abuja to Asaba......Please Interested seller should put price and pictures for everyone to see.......Thank you!!

I will be doing Abuja to Lagos next weekend for an occasion with same car, I will be so honored if you can join me if that will satisfy your curiosity. And if you are in Abuja, let's schedule a meeting point for general inspection and test drive.

overseasnbeyond:
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2.8M

I have a direct Belgium of this car for sale, the AC is intact, the catalyst is intact and has never been used by anyone in Nigeria. It was shipped into Nigeria December, custom clearance and every paper is available. No issue at all, clean in and out. More like a brand new car.

Interested person should dm.

SocialJustice:
In today's Nigeria it is. Many people can't hold a conversation in English. Or if you pronounce your words clearly. I go into shops to buy things and sometimes I get carried away, people who can't see me from where they are, stretch to see who is talking. It can be very awkward and I'm speaking pidgin, difference is I'm pronouncing my words clearly.

And how is speaking good English attributes to smartness??

Do you realise there are quite alot of grammatical blunders in several media content than the audience paid attention to??

I dont want to mention names, there are books that we're written for literature use only and some of the grammatical preferences are not tenable as basis for our approved british standard of English.

Pay attention to vocabulary as it drops not the speaker's instinct or eloquence.

Meanwhile, speaking good English doesn't amount to smartness or wisdom.

Anyone can learn how to speak eloquently and develop it with time, but who is smart will reason outside the box and see things differently. You see something and jump into emotions on the good side of it, but someone else has thought a thousand things about same thing. How beautiful it is, possible risk it might poses on others, how costly, possible disadvantages and so on..

'In most cases, those that has so much on their lips, they even talk before they ponder, they are always the first to respond, in most cases, they have little or nothing upstairs because their heart and their brain are in their mouth'

We all look but not all of us observe, some will look and observe.. Some of us if we are to close our eyes, cant completely describe what exactly the face of our wristwatches looks like despite that we check the time on countless time per day through same wristwatch, some of us cant describe the number of colours on our favourite dress.

Ability to pay attention to little little things and take our time to ponder efficiently and be constructive in our ways contribute to smartness.

Smartness no get language, a stack illiterate may be smarter than a professor. Degrees are awarded within the blocks of academia but smartness is not taught at any institution.

My humble contribution..

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him. We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over. What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

You will subconsciously abuse the man in the end. Go and write it down.

At first, you are trying to spy before rendering a favour that should have been willingly done without expecting return.

Secondly, you would go extra mile and causing all kinds of frustration for the guy to see you as a small god.

We have seen similar cases, they claim they dont need a man in their lives but they are not even capable of logical evaluation on decisions.

If it's a business that you would bring him and he wouldn't have to look at any other person nor move freely or be binded to your orders, spell it out and avoid potential issues that may ruin whatever you shared together in the past.

Let him know conditions surrounding your bringing him to Canada. If it's a give and take thing as business let both party understand.
If it is a favour, then you should zero your mind and do it without expecting returns. If on his own he wants to compliment the favour and remain loyal to you, so be it.

My humble piece.

virginprincess:
Well, she is actually through with school, right now she works with a bank in port-harcourt.

What are you saying?? She is through with school at what level? You mean she gained admission at 16 years, schooled for roughly 5 years and served 1 year and got a job immediately?

Something is fishy.

Meanwhile, there is nothing wrong with a lady staying alone. There are two sides to maturity. Mental and physical appearance. If you see her to be someone who can maturely handle all challenges of life struggle with great mental evaluation on decision making and above all, intra-personal relationship with people without running into problems that could put the entire family on their feet at all time. Then she's good to go.

But I look beyond physical appearance and financial means before concluding a lady to be in good standing to live alone.

NobleEngineer:
Hello sir, pls help me with an answer.
After an engine is ringed, what conditions will make the car smoke right the following morning.
My brother changed valve oil seals & piston rings of his 2000 Mazda 626 1.8L engine because it would smoke [blue smoke] heavily on startup in the morning or after parking for long, also smokes on heavy acceleration or climbing hills, so mecho finished the work yesterday, he brought home the car yesterday and this morning when he started the engine, thick whitish smoke evolved which cleared off within 1mins.
He called the mecho about it and was told the smoke was as a result of oil residues in the silencer, is he right?

Perfectly correct. The smoke was the deposit on the exhaust chamber which might take a few hours of driving to dry off

obedience4:
Sex is done by both parties. The man and the woman .
Is like saying if the wife Have Rights to have sex with her husband.
So to your question yes the man has right to have sex with his wife just as the woman has the right to have sex with her husband..
What we are auguring is when a man forces a woman.. Married or not and have sex with her without her CONSENT .. That's is rape.
Marrying a wife doesn't make you a lord over her body no law back's that..

And what is the position of the law on a woman who starve her husband of sex for over 7 months on account of getting back at him, with the man providing all the needs over her and the kids even supporting her business

hope4nigeria:
you better leave mumu gender, they will always cry fowl, if you don't fvk them, they will still cry fowl

What transpires in Marriage is beyond Judiciary knowledge. It's one side to you today and the other side tomorrow..

I was deprived of sex for over 7 months in marriage I was taking full financial responsibilities..

We feel too embarrassed to report issues as such. But our opposite gender feel very free to cry out on sex deprivations. And some gullible female agitator who are yet to experience marriage would come and start fletching muscles on things they cant sustain full understanding of.

Same person who starved me of sex for over 7 months was busy checking my phones and calling every strange number she sees on my phone and threatening innocent ladies.

Women are the most complicated species created by God. No wonder those doing well and making waves in various sectors dont have a close proximity with women in their lives..

I save my comments for matured readers.

Coinwarrior:
On this date August 6 2022.A day I can’t ever forget in my life about immatured nasty Attitude of my wife put up with me. I left my phone at the bedroom while i went to her shop to sell her goods to customers.on coming back inside the room I heard my phone beeping since and I quickly rushed to pick it up and I have seen about 6 missed calls of hers.As a matured man I dialed her number back and immediately she picked it up instead of asking me in a polite manner as a well cultured and manner wife .she responded arrogantly and disrespectfully to me her husband and I was totally disappointed and let down that a woman I was dieing for couldn’t appreciate my input but yet was about hurling insult at me and I responded I was inside your shop selling for you since and I expected that courtesy will tell you to atleast ask me in a warm and respectful manner where were you since.And I told her I am coming to pick you now as i said.Then i hurried into my car and drove straight to her shop and on getting to her shop .I met her shop closed and totally off her shop.I was totally disappointed and hugely disrespected.when I called her she said I cut off her call was the reason for the chidish and mannerless attitude she put up.I just drove back home and just decided to be looking at her cos I can see her disdain brainless attitude.I just left her to her detested mannerism.

My brother.. Your own better oh.
Hmmm.. If I open mouth for here, Nairaland go catch fire.

Nothing do you and your wife bro. Just let go and jokingly tell her, 'the next time you try me ehn, I go dump you go marry your mama' with your hands around her waist probably at her lightest mood.. she go laugh and you both let go.

Na peep some of us dey peep our wives like say we never see them before when the sickness starts.

All women are sick, just that the degree of the sickness varies.

MITCHELL96:
The way you guys are desperate to have sex ehn

If you want to have sex with a hooker which is very risky, Omo use condom to avoid stories that touch or don't even have at all. You guys should have self control for once and focus on developing yourself to reach greater heights.

A word is enough for a wise person.

If Elon Musk, Mark, Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet and co been reason sex like you, the world would have not been this developed.

Leave ashawo and focus on your goals, the ashawo is focusing on her goals, she's paid to have sex, and you, what do you achieve at the end of the meeting ?

Use your head very well aje.

It is easier said than done.
Most of hookees we de follow hookers, na women dey cause most of them..

I know quite a few married friends who their wives no dey give them sex for over a month.
Any small misunderstanding with your spouse, na for bed she go wait for you. Only say you and landlord get argument and you no insult am as she want, spouse go turn back at you for weeks not minding the cold weather.

No be as e dey do you e dey do the other person, sex to you na act and not more than an act between twoo opposite genders, but to some people, it is an emotional stability and sanity for them to focus and achieve more in their various areas of involvements.

Dont judge anyone because you are not in their shoes.. And the way you see it is completely different from how it is to them.

Na to de your de make others de their de na wetin make Dem call one place Deidei for Abuja.

I rest my case.

Nozino:
I read Engineering too. Giving advice on a subject matter that you have no idea on shows how stupid you’re. Your attempt to justify your cheap religious blackmail is laughable.

Save your advice for your children. They need it more.

I checked, you are a Corper seeking PPA as at November last year. HND older. You are still finding your feet in engineering career.

I started practising 2007. Trevi Foundation Trans Amadi, Port Harcourt.

If you dont stop this attitude, your chances of success in life will be very slim if not impossible.

To be successful in life, it is 60% attitude, 20% technical-know-how, 10% connection and 10% prayer.


Your attitude will work against you the day you least expected, and it will be too late for you.

Go and write it somewhere..

murphyfada:
I no think say investors still dey this ehailing business again. Everybody don turn to driver now. No one even one leave his car for rental again. Na wa o

Attitude of bolt and Ubber drivers discourage investors on daily basis. I witnessed how a bolt driver killed a child of 11year old due to reckless driving and inpatient. Many times I'd taken bolt ride within Abuja, to be honest with you most drivers are inexperience, when bolt cars had accident on that Lugbe airport road, its always a right off.

You can imagine a driver didn't know all signs a vehicle would bring or probably ignored them, he was comfortably seated in the AC with loud music till the engine knocked.

When the engine had knocked and the car went off, he started checking and discovered the engine oil was all dried long enough without him noticing it.

Cars give many signs before resulting to engine knock. A sane driver is expected to pay attention and understand some of those sound and change in temperature before the final damage.

Investors simply want to avoid Brekete family wahala..

francisbarrack:
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I'm presently not in Abuja but I can direct you to where the car is parked and make someone meet with you.

Realmi:
So wat should we do with this lies

It may even be true, but we seems to be driven by emotions when reading.. The OP didn't mention 'a plate of pepper soup'. It may be a paint bucket or so..

I once ordered a paint bucket of soup for a sick Aunt for 13k simply because she was alone and sick..

We simply need to be patient and read with opened mind..

Nozino:
Idiot. Did she ask for your help? If she needs a lawyer, she’d get one. She’s not one of those your dumb sisters.

Mumu that has google but open your maggot infested mouth to say cerebral palsy and autism are the same!!! Stupid people like you are trying to blackmail OP with religion on a subject matter you know nothing of. God punish you 10 times.

Jeez!!! I'm just seeing this.. You said all of that to me when my post has nothing to do with you?? Simply because I posted an opinion??

I'm surprised there are still children like you who constantly showcase a full blown failed parental upbringing.

Let me make it clear to you, I studied Engineering, the society would not crucify me for committing some blunder in medical field and I can be pardoned. But the entire World would curse your parents every time you openly display this mannerless attitude.

How can you freely open your mouth to say anything to people.. People whose exposure is enough to crush your entire miserable life.

You better learn to respect people so that your days can be long on Earth.

In case you dont know, I'm old enough to born you. Just accord me same respect you give to your failed parents that's if you sometimes respect them at all..

Take this from me, 'the day you would meet your helper, this your attitude would work against you and it will be too late for you..'

God forsaken child..

H0711:
Don't mind my title I wrote it out of frustration we didn't do any court wedding . We did trad and white wedding not need to file a divorce in court. My family will return the bride price that's it.

I understand. It's fine
But before you take any step, you would agree with me that divorce is the last option after every other options to resolve family issues has been exploited and failed. I think this is more than just you and him, have you involved family members, have you had a heart to heart discussion with him, giving him that confidence that you are both in this together?? By the time you engage him and a few credible family members, solutions would come.

I still believe you havent played your last card before considering divorce.

Let's try further and see what works.

H0711:
It seems like you don't even know what you are talking about because you can't even differentiate autism and celebral palsy , autism cannot even be compare to celebral palsy because a child with autism can move around , he or she can use the toilet on her own, feed herself ,dress, and play like any other children and the one with celebral palsy cannot do anything the body is paralysed so she need care 24/7. I can tell you have no idea about celebral palsy go and goole it to understand it better. If you think is easy and it is not different from autism like you stated please go to my house and help my husband look after her because he need to go to work. He will appreciate your help.

I'm so sorry oh. Please I withdraw my comments if it gets at you.

Apologies please.

Approach a court of competent jurisdiction and file for a divorce. I can link you up with a good lawyer.

H0711:
Thank you . Right now he can't afford that 200k monthly , his younger sister has refused to come and help taking care of the child. Me too I can't kill myself in my condition and I will leave next month.

It seems you have made up your mind, but you need no advise in that case.

The circumstance you just described seems like autisms to me, the child only need a good therapist and we have alot of them in Nigeria.

Moreso, the child can be sent to any of the Autism homes well managed by international NGOs at absolutely reduced rate.

I volunteered to take in an Autism child sometimes ago and bear the cost when the mother who happened to be a close family friend threatened to dump her off.

Do I tell you something? You are carrying a baby in your womb and no one have control what is conceived in there except God Almighty.

That girl could have been your daughter.

I dont see any problems

Sylove:
I started this relationship with my partner about four years ago even though I was warned by my mum not to,i refused cos she had a secret agenda and was divorced too.
This man was managing a business with his friend in the same shop and they were both going along well. Suddenly I came into the picture and jealousy started the friend now realised he had to get married first.
Then I was working at shop rite with my OND and my partner is a Bsc holder. He was serious about the relationship, I met the family and they were such nice people only that they are not wealthy. I felt even if he is not wealthy as far as I am working and he is too at least no p.
To cut the long story short belle enter,my mum took me to his house to go and stay with him saying it was more honourable until he is ready, he accepted and we started living togeda,he nice though, doesn't cheat but most be forced to achieve his goals, that's when I realized he was a hard core gambler who has lost millions in gambling(visual),he broke up with his friend some months after and now dependant on me.
Even though my salary was poor,i still managed to fend for both of us. Even until birth all was on me. I was patient because I knew that things will change one day. Months passed I took in again this time my job was no longer dere I took to the streets and kept on doing menial jobs like sweeping, cleaning till I gave birth even the one he accused me of cheating on him even when I was suffering washing people's mess all this while the both jobs he got he was fired for money wahala
I have begged him to stop this gambling of a thing and it keeps falling on deaf ears. I got a bank job and we were managing but now I can't take it any longer how can I have a man of 40 and still be taking care of him, school fees for kids,feeding and all,i having been the one searching for job every minute online for him but he would Neva do that, go around town and search for job. No.
OK he suddenly came up with an idea that he wants to learn work, on whose account? I mean are men this wicked even telling me that if I think I have had enough I can take my leave and leave his kids behind this was because I told him he didn't want to work and should look for one.
I am writing this because I am sick and tired of this, his mum, Bro and Sis are all complaining of him. Yes he played a part of taking care of the kids at home for a while but I will still come back to do homework and all the house chores and still do the nyt job.
I didnt want this kids to face what I faced when I was young but seems I have a make a decision real quick b4 this man ruins my life.
Jobless and owing debt everywhere and still wouldn't teach his kids. Please what should I do I know I have done a great mistake but at least a lady of 27yrs still have hope.
Please help

Well.. Na you go Oyo and na you go fit tell us how Oyo be for your body.

My questions are numerous and would decide what kind of advice goes well with your situation.

1. Apart from financial irresponsibility, what other attitude put you off about him??

2. Has he ever demonstrated act of violence in the course of frustration?

3. What exactly is your topmost priority growing up and moving on with life worth your dreams.

4. If this guy gets some help from whatever, do you see him loving his family so much than watch them lack or suffer

Just take your time and ponder on these points. Relationship shouldn't be a trauma. Your mental health really matters and should be protected to enable you focus on raising and providing for the kids.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Where is she now? Has she gotten shelter?

Going by the comments on this thread, it is sad to say there are no moral principles people are holding onto anymore. Men, you people can do better. Must you equate helping a human in need to having sex with the person? Has life become so transactional? What has happened to humanity? Is it long gone already?

I pray never to be at my lowest or be stranded and be faced with this option or I might just break down. I can't imagine this happening to me or someone I care about. It's so sad.

What she need is not shelter, shelter for what? Accommodating someone not doing anything at all is encouraging idleness and she won't even seek your consent before interacting with her online Lagos contact and hanging around Lagos streets.

In my own opinion, what she need is transport back home, and the last time I checked, most of those transport companies are owned and managed by her brothers.. So, she only need to approach the parks and narrate her problems, 1 out of 5 people would pick interest and assist her.

coputa:
Nigerian men always seek for sex in exchange for help and assistance

And how about Nigerian ladies who you simply sat next to on a 2 hours trip and had casual interaction and took your number on account of "you are such a funny guy". And 2 days later the next thing you see is a text message that goes this way.. "hi, I'm at a church for a program and I dont have anything on me, can you help with like 5k to enable me feed for the three days I will be staying for the program? Please dont say No."

It's not compulsory to seek help from Nigerian men since you already have the mentality that everything is for sex. Look around your parents and relatives. And if you still dont get the needed help around people you are confident with, just burry your faith and move on. Life no hard at all..

You complicate things and tag Nigerian men with all kinds of derogatory thoughts and continue crying foul.

If you want to sustain a great relationship, you owe it a right on your own end not to demand for things that could make the other party uncomfortable or make him drain his or herself in a bid to meet your demands irrespective of his status or financial capability.

Pete01:
Hello. Is this car still available?

Yes.

Kobojunkie:
1. But wait o, who send you go do wetin you dey tag "African husband" abeg?

I don't treat or send money to every tom, dick and relative of mine, so why would I do that for my spouse's family simply on grounds that I accept them as part of mine? Na craze I carry for head when I marry?

Abi na bribe you dey bribe your wife family so you fit claim say they are part of your family?

2. Interesting claim, however, if you look again, you will find that the major complaint OP, and many who have opined have, has to do with carrying it all on their heads, I.e. playing "African husband". What has western lifestyles got to do with complicating that?

Are you somehow insinuating that your African setting does not allow relatives to come stay for over a week or what?

3. I don't think the problem has anything to do with the African woman not having an understanding of african marriage and style. Instead you seem confused about it yourself.

Please go back, read and digest every point in my response. You dont even understand the write up at all..

Kobojunkie:
Stop marrying for yourselves wives of the average Nigerian woman then.

If you know that what you want to share bills in your marriage, it is foolishness on your part to marry for yourselves an average Nigerian woman whom you know won't do this with you.
Marriage is an agreement between a man and woman and if she does not agree to share bills with you then you are nothing but an eejit when you go on to marry her only to complain later that she refuses to do what she never agreed to in the first place.

Okay, you have a point, but look at it from this perspective, do you know that we sometimes send money to our wives parents, siblings and close relatives as responsible African husband without putting our wives in the know??.

I have done that times without number, I sponsored siblings entire fee and project, support even sibling's husband who had problems with his business..

Look as Africans we treat our wives family as our family. That is Africa for you.

There is no difference when I'm referring to my wife's parents and my parents. I use location to specify who among them..

There is no limit to what we do to our wives families as Africans, most of which were not in agreement before the marriage as well. where we get it complicated is adoption of western lifestyles into our various homes..

Isn't it embarrassing to find some women searching on google 'is it right to host family members in your home for more than a week' I ask, why would you even reason in that line in the first place?

There is so much around marriage and African style than our women understand..

ABANGWABOI:
Have no pity for Weaklings like you..
Got so annoyed reading how pathetic you are.. infact you are a Stoopid Vseless simp phool..
Don't quit that shame if a marriage.. stay put cos you don't want your children to be raised in a broken home..
I just pray say she kee you and start enjoying your wealth and fucvkin sma boys in your house..
Ozour.

Maturity is when you read or hear something that moved you so much and you dont allow your emotions derail your sanity.

How about dropping your comments without wading insults??

You can do better bro.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

My dear, marriage is to an extent a scam to men. We are shouldered with responsibilities way more than financial but we are treated with indirect abuse, mentally and psychologically to some extent.

Every contribution a woman bring into the family is discussed with either her aunt abroad, or her cousins, or even her close siblings in a bid to gain some accolades and glorifications.

I hear it from time to time in my house that how a woman spend her money is not a right for the husband to know but when they run into problems they want the same husband to stand by them..

Just do a little you can and protect your sanity with jealousy.. Most of them marry us to fulfil all righteousness, they truly are not comfortable being under anyone on account of marriage.

The saddest truth is that, majority of women, if you open up their mind, they wished they marry today and the man dies in few weeks and they have their entire freedom again without being under anyone..

If we look critically, average Nigerian women are so comfortable keeping secrets and privacy bound decisions with colleagues at work than their husbands at home.

How on earth would a 'sane woman' transact on property worth 10 to 18 million with only herself and a male colleague in the office as buyer and witness, all transaction without the knowledge of the husband.

They complicate their marriage and are so fast to jump in the street to wheep sentiments. 'I had police case with somebody and my husband couldn't even stand by me' after the issue has boomerang and she is about losing her secret investments..

My brother, just forget them and secure your sanity, concentrate more on the kids, take them out, play games and dont allow anything to cause you high BP. If the house becomes too unbearable, look for hotels around, sleep like a baby without anything to think of, I've slept in the car on few occasions when the house became so unbearable and I it was too late to drive out of the estate.

If you die today as they wish, they will take your kids to those small boys who had nothing to offer them, your kids would call another man daddy, she would cruise your car around cinemas with those 'chingum boyfriends'.

Average Nigerian women want to be in marriage and they expect the single life style they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo to continue..

Please take care of yourself.

Elections are not won on social media, Dey there de travel up and down, Nigerian politics is not like that of Chicago, he go dawn on you sooner than you imagine.

Money wey 16 years Abdulrahman dey take hang out for weekend in just a day..

Daddy Abduleahman: Sulaiman!
Sulaiman: Sir!!!
How much is your withdrawal limit
Sulaiman: 200,000 sir,
Daddy Abdulrahman: Call your account number.
Sulaiman: 0032677..
Daddy Abdulrahman: I just transferred 200k to u.
Sulaiman: It just enter now sir.
Daddy Abdulrahman: Withdraw it and give to Abdulrahman, he said he wants to take his friend out.


You are assigning such a stressful task to people and you called it giveaway..

I laugh in Spanish way.. Please be conversant with your dictionary and stop taking advantage of helpless Nigerians..

To make things worse, he even snap himself with money.. Jeez!! Empty vessels wey dey make noise.

Allah keahi

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Sentence him to death by hanging tho..look what a so called man is busy doing..
I mean this thing here deserve to be in jail now..just like his counterparts here whose job is to hate women.. sometime you wonder if these things got mommas at home tho..

The Dumbos here are busy in the romance section attacking women and creating mindless threads just to bash and talk about women's body all day..they will never address the issue on ground which is "men's wild attitude towards women.." look how they might attack me for calling their nonsense out..
Just if the Nigeria government can deal with this monster thoroughly..

No wonder chidinma said she defended herself from that devourer...

Why are you crying more than the bereaved?? I understand you must be a victim at some point or the other in the course of growing up as a female specie, but not enough to generalise and convict all men to be rapist.

Come to think of it, the story that is giving you orgasm doesn't even have a source, you might be dancing to a mirage without knowing..

If you must know, I was sexually molested as a male child at the age of 10, by my private lesson teacher employed to put me through studies by my parents. I ran out of breathe and passed out in the course of her exploring my lips and tongue on a deep lasting kiss.

She is happily married and settled in Calgary today, I believe she would at some point think of protecting her children against all forms of abuse and molestation as a parent too..

So, these thing is not gender based. It boils down to attitude as individual..

Please stop tagging every man a rapist. And this your 'talk down male gender' war won't help you, rather you will end up tormenting yourself and knocking your mind off its peace.

Be guided please!