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AdeniyiA: heheheheh..... Sweetlemon, lets set up a marriage counselling outfit ASAP!
na biz proposal b dis o, no joke wt am o.
walahi i dey gbadun u ,i cud see you've gathered a lot of experience in the game

bestestgirl:

McWhillion: Intelligent girls.
Intelligent girls are most times gentle anyway.

aflyingbird: op, good post. one of d reasons my ex cheated on me was cuz i didn't want to have pre-marital sex. his other reason... he didn't like my quiet personality. he confessed all these himself. i told him my beliefs right from when we started dating n told he he didn't hv to stay with me if he was looking for a relationship with sex n said he was cool with it n would wait till marriage. i told him i'm a quiet person too. instead of him to break up with me n let me go jeje, he chose to cheat continuously for a year. he was a good actor cuz i had nooo idea. there i was thinking he was sooo patient, sweet, faithtful n honest when he was far from those things. the only reason he decided to confess after a year was cuz he wanted me n him to get back 2gether n he wanted 2 ask for my forgiveness first. told him i forgave him but no way was i getting back together with him. i was sooo hurt because i trusted him n never believed he would ever do that 2 me. some of the other guys who've approached me all seem to be Hot idiaaats too. i make sure i tell them from the start so dey can waka pass if they can't handle it. they change after i tell dem, aka call me less n less. i eventually stop picking their calls once i realize they were only after 1 thing to begin with, idiaaaats.



i concur. too many thirsty-ass men out dere. it doesn't matter who u are, a man who wants to cheat will cheat

salt1: Please let me help correct this impression. Adults do what they choose to do. It is unhealthy for you to feel that you are responsible for your ex's decision to cheat on you: every adult decides what he wants to do with his life.
You know why he wants to come back to you? Because he has realized that you are a gem. You have principles. You have strength of character! The girls who will follow Sweetlemon's advice are there: 2 for N20! But a principled and beautiful young woman is rare to find.
Please stick to what you believe in and at the right time, the person who shares your value system will come into your life and it will all be worth it

salt1: Sweetlemon, can you buy those readers for me? Oh No, you shouldn't because I am a block head who needs deliverance and may not even understand what I am reading if you bought me the collection. Thanks so much and God bless you.
Now back to your IMMORAL post. I may be very daft, but this is what I understand from your post
1. You are above 30, desperately single, desperately seeking and desperately willing to mingle
2. You are answering back those who have been telling you that if you had closed your legs a little and lowered your skirts, you would have landed yourself a husband
And your answer is basically this: from my experience with all the men who didn't think I was a marriage material, I have learnt that the man who will love to marry you will marry you! It doesn't matter if you have slept with 5 or 50 men, if you have HIV/STDS, if you have the reputation of a slut, if you have committed multiple abortions etc. In fact, the "badder" you are as a girl, the better your chances of landing yourself a "good" husband! After all, Kim Kardasian etc all married "good" husbands! Why didn't you add Maheeda? Is she not a role model and didn't she get a rich husband? I mean, wouldn't your brother have been proud bringing her home to introduce to your Mom as her future DIL?
The entire post, which ridicules decent girls who are keeping themselves chaste, and promotes immorality, is seen as a fact! I can only smh at you and the promiscuous men who liked your post. Continue to promote immorality! Continue to laugh at purity! That one million flies eat shit doesn't mean that shit should be eaten.
I wish you luck
I stand for decency! And purity! And yes I am married and I have very meaningful and fulfilling relationship with my spouse.

phew09: good gals marry bad boys, bad girls marry good girls blah blahblah....

peopl kiss on first date and marry, some wait for 6 six months and dont end up marryng....blahhhh

lots of bllaaaaaahs everywhere.

its really not about marriage but having a good home. anybody can get married anytime but how many really have successful homes.

the last time i checked 99% of ladies out there follow your theory(its not a new thing you know)
its hasnt made the soceity any better. rather we keep rearing men that think through their d.i.c.k. The ones that lack self control. That even life its all about intimacy.
the number of divorcees increase by the day. lots of unhappy couples. those men you live all your life to please even to the extent of calling ya mum a liar even the ones hailing your thread still cheat on you when you marry them.

what people dont understand though is that the decision to remain a virgin or go celibate has nothing to do with pleasing your husband. its really about pleasing God, its a convenant between the person(guy or gal) and God. having a good home is something the couples would have to work on.

MadCow1: Kids Go outside and play?!


What happened to their X-Box One and Playstation 4 or their PSP Go and Nintendo DS?



Playing outside is outdated yo!

When last did you see a kite in the skies?

naijababe: @ Sweetlemon, please now auntie! You are coming down like a ton of bricks on the young 'uns

Akshow: U are seriously in need of this free education. No full stop, no comma, no sense in the raaaawbish u wrote above.

zeongeon: The TRUTH is that some men off this era are screwing up big time..they depend on women, lazy about and the disgusting path is that there so laid back being gold diggers and looking up to women..that's why you see them making request for sugar mummy, insisting a gal must be working or must be from a rich home...I think I am begining to believe what my shihan(martial arts master) told me, that many real men that where suppose to pass down manly values to younger men who would in turn pass it to d coming generation of men died during the second world war.

A man shouldn't give up on his responsibility because of the so called gender equalility..A man should stick to his God giving role as Leader, Provider and Protector even the body physique of men even tells there created for the Leadership, Provider and Protector role..

God didn't call on Eve when there was a problem He called on Adam.WHY?? For even God saw man as a Leader who is to protect, provide and Lead..God expects men to be who the women and children of the society look up too.

You really wonder why our fore fathers and men of the past where respected , worshipped and even women where happy to be third and fifth wives..its because the Men then where seen as leaders, they where able to protect and provide for there families and the women and children looked up to HIM.

A man isn't a man because he has a big dick and a man doesn't have to go about announcing his a man like some men off these days do rather His actions speaks for him that he is a MAN.

I would want to advice men to forget about gender equality rubbish and function in there God given specified role..God made us Men and no matter what a woman does in the name of gender equality she can't alter and isn't suppose to even alter the roles of a man and hence a woman can't be a Man and a Man can't be a woman and Vice versa.

A real Man regardless of what equality says will strive to fulfill his role as man by Leading his family, providing for his wife even if she is a CEO or Manager or earns more than he does He should still be giving her monthly personal and home upkeep allowance, he should be able to protect her and also put her in her place if d need arises example caution her or scold her if there is need for it.

Its sad but true u don't expect a woman to respect u and make the kids look up to u if u don't fulfill LPP: Leadership, Protection and Provision.

Some Men are using equality to excuse there laziness and that shouldn't be d case for a society where Men aren't fulfilling there role is set for doom and damnation.

Leadership+Provision+Protection= MAN.

ihedinobi2: How is she encouraging women to be lazy and clingy? How do you know that Omotola respects her husband or even really brings in more than he does? Do you live with them? Do they share their financial records with you? Does your wife earn more than you and still respect you?

Let's be careful with assumptions, shall we?

victorazy: Bros! Wetin u mean?
"As a man" meaning ur a male, i"I wish my late" meaning ur dear or luv one, "every mention of HIS name" meaning ur luv na man too. My question is; na man to man u be wan marry abi na ur father u dey mean. Plz find and fix the missing word before we charge u to court for guysm. Thanks

carefreewannabe: This is what the OP said:

"if she's the bread winner, please don't expect total respect all the time."

It is a shame to make such a statement.



First of all, we do not live in the Stone Age where men were suppossed to hunt because of their physical strength. We live in the modern world where cognitive abilities become more and more important and the last time I checked women were in no way naturally retarded, which qualifies them to make money too.

But even in the Stone Age women went out and brought food home. They gathered food and cultivated the land.



Like I said, we do not live in the Stone Age. Nobody has to do the hunting. And I don't see any reason why women should not work as nurses, doctors, teachers, pilots, tailors, politicians, .................................... . I love my job and I find it more exciting than cleaning the toilet at home. I do not think I was born to stay at home all my life.



Instead of being jealous of superwomen, do something useful with your life instead of blaming men who refuse to pay for your hair and phone.
Everyone can cook and clean, what else can you do?

ihedinobi2: If anything at all is objective, then we cannot consign all alternative lifestyles to a question of preference. If one lifestyle is right, its opposite will necessarily be wrong or else there is no need talking about right or wrong.

Now you read "women are a liability" into the OP's statement, but I didn't. I do not consider my wife a liability for depending on me to provide for her. I would consider her a liability if what I bring home is wasted on consumptive living and foolish expenditure. You see? That means that I consider the OP right where you consider her wrong. But if I tell you you're wrong, you will take exception to it and tell me to mind my own business. But then you will have to withhold your own opinion that she is wrong because you can't contradict yourself.

Again, what right would you have to say what is DEFINITELY wrong and what isn't? I consider any man who does not provide for his home irresponsible. Am I wrong because I'm the one saying so and not you? Whose sense is the common one by which we must judge? How can you tell that this is an objective question?

I don't think that being a drug dealer or even a murderer is something that should ever be respected but providing for one's family however one has to do it is a thing worthy of respect. But then why would this be an opinion worthy of acceptance or rejection by any or everybody? How do you know when we are no longer in the realms of subjectivity? What is objective and what is subjective? What is common sense, that is, sense that everyone possesses?

carefreewannabe: So you agree that a man does not deserve complete respect if he earns less than his wife?

CFCfan: "Objective ko, theory ni"

CFCfan:
Your not totally accurate. I certainly don't blindly support every politician.

CFCfan: Nah, I can never call a 'toad' a queen
In the politics section, I only try to be objective.

shymexx: Lmao...I've seen the best of the best out here in the UK. Trust me, they can't even compete Mugabe's Zimbabwe.

And don't tell me the ones in naija are better looking because I was in Lagos last Dec/Jan, and facially, the ones in naij can't compete with the ones out here. Yes, there are tons of chics with ridiculous bodies in naij...however, most of them don't have good skin and they dress like clowns.

Or are you going to pull out naij chics in America, Somalia, or Ghana?

CFCfan: 1000 likes
They are indeed beautifully created and sexily endowed

shymexx: You sound jealous.

I think this is the best bunch I've seen since I joined nl in 2012.

And naija chics aren't really all that. Yes, once in a while, you see extremely pretty ones. But on the average, these girls represent what the average Nigerian chic looks like.

If anything, just celebrate Iheoma and Miss Katsina...those two chics are extremely beautiful.