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Are these shoes of your pure leather n do have for females? my size is 43.

@ poster

its not a common scenario with naija men but can be depending on the kind of guy you are dealing with. Throw more light into his personality, his background (you met his family) and we can tell for sure what he is capable of doing.

If he is from the east of nigeria, from a respectable home, then believe the other lady has moved on. he will also concentrate on you and the family he is building with you but also resolve it in your mind that there is a child out there.

if he is from th south-south then dont break your head, that love child will not mean much to his loving you. he will ocassionally see to his/her needs.

Who got the man got the upper hand. if you drop out now then what happens to the children he adores. Also know and be ready to make it back to nigeria with him in the future.

What is your take on a mother-in-law that promised her sons she will be a good mother-in-law to their wifes if they (wifes) agree? to me it takes two to tangle. many intending daughters-in-law are already planning to out do the old woman. many spinsters have not seen or know the old woman but are strategizing to kill her.

I wonder why pple esp ladies are not posting replies to this good piece!

@ Alloy

you can sy that to the buzards, there is much to this than the eye can see. she definitely need some alimony but she shld know that nigerian divorce proceedings are still in infant stage. culture plays to the guy most time.

@ poster


why border yourself with what she did in her past, well its your legacy, if you don't want to continue on it then break it, my 2 penny.

@ poster

send ur email addrs to switosman@hotmail.com and I will send u a free e-book on how to handle such hyperactive kids. ciao.

why u no tell her to enjoy herself.

thats what she went out for. next time she gives you that story tell her "ENJOY".

What is happening in the east?


I was traveling from Aba in Abia state back to PortHarcourt where I reside after a marriage introduction ceremony of my youngest sister Nene in my family house in Aba. I left the house at about 4pm that day 15/5/2010 with my small uncle Anayo and a cousin Maureen. Maureen dropped somewhere in Aba while I proceeded to Portharcourt with Anayo. We had barely traveled 11km when we met what appeared to be a routine Police check point at Ihie. Normally we were flagged down for routine check at about 5pm or even later. I was asked for my driving license which I produced, I was asked to come down and open my boot and it was at this point that I was told to enter a waiting Kia saloon car facing right and at right angle to the main express road. Other vehicles were stopped simultaneously for stop and search. An SUV that refused to stop was sprayed with bullets with apparent missing of targets and within about 5minutes the operation was over. About 2 vehicles carried the victims, a Kia saloon and a Pathfinder SUV. Some of us were loaded in the booths. After 5minutes drive into the village we were all blind folded and now driven through untarred bush roads to an isolated location which was a transit point. It took about extra 5minutes to get there. You know things were happening fast and it was so easy to lose tract of time. At this temporary site, we were thoroughly beaten with the butts and barrels of the gun. I never knew pains could be felt in quick succession after trauma to a particular point. When I was hit at the back with the AK47 assault riffle, I felt the first superficial pain and this was followed immediately by another crushing pain much deeper. We were about 15 people, men, women and children. After about 4hours, the women and children were driven back to the road to find their ways home. We the men, about 9 in number now waited for the next 1.5hours to be taken to their so-called police cell were they kept captives. In the transit camp where we were kept, there is one small house inhabited by a woman and some 2 or 3 children. The woman had normal conversations with our captors and her small baby was always crying. We left the temporary area in the same 2 vehicles and by 10minutes we were in the cell. The place was surrounded by bushes and harbored a roofed but un-completed block house with doors. A standby generator was on and I had lifted the scarf over my eyes a little long before we left the transit location. We were bundled into a dark room wit one window and with 8 captives inside already. The mode of capture of these previous 8 was targeted and not as random as ours. Example the councilor was visited by them as a Police team in a Police vehicle and informed that he was wanted in the police station in connection with certain matters. He followed them willingly. We could only sit or lie down with our eyes covered. We were 17 in number in my cell. These include 3 Royal highnesses (The Eze of Isuochi, The Eze of Omuma, and another very important Eze that I couldn’t quite identify well because he was taken away shortly for ‘special treatment’ and remained there after I left), the councilor representing a constituency in Omuma (hypertensive and diabetic), a retired NNPC manger (diabetic), a retired CBN supervisor, a PTI lecturer/pastor, 2 yahoo fraudsters, drivers, a tailor, and some others. Our cell phones, money and every other belonging were taken from us apart from our clothing. Food is never given to the captives and water is dispensed at extreme discretion of the captors and by my calculation this amounted to 500mls alternate daily. At a point the councilor drank my water as I moved a little out of my position to urinate. As it was close to midnight, the captors encouraged us to pray and came in periodically to check on us. I must tell you that we all prayed as never before till morning. We also continued to pray like that every day. For me it was as true as daylight. The next day was a Sunday and at about 9am, the captor in-charge of making contacts for the captives came into our cell enquiring for people needing to contact their people for early release. It followed the sequence from interrogation about yourself and work to brutality and torture, bargain for release and possible mortal injury following failure to reach an amicable settlement. One of the captive’s phone lines was always used for these contacts. The man in charge of the contact making is called a name. I figure he is the 3rd in command in the camp. He comes with aides who brutalize the captives mercilessly on failure to agree to a stated bill which runs into millions of naira. My initial bill was N10million even though it came down to N2m later. I was now asked to talk to my people. I talked to my people and returned the phone to the captors for negotiation with my people. The first bidding amount from my people was N100,000 which earned me the beating of my life in the hands his aides. I was hit with the gun repeatedly and while pointed close to my neck with the gun corked and uncorked severally and with several simultaneous kicks on the head and body, I was asked to talk to my people. The beating was temporarily halted when impressed it on my people of the need again to be ‘reasonable’ amidst my cry of pains. I was one of the youngest captive. One can now imagine the impact of the brutality on an elderly man and the sick people. On that Sunday the councilor was beaten blue and black on failure to accept the N10million request fast. This was a frail looking man with 10 children, a wife and with the whole extended family as dependants. He collapsed with repeated hits on the head, ribs, hands and every other parts of the body with the butt, barrel of the gun and woods measuring 2inch x 2inch in thickness. He was literally left helpless on the floor. He constantly bemoaned his fate and wished to die in his house where his corpse will at-least be seen and given a burial unlike the camp here where our captors will bury him. He recovered a little by Monday but that never gave him any reprieve as he continued to receive thorough beating like the rest of us. Many of us all cried like babies. The councilor got his people to sell his new car, his lands, and several other belongings and all amounted to the sum of N450,000. He also sought to collect the month’s contribution among 10 of his colleagues amounting to N500,000 which never materialized by the time I left them. My brother it was pathetic for the diabetic and the hypertensive. It is noteworthy that age was no barrier to the brutality because we had 2 people who were above 70years of age, the Eze of Omuma and the Eze of Isuochi. The first received thorough but a moderated level brutality which increased sequentially with each daily failure to meet the captors’ demand while the second, though brutalized, had some significant consideration because he is 74years. His wife had to walk virtually the whole streets begging for money and he also had to sell lands. The rest received the same level of brutality and torture which increased with every passing day. I tried to get close to the retired NNPC man who is also a pastor because I felt he never understood the psychology of this group that prefer to call themselves Abia State Militants. He never agreed to any fixed amount and I felt he mistook the initial moderation of the brutality on him as a spiritual effect. He is a retired man and probably over 60yrs of age. However, he was soon to understand that his judgment was wrong. The mercilessness of the boys was un-paralleled because by the time I was leaving the camp on Tuesday night there was a special torture session carried out simultaneously by over 20 of the militants which I myself may have found difficult to recover from despite my good physical fitness. The captors had claimed that a cell phone had been stolen in the camp and all the captives that refused to bargain ‘properly’ were responsible. The captors appear not to have much interest on what they regard as poor fools like drivers, gaunt looking people, mechanics, tailors etc. Even though the ‘poor fools’ sometimes pay all their savings to the captors, they tend to receive good considerations in terms of length of stay only. I left the camp after the direct negotiation between my people and my captors went through. We left the camp at about 10pm on Tuesday. Those released that night were the Professor (Eze of Isuochi), one pastor, one driver and my humble self. Three of us were bundled into the booth of a Nissan Pathfinder SUV while Prof was given the privilege of sitting down comfortably inside the car. As we left the camp, one or two small boys were moving about close by and our captors questioned the supposed strangers in a loud voice asking “who be that” and the small boys (I say small boys from their voice on reply) answered “I beg na indigenes”. The Eze of Omuma was released a day earlier after paying the sum of one million two hundred thousand naira. After about 5minutes into our journey to freedom, the SUV stopped suddenly and refused to start again. After a few futile attempts to start the car, the four armed captors disembarked and called the camp for another vehicle. They identified their position as opposite the Nigerian Police Station. In less than 4minutes a new Toyota corolla arrived for us to continue our journey. I was asked to enter the booth with the pastor/PTI lecturer. They discharged us at Ihie junction and gave us transport money. We all walked bare footed because even our shoes were collected. I received N500.00. They also informed me that my vehicle was at the Police station. The Prof and the released driver proceeded to Portharcourt while I proceeded to Aba with the pastor. I arrived my family house at Aba at about 12:09am on Wednesday to the jubilation of my parents and every other person in the house and on the street. I am grateful to my relatives who contributed immensely for my release. They include my parents, my wife, my brother, my sisters, my cousin, my uncles abroad, my in-laws, my mother’s uncle, my aunt, the pastors who prayed continually, my local church, my genuine friends who acted promptly and several well wishers.
I did not involve the police and it was the best decision. The location of the camp is not hidden. The subdued villagers know them and also know all their locations. Again the terrain of the area consisting of thick bushes, well spaced houses and the bad nature of the road all combine to favor the use of those locations by the militants. The militants tend to wear military uniforms in the camp and police uniforms with police bullet proof vest outside the camp for their normal operations. They carry AK47 assault riffles and perform drills each morning in the bush around the cell building- the so-called camp. All the boys spoke the local dialect- asa/ngwa version of igbo language. The chairman/leader of the group who authorized each release has facial tribal marks, speaks same dialect. It may not surprise me if he is a northerner and security personnel. It is impossible that the security agents do not know their position. The joy of release subdued all the pains. I also forgot I had not eaten for 4days. I proceeded to Ihie Police station to collect my car as I was informed by my captors as my car was too old for an operational vehicle. I saw the vehicle at local police station at Ihie. I fulfilled their formalities, made statements and informed them of the release of Prof. In doing these I guarded my utterances because you never know who the insiders were. I also spoke with the DPO of the station. I also met some special police units who came on routine patrol to the police station and narrated my ordeal to them. On this visit to retrieve my car I also observed that the security agents concentrated their presence on the express road leaving the entire village empty. My brother even the people you are supposed to report to are scared and appear helpless. You also cannot rule out their support from politicians because of several boasts of installing candidates come 2011. Information flow freely in the camp there; it is unimaginable how the information comes without government/security insiders. It also appeared they were planning relocation soon based on the insiders’ requests; possibly because of impending raid by government forces. They claim to pay some insiders-the normal Nigerian settlement.
It is pathetic the level Abia state has degenerated to. It is a level just slightly above those of animals and the bottom line is greed, corruption, power drunkenness. I understand Imo-state is following closely.
I became ill on Thursday- the cumulative effects of the ordeal. My heart goes out to the innocent men still in captivity. I wonder if they will make it alive. They include the retired NNPC manger/pastor in Winners chapel (Yoruba), retired CBN supervisor (igbo), the councilor (Omuma), The Eze who I could not identify well.
What if these kidnappers were ritualists; what would have been our fate; it is all greed, corruption, power drunkenness. Until there is good and committed leadership everything will continue to go downhill.


Dr Ohaka, MD.

sholasho:
@switosman,
Do not have any pictures of this. I hope you should understand this are cars we are going to buy from cotonou so the issue of picture is showing you what you dont know but you know what you want.
Sir, to be Candid with you 1.2m wont do it. But if you can raise the budget a bit. Ring my number lets deal
07062169134

can u reach me on switosman@hotmail.com, meanwhile I am outside netwrk region but i will make effort to talk with you soon.

hi tadeus

give me your price for toyota 2005 hiace bus with AC, desiel & petrol engine. mail me with[b] switosman@hotmail.com[/b]

@sholasho
@switosman,
2004, 2005, 2006 Just few difference in price and you are likely to find the price for 2006 at 2004.
Thats cotonou market.
For a very Clean 2004, 5, 6 18 seater bus. have Budget of 1.5- 1.6m with your Full Papers complete.
I have stated VERY clean thats why the price may go high.

Regards

I still remain best reached on 07062169134

do you v pictures for these models? cos I am looking at a budget of 1.2mil, landing at lagos with full papers.

Abbot where are you?

Youths should save, find a policy words to motivate you to save. I learnt saving from my mum and it has helped me to date.
During NYSC, i was paid 7.5K, 5k (pri assgm) & 2k home teaching making total 14.5k; men I saved part of the money, bought a table top fridge, furnished my corper room & after service i had 50k in my account which I plan to invest into a business. unfortunately, the business could not work out. getting down to portharcourt in search of job; at ist, no job till 2005 ie from 2003. so so hussling still I saved money from handout from my cousin, change from errands, house painting etc. then in feb,2005 I got a teaching job paying 15k/mnt & I was leaving with a cousin. saving continues; I had 80k by the time I left teaching in nov,2005. infact I plan to rent a room with it but my 2nd job that paid 45k/mnt took me out of town. to cut the long story, I had 1mill in my account at a time.
but the over 1 mill investment i made in stocks went down drastically but i still have my stocks duo they dont wort the same again, at least I do get the dividends.
during 2009 my take home pay increased to 140k/mnt & i saved another 1mill which I used to get a proffnal cert. 7 paid for a 2bedroom flat in portH. now I working toward another 1 mill for my marriage plans, I plan to invest into something to achieve multiple strings of income because with family comes more expense account.

what is my principle in saving money. it changed from saving for rainny day to saving to invest. then there is this parkinson law:"it states that expense grows to meet income". if you want to have money always then break the law. let the rate of amount that goes in be far more than that that goes out, this gives you a reserve. ie it means you have to cut your expense account.

[quote author=dan_dollar link=topic=292582.msg6079384#msg6079384 date=1274571619]please, how much can i get the following
2004,2005,2006 18 seater toyota hiace bus with low milage from kotonu[/quote]Sholsho pls i am intrested in the answer you will give this particular post. waiting for the answer.

all these woos and somebody has not started thinking out of the box. Imagine there are so many class action looking them in the face and young brains cannot pick it up. what is land case to class action.

i told my fiancee who works as a legal secretary in a large chamber to go study law. my target if she can coperate, is class action on nigerian weak labor law. SEE MONEY WEY BIG COMPANIES FOR DON PAY TIRE.

@ poster

I had something a little similar to yours. As soon as I made up my mind to marry my girl, i proposed then without telling her got a 2 bedroom flat. on the wedding plan, her taste was high into the sky but i stood my ground and told her what my budget was broken down to timetable. when she did agree, I told her she does not have that choice, i only informed her for her to coperate.

marriage is more inportant to me than wedding, maybe she is planning for the wedding and not for the marriage. you are the man here. the money comes from you, let her make input but take what is in line with your budget or rather mandate her to think and work within a certain budget.

Women are the same everywhere, with a few of them considerate to an extent. imagine uju's line of thought, thats how they are cut to be, just understand them and you can handle them. the line of thought for a few of them, is wack.

if u agree for 1.2m I will contact you for an inspection and test drive asap.

hello Tadeus,

how much can i get toyota matrix 2004 from cotonuo landing porharcourt. ie with custom clearance. I am a good nigerian. answer is needed asap. thanks

adexfem
if 2010 car attracts 1m clearing fee i wonder what a 2004 toyota matrix will cost plus ur charge. email me with switosman@hotmail.com

hello Inspired

I like what I read of your post. pls can you afford me with a detail rundown/ process with amount involve to order a car from USA. I see a lot of car in ebay, yahoo autos n cars.com that I like. pls if you dont mind email me with SWITOSMAN@HOTMAIL.COM. thanks I waiting

hello femi
how much is this car?

I give u 850k on this car. if yes reply on switosman@hotmail.com so that we can schedule a test drive.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=437424.msg5984935#msg5984935 date=1272761579]it is not just nigerians that do it, evey single tribe or race do the same thing by default, it is called self preservation. humans like every other animal by default try to protect their kind and their origins, whites in the usa prefer marrying whites, that dont automatically make them racist, blacks prefer blacks, indians prefer indians and so on. when u marry outside your tribe, conflicts may arise depending on the maturity of the parents involved. i happen to come from a tribe where most ppl have mixed blood. most of my extended family have one or more igbo person in their linage; more so, i have an uncle married to a ghanian for decades, another uncle married to a canadian, another married to a dutch, lots of my cousins married to different nationals, alot of my aunts married yorubas, tons married igbos, i am an uncle to 2 white kids. almost all of us had at least one white person on our family tree, my cousin in florida has at least 3 white ppl in her linage and they did well in their marriages. inspite of all these mixes in my tribe, the default still remains the preference of marrying within the tribe even in the 21st century! its all about self preservation but ppl are more open these days [/quote]I agree with na2day but in addition many nigerians in diaspora plan to return home in the future. getting married to a lady close to/from home makes it easy and there will be no objection to the plan.

@kenya
I am one person that had gotten healed miracalously. not once not twice but several. the way u have been sounding on this tread, if indeed you are healed, then the only sound from your mouth will be praise and not arguement. all my miracle healings were by word of knowledge. no one laid hands on me, some minister spoke and there was no charade as some ministers are doing today.
I give praise to God today n always. Thanks God.
Today when there is a charade in christaindom, i get scared. it always means something is going wrong. it because "if the spirit do not move we move the spirit". exhibitionism becomes the case. true miracle is not advertised, the testimonies spread from mouth to mouth.

once it gets to advertisment, it become manupulative, holywood tricks come into play.
that is my piece, peace be to you all.

tolutara:
Since I am married, I can only give my opinion based on that perspective:

I am certainly not tolerant to being cheated on and reactions will  most likely be as follows:

1. Stunned that the absolute man of dreams, flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone would do this , Disbelief

2. Upset that he will find another woman so disireable not only in his mind but to actually carry out the action of sleeping with them, Hurt

3. Wondering what was my contribution to his actions (i.e cheating) , Confused

4. The fact that he will disrespect me in this way, Anger

5. Get my self tested  for STDs, being realistic.

Once all of the above is over, I will have him take a break for a few days to both clear our heads (i.e not being in the same house) and it doesn't matter who leaves. I will have him meet me somewhere neutral for a discussion.  Would like to know what happened, what led to this behavior, what was he missing at home and without being accusatory , what did i do to contribute to it, How long has the affair been going on, was it a one night stand or a full blown affair. Depending on his answers, we will take it from there, But I do believe in working on my marriage unless he wants out.

this the only reasonable contribution in this tread, pple just talk n the forget talk is only talk pray that such don't come your way

Let me give this tread another twist:
Most times the lady is the one driving her husband into the hands of another woman. some even as single ladies has sown seed  n now they are reaping what they have sown, its all cries,

Another side to all these pple can't see is,

In every twelve there must be a judas. twelve bad disciples, there is one good; twelve good disciples then a bad one lucks somewhere. Dora, yes has been there with the whole lot in the FEC. but when her time came she struck. accept it, its real. judas was the reason we have salvation today. she is the reason jonathan n the progress we register today is taking place.

[quote author=SLIM D.O DOUBLE GEE link=topic=422001.msg5798160#msg5798160 date=1269970733]Mrs. Akunyili went ahead to explain how she had organised prayer and fasting for Mr. Yar'Adua when he fell ill initially.
, prayer warrior indeed, did she also collect offering money n maybe tithes.Believe me, dat would be the main reason 4 organising such political service.
whatever!!!!!! i hope she would be cleared kuz i lyke her guts[/quote]you see your dirty life, dont learn to apprecaite good when you see it, keep criticizing with your dirty mouth n fingers. fool.

I can understand what pips are saying on this thread, what will be the opinions on the following story;

I was slapped by a girl twice in the past, both times its during an argument and the slap landed when I couldn't catch her hand. the 2nd time she did that I just warned her not to try that again and if she has that habit with her lovers, she will get it hot from me next time. behold, one time again I cant remember the exact scene but this time i got hold of her hand and almost broke it off her wrist. well she cried out and complained for days of pains, and everybody blamed her.

Well its not in my habit to touch ladies but any day I meet a tigress with no manners I will show her the other side of the coin, maybe she was not tutored well during her growing up days. I will tell her that though I am a gentleman but when pikin wan show crazy i go craze follow am.


concerning the case at hand, both the guy and the girl are wrong. the case of faakey, that particular baby lacks control until you show her you are a man, that why she wants to date you at all cost. BUT THERE ARE BETTER WAYS TO CONTROL A LADY AND SHE WILL BE EATING FROM YOUR HANDS. PLAY HER PSYCHOLOGY KNOW WHEN TO PATRONIZE HER AND WHEN NOT TO.

an adage says "from buying snuff we ended up roaming the whole market".

erosion does not occur at a sudden, its little by little water dey chop the soil dey go. okafor theory still holds

debo wants to warm his way back n kemi should take care unless what she has with mike is not worth it,

all the girls instead of attacking the poster, make una go swear affidavit declear within the required age. na so some job seekers dey do.