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Hey my experience might help u.

well mine is not my secretary but a new cleaner my company just employed, the other day she was cleaning, all bent over and somehow my eye went over where she was and I saw what is too unholy to write down. I asked her why will she dress to work in low waist skirt knowing she must bend down to do her duty?
i adviced her to dress properly or I will recommend the company to issue them with cleaners uniform or coverall.

You have to speak your mind but wisely presented. I always ask ladies, why adjust your cloths in my presence when you know its short and will always need to be adjusted?

I need a product dehumidifier.

what size do you have available, call any of the following line:


08035512391
08035897725

You want her to go back to school?
Simple! make her love you so much then threaten to quit the relationship unless she goes to school.

I tried this and it worked. my wife is in her 3rd year part time studies and she is loving every bit of it. I try to make available her school fees.

if you let her be, then be ready to get embarrassed at any opportunity you find urself in public with her.

baba4u93, pls I have these problems with my EOD 03;
- as I accel from rest I notice vibrations. at ist I changed driver side shaft, it went away, now its back, do mI change the right shaft?

- whenever i put on my AC,i notice a kind of drag, the car behaves like its on load?

what cld be the problem?

Mr banji, how far, pls can I ask you?

Can I be able to get any of  the following cars at the wharf. direct from importers

Mistibushi space wagon.
Toyota picnic
toyota carina e wagon.

all manual transmission with functional AC.
thanks waiting for your answer.

Are you sure Ukeoma Aik is dead? do you have concrete evidence? some one posted on his wall that he was last seen at the police station. Please verify, I am waiting to get the latest.

Pple beg for money from persons' they think are well off. its not only from persons' abroad. I get calls for help, I get calls for loans and I give when I can or I give what I can forfeit. so poster don't pretend you are not nigerian, its an everyday thing. just know when to say no because a lot of pple asking you for money are calling you a fool behind your back.

@poster

You have every right to check whatever you feel to check if you suspect that a significant other is cheating. Is it phone, computer and emails. just be ready to stomach what you jig out. If you find anything criminal, comfront them with it. this is my position.

Mind you poster.

what comes our way, somehow we attract it. if your girl can do a deep inward search, she will find how and why the said lecturer started to disturb her. if she is able to build up courage, able to put in hardwork to her studies, she can atand and tell her a capital NO,

Pls someone help lift this car from me. give me 1.9million and carry go

all I can say is what u get is what u ask for.

for every action there is equal n opposite reaction.

it takes two to fight.

conclusion.
she is unreasonable, folish and troublesome.

thats not the way a wise woman should go and the funny thing also is folish females are in support too.

@ poster.

After reading tro ur post, my conclusion is that u are very weak.
weak in ur mind, xter, morals and heart.

u fear to much that why u never take a stand to end this bullshit.
well just mark my words, u will soon be found out. that shame and story u never tell will be forced from u.

who said u cannot stop? who said u cannot survive outside those homes as you must?


just know that ur secret will soon be out soon!

@4llerbuntu
Good point but its way too different with a wife. wives dont walk away.

the OP needs to play the game, but he needs to also adjust himself.

@blazy,

right all the way, then how do he begin the program of controlling his home, its because he could not at ist that made him run away.

@ blazy, is not just about gaining control of your home, its also about maintaining that control ever after.

deal with the wife and the MIL maintain.

control frick MIL's trive where son in laws loose control.

I witness a case a MIL was advicing her daughter but she told her pointblank, her husband will not allow that.

People the matter on ground is better understood from the point that "marriage is scared". The more you vee from this point show how problematic your relationship will be.  THERE IS A PURPOSE TO MARRIAGE, any person that want to rationalize differently means he/ she does not understand the purpose and so thinks its like all other realtionship. culturally, we are still intact to some extent than what is experienced in the western world.

to the matter in question, just know that there many ways to kill a rat, then why kill a rat if a rat is ment to cohabit with man. but because that is not the case, then the way you choose to accomplish the task depends on a lot of things eg: your circumstance, personalities involved, times etc but you will need to keep in focus the purpose of marriage. anything you do that is not in line with the purpose will give an undesired result.

have it in mind that "YOU ARE INSTRUCTED TO DWELL WITH YOUR WIFE WITH KNOWLEDGE", then u ask what knowledge? its knowledge of women in general, your wife's personality and attitude etc. "women are garbage in garbage out" like we say in cumputer application. think of it-: what you sow is what you reap, women are designd to receive from you nuture it for like 9months then give it back to you as a baby. this is what their whole essence is. with this in mind you will begin to fashion out ways in all you do with her with his idea as the skeleton.

God said to the woman, "unto your husband shall your desires be", understand this and you will know that anything contrary is not original and because it is not it will not last. to relate it down, if your wife mum is a widow then get to know how she lived with her husband, it will help you too but your main focus is your wife, use your brain, give her what you want to get from her.
if you want respect from her ist respect yourself by cutting out excesses. dont give her chance to abuse you but if she does neglect it like its a child talking. if you call her names, stop it and if she makes an unacceptable word to you, dont get angry just tell in a calm way eg:"I dont like what you just said and please dont repeat it again, ". if you give her an instruction and she wants to argue with you, just let her talk, hear her out and if you agree with her point take it but if you dont just say for eg; " I heard what you said but in this matter, this is what I want you to do but if you insist on your own no problem, just note it that this is want I want", if she want s to go on on it tell her and maintain your stand, "I have said what I said and I will not make further statement on that again".

if you show her that you respect yourself and you learn to talk to her inner self, its just a matter of time she will comply, she is not a devil bro.

My wife will argue and in most time she will still resort to what i told her to do. at times she makes stupid statement or send me a bad text, i will just forget it and never mention it and when she is hot, when she want to offload on me, I will let do her thing and if I cant stand it, I will try and sleep off then from that time i keep to myself, even food, i get it myself, thankgod I can cook, I dont lack bread and breaveges. Dont tell her you are not happy, show it,

funny though,

but give it to nigerians, most of us are cultured.

u need to read a book by myles munroe: understanding the power and purpose of women.
this book will show you how to change your wife.

you need to change your attitude to alot of things, just try to neglect your wife and your MIL, do the necessary things you must do in the house, talk to her when you have to but pretend not to see those thing she and her mum does that get you crazy. dont answer her when she says stupid stuff, make a joke or jess out everything that bites you. never say an instruction more than once. its your home, you are the CEO of that house, she is just the manager. if she disobey you just make a note of it and let it be.

Cut down on the number of time you eat at home, infact eat her food only when she is behaving well and show your displeasure by staying away from her food, playing with her, touching her and any other thing you normally do. better hide your face behind a book not a drinking joint. then if you are not given to prayer then try to pray about it all.

She will just realise that she has messed up and she will end up putting her mum in line too.

THAT YOU LOSE CONTROL OF YOUR HOME IS BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL OF YOURSELF.

a song says" you dont need to fight to be a man". show authority.

the check engine light must be on on the dash.

just try and find where you can scan your car.

infact checkout baba4u93 on nairaland.

mY PEOPLE EXTREME CASE DESERVE EXTREME MEASURES. WHAT IS REPORTED IS JUST THE SCENE THAT WAS SEEN. WHAT OF BEHIND THE SCENE BEFORE IT BECAME PUBLIC KNOWLEDGE?

I had one like that; a friend i loaned 100k to makeup money to buy a car, about a year or there about, he even sold the said car but managed to pay me back 80k. stories were all i got for the balance and whenever i ask for my money i will give him a subtle threat but the guy will laugh it out.
Then one day i got my fill, I saw a costly phone with him and i ask to have a look, when he gave to me, I pretend to checkout the phone and lock it up in my car. 20k that could not come out in almost 2yrs came out in 4hrs.
desperate moments require desperate measures my friend dont blame the creditor, the end justifies the means.

No matter what everybody is saying, my brother the OP, it still remains that you call the shorts here. if your wife feels the maid is ok and you think from every indication that its future trouble then tak your stand. your money should not buy you trouble in the future please for God sake.

Why employ somebody that is over qualified, sure that other issues will come up. think of it, the so called maid looks so sharp, thank god. ok, you are the man, you resisted all the temptation, then one day you begin to see signs on her and on thorough investigation, one smart boy in your neighbourhood had dont it, what happens? suppose on her attemp to keep it hidden from you and your wife things got complicated, ?

man whatever you saw are clear signs of a trouble future. PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE MY BROTHER!

ok, he should forget his mum, , no problem, shebi u r a would be mum! ur children will forget u and any memory of u from ur womb. thank u. nkapi!

Baba4u93, howfar

just have a question.

What will be the effect of odometer roll back on a car?

from the vin check, its a good car but had its odometer rolled from 99,000 miles to 55,000.
currently this car is in nigeria from canada and odometer is reading 93,000.

this means, if it was not rolled back it should have been 137,000. from every other indication the car looks good.

bump, still there, price now 2M.

Hello Pple,

Pls what can be the issue that will make car dealers to roll back a car odometer?

Hello Bros, pls help me run this vin

1HGCM56443A810319


THANKS IN ADVANCE

hello Kunle,
Abeg help me run the vin for this:

1HGCM56443A810319

Thanks in advance.

What you are just realizing people is what my competriots and I have been suffering in the hands of whites, that even common Indians have started exhibiting their domineerig straits.
They bring a low qualified expatrate and he ends up managing persons more qualified and experienced than him, just because he happens to be a national.
go to seatrucks groups and see gross abuse of nationals. when they mess up a job, they quickly blame it on nationals. even a recent school drop out, just becuase he is white believes and acts like a slave master. he also directs and use your fellow nigeria to enforce his "oshebee". trust a national when it comes to suppressing his fellow just to enter some good books.

Thats why I cry for our leaders. Many of them are stooges, the likes of ATIKU, they play us down thinking they are up,, fallacies. They in the same pit, watch their mentalities, its all slavery, coated.

THIS IS THE TIME TO ENSURE WE THE YOUTHS REGISTER, VOTE AND PROTECT OUR VOTES. ITS TIME WE DICTATE OUR FUTURE. THE PRESNT CROP OF LEADER HAS FAILED.

JUST CAN'T STAND IMMATURITY,
DEAL WITH A MATURE LADY NOT AS TO AGE BUT TO REASONNING,

still avalaible

still available,

still available

@ baba.

care for an inspection then u will know it was not stollen. I give u the VIN on inspection to enable u verify this gift of machine.