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But she wasnt ugly before, i loved Xscape in those days and none of them was bad looking at all. She never talk true is all i say, lol

But if we're honest, can u really blame them
You cant kiss someone (in the name of acting) continously without feeling something, especially if you are already attracted to the person or admire them.
We non-actors are only saved this kind of life because we are not allowed such indulgencies.

Its d curse of the actor, hence d massive divorce rate in Hollywood.
The more raunchy the love scenes are (as they are getting these days), the more likely the actors are to fall for each other, even if just in lust.

I dont see the big deal, if u still care about her pls stay with her. She can still have kids that dont have HIV if certain measures are taken, such as taking some medication during the pregnancy, not giving birth naturally and not breast feeding.

Dont allow people to discourage u, afterall she is human. Its u that has to decide if u love her enough to always be on the alert, u especially as sex always has to be protective- can u handle that?

Also dont go around telling everyone she has it, people hardly never understand n will just spread the gist! I mean see the actions of the so called HIV promoter Betty Irabor of Genevieve magazine for instance!

The more private the better for all concerned.

It just goes to show that the church is no different from the rest of the world, the only one u can trust is God.
People have different priorities and they go according to them, simple.

Even if the congregation donate money freely, the truth is that they will donate to whateva cause their pastor asks them to - simple whether its for a massively expensive church house, giving money to the poor to start business, feeding the disabled, etc.

Free donation or not, such a building is a waste of money, especially in Nigeria for that matter. Am sure when one sees the church you'll notice that the surrounding area is covered with poverty stricken homes and bad roads.
The church does not have to be stupendously expensive to win souls, wont a poor man be afraid to enter such, tell me, wont he feel intimidated by the very surroundings?
Why arent the congregation ever asked to donate for better things This seems ego oriented to me,

I used to attend one of the parishes in Victoria Island before i left the country years back and when the church building was completed, it was a marvel!

Beautiful quite alright, but believe me from then on when i went to service, i could never shake off the constant questions in my head - what is this all for? Why did we need to import and install such enormous industrialized aluminium pipe air conditioning units that covered the entire ceiling of the massive church - when they ended up being too cold for the congregation and drove half the people to hover outside the doors cos of the cold?

Why did we need to import thousand of customized chairs from Germany or Italy, who r we trying to impress - God? Most certainly not!

I didnt get it then and i dont get it now!

God help us all!

Simple, dont go about training girls you are dating, it guarantees nothing!

Court wedding, white wedding and traditional wedding, i say do them all!!!

I would say forgive her but to be on the safe side do some extra investigation on her cos if she is lying about her age, there might just be more!
Ive got an old friend who tells everyone she is 5 years younger than her real age, and believe me she lies about absolutely everything, so beware of such people o!

Who gives a shit??

I make it a point of duty to stay away from any funny sounding airline, i certainly dont want to have to stop in any scary country, no thanks!
BA is too tight for me, always get claustrophobic when i fly with them, had no problem with the food so far though.
Air France is not bad at all, great food too guys!!!

Na God catch them,lol!

There's nothing wrong with reading ur wife' s emails, however, the question i would ask is does she have urs? Cos if she doesnt, then u have no right asking for hers, marriage is give and take!

All I want to add is be careful not to forget that it is God u are to worship and not the pastor. Exaltation belongs to God, be very careful.

The pastor is a mere human being like you, do not expect that he is beyond temptations of any kind because u will be sorely disappointed.

I heard it was called off for some reason!

You guys know this lady is Babyface's very recent exwife right?

Oh please, the woman was in parties a mere 2 mths or less after her husband's death! This is not about working to survive guys! Is she partying to survive too

E be like say she no send the man no more!

As much as i admire her, it was a big disappointment to see her dancing around a party with Kate Henshaw (whose famille is intact!) --- and everyone else was seated!

Mourning my foot, looks more like she couldnt wait to hit the road solo!!!

No one is saying mourn him forever, but i mean at least mourn first now, lay low small. Goodness!

See the mama, good grief! He sure couldve done better!

Betty Irabor, she's the saddest of them cos she really has this illusion that she is fine.

Its not about either of them, its about YOU!

Which of them do you have more feelings for

Whatever u tolerated in the beginning u will tolerate forever and ever!

I say lose both of them, u dont seem to be so into ur single guy and the married one is obviously taken! The sooner u move on the better, dating a married man will only make u painfully paranoid when u do get married, save urself lifelong stress gal.

I have a friend who dated loads of married men, now she is married she is so so afraid of even introducing her friends (or anyone else for that matter, except maybe church mbrs) to him its pathetic! All she spends her time doing is watching out for "potentials", like she used to be in the past, lol!

Remember the law of karma o !

You cant have it both ways forever dearie, you better marry her! Afterall it takes two!!!

It is simply a case where the guys are treating the gals badly, u know, stringing them along. We all know those guys that will make u believe they are dating you when they infact have no such inclination.

Its an unfortunate situation cos the gals would get to like these guys and these feelings are not reciprocated.

However, what these guys do is that they complain behind but when they do see these chics they give them tall tales of why they could not answer their calls and sometimes even encourage them to keep calling!!!

Its funny but its really the guys playing this game, they engineer the situation just for the benefit of people around them.
Usually the gal gets the message after a while

Some men can be bastards i guess

There is no nice way to tell him, howeva subtle u may try to be. It will still hurt his feelings. If u guys r very close, it might not be so bad.

That said, it might not be so easy to get rid of bad breath cos that may just be how he has always been. Toothpaste may b useless, better be prepared for that.

You try sha take a deep breathe!

We need money to survive do we not?
Its not all about the money cos if i met an extremely rich guy i still wont give him the time of day if he behaved badly, no be by money o!

No matter wat, the reality of no money sets in when u r actually in the relationship n even the littlest things like some change to use a cybercafe are hard to come by then u'll know wat am talkin about!

To me u dont have to be super rich, just be able to afford the bare necessities cos i can afterall so y cant u!!!

I think you should have informed your boss in good time of your intended leave, dont you? At least that is how i know it is done, not to just present him with an IV out of the blue, not very professional gal.

I was in your position sometime ago albeit a bit different, i had just gotten my dream job and my wedding was a month away. To be honest, i was prepared to postpone the wedding if my boss did not give me leave and my husband was in full support! Afterall the job was an extra boost to our lives abroad and it wasnt easy to get.

God blessed us tho and i got 3 weeks leave when i requested it,

If its a good job, i would say thread carefully, unless u dey fear say ur man go run.

I would say follow ur heart, but remember that what she is going through will be you and your childrens' portion as well for the rest of your lives.
Its only the Igbos that understand the effect it has.

A friend of mine keeps meeting nice guys who always tend to take her to meet the parents so to speak , but somehow it nevers works out . She has told me in the past that she is an osu so i suspect that as the guys she has been dating so far have been Igbos this is probably the reason behind the "not working out scenarios".

Its the fear behind the osu issue that is the problem, one cant just say ignore it because it will simply become your endless burden too.

Be prepared for it is what i'd say. Good luck,

Dont believe in endlessly long "relationships", they hardly end in marriage, na see finish e go be in the end, if u know wat i mean.

If you've got other suitors drop him like he's hot!!!

A word is enuf for the wise gal