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[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=34237.msg2629094#msg2629094 date=1218218860]there is no need being pissed, what they fail to realize is that men are to be blamed sometimes, because a man that knows wont marry the woman will still talk sweet nonesense in the ears of the woman and when belle come, they will run, and we can tell the woman to go hang.
there are just some ladies that are victim of bad relationships.[/quote]It's terrible, I even understand relationships can break down beyond repair, but to make matters worse the men won't even be involved in the child's life but it's always the woman that gets the blame because she had the decency to love and look after her own children.

Exactly!!! although I'm not talking of being promiscuous

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=34237.msg2629047#msg2629047 date=1218218179]So which s worse, to have the kids and look after them like a reliable and responsible mother, or to have like 5 abortion in a year?[/quote]I'm so p***d off right now. 

Afribiz:
To have 1 issue before marriage could be a mistake, but what will you call a lady with 2 issues b/4 marriage?And to worsen matters, the kids could be from different men. Has she not proved to be a woman of moral laxity? I can't stand such women, i see them as loose and irresponsible cheap things.

I wouldn't advise any man to marry such ladies except if they TRULY repent of such reckless lives.

        

You people should watch what you say, if you don't know their story then don't prejudge them. I can't stand people who sit on pedistals and look down on other people as if they're so perfect themselves.

Lil Wayne ft Babyface - Comfortable

I think english is a must if you plan on moving around in life but you should also at least know your native language before learning any other foreign languages. I don't think it makes sense to learn french, spanish, chinese or whatever and not your own when the french, spaniards and chinese hardly ever contemplate learning our languages. We should embrace our own culture before discovering other otherwise the next generations will lose it completely.

doe82:
Its not usually easy at the beginning but i m sure things will strengthen out with time.
Remember to take things "one -step-at- a-time"
I m good,just that I ve on a little pressure but I m sure I ll come over it in a few dcays

I really do hope so it's like, when you don't have peace of mind it makes the job twice as hard to do.

I hope ur takin things easy too, what kind of pressure are you under?

@ post

If the dreads are nicely kept and neat there shouldn't be a problem, it's when they look scruffy and neglected it doesn't say much good of a person. It's all about how they perceive you and the impression you make.

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doe82:
@ Syren
Baby how u dey?
been kind of busy lately, how was your 1st day in your new job?

HI doey , nice to hear from u again. I'm not so good at the moment, feeling a little bit down, the job isn't going great either, problems with my contract and other things. But i can't complain too much. it isn't terrible either.

And how are u dear?

people have many touching stories to share , I'll share mine someday.

Hannibal:
Trust me, ma fiance's mouth can NEVER be as wide as mine.
A man should be principled

Please take some other more!!!

Of course i doubt that could ever be possible
Ok, well good night Mr Principles no more malt for me or i'll feel bloated

Joseph6:
THEN AFTER UR WEDDIN DAY NKO she'll want extravagant cloths extravagant sex even so what is he goin 2 do then

Can you define this pls

Well she'll continue to pay for it herself , afterall she knew your financial staus before the wedding so she can't blame you.

@ post
does that mean the person with brains is extremely ugly or just average cos if so I'll take the smart dude anyday.

Hannibal:
This is not pride. . . . . .This is PRINCIPLE!!!
When a man misplaces his priorities especially to his in-laws then where is his decorum.
For crying out loud. . . . . Who seeks the help of his partner's parents to do his wedding??
Are Naija men this morally low??

But if the man is poor what do you expect him to do? Principles wont pay for his wedding ? And what if your fiance wants an extravagant wedding that you can't or won't pay for will she not help pay for it?

Hannibal:
Syren, go n drink your malt.

No thanks, I've had my bottle for today.

4 Play:
I think the important question is why the heck are women not funny? Of all the really funny comedians,how many of them are female?

I know loads of funny women so don't generalize.

Hannibal:
Let the Bride's family do what they want to do. . . .
I won't be relying on em for a can of coke. . . . .I am making sure i have enough to cater for all the guests coming.
If they add something(good luck). . . .If they don't(no qualms).
When did men start relying on his in-laws to make things happen?? What a strange world we live these days.

Well, good for you. the guy (eric) was not as affluent and proud as you are Hannibal so he had no choice.

It's an old time tradition that the father of the bride pays for the wedding, but of course times are changing, now it's the actual couple that pay the bulk of the bill with a little help from whoever if needed.

Funny guys can be very attractive, I guess they have that charisma. But not all funny guys are actually funny some are irritating.

Hannibal:
So the assumption is. . . .I don't have parents, friends or anyone in me family that can sponsor ma OWN wedding??
What a laugh!!!
The last place i would be looking for any HELP is ma in-laws. . . . . . .so forget the UNCLE shiznit.
It can never ever happen to any straight thinking man. Can't speak for freeloaders though.

Well your certainly different, many people would jump at the chance. So the bride's family doesn't pay for the wedding anymore, am I that late.

Orikinla:
From what I have read, heard and seen for decades, there are more bitter women than men in the world.
Many women have been treated badly by men.

Women are often at the receiving end when relationships collapse.

A man from a broken marriage has more chances of convincing other women into marriage, but women from broken marriages are often seen as unlucky and the society does not treat her well.
That is why it is very important for women to be very careful before dating or saying "I DO".

A woman who was abandoned by her man after 14 years is finding it difficult to get another man, because many man do not find her as an attractive partner.

The world seems to be full of lonely and unhappy women.
May God comfort them.

Very true

Hannibal:
Good idea for ma partner's uncle to sponsor my OWN wedding??
What does that say about me to her family??
I don't GET DOWN like that!!!!

Well it's not a test of your manhood Hannibal, what would you do if you had no money for a wedding and a child about to be born out of wedlock, her family expect you to do the honourable thing so why not then later reimburse them if you really have to.  

Hannibal:
Somebody help me.

LoL! did you even read the post? He wasn't forced it seemed like a good idea.

obuchineme:
Apologies to the few decent men around. As for me nigerian men are He Goats,the never keep their zips up.
All over the places they are the same,even when you respect their ages and position they will still dissapoint
you by making sexual advances to you.
'Meloo ni mo fe so'.
Its most saddening when you need a favour from them,say admission or jobs they are cruel hearthless and shameless.
Especially bankers infact i feel like having some powers to expose these fools.
And at home they are fathers and husbands to their kids and wives in churches they are deacons elders pastors and the likes
Ours is a shameless generation worst than Sodom an Gomorah.

someones a little cranky I see. LOL I feel u. Atleast u apologised in advance.

Whatever floats your boat mate 
What's wrong with nerds anyway?

I don't see it as a big deal although it would be nice if I could speak it. Sometimes it's not even the parents fault just different situations make it difficult to learn. Growing up in a family of mixed culture meant we just had to communicate in english.  I tried to learn from books and things like that but there was no support system so it didn't work.

Actually, I do feel a bit ashamed when my friends are speaking it and I can't understand but that's not very often.

doe82:
thats good news!
I m so happy for u!
is this your first job or u had d experience before now?

It's the same job really   just the type of work is different. Again thanks for the support  

DeepZone:
Even when the decision is destructive and lethal?

a good wife will not sit back and let such happen if she can prevent it.

doe82:
so tell me
have u resumed?

No, i start on monday, so i have the weekend to prepare myself.

I know people in the company so it shouldn't be too bad.

doe82:
beutifull!
good to hear about your new job
congrats!!

That's good  and thank you, all the hard work paid off  

Now it starts all over again    but atleast i'll enjoy it.  

DeepZone:
That is if the thing that went wrong is not disastrous, like foreclosing your home and being in huge debt or losing a child to a minor ailment because hussy decided to take your child to a native doctor.

Yeh   those major decisions, we would both need to agree on,  if i'm against it, with good reason, then he can't go ahead with it just like that.

doe82:
hi syren!
How are u today?

I'm good, how r u?