₦airaland Forum

paaj:
Is herpes purely an STD or can it be contracted from other sources? I know of someone who had a herpes outbreak on her back. So i'm beginning to wonder how an STD will infect someone's back skin instead. Or is it that it was also spread to her genitals and i just didn't know? of course she didnt tell me that.!

Herpes can be transffered from mother to child if she has an outbreak when giving birth. If someone has oral herpes it can be transferred by kissing. If she wasn't born with it i don't know how it could get to her back? Probably contarcted from somewhere though.

husband/wife - definately

fiance - yep

long term boy/girl friend - why not? depends 

Esss:
I aint adopting another mans headaches. HELLS NO.

well thats your choice but i'd like to , if the child is an orphan it would be amazing to know that i've given someone a new lease of life, to show them love and care and donating money will not buy this. These kids deserve happiness and a family too and if I can give them that why not?

vivaladiva:
because white girls know that black boys especially naija boys will lick their yansh for paper
if it happens to come with a big privates tis all good
do u really want to know what white girls think of black boys especially naija boys?

i know!! a lot of men are giving themselves a bad reputation with the foreign women I can't believe what i've heard some of them say about our men.

topup:
Quote from Swiftycool

"Generally i realise Black guys are more romantic and attentive to white chicks than black ones
Most of my guys dating white chicks tolerate a lot of shit and really treat em like ladies with respect and all
They are mostly dedicated to pleasing the chicks in bed and other ways rather than themselves, thats why these girls die hard 4 them
u can immagine!All these things they take 4 granted with the African queens,
u might see it as inferiority complex and slavery mentality, methinks its real romance, they bring out the romeo in u!"

[color=#cc0066]I have seen this and it is slavery mentality, I do not believe it is real romance because how does being a 'white woman' bring out the romeo in you. The truth is there is an underlying feeling on being with 'someone better than you' for the black man, built from years and years of being told your own skin colour is disgusting, so when you've found what you think is a gem, you will cherish it, but when you consider you're black women as something to look down to or below yourself, of course you're not going to be 'dying hard for them'. The 'white' woman is seen as someone gentle, fragile to be protected and romanced, whilst the 'black' woman is seen as someone to be kept in line, someone to bare kids and stay at home and cook and wait on their husbands. We are seen as emotionless and tough *sighs*.

This issue really upsets me. A guy I know dumped his nice girlfriend for a 'white' girl who happened to have slept around, here there and with every other black guy, who was not serious in her faith, despite telling him she wanted to be. He looked SO inlove, like he had found a gem, though she flirted with other guys infront of him, though she had backup guys and she couldn't care less about faithfulness let alone his feelings, despite this she brought out the romantic in him, but it confused everybody because she treated him like crap, she didn't appreciate what he had to offer, and not long after him, she brought some other black guy into her life and crushed this guy. Now, I wonder if any black guy would tolerate, a cheating, disloyal, promiscuous black girlfriend?!?! I don't think so, white women have always been valued more, and this upsets me, you don't realise how hard I try not to hate myself and not to question God, why I was GIVEN the short straw.

It really does upset me, when I feel like a piece of coal in comparison to all these 'white' women. It really does, I hate to hear men saying that these women they go to extents for, just because of their skin colours? Man, I'm tired of it all, the fascination with the 'paler' species is getting me down. As a black woman, always feeling like I've got a longer way to travel than everybody else. Black men have it a lot easier in this sense.

What does make me smile though, is finding those white men who cannot resist. It shows me that sometimes you can't hide a gem no matter what packaging you put over it. I truly believe I am a gem, and if my skin colour means that you'll treat me as an inferior them I feel sorry for you.

Peace and Love x[/color]

wow, does it bother u that much? I get your point tho. I know a nigerian man who was with a white lady and they had a son. The woman was very disrepectful, treated him like shit to the point she would call him racist names and he did nothing about it. He wasn't weak or timid but probably felt inferior. And i can't help but think if it were his fellow country woman that had insulted him he would have slapped her before she could even open her mouth. the guy now has 3 sons by 3 different women. I'm still waiting for no. 4. Black women have been on the bottom rung of societies ladder, it seems like forever. But when I see black women with men of other races it also puts a smile on my face, it shows we are not as undesirable as certain men like to think we are. peace

why would someone post this?

yes o we thank God for their wahala

A father looks at his son and sees the boy he once was. A boy looks at his father and sees the man he will/can become. It's the fathers job to show his son how to become that man. Sadly many boys have no men to look to.

boys need fathers, otherwise what's the point of them making the child in the first place?

People with herpes, alot of them do get married. I can't say wether I would or wouldn't marry someone with it but I always think, what if the shoe was on the other foot? would that person still love me? I wouldn't expect to find a partner but it's not impossible.

It's sad though, a lot of people put themselves at risk with unfaithful partners or sleeping with someone who isn't aware or just chooses not to telll you they have it until it's too late.

idupaul:
forget it u don't need any fada,

I know your not serious?

U can't speak for him.

Poster it's better to find out now than spend your whole life wondering maybe even regretting.

doe

I've found u

You ok?

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=162050.msg2684656#msg2684656 date=1219264065]I will like to know the effect of tickling during sex[/quote]Why not experiment?

@ post I can't take tickling but I like to laugh.

[quote author=dudu-bobo link=topic=35871.msg2683214#msg2683214 date=1219245210]A who patronises a prostitute may decide to marry a prostitute. However, I have not come across many men admitting to patronising prostitutes. If a man admits to patronising prostitutes, do you think girls will be very happy to marry such a man?[/quote]whether with a prostitute or with random women they meet there is no difference, many men who have slept around still get married.

Quote

"And clients of prostitutes, don't they go on to get married, sometimes to virgins? These guys feel it's great to debase and degrade women, but when they were paying for their services, were they any better than the escorts? "

Nicely said, a guy who has patronized prostitutes will still find himself a wife _{(God knows from where)}, so why can't a former prostitute find a husband? I can't condone such a lifestyle but "let he who has not sinned cast the first stone". And if she was forced into it she is even more deserving of love.

Aaah that's nice come on guys help her out.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=161927.msg2682721#msg2682721 date=1219238500]When you make a 360 degree turn, u will be back facing the show and wont be facing the door.[/quote]oh yeah  

make that 180


_{I was never any good at math}  

Go for it,  if he's willing you guys can build a good relationship together and it could be worthwhile. How does your mum feel about it, mine was against the idea so i would like to know your mothers reaction. Thanks.

Tupac - Do for Love, Changes, I Wonder If Heavens Got a Ghetto, Dear Mama and the list goes on

I'd do a 360 turn and head straight out the door, why fight? At that moment he is officially my ex and nothing more.

You tell em onyinye!  

Lmao!
Your right. see

Mustay:
I think those two matter to men the most.

Most do not want a lady 'higher' in those categories

But I thought things like this put a dent in their egos? And will these ladies want those men?

ok dear, see you 

doe82:
@Syren
How u dey
sorry my sever went bad the last time

Hi doe i'm fine i'm doing ok. How r u today?

Thought you were running away from me Is it ok now?

This Love by Mary Mary ft Fred Hammond

Afribiz:
I really feel for those good, but unlucky ones. Sometimes i can't help asking why life seems to be unfair at times. . May God help us.

Me too, as for the irresponsible ones I can't pity them o.   

I wonder if all other rappers would have done the same I know a few that would but I can't see rappers like Jay Z doin that for some reason. The drunk fool was attention seeking anyway.

The song doesn't do anything for me, I've heard much better but i've also heard worse.

doe82:
@ Topic
Yeah I think I beleieve!
it depends on the individual
Personal experience
[b]Action:[/b]whenever I want to play,I play the hard guy
[b]Result:[/b]I get laid and take off

[b]Action:[/b]Whenever I am in love,I play nice guy because i don't want to loose the damsel
[[b]b]Result:[/b]I never get laid

[b]What a world!!![/[/b]b][i][/i]

indeed
see this one how r u doey, long time.

I'll thank God, because though we like to believe sucess is all our own doing, it's God that has given it to us. Then my mother, family, and of course the people that said i couldn't make it, they make me want it even more.

Afribiz:
@ Syren,
I ain't talking 'bout ladies that were once married, but those young ladies that never got married but had two or more children from various men. What other explanation is there to it?, it is simply tooooo bad. Whatever happened to the adage that says "Once bitten, twice shy"?

Yes, nobody is perfect, myself inclusive, but we should at least show some decency while in relationships. When you see a relationship that isn't going to work out, babe, don't force yourself into it, because it won't still work out, even with that protruding tummy.

It is we the women that bears the pain and agony of such mishaps, and that's the main reason for us to be very careful. Those that haven't fallen victims should please learn not be promiscuous and over desperate.

I see what your saying, sorry I got a little worked up over it I agree many are irresponsible just that there are a few that have also been unlucky in life not that they weren't trying to do the right thing.

Both, if he has money but he's not attractive I'll still be put off

albridge:
thats what i am saying. women are the ones who forget you after 2 weeks. don't really think they love too deeply if at all. i think its all about what she wants or can get from you and not love.

And men don't do the same, or are they just in denial?

Hannibal:
Even if she's got the faith of Sarah, ma kids are going under the machine.
If she's got nuthing to hide, she won't object.

OMG! I really can't imagine the woman you'll end up with Hannibal, just can't fathom it. If you don't think they are yours then leave them be, I'm sure you'll have back up ones somewhere else with all those mistresses