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HCH3COO:
Is it okay for Ladies to beat hit Guys?

NO, unless it's self defense there's really no need.

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In my opinion it's wrong. PERIOD! why do people keep trying to justify it. I don't agree in any form of violence in the home, what good comes of it anyway?  

They do it out of desperation

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She can not take on his behaviour on her own. Unless she is waiting on a miracle from God, she'll need the help of either his father or a male role model that is willing. That doesn't mean he will automatically listen to either, considering how stubborn some teenagers can be these days, but still, two or more hands are better than one.

One way or the other he needs to learn how to respect his mother because the way he's treating her is just disgraceful. It depends on what she is willing to do, send him back home for a while to be disciplined or find something he is interested in say sports or music and get him to channel his energy into it while showing him that you support him along the way. Just anyway you can communicate with him get him to open up without the anger, on his part, then work your in from there. I just hope one day he'll be ashamed of his behaviour

Ebonyj:
Kids of today are so intelligent, whenever I am shouting he puts his finger to his lips and says "Mummee shoosh". I just laugh and think if na for my time you do this wo toddler or no toddler you go get smacked. lol

Lol my little brother does that to my mom and then he sits there as if what he's doing is way more important than listening to her nagging, she just stands there in amazement, it's so funny. KIDS eh

Aaahh, it all makes sense now

When I look back on my childhood crushes I just think WTF was I on But there was one I didn't really get over tho. His name was Adam and he was in my Phyisics class, I never told him ,

chinesedoll:
You RE A BIG FOOL

SEUN WHERE RE You

Explain yourself first

Hannibal:
You honestly think all those women u see in skirts are sane?? I beg to differ.
I have seen women trash men's cars, send goons to beat him up, acid baths, drive-bys and all form of vengeance in ma hood.
One of the worst things u can do to a woman is to reject her when she is not ready to be rejected!!!!
Restraining orders are not there for jokes. . . . . .they are enforced to maintain law n order.

Oh come on   I don't know where you live but you need to get out of your "hood" for a while. I didn't say all were talking about the regular women you'll date not female gangsters. You tell her it's not working out, she'll perhaps cry a little or curse you   and you move on.   And if she doesn't there's always your restraining order. But end it don't string her along and complicate things.  

Hannibal:
How do u tell a jealous, insecured and desperate chic u don't want her[b] in a nice way[/b]??
Is it hard to figure out that some chics don't want any sorta rejection??

At least tell her It's not that hard, and it will be over quicker than waiting 6 months. And we're not talking about the crazy chics that you might date Hannibal, just a regular sane woman. Of course she might be hurt but she'll realise she can't force you to be with her so what else is she gonna do?

StephenP:
I completely understand you but I still don't agree with you. What if she eventually calls and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? What would I say to both of them? It just gon' be hella awkward. I choose to do things the easy and straight forward way. If she starts tripping too much, I've got 911 on my speed dial.

Hmmmm interesting.

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It's simple. Just tell them you don't want them anymore, _{in nicer terms of course}  If someone said that to me I'd be gone, I wouldn't hang around looking desperate 

Hannibal:
Sigh of relief??
A Shropshire chic shouldn't be scared of Hannibal. . . . .
Aileen Wuornos is from your town, innit??

Who's scared

You've started again havn't you   I'm not from your hometown so go and find your friend Aileen and make jist with her. You two can be milking your cows together  

Hannibal:
That was meant literally. . . . .StephenP is ma homie.

*sigh of relief*

Really depends on the people. For some it might work, for others, they may be too different in mentality and maturity.

Hannibal:
I agree 100%.
A man has to be ruthless if he wants to make any headway.
All those crocodile tears don't SCORE with me. . . . . . .
Rants like. . . ."i love u", "how can u do this to me", "u cannot do this to me". . . . . They are all emotional blackmail.
That was the same thing she told Segun, Tunde, D'banj and 9ice. . . Sometimes they think men are STUPID.

It depends on the time frame, hombre!!!
A girl u have stopped speaking to for 6 months won't come back one day expecting miracles.
Are u supposed to ignore the incommunicado of half a year and just take her back in a stride??
StephenP, don't make me bash your nose with a sledgehammer.

Why the violence now? Men , women,  no one is safe from you are they? 

kobikwelu:
there is a difference between chivalry and chauvism.
take this example:
a house is burning and a mother is shouting for help.i bet u , 99.99999999% (error margin +/-.000000001)of the time its a brave guy that jumps into the inferno and rescue's the woman(y not a woman).this is chivalry and it shouldnt die.
when the world trade center collasped, we all saw pictures and head stories of how brave men(y were there no women) gave their lives to save people?
is it not chivalry!!!!it should not die.
any woman saying that it should die is just living in a fools paradise because when she is in a dangerous situation and she needs help , she wll be open to help from any male , who as i said 99.99999%(error margin +/- .000001) of the time will be a male to her rescue.

chivalry is not chauvism!!!
women should seek equity(equal opportunities) not equality(a woman cannot pee in a bottle)

That's all I ask for So guys can pee in a bottle but still manage to miss the toilet bowl at times

Thanks to all the contributions the task ahead is not so daunting. _{Just hope I don't go blank halfway through}

@ ibkaye

LMAO! your too much 

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Tyson Beckford 

Or one of my many favourite comedians,Kat Williams, he cracks me up Lol 

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_{A hundred dollar bills look Achoo! Achoo!}

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Definately a working woman Although I'd like to be able to take a career break when children come into play, but I can NEVER be a full time housewife. My mum did it and I never heard the end of it, of how bored and lonely she was  So career woman all the way 

amyg:
How best do u end relationships?I mean all my past relationships were never really called off.most times separated by distance or i would feel its just not working so i get on with my life until they come back and i tell them them they r 25mins 2 late.Same thing with my immediate ex,anything wrong with that?i just feel its stupid telling someone its over,better let him catch d signs himself

same here But it depends how long the relationship has been going on tho, if it's a long time they deserve an explanation.

ijapa888:
You've all said your bits and from the look of things none of you seem to have experienced it.

Well, it's normal that after going through rough weather the next best thing to do is avoid a re-occurence.
No right thinking person would want a repeat of an ugly situation (certainly not me)
I think it affects the life of the individual and a child tends to keep to himself at school,builds a wall around himself and it's always a burden going back home.

Growing up,the child becomes depressed.
A strong one is able to overcome addiction or other vices that can affect his personality.
The situation at home moulds him into whatever he becomes.
He sees romance as a thing to avoid and marriage as a bondage that he would definately not want to be a part of.

At the end of the day you see a man with little or no sense of humour,one that can hardly interact with peers or maintain a relationship.
From the outside he is charming and all but at close range he is a monster.

How can you assume that?  I understand some of your points tho