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I LOVE MUSIC, c'est ma passion. Nothing in this world compares to it. I don't see it as a profession, something I do freely, I play instruments, sing, write/record songs as I please.
My career is the complete opposite which is why I need the balance.

NAS - HERO

Hannibal:
Must be the weather. . . . .
Get a cold shower and a can of beer.

Will do  Tho I prefer supermalt myself

Good night Nairaland 

Hannibal:
I am worried about your mood swing.

Don't mind me, I'm feeling very hot and irritable at the moment.

Hannibal:
It's a gift. . . . . . . You don't need to know what he is giving you.
The surprise effect has to be there.

But atleast he should know what I like, that makes the gift even more special it'll show me that he's attentive. I mean anyone can give random gifts to you.  

Put your self in a woman's shoes, she may get many gifts from admirers, but if you take time to find out what she likes, her favourite colour, brand/designer then that says a lot about you.

Hannibal:
Already??

Yes already  but we'll get it back don't worry

Hannibal:
You are more likely to love expensive things than cheap stuffs. . . . FACT!!!

FACT! As long as I actually want those things. I don't want expensive clothes that I wont wear, when there are things that i'd prefer. He's got to know what I like.

You spoilt our moment Hannibal

Hannibal:


I have always known cash rules. . . . . . . .
Syren would rather date a guy giving her a LV bag than the one who sends cakes from GREGGS.

Whoever buys me the things I actually like or need then, they get extra points. It's not about the cost.

Hannibal:
Finally, we agreed on something.

LoL lets savour this moment, we don't know how long it will last

Hannibal:
Letz assume you like the 2 of em EQUALLY.

Well in that case, gift guy stands a better chance

_{seems a little heartless tho} 

Hannibal:
If he cannot do it. . . . . .he is at a disadvantage if there's someone else u like who is willing to spend.
Agreed?

That's a big if but    agreed  
Really depends on who I like more, that will be the deciding factor  
The gifts can be a bit of a distraction and you lose focus on the things that matter.

Nella:
like u said "little" gifts. -- ny guy can afford a small gift once in a while, whether broke or not. Besides wht matters is wht is behind d gift and not the gift it self.

So true, there are some gifts that are priceless but cost very little.

Hannibal:
In other words. . . . u love Bad Guys??

I see what you're trying to do

Don't love em, I prefer good guys that are edgy

Hannibal:
So u don't want that geezer to send gift cards from Argos n Debenhams as incentives to date him??

They do help but what if he can't afford it?

same goes for women generally, including me, a good loyal guy with a naughty side keeps things fun, and leaves out all the heartbreak.

@post

maybe your girls do.  I've known guys that are broke and have made wonderful partners (not to me) only problem is the stress that comes with lack of finance, it eats away at the relationship  

onyinye2:
@syren
You know there is this line i constantly hear about good girls. That they always turn out to be the wildest once they first taste it.

I think we all have a wild side, some suppress it while others let is loose, it'll all come out eventually

Hannibal:
A guy does not need to satisfy all em characteristics to be bad. . . .any 3 will do.

Great!!!
Now cut out the social bit in u and u might just be a good girl.

ok o thanks for the lesson

Your not serious so how many friends should a "good" girl have.
The social bit stays.

Hannibal:
A girl does not need to satisfy all em characteristics to be good. . . .any 3 will do.

onyinye2:
Depends who is answering the question. Some say it is the girl who is reserved and doesn't associate herself with activities deemed as "wild"

I see, she's sensible

Hannibal:
That is a Bad Boy!!!!

You just put yourself in the same catagory as them so are you all these things?

Hannibal:
--Reserved
--Respectful
--Caring
--Warm
--Witty
--Intelligent
--Tactful.

Can't argue with that

Hannibal:
One of what and whats even worse??

"Bad" guys, I thought you were different  

What's a "good" girl then   I'm curious.

Hannibal:
It works both ways. . . . .
I don't want to go out with a social butterfly with a heap of previous records too.
Can't stand it when everyone knows who and who and who a girl had been with in the last 12 months.
It can be very uncomfy.

P.S. Bad boys don't like Bad girls. . . . .we want the good girls.

So your one of them, that's even worse, stick to your kind abeg  

A girl with a backgroud/reputation and being social are two different things. we're not talking about previous relationships, I mean getting along with people. Think bigger.

Hannibal:
Social butterfly??  Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Men are wary of such girls. . . . . .We never can tell which of your friends we have dined n wined with in the past.
I hate it when me past rears it's ugly head to haunt me.

I thought there would be a selfish motive in their somewhere, all to save your own skin. Typical.

Hannibal:
Popular and reserved?? Are u sure?
Being popular means u are social with loads of friends and the out-going type. . .
Are u sure any sane man wants such a woman as his partner??

Very sure   I've been described as such. Popular may mean that to you, but it generally means well liked by people, loads of friends, perhaps but you don't have to be a party animal, more like a social butterfly.  

Hannibal:
It's a huge turn off. . . . .
Men prefer girls that are laid back, reserved and reticent.
She has to be reluctant to draw unnecessary attention to herself.

Really? I think that's your preference because that's not what I've seen. I don't mean the loud, attention seekers, I mean friendly, social. You can be popular and reserved at the same time. Trust me  

onyinye2:
don't mind these men. they don't know what they want.

Lol I can never understand them, myself  

@ Hannibal

how is a woman being popular a turn off? I'm confused. If she gets on well with people surely that's better than a social outcast right?

I don't think you can categorize people this way. There are "bad guys" that are pretenders because they think it's what women want and there are "good guys" that aren't weak and boring, so you can't put them all in a box and say their all the same.

Bad guys are usually tough, dominating, protective, and, i must admit, more exciting, etc and women like those qualities, only problem is with those qualities often comes a disrespectful attitude and heartbreak which some (women) tend to ignore or believe they can avoid.

For me personally, it's all about being the alpha male or female. Girls like guys that are strong, masculine, popular, witty not the type to sit in a corner taking orders and can't be a leader. Same goes for guys they like the girl that's confident, popular, attractive, intelligent perhaps, and the list goes on but not the timid type with low self esteem. Now, having all the positive qualities doesn't mean you have to be "bad" whatever your definition of "bad" is.
I think there can be a balance.

sorry, I write it wrong, it ends with .com not .co.uk, the correct one should be on there now 

Anyway I must dash, I have another long day ahead take care doe82 talk to you again soon

doe82:
Baby take care of yourself as health is paramount in all we do.If u breakdown whatever u were doing another will take up so whats is the essence of going tru all these stress.

got some personal questions but i don't think nairaland is the best forum for that

OK I'll try, I need a holiday LOL  

You could email them to me if possible? I'll put the address on my profile

doe82:
I can understand!just take it cool and slow down sometimes to take care of yourself.Feels good meeting u again!!

I really wish I could I'm not even feeling well, but I just have to keep going. Nice meeting u too

doe82:

THATS WHY EVERY SINGLE ONE OWE IT A DUTY TO THEIR CHILDREN UNBORN TO MAKE THE RIGHT MARRIAGE DECISIONS TO SAVE THE INNOCENT KIDS THE STIGMA AND THE MENTAL TORTURE THAT GOES WITH THIS KIND OF SITUATION

Very true, a lot of parents don't think about that, don't even care at times all they think about is how much they can't stand their partners and how to get as far away from them as possible. Not only in marriage but outside of it too.

tomaagy:
Really I was chatting up a lady and she was telling me she wanted to be this, that and that before she settles and It struck me that at 21 in Nigeria before u sort of attain all that dream many water would have passed under her bridge and I mercifully analyzed for her what she was trying to do for her future! i.e Marry Late if she gets to marry at all, a lot of heart break for duping boyfriends, and then get tabooed as being a sugar daddy's plaything!

Anyway I advised her to get a Man who will be in support of her dreams and aspirations now so she doesn't lose both ways i.e She gets 2 marry soon and still pursue her career!

I'd like to hear opinions in this line of reasoning

P.S
I'm totally for Women emancipation!

There's no reason why she can't have both I don't think she should put marriage on hold for a career. Maybe she isn't that keen to get married early.

I've been very busy sha, even now I'm just waking up from my nap, I'm exhausted. 
Always nice to hear from you tho, hope all is well 

@ topic
Come to think of it, the term "broken home" can be very disheartening for children to hear. It has a very nagative stigma and they know they're looked down on at times and automatically seen as dysfunctional and problematic, so they feel ashamed and negative emotions arise from that so I'd say it's both internal and external factors from the home and outside world.

@ post

A real shame, I just don't understand. So many women out there and he choses to disgrace his own flesh and blood instead, a disgrace to his whole family in the long run.

HCH3COO:
Then guys should be able to do it in self defense too

Yeh, if she's dangerous but not for anyother reason.  

Ambber:
with benefit of hindsight I will say 'yes' it does affect.

What you don't have its natural you can't give,

What don't you have? 

@ doe82

Long time indeed, I'm fine and you?