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vemon:
one problem i've come to realise concerning broken homes is that, most times this pictures sticks into your head, and people even start thinking that its a normal way to live, that once you are tired,just throw in the towel and walk away.

I think it can be the other way round, they've seen what it's like as a child and don't want their children to experience the same so it's not easy to just give up like that.

@poster

can we see some proof

how do we know she isn't some random lady?

dyabman:
Yup. . . shes still better than 20% of Nigerian Hot ladies

was there any need whatsoever

I think it's easy to write people off  like this but it shouldn't be the case. Sure I've met bad ones but then there's always an exception that comes along to change my view on them. But I also agree with what people have said race isn't the only criteria for a good partner it's whoever is right for you.

Wow! just 50! Such a shame.

R.I.P Bernie Mac, we've lost a great king of comedy, Def Comedy Jam wont be the same without u.

I remember when I learnt how to cross my eyes and would do it continuosly, well my mum obviously didn't like it so she told me I could end up like that permanently If I carried on. She even took the time to make up a story about one girl she knew it happened to. But after a while I asked her to tell me the story again and she had no idea what I was talking about. I stopped doing it anyway so it worked I guess.

Mum wins by default Yay!

But even then we're not that close

proo212:
Me I don't need all of these things I beg. This obviously applied when the wife used to stay at home and look after the home and kids and the men went to work.

Hey Sistawoman, we know it is a gag gift and that's Ok

This is 2008 I beg and we are both working. So far the wife and I get on great, she has nothing to be afraid of. We can cook together, I drop the kids in the morning at schools and she picks them up. Who notices if the house is spotless? She for it's not messy and we can spring clean over the weekend perhaps even naked

We can do the cooking for the week on Saturday morning/afternoon

I must say you are one of a kind

@post
LOL 
When will someone have time to do all these things.

A relationship is give and take anyway. If he is good to me then I'll want to do some of these things when I can, but if I don't feel he appreciates it why bend over backwards?

Ola8:
Is it Agewise?

Education background?

Job?

Wealth OR Richness?

Religion wise or what? WELL

IT DEPENDS shaa, because to me, Love doesn't know CLASS

I'd say those two are factors that determine your class as well as other things like status. The others, not so much. But your right, love knows no class, the question is not can you love somene of a different class it's more are you willing to be in a relationship with them inspite of it.

1.Smooth Criminal

2.Human Nature

3.Wanna Be Startin Something

4.Don't Stop Til You Get Enough

5.Stranger in Moscow

6.They Don't Care About Us

7.Earth Song

Gotta love them tracks

true  A guy with some sort of profession is nice, and a decent one too.

Hannibal:
Oprah is a lesbian.
What male suitors are u talking about?
Oprah is a momma bear.

since when? Her and Steadman broke up?

Don't tease me Hannibal

You seem to be living from some outdated rule book. Women do it too, some marry younger guys who aren't as well to do as they are. I mean oprah probably had very few suitors to choose from that where better off than her anyway.

Hannibal:
@ Syren,

You are not serious.
It's not that easy to stereotype men. . . . . If y'all shun city guys, who are u going to run to?? Village dudes??
The stigma is always there for a woman to at least marry from her level or upwards.
With guys, they can operate at any level.

That's why I DONT generalize about all men because of my experiences.

Not all guys now? You thing Granny will be happy if Prince William brings a chav girlfriend staight out of east london back to the palace. It all depends on your standards.

Alright go sip some alcopops and go sleep Hannibal.

bigmodo:
Girls are shit, they come in when you got lotta thou and leave you aint got any. Dude, leave that girl before she ruins you. Tell her face 2 face that you aint want her any. Tell her you got another girl. Leave the girl because if she leaves you first, you going to hate real bad. Feel Me?

you come and start bashing girls but eventually you'll run after a girl to marry, it doesn't make sense? 

@post

write "I Love You" on a piece of paper and tell her to read it out loud.

seriously maybe she has a hard time expressing it.

Hannibal:
Of course, love is fundamental.
Village babes love endure till death. . . . . Undying love Life long endurance unlike the city girls who feel they must bed 5 guys to fulfill all righteousness.

Again how do you kno she loves you?

Hannibal:
My patience is running thin . . . . .
A friend of mine just got stoned by a chic. . . . . The baby she's been carrying for 6 mths actually belongs to someone else.
She left a note on the table before the guy came back from his vacation that she's packed to the guy's house??
To make matters worse, she asked for his forgiveness. Forgiveness??

Both men and women do it so what's your beef?
Sadly for women, whether he's a city slicker or a bush man we can't escape your animalistic nature to mate with anything with a hole. 
_{See it's easy to stereotype isn't it?}

Hannibal:
Me going to the village should tell u i can relate with anyone. . . . .
As long as she is fluent, knows her right from her left then i am kool.

Would you care about whether she trully loves you or not because you wont be able to tell. Her and her parents may just be happy to find a well to do guy that's willing to marry her.

Hannibal:
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About being open-minded. . . . .That depends on what i have seen from the so called westernized babes. . . .
I am not particularly impressed with what i have seen and trust me. . . . I have seen TOO MUCH. . . I know TOO MUCH.

I'm just saying you shouldn't write them all off, I could use that same excuse about men in general, but I don't.

Hannibal:
There's a difference between girls that schooled in the village and the ones that schooled in UNILAG(u shld know what i mean).
She must be fluent in English but the degree of exposure would be monitored by me.

I am still searching. . . .The screening process starts next week.

*sigh*   well good luck in your search for your slightly westernised village girl.

I'm from humble beginnings me self, which is why I say class doesn't determine the kind of person/partner you are.  I think you should be a little more open minded though.

Hannibal:
I will control the degree of exposure . . . .That shouldn't be HARD to do.
****Of course, she would be educated. . . . . I am not going to marry a doofus******
She is everything but the western exposure, geddit??

But you complain about the lack of morals in Uni girls. She wont be as naive as you want her to be if she's educated to that level. Once she gets out there she will explore and discover new things, and you'll have to lock her in the house if you want to prevent it.

So have you found such a woman, to start the gooming process with?

onyinye2:
Of course not Syren. He doesn't want a wife that is too smart because she might threaten his best friend, EGO. She will be smart enough to have sex and cook and take care of the kids. As for anything else, Cease to Exist.

I know, from what I've gathered he wants a loner with an IQ between 0-20 so he can rule over her with no problems. Talk about low standards eh

Hannibal:
The civilization will be gradual.
I would control the degree of exposure(that should be easy for me).
Jeeeez. . . . .I can't leave her the way she is. . . . .She might think a microwave oven is a TV set.

Not for long my friend, afterall she is not your prisoner and there are so many influences like your microwave/tv set. 

Will she be educated? You'll want a wife who you and your family can interact with on an intellectual level too won't you?

Introduce her to "civilization" and risk loosing the humble, submissive village girl you married? You'll "posh her up" the same thing your running away from? Why don't you leave that way, so it won't get to head?

Alize blue actually, I like the exotic taste.

Will you live in the village with her?

Hannibal:
@ Syren,

Still drinking MALT??

Village girls make the best wives housegirls.
No complains, they are submissive, they can make stones taste like beans and they are fabulous with domestic chores.
I am still considering marrying one in Enugu or Imo.

Not malt for now, it was Alize 

there is a lot more to being a good wife/partner than this. She will reflect who you are as a person remember?

Well if it's true love Hannibal then I will be at your wedding 

Hannibal:
Really??

If the topic is based on working class, middle class and what not then it depends on the individuals.
Some men won't marry Uni graduates, they prefer to go to the village and marry because of the moral decadence in Nigerian Unis.
One man's meat. . . . .

That's all I wanted

Again, if the village girl makes a good wife why not? as long as he respects her.

LadyT:
At least you are honest Karma.

I don't have a problem with someone with kids.

But we all have a right to choice.

What I can't stand is the people who lie and pretend the kids don't matter when they do!

By the way Plan B is the same as the morning after pill can be taken upto 72hours after unprotected sex.

the kids always matter, many children/teenagers hate the idea of a step parent initially so they may be difficult to win over, they won't like you disciplining them aswell. But the mature ones should consider their parents happiness and be willing to cooperate.

we're not talking of whether she is "classy" we're talking of class levels like working class, middle class etc. I don't think their class that makes someone a better partner.

Doesn't it depend on the individual and not their background?

KarmaMod:
depends on the kind of single parenting. Wedlock or out of wedlock

One gets more respect than the other. Having the ids from multiple marriages vs having kids with various random men

that's part of my point, they shouldn't all be seen as "loose" and "irresponsible" as someone put it. She may have done all the right things and still the marriage broke down. She was still young so she decided to give love another try but alas it didn't work out again.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=34237.msg2629127#msg2629127 date=1218219448]In Nigeria, that is a law that need to be in place, because the man shdnt be walking around and not taking care of his kids, if a man is old enough to plant the seed, he should be old enough to take care of the plant that comes out of it.
It makes me sick when i hear someone has been taken to court for child support, i think supporting your child should come naturally to the man.
Some women too need to check out the kind of man they hang around.[/quote]I must agree, sometimes the warning signs are staring them in the face, especially if he already has kids, but they become blind to it for many reasons. I don't pray to be put in such that situation but having 2 kids by different fathers can happen to anyone, if the man is not willing to stay you can't tie him down by force so, single parent it is.