H2O2:

Is the Christian allowed to marry a non-virgin?
Is the Christian only allowed to marry a repented non-virgin?

Now assuming she didn't repent, does that mean you're becoming enjoined with another man's wife?

confuzzled

Of course they are. A repentant fornicator is seen as no better/worse that a virgin.

Pot calling the kettle BLACK!  Look who's talking. All souljah boy has done is manage to offend women, the black race as a whole (with certain comments about the slave trade) and set a bad example for kids who, for some strange reason, look up to him _{God only knows why} 

H2O2:

How come you only understand kiss? Why not sex?  He could be drunk and stressed.  Some desperate girl could take advantage of him.

doesn't matter if he's drunk he still chose to do it, unless he wants to cry that he was raped.

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I don't see why it can't be a reason. When things become stagnant people lose interest and their eyes start to wander, but if the love is strong enough they can work through it.

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on second thought I think you just need to find someone who isn't already with someone and just attempt a serious relationship for more than just a week. If you don't like to be smothered simply tell her because when your married you'll be together day in day out, and that's a lot of attention.  

Aqva:

Hi, i'm new here. Plz i need serious advice.
I'm 34 and i've never had my own girlfriend. Right from when i was 18, any girl i asked out told me she had a boyfriend. Anyway i always pesevered and i end up as her lover, while she keeps her boyfriend. I've done this with over 10 different girls, sleeping with them while they had a guy. As a matter of fact, i started looking out for girls that had boyfriends because i enjoyed the no-string-atteached r/ships.
Now, my mates are having kids while i'm still looking to be peoples lovers. I've tried to get my own girl, but i just could'nt cope with the too much attention she was giving me, it barely lasted a week.
How do i change my orientation and try to hook up with my own girl. I need to marry and have kids soonest. the clock is ticking. Please i would appreciate sound advice, i've been a fool for so long, i need help. 

I can't remember the last time I heard this coming from a man but you obviously need to have realistic ideas of what your looking for in a partner. She won't be perfect but who is?

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Chicken is my all time favourite, there's just so many ways to eat it, a close second would be sea food, prawns, fish etc. 

It is so rare to see black women with natural hair these days but for me personally a lot of these styles are for convenience. I like braids because theres no combing involved, tie it up, down or leave it out and go. Never had a weave but relaxers make my hair more manageable too. Sometimes I miss my natural hair though, but then I remember all the hassle I went through 

mohawkchic:

[color=#550000]~Both Scums of the Earth if you ask Me!! Wouldn't wish anyone to have to choose !![b]Surely there are other options!![/[/b]color]

Exactly, like being single. I know they promised eachother 'till death us part' but living with a serial cheater or a wifebeater will surely send one to their grave much earlier than expected, that's if it doesn't send them to a psychiatric hospital first.

I'm thanking God, my heavenly father, because I know that whatever I go through, the good, the bad and the ugly I can always trust him to bring me through. He really is my strength and the rock on which I plant my feet.

iice:

My parents are sort of cool.
My dad is mellow but straightforward, my mom is more of the disciplinarian and a perfectionist.  She too talk - i dreaded those.  We always had some extent of freedom as kids.  And boy did we have some fun. She was more strict than over protective we used to think back then. But then again, we are very stubborn so she needed to be strict.  Thankfully she has mellowed down now through some moves like that

haha, yeh my mum had a lecture for every occasion when I did something wrong. Sometimes I felt like saying "just give me the beating and let me go!" lol 

StephenP:

What about being serenaded or is that doing too much?

I love a man that can sing

prittigrrr:

Let me first say I have no children of my own that I birthed. I have assisted in rearing countless children as I used to work in a foster care agency and I had three step children when I was married that I raised. I believe that there should be a balance between the physical rod and the virtural rod of correction (for lack of a better term). I, like other posters, have noticed that in the US, blacks administer physical discipline more than other races, but the jails are filled with our kids and young adults. I believe many times that we beat the children after the child has already learned bad behaviors. When the child is young, every thing is "cute" to some parents and then they want to correct when out in public after the child has run wild at home. This will not do.

Couldn't agree more. My mum is the same way with my younger brother, letting him run wild at home so then when they're out in public he wont behave and she wonders why? 

Mario - Kryptonite

Tank - Heartbreaker

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Guys that are mean to me will certainly not get my attention, infact we'd soon become enemies and I'd avoid them at all costs. I really can't understand why any self respecting woman would choose to be with someone like that.

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If all parties agree then why not as long as she's not forced, it's her decision. But talk about desperation . I'd rather stay single.

Pataki:


You are so intelligent in making everything suit your argument. Physical attraction is just a temporary thingy, a facade that blows away with time, it comes with almost every beautiful woman you see everywhere. Would you then say you are attracted to every beautiful Agbani you meet all the time? Character speaks through beauty and you can perceive it when you see HER.

I agree with you, physical attraction is important but doesn't have the same worth that character does.

syphillis:

ok then i guess u wil like ur husband preferring other womens body type over us

good luck

Like i said before, no one wants things this way, if i could wave a magic wand so he could be blind to the thousands of other beautiful women out there i would, but you can't, though he may find you attractive that doesn't mean every woman on earth becomes ugly to him.

~Sauron~:

If u have the money to repackage her. . . . . If u don't have the money, u would piss on her.
U wouldn't convince a 6 month-old baby with that statement.

Hugh Hefner is a celeb. . . . . .They can have anything they want.
If he is young and he wants old women to screw, he would have it. Those are exceptional cases.
We are talking about the man here.


@ Debosky,

What is the point of attraction? That is what we are talking about.
Are u attracted to UGLY WOMEN?? Yes or No!!!
Before u marry, u check well and reh reh reh but what prompts you to ask a woman out??
Her beauty or worwority or her character(u are not sure about)??
THINK!!!

He just happens to be the only famous one but there are plenty of regular ones walking our streets.

syphillis:

i don't think u read this thread from d beginning? there is nothing wrong in admiring smone,but preferring a particular specie of women which ur wife isnt is where i come in

yeh it's pretty long,   but i don't see the wrong in it if there is love, i just think that it could mean the man doesn't appreciate his womans looks as much if he prefers a different body type. Then ofcourse she would feel unattractive to him. But at the end of the day if she's perfect for him but doesn't measure up to his standard of physical beauty, the fact that he has chosen to be with her above all others says alot about his love for her.

~Sauron~:

I will age together with my WIFE. Same rate of ageing. . . . .
If she comes out with a sagging breast, i woulda come out with receding hair line, protruding tummy and wrinkles too.
So what right have i got to say she doesn't look PRETTY again??

Are people this fickle-minded??

yes sauron some people are, that's why we have married people running after younger women/men, you can't deny the hugh hefners of this world do exist

syphillis:

if so then stop comparing always,stop preferring the other women's body type to ur wife's,if u know she has a good personality and u also think shes good for u then stick to her,instead of telling ur friends in iya basiras food joint that u love ur wifes personality but still prefer a slim woman anyday anytime

What i'm saying is you can't just turn it off You don't stop finding other people attractive just because your married, though it would be great, but yes you can learn to appreciate and love your own partner's body also if she isn't your ideal type.

syphillis:

pata u don't get it,nobody is telling a man to choose looks over personality

but why marry for persoanlity and still prefer other womens looks over ur wife's?

that is d issue here

BUt if the women that have your preference in looks, have bad personalities it would be wiser to be with someone who has a good character and is reasonably attractive. Those women's looks will fade eventually as well so you'll have nothing to be attracted to in later life.

syphillis:

oh na personality d man marry no be love,i don't think that love should be there,that means if he meets a lepa woman wt d same personality as his wife,he will most def run to her

The chances of that happening are slim, meeting someone exactly like your wife?
People can be similar but no 2 people are the same.

jazmine sullivan - Lions, tigers & bears
                       - I'm in love with another man
- Bust your Windows

little Wayne - Mrs Officer

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Some kids never really like my stepparents, they see them as intruders or outsiders coming in and disturbing the family setting they are used to, but if the child is mature enough to appreciate that their parents' hapiness is also important there can be compromise. As for the young ones I think that it takes patience and bonds need to be formed, which can take time. Here the adults must be the ones to really understand how child feels about the situation and encourage them to open up to your partner.

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Okija_juju:

I can't believe that these women actually dragged this thread this long.

We men did not plan for things to turn out like this, we were created like this.
Some are born to be Kings - Men, Some are born to serve the King - Women.
I aint no chuvaunist or sexist, I am just stating the obvious as stated in the bible and as proven by science.
The beauty of this topic is that the male superiority is actually agreed on by almost all religions.
From Christianity were I earlier posted a few passages from,


MEN RULE!! BOY POWER!!

God knew the way he wanted the world to be run and he gave men and women their places. Not that women were less than men but had different purposes on this earth. So claiming that women are subservient to men is simply a biased opinion that not all women have to accept.

Men like to conveniently forget that there were queens in the bible and women that God recognised to be leaders. So yes it's "God's world" which happens to be male dominated and women should let God define their worth, after all he created them, not men. 

BabeX:

Whats ur take on this?

life is just tough, period, but it's harder for women i agree.

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Can anyone really say that they r 100% sure their partner loves them? I don't know, but the least he could do was try to show it.

~Sauron~:

Finally, she agrees!!!

lol, yeah well, it's bound to happen once in a blue moon, aint it?

~Sauron~:

When WE are old and grey?? It's a general phenomenom.
When u get old, he would even be older so he won't be catching any yung'un.

touche Sauron, touche