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saucecoder:
If any woman can say this, it's not you cococandy.
You whose traditional and white wedding was completely funded by your abroad based husband, you whose visa processing fees and upkeep was funded by him, you whose flight ticket was funded by him, you whose RN school fees was completely funded by him, you who didn't work a good job for almost two years after arriving in USA and all your essentials down to toothpaste was funded by him.

Your deliverer is a man and there are millions just like him, have some respect please.

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Adaego5:
Something that is not meant to be, is not meant to be that's the first thing you should know. And for the records, there was nothing wrong with me.
How else do you want to understand that the love from his side was never there or probably shortlived? When a man doesn't love a woman, don't you think he would keep making excuses for his actions?
See ehn, stop trying to open up old wound. I have moved on is that I have moved on.
I have passed my message to those currently passing through emotional abuse and heartbreak and that's my problem. So whatever you are trying to say right now doesn't concern me at all.

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Please stop replying that fooool. Thanks. Before you know it he will pm and chat you up for a video sex and then upload it on nairaland.. Be very careful

Early this morning again

Crakkland:
That is the only chat we ever talked about a video call.

Why don't you tell the accuser to post something that proves I asked her for video sex na.

She can post and then delete it.

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She won't stoop so low

Crakkland:
God forbid that I will ask you for video sex

Proof below...

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Post another chat... This is the same chat you have been posting

desvi:
the one of the person who was begging for video chat

. The lady refusing videochat may be paining him seriously

Mtcheeeww.. Tap water.. Keep running...

Crakkland:
I don't know you.. what makes you think I will lose sleep if you're disappointed or ashamed?

I thought you claimed there was nothing in the chats..now you're disappointed over the same thing.

Please take several seats.

. Where are the sex chats you claim you had with her

Crakkland:
Ohh really?

I have the one where she was talking about how she prefers if I give her head and I told her she's on her own cos I don't do that shít.

You want proof?

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Proof it.... A man running his mouth like this.. To say am very disappointed and ashamed of you is an understatement

Please what is in the chat Nothing. Cracked brain

@fountainofjoy..... Never you chat with any male or female nairalander offline except for business purpose... Thank your goodness you never sex chat , send nudes to the cracked head guy...

sassysure:
Stop na.

I thought u are very matured.

If crackhaus is baiting you, u know well to ignore especially if u and him had been friends at a point.

Ladies that are liking your comments will sort themselves offline when friendship goes wrong but come here to clap for u as u open your yansh for market square.

Many that claimed online warriors have been set up by guys here and used, disgraced and dumped. They later fizzled away. Don't thow that line.
They won't tell you but I will.
U can still be badass yet have your respect and maintain your integrity.

. Which yanch has been opened in market square Is it the senseless and meaningless chats

sassysure:
Haba.

Don't do this.
Delete them pls.

. Any reasonable thing in the chats he uploaded Abegiii

crackkhaus:
Are you crying already?

You thought you could make up stories and not be proven as a liar?

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What is the meaning of the chats you are uploading here?? Did you sleep with her or you have her nudes If not big shame on you

crackkhaus:
Bring your proof.. I have more of those chats where they came from oo

I will finish you here... You never see anything

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Chaiii... You are a man. It's okay

bukatyne:
I am spitting poo yet you keep quoting me. You see you don't have an iota of sense.

Be like your sister that keeps ranting about me in every thread without quoting me.

How telling women to choose the right men and be good wives would generate this type of hatred is beyond me.

Those that claim to be Christians, have I said anything outside the Bible?

I am throwing an open challenge:

Show me anything I am saying outside the Bible or anywhere I told men to behave as they like.

I still opened a thread a few days back on Jesus Christ viz a viz a Christian husband.

I keep saying it: I am not here for likes. Everything I have that would build stronger families, I will keep saying it here on NL.

If you are not comfortable, don't open my threads: don't bother quoting me.

I wonder why I am engaging an egghead that sees nothing wrong in 'male bestie' and when quality men say they don't want your broken overused body, you start wailing.

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Our dear Mrs Marital rape... Don't you get tired

roseb1:
But u have already cleared the bill now and they've been discharged.. We Thank God for that. She's already safe. What else do u want again?

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Money for pampers, baby food, creche fee

Dov3:
I have been following your thread ... decided to comment because you might learn a thing or two

Your decisions so far given the circumstances is fine. Splitting finances and moving out of the state will give clarity to you and your hubby. Right now, he will understand just how serious this is and will force him to make serious decisions he was hoping to postpone: Either he seeks full adoption of the child away and cut off from his baby mama or loose your support and his marriage. His actions when you move out (not what he says) should help you point out his decision

Either way, your marriage cannot be the same again; I think you should prepare for a lengthy separation and probably divorce if your your relationship isn't strong enough. Either way, use the period of separation to get a child either though IVF, surrogacy or adoption. Suspend another projects you have as a family and focus on that. The reason is, if you do get divorced, as a single mum, you will be happier and fulfilled and less desperate to remarry. If you don't have a child, you may be more desperate to get one and may just remarry a worse person for that reason

What people don't know is this... everyone goes into marriage for both the relationship and for children. So if you divorce without kids, it failed completely. With kids, you only lost relationship. The kids part was successful so get yours and plan to move on


Your hubby may genuinely love you in spite of his cheating - The process of trying to conceive needs love and you need to find a way to keep the love while you plan for a possible separate future. You just have to make the best of the situation. Also, don't be distracted love. Love may not protect you from STDs if he gets them frkm his baby mama

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Genuinely love You guys just use the word love anyhow?? How can a man go and impregnate another woman outside his matrimonial home and still be claiming genuine love

Clothingonline9:
God punish you I don’t know you from Adam you just come here and want to spoil my business I do pay on delivery within Lagos if I sell rubbish will I have daily demand.its not me you buy from so open your eyes.Have never gotten any complain from my clients I don’t even sell 2k shirts.I strictly sell Turkey shirts and Balenciaga 3.5k and 10k all in their pack.i guess you drunk.i get order daily within Lagos and outside Lagos and they still order more consistently because of quantity.
Your devil work can’t work here

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Okay... My question is are your clothes new or okirika like he said

Mavis3:
Thank you all for your advice and counsel.

Graxie like you said, I have more than enough advice to pick from. All the comments helped and guided me on making my plans and re strategizing.

On Aunty's Visit;( It's quite lengthy o)

She came by the house yesterday evening and it was for a meeting.
She said she wants to speak sense into me and her Nephew.

She said husband's girlfriend traced her to her home and told her husband doesn't pick her calls or reply to her messages.
That baby is sick and she sent a message to husband and husband did not reply. Husband has left all responsibility to her alone and she is suffering with baby and husband threatened to arrest her when she said she was going to meet with me and tell me her woes.

Aunty said a good wife should encourage husband to be responsible and do good by his child no matter how the child came about. That I have stopped husband to accept the child and to have anything to do with the child and that shows I am not a good wife.

I didn't utter a word. Husband told her to leave me out of all that. He said if she had told him that was her reason for coming he would have adviced her to stay at home and he will find time and see her.

Me I kept quiet and did not say a word.

She gave alot of proverbs and told me to practice the Christianity I profess and show love.
I thanked her for coming and she left.

I did not say or ask any question concerning what she said. Even when hubby saw her off and came back and started apologising for everything that is happening and for Aunty's behavior, the only thing I said was it's ok, I am not offended.

Had to send a message to husbands elder brother that lives in UK. He is very principled and Sincere. And what he says is respected in the family.
Told him what's up and about Aunty coming to.my house to insult my person.

He wasn't happy at all, said he will call Aunty. Don't know what he told them, Aunty called this evening to apologies on how she spoke to me and father in law too called to tell me Aunty acted alone, he is not part of it.

Brother in law also called to tell me he has told Aunty not to further stress me with the issue of husband girlfriend and baby.
That husband should handle his shit.

Right now, I am prepared. Will be taking a leave once the lockdown is over and I am leaving the house for a month. I will be staying with my elder brother in another state for a while.

I have decided that no Kobo of mine will go for the upkeep of the child and I stand by that. Call me wicked I don't care.

I will start processing my transfer to another state where my mother and siblings are, so I will be closer to my family.

I am going to tell him this night that the project we are working on will hold. I want to go for further studies and will need the money.

We are no longer going to have a joint account. The money we have in it we will split.

Once the work transfer pulls through, I am moving to my state.

I need some time alone to breathe.

Thank you all for your advice. If anything new comes up, I will sure let you guys know.

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Whao... You made the best decision

Haaaa nkan MBE.... Forget about the joint account.....

[quote author=WILLuKPquiet post=88122891]Where did I claim that

Please post back the post in which I said that.

You guys just make comments to gather likes or what.

Go back and read my previous posts and stop fooling around. You will pity the OP soon.

Just watch

I may not reply to any of your unreasonable posts anymore. Who knows if you are even the OP

I will leave the matter till everything is unraveled the you will know who the liar is.

Me or the OP.

Time will tell.[/quote ]. Abegiii

chaii things dey happen

Livecamp09:
Snipper is still #300 naira dear

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Third mainland bridge is still very much open to idiot like you... Be fast. Hunger never beat you and your yeye husband finish.. Ole

Vega100:
It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

. Yes... E no go better for all the female members of your family including your mother... Spits on your mother smelling pussy

Livecamp09:
Just a condom would have prevented a public disgrace like you.. useless sex object.. na your senior Dem dey use one indomie and one egg Bleep till Dawn.. useless and hopeless olosho.. onidoti abirun

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Alaye baje omo...werey ni Iya e.. Your drunkard father slept with your oloriburuku mother after giving her 100 naira suya,,,,, no wonder she gave birth to an animal like you.. Cheap ho..e mother... No wonder her pussy has slacked.. Your oloshi papa don Bleep your mama brain comot.... Omo eleribu... Your mama expired pussy

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

. Yes.. Don't ever try it

Paxie55:
Don't spend that money on him.
Use it and build yourself to attract well to do men lool.
Poor boys can love oo, but once the money is there, they start misbehaving.

Don't ever trust the love of a poor boy, he's even dishonest.
Btw, don't ever listen to the sermons of these 19year old kids on Nl.
They are very poor and would do anything to make you see poverty as a blessing.

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Best advice.

Imagine some people advising op to give a man money to rent a better house