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Bluekapon: Come to think of it, this is really scary! But it's the truth. Sometimes I wonder what someone's future wife is doing right now. How many men she's slept with. How many std's she's contacted and treated. How many abortions she's had. May God help us all!

And what abt d future husbands how many women they have slept with,gotten preggo nd insisted on an abortion,and the plenty innocenent children they have denied bng responsible for der pregnancies?

Hello Joyful mothers,

How are you all doing,been a while

just a quick one

"There is no such thing as failure.Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction'
So wherever you are on the ttc journey know that you will eventually win this battle

Oprah said this to graduates of MIT Boston after she was informed that her new TV station was a complete flop.

People marry for all the wrong reasons,I think we should think very well and make our choices ourselves without parental influence,marry cos u are ready for d commitment not because evry one is doing it

Am glad blendy knows Dr Alabi,a lot of women in my office has used him,in the meantime pple I read dis miracle dis morning o
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2324817/You-wait-years-baby-FOUR-come--theyre-girls.html
Pls read d link,a couple who implanted 1 embie and had 4girls,it split into 3 nd den anoda split into 2 so dey have 4 healthy girls

@jummy4real by d way ashermans is treated using a diagnostic nd operative hysteroscopy,but some docs will do a lap with it,nd its always recorded so dey can play it back for u,whatever u choose to do be well informed pls

@jummyforeal are u sure u have asherman's syndrome,years ago a gynae I used told me I had ashermans but I was so sure he was wrong,after dt I got preggo though I lost it at almost 5mths,but dat was enuf proof I did not have asherman's nd my periods became regular afterwards,have u don a transvaginal scan nd hsg to rule out adhesions,how abt hysteroscopy,am not sure we are supposed to make recommendations here but der is one Juwon Alabi,southern shore women's clinic who I saw at dat timenhe sounded knowleadgeable nd skilled,I hear his speciality is endoscopic surgery,pls pm me for his personal details,even if u won't use him ,he's d only one I think I wld have done d surgery with if I had to do it,I did a lot of research on ashermans nd I realise dat if one falls into d hands of d wrong doctor it can complicate things.You can send me a mail on dketubah@gmail.com

men can't handle some things so be wise when opening up,they are human beings o

May her soul RIp,without been negative I was almost sure it was the end.Women where are you oo pls don't let anyone mess u up o be vigilant and educative enuf to know your body and inlaws beware o dis woman is someone's dota,in a matter of yrs now d widower will remmarry,I do not know when Cs became a prob o wicked sis in law ,thank God for husband's that are firm am sorry but where was d hubby wen sis in law was making d decision

@ why me in the mean time i want to sincerely advice you see an expert on things like this before you make a decision,pm on dketubah@gmail.com if you meet this person i can assure you will hear worse things.
Give it time and sincerely open your heart to God,don't punish her ask God to help you,i know someone with a similar case and she even had a child for the other man and she wanted her divorce but her hubby refused to let her go and adoopted the child from another man that takes God,don't allow anyone to put ideas in your head pls ,sincerely open your heart to God and let him heal you,marriage is deep very deep except she does not want to be with you anymore,if for any reason my hubby chooses to leave me i will make sure am not miserable and enjoy my life which does not mean sleeping around but seeing that i have a better life with or without a man.A lot of adultery is going on everywhere ,you were only lucky to find out,on another note you should be grateful to God that you did not wait till another 15yrs to find out you were fathering another man's children.

in the mean time nairalanders while not trying to justify the act of his wife,any one can fall o especially woman,it's normal with men but women are as well into it now like toks said marry for the right reasons cos if u are carzy abt your man it's very unlikely you will cheat and then men ask yourslf what are you doing wrong?If you have good sex with your wife she will be too tired to try anoda man o,do you guys ever bother to ask your wife what she wants in bed or you just assume you are a super man and she loves you.Women fake orgasm so ask questions o ,am opportuned to hear a lot of issues in marriage cos am involved in some ngo and a lot of men are becoming increasingly irresponsible,a woman i spoke to recently said to me her hubby wanted to make love to her and she was telling her hubby how he should touch her and her hubby was like shld u be interested in pleasure or getting pregnant?cs they have been trying for kids,she said as the man climbed her the only thing on her mind was an ex boyfriend who knows how to touch her in the right places and she was hell bent on seeing that guy not for sex o but for pre-intimacy.God will help everyone by the way she told me she has started masturbating ,something she never did when she was single and her hubby does not know

@ whyme222 be careful what you choose to do,while not justifying what your wife did,say to u,what if the nxt wife cheats on u,even if u married her as a virgin,nd what if the tables were turned sincerely ask God to teach you wht to do,if u live her she will also move on too,women are not so crazy abt marriage anymore,at least if u live her she's free to sleep with someone else,and am sure she did not plan to cheat I've heard worse stories nd they resolved it to become stronger.God will help u

hello wonderful and joyful mothers and fathers of childen,@blendy HWA i trust God i will have a testimony at my next wedding anniversary,i read that story o i do not know if the victims actually believe it's there baby or someone else's i get person wey don born with a similar story and they even invited me to try ,i lost me peace the entire nite ,i want to use this opportunity to beg all of us no matter the desperation,please be careful what you do ,don't let inlaws or even your hubby drive you to do crazy things,and i want to thank the men who have been supportive over the years and are still are.There was a pix that was circulated sometime last year of a woman having sex in a church or uncompleted building ,not sure,as the man was penetrating her they told her to be saying power enter and she was saying that,some people might say she was foolish,but i think when people are desperate they do all sorts and most of the time desperation comes from been under pressure,the upsetting thing abt this woman was that,they insisted she close her eyes and am not sure the man used condom,not one man o cos it was so visible i saw it clearly and there were like about three men there taking turns,i wept and wept and told the person that sent that pix to stop circulating it.Pressure pushed me to quickly try IVF this year,just because my younger sister is getting married this year ,but am learning that destinies differ and her baby won't stop mine.In the mean time does anybody know if it's possible to transport stored eggs from a country to another.Someone i know needs to do that.PEACE

truth is people looking for children are desperate,i've been trying to conceive for 5yrs now and i've been offered this same option.How on earth will i be pregnant and they will tell me no scan can see the baby and that i must deliver there?There are so many stolen babies in the hands of desperate parents,what i do not know is if they are aware.My family friend did the same and after my husband abused me that am not serious that so and so person is pregnant,i called them to introduce me to the doctor,lo and behold na herbal way they used,ministers in the house of God,though there's was somewhere in Ondo State,long story short,i could not sleep the night they told me,me that am anxious by default before,how will i be pregnant and no scan will see my baby,ijump am pass o,what i do not know is if they know na stolen pikin dey born or na der pikin,loads of people dey dis tin.My prayer is that they catch all of them

Heavenly father,hear the cry of your children,from the beginning it was not soooo,father look upon us with mercy,@blendy how are d twins?u are an inspiration always@peace5050 no need for confusion,calm down,calming down cld mean staying off NL for some time,I've had panic attacks cos of too much information in d past,u see d herbs one,u know wen pple are desperate they take anything including pastors,sometime last week 2 pple were arrested for stealing babies ,d victim said she came der nd dey gave her herbs nd dey called her to come and deliver only for dem to be arrested,with IVF der are no guarantees,a family friend tried 4X in canada,all bfn,na wen she come Naija it clicked,I think its a gamble but d diff btwn naija nd oda countries is dat dey gamble with knowledge and facility,for instance I think in making a decision again I will consider a facility where freezing works well so that even if a cycle fails I can try FET,I know bridge has dat facility but I think they are expensive,nd for me that my hubby is a typical african man,I have to get d clinic to store his sperm so e does not have to keep going ,in d mean time take your time in making a decision,I've not decided where to go nxt cos my oga @ d top say he no go anywhere again,but am seriously considering going to SA to freeze my eggs pending the time we decide on what to do.The God of heaven will be God indeed

Very true,i agree

@peace 5050 welcome on board,am sure you will learn loads from blendy.I used Emeka too ,though it did not work but if my husband as difficult as he is can like Emeka then you are good to go Budget at least NGN1mm,he charged me 960k but i paid extra for anesthesia cos i refused to be put to sleep cos of a previous cardiac arrest episode.Emeka is ok,i am thinking of SA too cos it comes to abt 700k but that does not include the tlts and accommodation and accomodation in SA is expensive,my attitude is with Ivf u can get preggo even in the most incompetent hospital .All the best.

am sure the marriage was really to get papers,there are some decisions you take in life that only yu and your God should take it,it's not fair what he's done,i have an aunt in the same situation infact it's been over 10 yrs and they don't even have kids,she's already 45 and the man has settled down in us and has kids but my aunt is still hopeful that she will go and join them.I had a similar situation but this time in Uk,when i got tired i took a visa and went to uk myself,eventually it did not work,let him know you want to move on with your life that you are tired of waiting,maybe not divorce yet but you have a right to affection ,what do men take us for sef?log of woods that will stay faithful for 6yrs whle they are away with another woman?Do what you think is best for you,life is short jare.

@believer 84 halleluyah,this God is tooooooo much,congratulations

@MAMATRIPLETS PLS GO FOR IT,respect to the ivf founder,may God bless his soul as he rests in peace

@hawtmummie be careful before you go for any flushing and if it's only the left tube that is not patent you can still get preggo with the right tube,i know someone who got preggo even after one tube was removed cos of ectopic pregnancy

@ subzidi no vex o i just saw again that your AMH is good ,no vex abeg,God go do am

@honeybony,i don't even think i should add IVF to any trip jare, how are you holding up,if you can be on bedrest till 2nd trimester please do considering your past experiences,i know we need this our job but sometimes we really need to let go,@zeezy i did not really have an evacuation cos the baby came down on its own and they only removed the placenta(now that am mentioning this i can picture how it happened hmmn)i suspect the procedure you are talking abt is hysteroscopy ,it looks into your womb,i've been avoiding it for like so loong,@subzidy this life sef you are pretty young so am wondering why you have a low amh,was 34 abt two weeks ago too ,God this too must pass o,am ,yea viagra helps with implantation but i think that's when your linning is thin.Dr Sher in yankee uses it regularly(Sher medical institute)as for the trip ,if i get sense i won't go ,i've started using style to tell my hubby to represent the two of us,but let's just see how it goes,the earlier you complete this ttc journey the better o @ inwangobio thanks a lot o ,how are the triplets doing,that is all i see in my dreams triplets,it will come to pass.Our very own blendy how are the boys?

@ subzidi God bless you and thanks for finding time to attend blendy's dedication,na so we go attend your own too and everyone on NL still in God's waiting room,would have been there too but na mainland i dey and men sundays are usually crazy,Emeka wants me to try again sometime in July but sis ,human beings are funny o ,my immediate younger sister is getting married in August in London and so am caught in between going for her wedding and proceeding on a vacation or doing the IVF cos it will be too much strain doing both about the same time,am sorry abt the egg quality o but sis my uncle's wife had only two eggs,one fertilised and they have a boy,me i had 17eggs,15 fertilised and it still did not work,meanwhile all this drugs you are taking,who recommend am?I personally feel it's a lot o ,or could it be age related?if you want to increase your eqq quality maybe you should ask Dr Emeka or at least carry him along.I hear Metformin is good for that.All the very best

Hallo everyone @honeyboo congrats once again and thanks for the advice,@inwangobio thanks for the advice too ,you know IVF is not cheap like that especially when you are running other ventures,i just wan recover small jare(emotionally & financially)@ pikinmama welcome and keep up the good work of educating people o cos people are ignorant even educated people,what you are doing is a ministry o,i hav a fanily friend who had her twin boys with ICSI in london,they are seven yrs old now,na every woman who no get pikin for church she dey tell to go and try IVF o and she said all of them done born apart from one who is like 7months preggo so well done.@redeemer save you can check bridge website you will see their price,i did my 1st cycle with Emeka and he charged me 960k but cos i had a cardaic arrest in the past while trying to do a laparascopy he said he was not going to put me to sleep for egg collection so i paid an extra 185k for an anesthesiologist and am glad i did cos i had an epidural for the egg collection,a lot of people also swear by St Ives ,i've not been there but i know of at least one person who had her baby there but am beginning to feel IVF eventually works when you are persistent,just do your homework well,while not recommending anyone to you i'll say from my experience that any doc that my hubby likes is good and he loved Emeka,infact he has told me he's not following me to any hospital again if it's not Emeka ,IVF is such an emotional roller coaster that you need to work with an FS who will continue to reassure you that all will be well.Emeka & I joke that he will collect more money from me when i dedicate my twins or triplets,i will still try with him just trying to psyche myself again ,my attitude is that if someone can have a successful treatment anywhere,then you will also have yours,i've seen people go to US,UK and SA and they eventually have their successes in Nigeria and vice versa,infact i have an uncle who after 4 failed attempts in canada tried in Nigeria for the first time and he has a boy now so pray and take steps.God will hear.

@ hebrew woman and pretty momma thanks for your advice,I still believe it can happen naturally but I nd to be disciplined myself cos am terrible with drugs in the mean time can u recommend any gynae?I heard der's a gynae in surulere who is very good with ovulaTion monitoring?Can u pls give me the details of d gynae u used cos I don't want to go to any of d gynaes have used in the past,pls wld appreciate ur quick response,thanks nd God bless,or u can pm @ dketubah@gmail.com

congrats honeybony,please take it easy o and relax well.Am on a big break

Wonderful mothers. In the house how una all dey do,pls o what did u guys do differently,bng preggo b4 but lost it at 18weeks,diagnosis is pcos,high prolactin,recently had a failed. Ivf,I want to try naturally again cos am sure it's possible,any thing I can. Do differently,my tubes are still solid

Mama T am in,does it mean 12-3 or anytime between 12 and 3am

darling smiler,God will rebuke the devourer for your sake this time around,i love your spirit and God will honour you this time around,was alomost crying when i went through your post,let us keep celebrating because we will forever celebrate.@ most merciful God is on your side o no shaking @ Ticha it is well are you going the IVf route,i want to relax and try naturally,i wanted to see a doc tomm but i figured out i should just wait till my next period so i won't have to pay for consultancy tomm and another one next cycle jare,all this HMO's no dey cover fertility treatment.kikeladea very good idea maybe i should start writing a journal too,can't think of a name now but i think you should look for something more humourous.Smiler it is very well with you ,i think IVF or this journey to ttc usually works when we get to that point of absolute surrender,and i have a feeling this is your season,thanks for sharing your story,am deeply touched & encouraged,like someone said to me when you have your baby in the end ,it's all so worth it.Enjoy!!!!!

@pm05337 congratulations ,@ inwangobio am thinking of trying Abuja o,my brother lives in Abuja and has been harrassing me to come to see Shuaibu,they attend the same church(HOTR) but how will i cope with the monitoring part plus i hate to fly,can you please ask shuaibu if he can treat someone living in Lagos,how madam ,no vex should have asked,am not in a hurry to start treatment again at least IVF but i need to gather information and make up my mind.@ chi9 i don't know anywhere in Nigeria where you can do ivf at 500k ,maybe St Ives when they start their promo but if you can have 500k am sure you can save additional 500k,but in the mean time why don't you look for a good gynae since you got preggo naturally in 2010,am sure you can still get preggo naturally again,start saving as a back up plan and try seeing another gynae who won't tell you to do ivf after three months.As for the pressure my darling what can i say,i just had a failed ivf cycle and people tell me am strong,maybe i am but you see God is not an emotional God,he's only moved by our constant faith and perserverance in him when i had a miscarriage at 18weeks in 2009,i thought i was loosing my mind ,infact i left my house with a small bag like a mad woman,but you see a friend who saw my state called our pastor and he asked me to see him and guess what he said to me "REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE GO THROUGH IN LIFE GOD REMAINS FAITHFUL" and he told me the story of a couple who after 6yrs of waiting eventually got pregnant and when she was abt 6months ,she had a fatal accident and of course lost the baby,but now they have all the children they want.Life in itself is not fair,there are people who can afford IVF easily without saving for 2months and they get preggo naturally and vice versa at least most people.For everyone and chi9 please let's reduce this pressure,i know some families are wicked but since we have all been ttc or doing IVF can anyone tell me a family member gave them 1mm for treatment apart from your spouse?very unlikely or will they pay your children's school fees when you eventually have them,you know why am saying all this?Delays are longer cos of anxiety and pressure,the last time i had a mc ,i started having panic attack episodes ,migraines,dizzy spells,etc just because i was putting myself under pressure to get preggo again,i know it's tough but please let's all learn to put anxiety aside no matter the pressure and let's pray for favour with our spouses and in laws,am learning to pray abt anything and evrything.Above all when God made man he gave us dominion over everything thing on the face of the earth,that includes EVERYTHING,IVF,ICSI,OVULATION INDUCTION,BLOCKED TUBES,DOCTORS,UNFRUITFULNESS(I HATE TO CALL IT BARENNESS OR INFERTILITY)and it's not bibilical to keep spending our hard earned money on IVF ot whatever(note that i don't have a problem with this) but i need us to understand that we need to attack the root of this problem which is Mr Devil,not spiritual wife or hubby or in law or some witch from our villages.The devil is our common enemy and he is the cause of unfruitfulness so let us agree together in prayers everyday,everyhour,every minute that we are delivered from the curse of barenness.
When God said everything he created was good in the beginning,he meant it and that includes our wombs,tubes,sperm and every reproductive organ in our bodies.For the christains amongst us do you know that after God cursed cain he still went ahead to have Enoch and still built a city for God,how much more when you are not under the curse of God?This is the summary of my long epistle,let us fight this matter with all the arsenals with we have,first of all the word of God and then medical expertise.Remember it all ends and begings with him.We have overcome.Please pray for everone on Nairaland that is ttc and also everyone preggo at the moment.@ chi9 i saw on a blog of a doctor who they say he's good with fertility treatment especially ovulation ,someone who had a faild ivf used him and got preggo naturally,maybe you want to try him.His name is Dr Smith ,i think he's clinic is somewhere in surulere.It's friday please guys let's have some rest o

@ obakovich with all due respect I would like to say you are not ready for the commitment called marriage,so in the interest of both of u leave her now cos you don't sound like a man willing to stand by her woman,cos many more challenges will come @ eagle eye if the tables were turn am sure d man won't even let her know until after the marrige rites

@ golden baby u are obviously anxious,you really need to calm down leg up or leg down just calm down.In the meantime does anyone know a doc that is good with ovulation monitoring?

Gd evening evryone o,been quiet for some time,work has been so crazy of late am already dozing so I'll make dis brief @ emerald1 don't do this to yourself o ,even if you are in year 1 in the uni keep your baby please,your fiancee shld understand o,it is the woman that suffers most of dis issue o ,it may be tough in the beginning but I can assure you when u see ur baby it will be worth it in the end,all the best