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Madam all the projects he has been doing was it for just him or for all of you as family, i want to guess it was for the whole family, so when he came to you to assist with a new project, why did you make it into an "individual" project... I'm not justifying his actions but he probably felt belittled by you and he should have communicated it... However when you found out about his actions, did you go to him in a hostile manner or a friendly manner... You stated that when you found out he took your money there was no more peace in the house, which will make me wonder if you are the one initiating the quarrel coz I know for a fact how woman are blunt with their utterance.... YOU HAVE AS MUCH FAULT IN THIS ISSUE JUST LIKE HE ALSO HAS FAULTS and there were better ways to handle the situation than starting a fight with him

redseason:
Most sensible comment!
Your husband’s sin is stealing from his wife. It’s shameful cos it’s like stealing from your own self! That aside;
You never saw yourself as part of his team. You wanted to conceal your selfishness, but the self in you still could not be totally masked. You could glorify the occasional 100k, 50k, 20k you put in the house project. Mama, you are not the first! And fyi, in terms of ratio, your contribution will most definitely amount to less than 5% of entire project cost. A modest 3 bedroom house will gulf at least 15m.
So many missing dots; is the family house solely in his name or your both names, because I now wonder the rationale you wanted something solely on your name alone? Has this husband been a provider or a deadbeat? Who bought your car? Have you ever misappropriated funds he gave to you? Got married at 22, did you move into his house with money or he set you up?

Exactly!!!!

Fahvvy:
How do you forgive him?
By forgiving him na ...

Marriage is not relationship o that you can brezz in and out as you wish ...
Marriage will test and stretch you farther than anything else will ..

On a more serious note...
It's clear and glaring that you don't consider yourself as a team? ...

Let's look at your write up ...

I have always helped him in his house projects,might not be much 100k,50k,20k when need be,I never siphoned my money to myself,as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head,(3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)

Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that "we" should buy it together,I told him no,I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it,( just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller."we" did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.

So even when "two have become one" you still act as if you guys are not a team ...

The only time the word "we" appeared there, it was because it was suggested by your hubby ...

So while he sees you guys as a team, you see yourself as competitors ...

Until you change your mindset, it's best you don't go back ...

I'm not trying to excuse your hubby's actions, however, if you intend to go back with this mindset of unforgiveness, disunity and distrust, just be prepared for everyday quarrel ...

And that too will affect your kids ...

Na only you don talk better thing here, both of them are at fault but the problem started when she excluded herself as an individual.... The man too is manipulative

SlayerOfSatanst:
We were hanging out with my girlfriend when we stumbled upon a guy, he looked upset and angry. She quickly introduced me as a neighbour. I didn't waste a minute to listen to her. When we reached home, i gave her the last beating anyone could give her and ejected her out of my house. She has called and texted me several times but i took off my sim. Never going to accept her.

See bastard, you beat woman u want make we clap for you??

I didn't like this guy before but he has always proved how he is the best footballer to ever exist... All he just wants to do is be part of the winning team, may be toxic sometimes but that's the spirit of a winner... HAPPY I WITNESSED SUCH GREATNESS �

Nairaland niqqaz are fools, most of yall at least, this guy is praising his wife for supporting him and yall mofokaz are angry, but when yall see thread about how a lady brought a man to bankruptcy, yall will start lambasting ladies for taking from men instead of adding to him.. UNA DE MAD!!!! This guy's wife deserves this online appreciation to show other ladies how a real woman should act, so yall mofokaz should stop being bitter that yall are dating parasite and not a queen like her

Which kind mumu be this, your girlfriend left you for another man and you're going to confront the man, how stupid are yall niqqaz getting... I've always said to myself IF I EVER CATCH A GIRL I'M DATING WITH ANOTHER MAN, I WILL ASK THE GUY FOR 2K AND HE CAN HAVE HER... Godforbid make i stress over woman who clearly doesn't want to be with me
*spits*

With all due disrespect YOU ARE MAD, she says she has a boyfriend bu stillt comes to your house even after you made sexual advances at her which she turns down but proceeds to seduce you by licking/sucking your ear.. This is my opinion, she is trying to use you to get money off you and you are too stupid to see that

So the said Facebook user has been using same profile pic from 2011 to 2022, this must have been photoshopped by an agbadorian.... SOMETHING SMELLS FISHY

Oga did you just ask " why is most of our girls into hook up" ��‍♂️ First of all who is patronizing them because if people like you aren't patronizing them, THEY WILL STOP and we won't be reading stupid write ups like this... Also no be inside hook up you meet her come like her? Why you come de complain ode

MR MAN, YOU BANGED HER AND NOW YOU ARE FORMING IRRITATED, HOW STUPID... SEE OGA, IF YOU WANT HER TO LEAVE, PAY HER FOR NURSING YOU TO HEALTH, AND LET HER KNOW THAT YOU CAN CARE FOR YOURSELF HENCEFORTH AND YOU APPRECIATE HER ASSISTANCE... (NOTE: THE PAYMENT PART IS IMPORTANT)

Rozross:
Men are no longer interested in marriage generally because they are already getting marriage benefits from single ladies doing wifely duties, so it has killed their zeal and interest in marriage. It’s not about money for modern men, it’s mostly about freedom and fear of commitment. The greatest fear of a promiscuous man is commitment and almost all modern young men are promiscuous hence their lack of interest in marriage

"getting marriage benefits from single ladies doing wifely duties" emmmm maddam, what about females getting marriage benefits from single men doing husbandly duties

tayo60:
Any amount so far it's my spec

When it's a man paying for it abi

I don't say this to sound insulting but you were probably bad in bad... Most girls think just having a pussy is enough, most of yall during sex are like dead wood, una go just stay there inactive and moaning while the guy just de suffer himself say him de Bleep, even when the lady is on top where she needs to take charge, una go just dey de wait make the guy continue to thrust... Sex is like ping pong (table tennis), I smash and you return the motion

Mariangeles:
So, you didn't read where he typed that the lady's salary is just 80k?

The slap is for that rubbish meme!

This lady is definitely a parasitic leach... I mean the lady in question is only contributing 30k+ per month and you spitting thrash here... If 30k is too much how much do you think is appropriate for a woman to contribute in a marriage

irunoko:
Kanayo has handsome sons

I'll like to have one of them

Oga you are a fool, stupid gay ass motherfucker

I'm a man and i have to say most guys on nairaland are STUPID, if woman say she like money una go complain, and this one wae say she get her own money and no mind of guy get, una still de yarn rubbish

UNA DE MENT!!!!!!

Hold up, why did you not pay since you had money in your account which you claim they wiped

Yeye story

Peace081:
By the end of Shiloh 2021, My own Davido will surely locate me in a big way.. AMEN

See this one, madam go and work for your money, nonsense

[b][/b]Photoshop

emperorshaokahn:
so what is the situation on ground now?.

Some of the gunmen have been killed, most if not all of the prisoners have escaped the remainder of the gunmen are presently hiding inside the prison, hopefully they will caught/killed soon

emperorshaokahn:
i'm surprised people believe this cuck and bull story

Bro it's 100% true, saw it myself

� Yes it's true the trapped themselves, but the prison break was successful, more than 80% of the inmates escaped

Witnessed it myself with my two korokoro eyes

If she no be your wife, no break bank for her, ... In the words of a great wise man "These hoes ain't loyal"

Nigerian girls go like this kind news, always feeling entitled... the truth is you should never try this kind of thing with a lady (especially a Nigerian girl) coz there's no guarantee yall will end up together and at the end of the day NA YOU GO LOSE... The only time this is alright is if the lady is your wife

Deborah98:
why are you barking and who let you loose from your chain mad dog .

What is this one saying... He stated a fact and you couldn't counter with your own fact. It's quite sad that he was right