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thebosstrevor1:
It is because most of the men they are married to are average or poor men.

I haven't seen a woman married to an influential family complaining about the stress of change of name.

Amongst the influential...
There's no complaint because the boss ladies amongst such wives hardly change their names..

As most of these wives get married when young and have little to their names - - so fair game to change...


But imagine 25 years of work, known globally by that name...

Name change ko game change ni




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Lots of interesting comments here..


She's probably smart, hardworking and not very sociable..
Effectively time-poor but may be comfortable financially.. As lots of hospitals pay poorly--with some doctors holding 2-3 jobs to have a decent standard of living.

Advice will be to identify what attracts and build on those factors
In addition, assess how your mid and longterm goals align... And how this can be improved.

Lastly, her grade and choice of specialism matters...

Can't simply compare a medical officer to a specialist registrar or senior postgrad trainee.... Neither can you compare a dermatologist to a pediatric or cardiothoracic surgical trainee. The hours and rotas differ.



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madridguy:
The male companion is heard explaining what happened. He said that when they got to a point along the road, they were asked to make a turn and when they did, the colleagues of the same LASTMA officials who asked them to turn came and stopped them and seized their car.

Don't blame her..

Who wants their car auctioned off



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Good one..

Atta girl!!


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heniford2:
if your outside the country and your coming back keep your notice secret do not discuss it anyone not even ur brother when you arrive higher body guard employ Army and other security to protect you to avoid story your enemy starts from the house so deal with it from the root

Agree with the insider theory..

It's only an insider or close enough due to Covid testing restrictions who would know he was on the way to the airport.


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Interesting puzzle here

A lack of forward planning supported by facts backed up with statistics is the underlying problem here.
Changing and effecting the rules in the book now has compounded the problem!!

Ifesinachi22:
Please advice me.

1. Break the entire house and rebuild.(Restructuring)

Please advice this troubled man.
~Princewill Odidi

NATION NIGERIA OF COURSE.

Restructuring may sound good but I wonder where the finances for the restructure, will vone from...
And what are we restructuring to.. The building is very rickety, unsafe due to previous add-ons... I'm not entirely sure what principles of restructuring will enable an equitable access to all members of the family.

Ifesinachi22:
Please advice me.


2. Terminate the entire leadership of the house and bring in a totally new manager to set up new rules and build a new house. (Revolution)

Please advice this troubled man.
~Princewill Odidi

NATION NIGERIA OF COURSE.

Terminating the leadership.. I ask at what level
At the level of the sons who rather than set up their own businesses and living in their own family estates still shack up with other siblings and now steal from themselves - as the fathers business is theirs effectively - - - yes!!



A new manager might break up the old status quo, identify areas of growth and opportunity, but at who's agenda.

I will state that managing a polity/country is very different from managing a multinational or corporate firm. The agendas and ensuing loyalties with different historical perspectives are sooo different, its mind boggling.
Lastly these corporate exercises are usually for a few years to determine profit, otherwise the next hawk is round the corner to dismantle and pick at the rich helpings whilst tossing away the unproductive bits.
Those principles of short term-ism, huge focus on capitalism without a social welfare structure for the weak, injured and distracted has led to a short term success hinged on a decades of perrenial failure of society.

Ifesinachi22:
Please advice me.

3. Try to maintain the house as it is hoping that someday things will change, the electricity will work and the children will change(Democracy)


Please advice this troubled man.
~Princewill Odidi

NATION NIGERIA OF COURSE.

Watch and pray has been in existence for the past 3 decades or more. It has not led to a significant change in status but light be responsible for the House still being together.
It's clear that's no longer the only solution if we want a strong, working and lasting democracy

Ifesinachi22:
Please advice me.

4. Break the entire house and rebuild the original 3 flats, every unit on its own

4. None of the above. Then tell us your own solution.

Please advice this troubled man.
~Princewill Odidi

NATION NIGERIA OF COURSE.

Breaking the House comes at a cost
Lack of accommodation, livelihood and also runs the risk of a refugee situation. These internal and external factors runs the risk of turning Africa, at least West Africa into a refugee wasteland for 5-10 years at the minimum.
Therefore its in the best interest of surrounding West African countries to desist from being puppets of maleficients who want a destruction of the entity called Nigeria. The initial rich pickings at the early days of trouble will come back to haunt and lead to their downfall invariably.

The vermin or anti-nation will only flow from one nation to another!!
That's what our Pan African elders saw decades ago, and tried fostering this brotherhood of sorts, to hopefully prevent this from happening !!

The AU and tentacles will become ineffective at this time.

Ifesinachi22:
Please advice me.

1. Break the entire house and rebuild.(Restructuring)

2. Terminate the entire leadership of the house and bring in a totally new manager to set up new rules and build a new house. (Revolution)

3. Try to maintain the house as it is hoping that someday things will change, the electricity will work and the children will change(Democracy)

4. Break the entire house and rebuild the original 3 flats, every unit on its own

4. None of the above. Then tell us your own solution.

Please advice this troubled man.
~Princewill Odidi

NATION NIGERIA OF COURSE.

My surmise is a bit of all of the above.

1. Take stock of the assets and liabilities within time frames
2. Understand your stakeholders and assess their importance within the historic context.
3. Understand your paretos in a timelinked manner
4. Understand the effective manners of governance, getting the political will
5. Understudy other democracies that are similar in size, mindset and histories and identify any potentials that can be copied
6. Constitution wasn't written in a day.. Averagely it takes about 3 years.. Despite the call for restructuring, I honestly doubt if this process has been undertaken robustly. Definitely not revised by the populace!!
7. Time lines and trajectories should be pencilled in... Vis a vis other longterm forward planning objectives, once the people have been bought over...

Natl Institute of Stats alongside other multi departmental think tanks involving security, economy, education, health, agriculture and justice should have 3 monthly forecasts devoid of any political influence. Based on stats from local, regional - WA - ECOWAS, Africa as a whole - AU, Developing nation and different trading bodies we belong to.


8. Buying over people is the hardest due to our heterogeneous histories and experience.. But the slogan focusing on building better regions for ourselves, children and generations yet unborn.... Might work.

Transparency alongside education is a Must..

Then there's a fighting chance!!

JaneYave:
Alphism is misconstrued by self defiant responsibility dodging naive males with serious insecurities.

Responsibility remains your dad's not any hapless young man who is yet to support his immediate family.

#stopbeingaleech



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oluwoleife:
Person dey look for means to asylum...u dey complain. Wait till he relocates to U.S

Then he starts online donation requests like a deejay who fled..

Most people don't understand refugee status and the years of turmoil associated with the process. Once they've jumped ship, it's often quite difficult to retrace their steps.


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IMAliyu:
The gender and sex confusion is something I'm well aware of and have encountered a lot in my days wondering the internet.
While we understand gender and sex to be synonyms. Because for +97% of the world your gender and sex is the same.

Some groups have chosen to split the meanings, gender meaning physical expression and sex meaning biological sex.
So someone can be called a woman (because they dress and act and identify as one) who is male with full male equipment..

Gender is as you've defined but sexuality not sex is your preferred mating type

Gender =sex BUT not the same as sexuality.

Interchanging between sex and sexuality has led to some confusion.

A trans woman may still be heterosexual when relating to his birthsex.

So he looks like a woman but prefers and has always preferred to be with a woman rather than a man.. Eg. is the K Jenner.

However Elliot Page is a transman who has always preferred women before his transition

Due to the confusion, its easier not to stereotype her as a lesbian before transition but just to state who his current preference is - - the headache is too much!!

IMAliyu:
But my presentation of Trans people is sort of similar to people who are born with six fingers instead of five. They are humans who should be respected, but they are a small fraction of the population and we shouldn't be changing our society and normal understanding of gender and sex for them, the same way we didn't change biology textbooks and human anatomy to be "humans have six fingers or five" because we understand that it's just a normal mutation that can occur in nature, but it's never the norm.

Haa, your last word will be considered aggressive by the lgbtq..

They might tolerate the sentence-- "a variant of norm" but not the phrase that "they are not the norm" , even though their prevalence in tolerant populations still feature less than 5%.

I find in their need to recognised, the efforts supporting their boomerang come-back, from the days or decades of being undermined or abused, can be sometimes unethical...



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Jman06:
There's also no good evidence that molesting a child by same sex would turn him or her into homosexual. There's no properly documented research to back such claims.

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Quite disagree on this premise.

There may never be voracious evidence due to the unethical nature of such a study.

But it's well known that most voracious pedophiles, particularly those who kill.....have a broad similarity - - they all were raped severally as children.. Mostly homosexual rape.

Other risk factors to suggest a predilection to psychopathic behaviour, were not a consistent feature.



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IMAliyu:
fair enough.

The prison stuff is interesting, because it's a place devoid of the opposite sex.

I've come across a categorisation for some of this kind of people heteroflexible.
They'd usually claim that in the prison environment they don't mind using other men for relieving themselves, but they are strictly romantically attracted to women.

Indeed this thing is complicated.

The different categories within the LGBTQ+ emerge on a regular basis... Increasing confusion on what's still seen as a taboo subject in most cultures.

There's often confusion between gender and sexuality as well.... As most people make assumptions they go hand in hand... That messes up a lot of regular opinions..

Good example that caused a lot of furore a little while ago was.... A trans woman (partly re-assigned) wanting to be with another woman. It turned out that his love interest was a lesbian who preferred to be with a Cis-woman!!... Come see the gbege wey result. .. Law suit after another - regarding obtaining intimacy under false pretences


Right now the non-binary people takes the lead!!!! Is it a "she" /"he" or preferably "they" Depending on the time of the day for some.


God help us all.



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Dermatographia urticaria

Look out for bed bugs or similar agents given the timing of occurrence was after the arrival of the maid.
As the child is likely to be in close contact with the maid's luggage or bed linen, it makes for easy contact.

Might also explain why the maid has features now.



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IMAliyu:
Not unless you already have a proclivity to it.

No amount of gay porn will turn a straight man.
It will just be repulsive.

If it could work like that, then that means the reverse is possible, expose gay men to regular porn until they start liking women again.

Will opine differently that.....
It's a little more complex.. Shades of gray rather than black or white.

Heteros have been known to fall into the bisexual category from past rapes and psychological trauma.....

A good example is.... prison (incarceration) rapes coupling - bromance et al.



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Laugh in Swahili.....
Different strokes for different folks..



For the self-deluded female..

I can save your name as "Baby mi"
And still have my
"fab(t) baby" ,
"baby wa" , "my lolo", "queen"
"babeee" and every other connotations for the different side kicks I might decide to have..


Unnecessary attention to little things...



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Seems like this chap is high on Oshogbo weed..
It's alarming how myopic his assertions are!!



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Very well done, chap

Hope YB from a "K" state is learning...



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AJ missed a dangerous one here..... If this is to be believed.



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gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

Meanwhile, Around August last hear he was finding it hard to fathom Bobrisky gender.

Using the name JESUS to write most of his useless post. Very disrespectful !! Imagine his last phrase 'practice Jesus kind of love'. Tarh !! Jesus is against gay ! God will have mercy.

Moral lesson: Don't judge people anyhow, be very careful when you castigating some one because you can't tell the future.

Here was what he wrote, August, 2O2O.


I hate guys like this Man. Last year he attack Bobrisky and Tonto dikeh around two to three times on Instagram.

Note: am not in support of gay or transgender whatever, just that he could have keep quiet than pointing fingers.

The power of incentives - - can make a person disown their loving parents!!

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?? Covid related


RIP to the deceased
Comfort to her loved ones.


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Bomboclat talk



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Often wondered about the possibility of a gaseous event occurring at the time this picture was taken.....

Can someone help with answers please..

I remember a Mr Fayemi extending his welcome...


Here is the reply...

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Interesting developments...

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lefulefu:
they dont
dangote own is even better because for one thing he"s single so anybody can understand.if this were to be a rich married dude in the west then the wife will be suing for divorce now

Gbam!!

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lefulefu:
like the case of tiger woods
remember the numerous porn stars and call girls he banged and they came forward to kiss and tell which finally destroyed his marriage
I heard one of the porn actresses joclyn james or what they called her was paid a heft sum of money by one media organisation to give a blow by blow account of her sex with tiger woods.Her claim was the most authentic .Even porn actress stormy daniels was ready to blow her own secret in the bedroom with donald trump until donald settled her with a tidy sum not to say anythinh

Truth be told.... This is common in certain corridors of power, money or influence. But largely done codedly through corporate facilitators.... . But then the facilitator or singular actors/ actresses can turn the blackbook into a blackmailing machine

As seen with the highly connected super-wealthy chap who died in custody awaiting underage pimping charges..

The black footballer wailing like a banshee is the most recent publicised example.



It's a shame that a significant number of people in privileged positions don't realise this and do not put frameworks in place to guard themselves.


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Good work!!


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Yoighaman:
...but man must f**k nau... it's part of human nature.... food, sleep, s*x, etc.

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If you have to, do so armed with NDAs amongst other legal ammunition.

Bad behaviour is not limited to colour, class or education. A woman scorned can rise to any limit to bring her ex-lover down!!

At least she's not brought any babies out yet, I muse, so clever of him to have organised a vasectomy at some point.


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Tsukee812:
Some people's brain cells needs a hard reset. How would a normal thinking human being want to kill her geese that lays golden eggs for her? There's nothing other than yearn for fame/popularity that propelled that lady to do what she did.

Simplesssss

She's been dumped!!!

After 9 years, according to her submission, to find she had competitors in different states of the Union and possibly in other countries..

A true sailor, our chap has been!! ..

The wails of a woman scorned!!!


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lefulefu:
what stops him having an educated classy lady as a mistress.a man of dangote's caliber can easily have a beautiful young medical doctor or an attractive female academician as his mistress.why go for a callgirl.

Might not be interested in the contents of the cranium..


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Can someone serve our dear presido a thrice daily serving of a fresh dish of Velvet beans with some greens please..

Hopefully he responds faster with this nutritional treatment given his condition which comprise the ffg - hypomimia/ bradyphrenia/ distinct apathy!!!


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