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The simple approach to this.... Is to find someone who aligns with you mentally regarding your opinion on value creation on most things of life.... Time, money, family, Religion, culture etc



A thing is only worth the value it has or the value placed on it..

That's why a watch could be worth N50 or 5000 dollars depending on the perceived value:--- whether it be a plastic Oluwole version Casio or a good quality Swiss

*After all they both tell the time
*They are both liable to fall apart, the guarantee on the Swiss makes for a prolonged/ lifetime guarantee but not necessarily
*The Swiss may look better. But not necessarily..
*I might only need it for a shortwhile so why get something expensive except to show off or build value as a piece of art.



I muse over the back-and-forth
.... and feel the focus/angst is on the symptoms rather than the root cause.



When you as a man go for a heavily made up lady who lives way over her paycheck and whose obvious focus is to be someone's arm candy and Se..cxx tool, it's a self-defeating aspiration to suddenly want her metamorphose into a home-building partner just because you put a ring on her!!! Not all caterpillars become butterflies, you know!!


And that mantra... Fake it till I make it has put a lot of people in trouble on the longterm as they remain empty drums with no substance. Why bother to improve myself if I can lie/act my way through life!!!

I'd agree that some virgin-faced "seasonal mgbeke imports" straight from the village stream to big megacities may be inclined to adopt a similar attitude in order to be a feminist like their new found sisters.. But digging deep, her sense of value creation has always been skewed.



I'll adopt the same rules to the spinster.. You go for "faworoja" who inertly feels his fineboy looks +/- muscles, articulate "fone-tized" speech with intermittent name-dropping ( aka famzing) wins a place in your heart after a good rough and tumble.. Then it's your loss, lady!!

Never turn a gigolo into a husband!!


Apologies if my premise hurts, but hey its my opinion.





Overall, its your foundation that determines the longevity of the marriage..

Will you enjoy or endure :-- I think both happens.. Afterall a bed of sweet smelling beautiful roses also have thorns within!!





Stay woke
Ji Masun

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I remember a lady posting her pictures here on NL.... Showing bruises both old and new, neck lacerations, full set of teeth marks...... received from her lesbian partner.

Most responders were concerned about her choice of partner rather than the extent of assault she had been through.


Its a shame that people have to tolerate such unwillingly.

C'est la vie


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lefulefu:
there was one i watched on investigative discovery channel.the lady was talking about how she was sexually enslaved wen she was in the bdsm thing.her partner would force her to drink his urine and sometimes whip her so bad that her skin would pull off

Its an absurd perversion, definitely when Expressed in extreme form. Both for the sadistic and the masochistic participants. I feel that there might be an underlying, unresearched abuse or psychological trauma at some point.. For those who partake without drugs/alcohol....

I adjudged it to be similar to the "cutters"


But to each his/her own!!


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Hate to say this..
Some haters are on this thread...

Kai,.... It stinks to the high heavens!!


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Commercialised polyamory



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Palantir:
Really? I have taken Coca-Cola in 1 European, 2 African,1 middle-eastern and 1 Asian country. Tasted the same to me.

No sir, it doesn't... Not at all.
You've got to be a connoisseur like the op and myself to know the difference..


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Nice....

you could almost say stately
Stylish and not ostentatious

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An extra Rembrandt or Monet wouldn't look out of place


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lefulefu:
BDSM sex gone another level
used to think bdsm is a white thing but it seems more blacks are into it

It cuts across races but may be better tolerated in the Western world where there is a ready availability of partners or parties.. Ruling out concerns about legalities of non-consensual activity, and .... then fuelled by drugs/ alcohol ........ The use of safe words in a controlled environment gives a sense of safety as well initially.... until extreme forms are practised.


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Isobug:
Believe this crap of a story and you can believe anything

There have been reports of extreme BDSM resulting in homicides... So it's not impossible.

The advantage this lady has, is that the hubby is increasing his manifestation of sadistic behaviour..little by little.. So she can remove herself from the situation.


The homicide victims were not so lucky as many were within transactional arrangements and possibly misusing drugs at the time to recognise early .... how fatal the encounter was to be....




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Buezejames:
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I wonders if my husband has a spiritual problem.But doctor and a psychologist we ran said that he is suffering from sad.Ever since then,we go for counseling ,but yet no atom of positive effect on him

It all started when we were dating. we don’t normally have sex. He always tell me that he don’t want to rush anything or offend hi maker by involving in premarital sex. we dated for 2 years without sex only kissing, hugging and sleeping on each other. Immediately we got married, we had a quick sex which resulted to my first son. He even wrote sex time table and pasted it in our room. Anytime am horney and demanded for $ex, he will tell me that he is in prayer week or we will have a short quicky. I got used to the quickie.

“Last 7 months, he called in the midnight and told me that he has not enjoyed sex as a married man, we talked about it and i promised him t do my best that i don’t enjoy it too. We agrred to enhance our sexual Life.

“Three days Later, He came home with a gift which led to a shot romance i have never witnessed before, since our 3 years of marriage it led to a rough $ex, he was beating me and hitting me with anything he placed his hands on moaning while i was crying and trying to escape.Our plastic jug i placed beside our bed was smashed on my head, he even used his belt, whipping me like a thief and moaning till he cum.

“He pleased to me and told me that he enjoyed it. He took me to hospital and they gave pain killer. Later he explained it is the only way he enjoys $ex. That if he didn’t see me in pain, won’t enjoy the sex. That incident alone got me afraid. I started avoiding him in bed. I later found out that am pregnant and the nurses told me that i need to be having sex with my husband now.

“I told him that, and he was very happy. That Night, we had another rough sex which lead to another injuries, he later bought a chain and key for me to use and chain him if he turns wild but it didn’t work. I talked to a friend and she directed us to a physiologist and a doctor, he was given drugs and started counselling.

“As am talking to you now, we had sex two days ago, he nearly killed me with hammer, he didn’t even remember that i was pregnant, he raised me up and hit me on our drawer, he smashed our standing mirror on my bum bum. it was our neighbors that rescued me when they heard my cry and noise that was coming from our room. I didn’t even know when i was rushed to hospital because i fainted because he hit my head on our wooden bed. Thank God for my neighbor who came for my rescue because i wouldn’t have come out alive till he cum because according to doctor, he said that i ave a small brain injury and my baby is not in good condition, my mum and my elder brother is in the hospital now. They said he won’t marry me again.

“I love this man and he loves me, leaving him in this kind of problem will it help him? will i be able to abandon my first child there and go? He has been pleading to see me and pay the hospital bill or even know the condition of my wounds but my brother refused. Please i need advice..

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Some people will be "loving " till they enter grave and be slowly covered by sand..

He beat you till you went into a coma whilst pregnant.. After smashing mirror, hammer on you... And you're still singing love..
This is extreme BDSM or even worse..

You better get your son and run for your dear life. Share access once you're certain he won't harm your son.


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Simple question

How many pieces were available?

Another question..

Where is the evidence other than an assertion that the masks were sold out?

Media-hype is simply what this is.. FOMO now comes in with batch 2 and others



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Now that is classy!

A Rembrandt won't go amiss


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Abuse should Not be tolerated regardless of race, sexuality, gender orientation...

That is the message we should focus on




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Islie:
Sister alleges LUTH officials conspired brother’s lover to hide, loot him




https://thenationonlineng.net/sister-alleges-luth-officials-conspired-brothers-lover-to-hide-loot-him/

I thought this "living zombie" format was a nollywood invention.. E dey happen for real life..

It'ld appear that this man's appetite for "strange women" has led to his downfall if his sister's tale is to be believed.


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Way to avoid unnecessary expenses
No to wedding suits.. Groom and his men
No to wedding gown.. And the ladies-in-waiting dresses, the miniature couple (ring bearer and little bride)
No to Aso oke
NO to aso-ebi PLC
No to full hall and catering ( appetiser, small chops, main 3 course meal, afters/ desserts, take-away)
No to overpriced decorations
No to wine, beer, all the inbetweeners


Mennnn.... Good idea on 2nd thoughts


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ugolinze123:
You are considering if you will ever find another girl beautiful like her abi...I hate simps and you are one of them..come on men you are putting too much in an ordinary relationship you not even sure about. Am not saying you shouldn't give her but this is too much...get that thought off your mind about how well she bangs you or how beautiful she is..there alot of good girls out there.wake up man

E don pass sleep

Na complete zombie!!

Imagine, a full-bodied Naija man not boy dey misyarn anyhow..
Kai what kind breastmilk did you have, hernn!



Make I waka pass or rather fly pass
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ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

Your village people have truly finished the work on your head!!


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Beolly:
What is SB/SD arrangement?

Sugarbaby/ sugardaddy similar to Aristos but exclusive relationships.

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Beolly:
have a look at this

Your example is a clear case of "soft-touch prostitution".

Clearly a transactional s..ecx relationship....


If this is a SB/ SD arrangement, then fine!!! as there are clearly set out terms of business.. When the kpekus is tiring, move onto the next fresh thing.. Expect to pay premium for extras.



However in the Op's case, she was a girlfriend and not a commercial lady. So there is a clear demarcation.. That's what's upsetting:-- the deceit


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AdmissionGetEas:
I don't know how girls trick some guys to chop them finish... Not me never


Check my signature for 200level University admission without jamb

They are quite well-versed.. After appropriate psychoanalysis...pushing the right buttons

That decoder jus dey make money for them!!


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Ladikwa:
I thought she loved me not knowing that she was just after my money. But I was not able to spend much because I am broke for now, but I have a land I am in the process of selling to start a business which she didn't know, because I didn't tell her cause I don't trust her that much.

Well we broke up because she has a guy that is the main boyfriend, without me Knowing thinking I was number one.

I just look back and imagine how much this girl will have chop from me. Though I love her and am hurt after the breakup, but I'm grateful that all the amount of money I would have love to spend on her, to show my love I can use it build my business and help those around me.

And it taught me how not to trust girls 100%, and to be very careful about loving while using my head. If she knew about the land I wanted to sell she would have continued pretending to love me.

"Guys be careful, don't trust these girls 100%"

What is it with all these boys who keep screaming... "She chopped me, the girl finish my pocket",.. for crying out loud.

You be her papa or husband.. That you take on the title of honorary ATM....aka Mugu


Hear una sef.. You wan sell land give woman enjoy... Infact your village people don finish ya mata completely!!!!

naptu2:
https://www.cbn.gov.ng/Out/2020/CCD/CBN%20Bankers%20Comm%20Suspend%20Layoffs.pdf

Good.... Great news!!


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This applies to a lot of poor folks but middle class parents are sometimes guilty.


The usual yoruba greeting comes to mind.. Translated it reads reaping the benefits of blessings of one's children..

But in actual practice, it translates to forcing those kids to give over and above what is affordable...

A good parent wants to educate the children, support them in their chosen legal careers.. But when a demand is made by the parent for a significant percentage of the child's earnings, mostly to show off to neighbours or other family members, that's plain absurd and wicked if I must say..


But do these parents learn.. Errmmm not in most cases.

That's why these kids sometimes marry nasty spouses who help them grow some balls otherwise they expire under the weight of demands




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budaatum:
This suffer is not limited to Nigerian banks. Europe's banks are suffering too and the only thing saving American bank is plastering by the Fed, though that can't last forever.

Undoubtedly, there will be job losses
But the numbers published by Access is a lot.

Why not look into reduced hours or a cut in salaries as Wigwe has done.. Or better still declare no dividend in the forthcoming year.. Everyone can see the current circumstances are unprecedented and unpredictable.

Pushing thousands into the job market at such a time as this, an act that might be followed by other financial institutions is not the right way!!



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subcbouy:
There is no perfect society, people in developed countries still disobey rules. All this assertion that people obey rule is a lie. It may be minimal unlike ours.

True true..

No be people dey carry placard in America... Say they wan go back to work as hunger dey sama their heads!! With bills racking up too..
That's why it annoys when some clout-chasers come online making out that it's all rosy "in the abroad"!!!

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chrisxxx:
My great grand father was forming bravery. Then he was applauded because he fought his way out of captivity. He was about being transported across the seas into slavery. By providence or sheer luck he cut his restraining chain and escaped.
He was hailed all round the neighborhood.
Today I realized that it was a big mistake. I would have been an American citizen if not for his actions.

Don't kid yourself..

He might have died on the way to the ship, on the high seas, in any of the slavery holds, any of the plantations, killed as he tried bidding escape from the deep south.. Should I carry on

Please don't rubbish the pains nor the gross injustice or flagrant inequalities that have been meted out on these people. It's coloured other facets of life through generations, down even to the delivery of world justice...

Let's joke but in moderation




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Corporate2020:
Please borrow more Buhari and complete Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, Lagos-Abeokuta-Ibadan-Ilorin-Kano Railway and the 2nd Niger Bridge which Goatluck Jonaddaft commissioned on the drawing board and name it Muhammadu Buhari 2nd Niger Bridge. Also start the Lagos-Calabar Eastern Corridor Railway.



When the next looter comes in as President, he will be paying the loans and there will be little to loot while Nigerians will be enjoying the infrastructure built with the loans.

To the last paragraph, that's an utopian dream, mate....
All these incompetent hands simply hand over heavy debts to our children and their children to pay up.

Madam minister ** and her team of sychophants **better read the fine print, ((clean those specs well or better still get a new pair that reads well)) as this is a strategic way of putting the shackles on Naija's feet when we can't pay up and it's deemed a PDP party failure in 5 years..... What hurts most, will be the presence of the persisting lack of infrastructure that it was meant to address in the 1st place.



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SweetCunt97:
So a woman cannot earn political positions without fvcking men? What's wrong with you silly sexists. Is it safe to say the male names there sucked dicks to get the appointments?

Pls let's be guided and give women the respect they deserve.

Please provide a skeletal resume of her service in Government.. And maybe the tide may change


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[quote author= post=89041362]Welcome on board Mr Tor Willams.

A good and better Nigeria is all we want.

Thanks for offering your self to join our darling Daddy as he takes us to a land flowing with milk and honey.

We want to be positive that you are one of the good guys.

Nigeria will be great again in our lifetime.

God bless Nigeria. [/quote]She not He!!!
Please read the article before your usual..... Whatchmacallit


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