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Kudos to Abike and her team, Hon G Onyeama !!


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Autopsy report...
Then proceed

She should have let them perform an autopsy if she had nothing to hide. ..

This long letter or rebuttal is a little long-winded imho.



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This is serious..

IBIS is selling up and leaving

This wan na original bad markeet




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When will the autopsy report be made public??




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Audio!!
Remember a certain Merc that was reclaimed...repossessed or returned....

rawfact:
Kindheartedd, this is going to be very long and deep so don't just scan through. My guess is that you are married to a Yoruba man. I can't tell the tribe you are from. But whether you are also Yoruba or not, you need to know who a Yoruba husband is, whether he is in church or not. Because church or whatever will never take his culture away from him. "Husband" according to Yoruba Culture is know as Ade Ori (Crown) of the Woman, and not just Head as declared in the bible. You can't afford to raise your voice back at him or those other nonsense I read from your previous post. He must have tolerated all that while waiting for you to outgrow them. Because such is for Boyfriend/Girlfriend Stuff - never a Yoruba Marriage. You will have to learn on how to humbly follow his lead. After all, you trusted his leadership before saying yes to his marriage proposal.

With that said as an introduction, you will permit me to abuse you where necessary despite the fact that you seem to hate such. Meanwhile, learn that abuse from a loved one that is above one (parents, elders, husband, uncle and co) is for one's good and never an evil nor intended as such. This is Africa for goodness sake and not some white man's land, where the wife throws out the husband out of his house while his kids calls him by his first name or even shuts him up. Even some good friends can abuse someone to stop one from making a wrong decision. No wonder your bible recorded that the sting of a friend is better than the kiss of an enemy. Anyway, I took out time to read many comments on your thread and I really commend the likes of Newguyhere, Triniti, TheRedpillguy, PrinceMajestic, tunjilana and a few others who were not timid to serve you raw facts. The rest commenters literally boosted your pride.

If you are Yoruba, certainly you will understand those that are mocked as "Iyawo Asiko" (modern wife). I am going to give you an excerpt of your words and remark each, not for you because I dare say that you will resent each remark but it is particularly for the single ladies you could dare advise.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

You bear "Kindheartedd" as moniker but this plan of yours alone reveals the opposite. Firstly, you want to abscond from a husband (not a boyfriend). Meaning of that culturally is running or deserting the one that paid dowry over your head and received you into his lineage (not just family), not as a girlfriend or baby mama but as the glorified (wife). Aunty, I hail you! Secondly, you used the expression "my kids". Very laughable. Culturally, those children (particularly the male) belongs to your husband's lineage which you are now part of if you are genuinely in it. Therefore, those kids belong wholly to your husband first, before your very self who happened to carry his sperm (child) for 9 months before delivery. You claim to be a christian but you certainly have no idea of the spirituality of marriage nor acknowledge fatherhood or headship of your husband over your household. Who will fix that rot in your mind? Certainly not God, aunty but your very self if you would. Finally on that, you plan to have the best not minding if it will destroy lives (your husband and the kids), changing phone number and living a new life. Some commenters that chose to be honest with you labelled the act selfish. I particularly recommend you get natural therapy for mental health.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

Listen, followers command the leadership they get. Whether family, company, state, or nation. Mere humility from you will change this same statement of yours to "He is loving, caring, wonderful though difficult to understand at times". Also, know that many Nigerian husbands really get cocky when denied sex by their wives. Too much testosterone in the body as some puts it. Some manage it well while some really get cocky and wouldn't tell the woman. But give your man good sex regularly and stay humble and watch that statement change. Never forget this: Yoruba husbands get very cocky on arrogant wives.


He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.
Your "Ade Ori" is owing you money? As in your husband? Who owns you and your money? Or are you building another family outside the one he is heading? Sister, you are not ready for Yoruba marriage yet o. Listen, if your husband that is carrying the weight of the house as the head, whether you are supporting or not, borrows money from you, particularly for that household, in your mind, settle it that you contributed and not that you borrowed him. Even if he ended up using the money on himself. Lots of girlfriends looking forward to a guy having serious relationship with them or even marrying them do lots for the guy without feeling owed nor trumpeting it around. Abeg, give yourself peace in your head because it's obvious you carried lots of garbage from Telemundo, feminist and other "fake lives" into your marriage (reality).


I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.
Your Husband (Ade Ori) o. Not even just a lesson but a hard lesson. Aunty, you need serious mental checkup. Your brain is filled with explosive pride. At this point, I think your husband should just release you back to your people through divorce so that the court can oversee the issue of child custody because it's obvious your brain cannot be humbled. Your stubbornness and arrogance is something else. Even the verbal abuse (though not the best) your husband use regularly to check/reduce the depth of those bad-luck characters is also taken wrongly. For you trying to even change your number from friends and family that could change your heart also confirms that your husband can never succeed over you. This is why fathers shouldn't spoil their daughters before giving them out in marriage. They become a pain in the head of the gullible men that marries them. Daughter wey dey shout back at hin papa, go do more for hin husband. Some wives will be competing with their husbands rather than complementing his leadership, causing unnecessary problems, particularly for the kids. See, you practically want to lead yourself, and your financial capability is also strengthening you in your rebellion. This is why a humble woman that has no money cannot really be termed humble. In fact, you entered into that marriage mistakenly, maybe for the wedding dress, ring or kids - never for the mission marriage requires, that is, if your husband ever communicated that to you. And if he did, I dare say your type will gladly rebel.

I don't want to quote others again because I know it is worthless for you and several of your supporters. But I know one graceful lady out there whether churchy or not will pick wisdom from my remarks when it is time for her to build her own home. Your bible records that a foolish woman destroys her home while the wise one builds it. Not a foolish man o. Go and search for where it is in your bible. If you hurt or destroy your home as a woman, you will be the chief beneficiary. Same way, if you avoid satan building a castle in your mind and heart through stubbornness and arrogance, you will certainly be the most beneficiary of a happy and joyous home whether u dey go church or not.

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Agree with a lot of the above..

It seems the lady needs a time-out to re-appraise things..


I would welcome your advice on the man trying to understand better the wife..

Both exploring better ways of communication...



Yoruba culture largely determines that the woman steers her marriage and family, making all the sacrifices overtly or disingeniously and by default, absolves the man of all blame..

This is where I disagree.
It's a 2-way street.

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GidiWoodsMan:
What's the basis for the ten billion, a year, two years, or a month?

This woman is not qualified to be finance minister I swear

My thoughts exactly..

Pick figures from the air..
The bigger the figures, the more benefit we're supposedly getting. The man himself, hasnt come out yet, as he's busy thinking of how to get it fully operational and pay off the loans.


The twit should stop spreading fake news

2 Lai Mohammeds is bad for government!!



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Can Aisha B please speak up on this..
Please speak up
Please speak up



RIP to the men. And courage to the lady slave.
Condolences to their families



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Dbeautifulme:
Heard ijebu people can be stingy as F**k

Pls is it true??

Strategic spenders


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Stretchmarks City deluxe



Naaaaaaa.




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Life imitating art

Or
His Art..... a revelation of his life



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adewest1999:
Make Anthony Joshua catch this Shaggi first he go know the difference between die and death

Say whhhaaaattttt?

Nada



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Christmas bargainsss tinnnnsss

Na joke ooo



Island don dey dry small


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Cuppy needs a strategy management team...
Like ASAP!!


The mixed messages she sends across does her image litlle good.

With a Masters in Art, I expect better than this incessant attention seeking moves focused on her personal "issues", that do her career no good..

Sit down, create good music, consistently develop your brand and stop looking like a spoilt rich **ee.x-starved girl looking to snare any prospective !!




With this lady's hyper, AJ will do well to stay away...
No drama with PEP-ish not with UWOs amongst other instruments swirling round in town.....

and You don't want your brand being tainted, mate!!


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Biglittlelois:
Exactly, the fine details of the case is not available to you, but you still assumed that she shouldn't have won, don't you think the judge who ruled in favour of her would have been convinced without a reasonable doubt that the man was deceitful?

If his legal defense was non-existent which shone through via the article... She would have won without a sweat!!


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Biglittlelois:
Are we talking about this thread in particular or you just like to gloat about women generally?

This is Not gloating..
I'll say this to both men and women.

Most high networth men, by reason of association or their management team involvement, know to walk around with pre-nups, NDAs constantly.. Its like a pen or phone of sorts

It would appear that women in similar situations often fighting to remain relevant in that corporate boardroom, forget those attributes in matters that relate to the heart.

It could be a society, religious or culture default malfunction..

Examples abound... You often hear about submissive wives blah blah. But submission isn't stupidity.
As a woman you just need to draw the line effectively, clearly and without any disingenuity.




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Biglittlelois:
Why shouldn't the woman have won, he claimed he did a vasectomy because he wanted to go in raw, but he lied, she got pregnant, isn't that sex by deceit? why did he lie in the first place? why didn't he just say what he wants and see if she's good with it? Are you saying the woman doesn't know who made her pregnant, then would go through all the process of court for no reason? You guys should always analyse things on a neutral perspective, it is not a difficult thing to do.

Madam..
I'm not arguing as to the position of the law regarding deceit..

I'm simply asking for the evidence linking her 6week pregnancy to him..

That was the clincher in the case for me..
The chap's lawyer was either a waste of space or a mole, imho!!
The fine details of this case are not available to me, so I will make careful assumptions.


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LordKO:
Most Pakistani, Bangladeshi and Indian Muslim men that's their normal parole. You need to see how they wreck most advanced American women's life, except non-Caucasians, with their hypocritical disingenuousness.

People need to step up...

I find it quite interesting that a well educated, highly achieving person, mostly women, will wear their hearts on sleeves and not protect themselves...

Who does that? In this day and age??

Get your team of lawyers, accountants, lifestyle gurus or whatever you have to get that extra measure of protection.....and not be falsely reassured by the "female privilege".


You are of a certain means, worked your ish off to be a (very) high networth individual.......
Not largesse of previous husbands or drippings of daddy......

and then walk into a relationship without a pre-nup, post-nup and all-the-stages nup.... You're a sitting target!!!



Anyway, wetin I know..
Make I waka!



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meobizy:
She can’t accept the guy breaking up with her first. I’ve seen it happen many times in life.

Yeah I get that.
That's obviously led to her rant but the guy go don talk am from day 1 say... Nuffin nuffin ooo!!
Moreso for that kontri wey any small tin.. Police don enter!
U see where she call police for am, dey claim sexual abuse amongst other tins!!!

That's why black bois are seen as more rugged.

How many gals dey come talk dis ish wit black bros.. Very few.. As efryone know the scope as e dey go..
If e dey 2 much, make efryone sign contract and NDA!!

The girl go know say... U take it or leave it, nuffin spoil!!
1 waka go, 100 enter..


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meobizy:
Ah, another woman forming victim at the end of a relationship. They can never accept rejection, a misfortune they dole onto men on the daily. She’ll go on her hands and knees begging the guy to accept her back in two months, highest a full year.

I disagree

As much as some of our sistas have relationship "issues"....

That's different to deceit!!

Based on this narrative, apologies to the gentleman in question.... It would appear this was a sugar-coated FWB scenario!!


It baffles me in this day and age why men feel the need to play this game.. Not with all the available chicks out in town
Is it the thrill of the chase or sth
The thrill is not worth it... Not with the courts interested in the juicy details of when we "off" the pants!!



He's lucky she's not found a legal loophole to use on him.


Let's give an example....

A man was successfully prosecuted for obtaining sex by deceit..
A relationship via chance meeting on SM had started. At the onset, he mentioned having a vasectomy and by default no need for protection... I think what about STDs?
This claim of a vasectomy was refuted by the lady who claimed she needed to have a termination following a pregnancy sired by him.
There was no evidence on her part she wasn't sleeping with other men or that the fetus shared his DNA

To me this should not have gone to court as I wondered what law had been broken with proof


It did, she won and he got served with a sentence

So men, we better be careful!!



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Bestienews:
Former heavyweight champion, Andy Ruiz, has said he lost to Anthony Joshua on Saturday night because he gained too much weight during the preparation for the rematch.

Ruiz yelled into the microphone, shouting “Who wants to see the third fight”,?

Quoting his words, he said, “I gained too much weight”.


READ MORE: >>>> https://www.thewatchngr.com/2019/12/breaking-i-was-not-prepared-says-ruiz.html?m=1

No sir..
Lost the op...
Neeeeexttt!!



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ednut1:
Success has many friends. Efe Ajagba is slowly working his way up in usa no one dey look hin side. The day he wins a title we will now remember him

Bros, life na turn by turn..
He's young
His time go soon reach
With 100% wins, 9 of 11 as knockouts, he's got a good run

He just needs to increase his tempo.. More strategic fights.. Enhance visibility

Who is his mgt team btw




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Congrats to the Chikwes..


But was she a child bride
50yrs of marriage
Looking so young

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Watching our shon of the soil winnnnnn!



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StandardJohn:
Someone should pls tell her the truth that Anthony Joshua is not interested in her. Thanks

I'm beginning to think she's friendly with his sister not him..

***She needs to take a step back and re-appraise..***



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CardiB has done a lot to hype Naija in a few days.... Much much more than what the ministry of.. wetin dem dey call am...to rectify our image.... has done for years..

To that I say thank you ma'am.



I can see queues of tourists to enter at MMIA!!

Please airport officials, taxi drivers, Uber drivers and hotels welcome them with open hands.
Let qworuption be far, biko!!

Oga Police, please don't harass our guests o!!

Show our guests love!!



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Hotzone:
Me waiting.....

The words (and not the image) in your picture are so apt!!!

Makes incredible sense




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Really cool...
Now here's a useful tool
Not like dem others on insta fooling
You're so hip, I'm drooling
Cos the body is fit..
the Wig is lit!!!
But 4th finger not it...

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***Freestyling jejely.. Please leave me***


Modified..



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Congrats AJ!!
Got all your belts back!!
Really glad



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Good one, Cardi B!!

Went out and had fun along with the locals..
Sold.... the "Disneyland Lagos style"

Much better than Kim K who slithered in and out

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ericsmith:
If the first lady do not come out to shout what can she possibly do, you forget the constitution did not give her office not to talk of power.
she is making all these noise becos she knows only the citizens av the power to caution or query the steps of the govt be it hijacked.
The first lady is making noise, are nigerians also make noise, asides checkin out mercy aigbe & tasha rock massive cleavage on instagram we the youths are we making any serious stand.

I hear you.....

but it still dies not change the fact that she's making the wrong noise which more often than not affects the man in the street and not the Aso Rock cabal..
If anything she's playing their script to a T.

Don't be deceived, she and her daughter are used as distractions when serious unpopular things are happening!!

Look beyond the veil and note that her vituperations are timed with major issues that don't get the required airtime. Resulting in poorly debated bills being passed or inadequate response to the humanitarian need.

Every administration will have their pawns to divert attention .. But for a 1st lady to be so willing to be used as a pawn, abuses that post and by default the Presidency!!



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ericsmith:
Oga wil you just keep quiet if you av nothing reasonable to say, this is a time a lot of conspiracy are going on inside aso rock, if she does not speak who will, is it aso rocks cooks or gateman that wil stand as a pain in d ass to the cabals

If as you say the rot is in-house, then a spring cleaning should be done not coming to shout in the marketplace...

It only shows they lack control of their internal base!! And she's making public their growing ineptitude amidst division as well!!

Moaning about fake news is not addressing the main issues is it?? If I'm to adopt your premise



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