UyaiIncomparabl:


Direct that question to your MOD.

No, direct it to your useless mother. Or just show her my post

UyaiIncomparabl:


Pray about what? Why introduce him to your parents when he hasn't even decided if he wants to walk you down the aisle yet?

Why did you ask her out in the first place? To be fornicating

Pastor , stop confusing them.
If a man is asking you out, inform your parents. Pray about it, if okay, tell him to come with his folks to see your parents. That's how to go about it!

Pasima:
Good morning everyone, please I need your suggestion on this situation.

I have a female friend who always shares things with me. She tells me everything about her and I also told her mine. She is in a relationship about to enter marriage but she is not certain she will marry the guy because he is in the force.

But I am falling in love with her, she comes to my house we watch film together and eat together. We snap pics together, she even sat on my laps to snap pics. I felt like telling her that I love her and I want her as my girlfriend but I am scared she might get angry with me then on second thought I was thinking maybe she was waiting for me to say the word.

What do you guys think?

Don't ask her out, if you don't want to get a NO. You're already on the same path, keep it up and introduce your third leg. That's all you need! Action!!!

so far no be Alex-Oxlade Chamberlain..

Goodvibes8:
Happy new month Dear nairalanders. Pls i really your advice on this issue.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months, I intend to make her my wife. She is always on her recommended glasses because of her eyesight, She is a great, beautiful and brilliant girl but she lacks patience, she is not always patient with me.

She is a kind of girl that if she need something from you, just be ready to give her what she asked instantly and immediately else she will give you attitude.

I take good care of her, we go out on dates, I send her money for up-keep, I always try to be a good and better man for her, she is not a bitch and I love her so much.

Exactly this time last week, I sent her 35k for her up-keep. So yesterday evening (6pm) she called me and she said her glass lenses has expired, she can barely see and it's causing her serious headache, that she needed 25k to renew the lens.

I gently told her I can't do transfer at the moment, let her use the money I sent to her last week to sort it out first, then I would send everything back to her including the money for her glass lens in 4 days time.

She started giving me attitude, she said the money isn't up to 25k in her account, that she has used part of the money. I also explained the reason why I can't do transfer but she didn't listen, from 7pm yesterday till today she refused to pick my calls.

This morning, I have to make some calls to my friends to help me with some cash, then I sent her the 25k to go see her optometrist doctor. Infact what happened is just a tip of an iceberg, I can't even narrate what she done on several occasions, She doesn't care if you have what she need. Everything about her is urgent!!

I see this her behavior as a red flag. What should I do? I love her, she's a first class graduate. Pls don't call me a simp. I just need advice Pls.

Who bought the last glasses for her? You?? And the 35k is for what exactly?? Are you okay

Stupid boy...

You can't stay in Lagos and be forming one ABAT nonsense group as if Lagos matters when it comes to election. Last last na 700,000 votes you go still get. North is the power house when it comes to election. Southerners no dey vote, they are noisy neighbors.

Another fraudster (Yahoo boy), one dey we will address this decadence of our moral values with jungle justice. They live around us and we have come to accept them. One day sha!!! Because we that are into legit hustling ain't stupid...

ogawisdom:


Keep talking until Sadiq comes in

Very unintelligent player

Awoniyi has no business being in this afcon if not for unavailability of Victor Osimhen etc

That wasn't a penalty na

Chijeep:
Good morning Nairalanders, I just want to share my experience about some of my neighbours where I only moved in about 8 months ago.
It's in a Twin-flat bungalow and it shared as sub-flat in which I occupied a single room.
I have about 6 neighbours which only 2 of them is married and living with their 5 and 6 children respectively. Others are still single which am also one as well.
We have only two bachelors which am one of them and 2 single ladies but one have a kid already but not married.
My talk is basically on these 2 ladies,
the one who's still single is a devoted Christian and the other one is a runs girl and she's not hiding it as men comes almost every 2 days to come and pick her in the evening and return her the next morning. She always leave her child with one of the family who's also our neighbour. This very single mom is very generous and caring and always greet no matter who you are. She's very respectful and help neighbours with some chores especially fetching water when others are not around. I feel somehow sorry for her because I guess that she's only doing the runs work to sustain herself and kid. Whenever you meet her for any help she'll try everything possible to help unless if she doesn't have. She's a kind of human you meet and wish to meet the more. Even before I moved into the neighbourhood people who lived there always commend her 4 her good gestures. I personally pray for have a good woman like her as my wife.
On the other side; the other neighbour who's a devoted Christian doesn't possess any good social character. She hardly relate with others, if she sees you first she'll shun her face to the other side and if you greet her she'll feel reluctant to answer. She's always alone and wouldn't do anything or let me say any tangible thing to assist anybody even if she's less busy.
There's a day a walk up to her as a Christian brother and try to know if she have had a bad experience in the neighbourhood that's making her to be avoiding others and her response was that she preferred to be like that so that she wouldn't hurt anyone. She said that with a smile(that's the 1st time I see her smile)
And that was the day I knew she's also from my village. In a week or two, I tried to convince her to have a change of behaviour even if it having a little social relationship with others but she ignored and started avoiding me the more self. I'm somehow having crush on her because she's beautiful and a Christian as well but this her way of life is very disrespectful. Even other neighbours including the married couples spoke ill about her.

SO I'M LIKE IS THIS OUR CHRISTIANITY LIKELY TO PUSH US TO THE STAGE OF NOT EVEN NOTICING WHAT WE NEED OR WHAT WE'LL BE NEEDING IN TIME TO COME BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT SOME DAY(SOON IF NOT NOW) THIS YOUNG WOMAN WILL BE NEEDING A LIFE PARTNER

That olosho girl has a low self-esteem, that's why she greets and do house girl work for other neighbors

GlorifiedGod:
This is not a begging Thread
So I have two sisters in a state university in Nigeria one doing law another doing Agriculture. The one doing Agriculture had dropped out already at 400 level because of lack of fees so we could focus on the law.
Lack of fees yes, we are orphans and I am the one doing the work so they could go to school. They issue now is the lawyer is starting exams tommorow and she certainly will not write it if we don't raise 180k. Now it is uttterly impossible I or we see that money.
My request now is if there is any lecturer or official of Ekiti state university here, help us plead with the school so they canet her write exams. By God vrace we will pay.
Please or kindly advise us further pleas

Send me a mail to confirm my story physically

Thank you

Take a leave of absence and return to school when the fee is ready, simple!

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Drama at the window got me laughing...o boy! very dramatic woman.
I no get words for you bro!

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

Some simps here would still think their own girl is different. The fact is, they are all the same...

JackDaAlienz:
I went to my uncles home for christmas holiday and what i experienced there was dissapointing

How can a GROWN MAN not control and enforce home traning on his 4 little kids.
He always leave everything for the wife, who is overwhelmed and is not doing a good job either.

The worst part is that he will allow these kids to be awake watching tv till 12 am midnight while he will be playing video games.
If the kid misbehave, i correct them, they start crying loud and this man will always come out and defend them.
He cant command his kids to go to bed, he always beg them.
A grown man begging his kids to go to bed..
Wtfffff
And if you see how big this my incle is you will think he is ufc fighter but at home his children are the boss.

He always talks like he is smart but i feel PITY for him when these Children grow up to be mannerless cult boys, he will be scratching his head asking what did he do wrong.

Some men are not fit to be fathers
some of them are still Baby Adults that cant train their kids.

When you born your own treat them as you like. You are smart, yet living with him...smarto

SmellySperm:
Most of these petty thiefs ain't even robbing to provide food for their momma at home. They do it to lavish on hoes

But you are robbing to provide food for your momma at home

Piyke:
Immediately, people started racing out of the car as if it was going to explode. It looked like a family returning from a wedding. 4 guys in Asoebi, plus an older woman who was now sitting in shock by the side walk. The guys were hugging each other, and I could imagine, thanking God. I didn't observe any injuries.

The lesson here. Let's keep a safe distance from other cars while driving... This could have easily become a pile up of some sort.

After observing no immediate help was required, as per injuries, I turned on my left-turn signal, merged back onto the highway and left.

END

You are not a good writer

With the kind lips and forehead the woman get, she go too dey talk.

greggng:



Sometimes we look at the brighter side of issues. It could be that God is using that pilot to save the passengers life. I had people that got to the airport and couldn't board flight and the next thing we had was that air crash and all passenger on board dead . The only that didn't board willbe going to church to thank God for escaping death
If I were that passenger I will disembark from that plane .

Did you write this?? You need a therapist! You have been abused.

Nigerians and mob action

The Bible doesn't support it too

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

All the consideration you are giving him is because he is a rich guy. Mind you, the guy just wan f*ck , he has no plans for you. He is married! I'm 95% sure.

And when efcc burst Yahoo boys for hotels, some of you will be attacking efcc. The criminals are around you.

Dropme:
Good morning, and happy new month to y'all .

I urgently need cash to sort some bills so as to avoid some embarrassment, I'm a single father of one, with a low income hustle but actually just got a remote job that pays well, I would be resuming on Monday.

And I opened threads and made comments on people's thread that I have a phone and a DStv decoder to sell just to offset the bills but none is forthcoming.

It's getting late already, and this bills needs to be cleared on or before Friday 3rd of December.

I would appreciate if anyone can loan me a sum of 50k, or at least 30k, will be paying back with 10k interest by January 20th. I have my itel s16 pro and a DStv decoder as collateral. Both products are worth over d amount I want to borrow.

Please I would appreciate if any nairalander can reach out to me asap. My location is Lagos state

God bless y'all .

Fairmoney

Witlee1:
My gf got pregnant, I'm not an advocate of abortion so I told her to keep it so I and my live-in gf had a child (girl) outside wedlock who is 2 years old now and I took care of her and the child for 1 year and 8 months,paid the hospital bills and everything, which a single dough of the girls family didn't come to the wellbeing of the child, it was All me which the mother of the girl is aware of.

Though I dont want to marry the girl now due to the harsh economy of Nigeria but I have plans to marry her later on plus I can't just jump into marriage when I'm not yet able to cater for a family yet so I told her to keep the child with her mother till I can be able to stand on my feet and foster for us all,me and my gf still lived together without the baby and I helped her pay some fees for her school cuz I understood that for my baby to be educated the mother needs to be .

Fast forward to now, the mother of my gf doesn't want me to see my child because I don't want to marry my gf now, my gf and her mother had to even report me to human rights for me never to contact my gf any longer cuz I am threatening her which I never did... I tried contacting my gf to know what is happening, she's not picking her calls neither is the mother too and when I texted my gf she rained insults on me lol (life's so unfair)

NB: I learnt from a reliable source that the mother of my gf is the one Influencing her this way,my gf is also in her 3rd year at school
I'm so confused, please advice me on next step to take

Why are you bothered? Isn't that the opportunity you are looking for ? Use this period to focus on your life. When you are stable, go for her again.

NovesaTillie:
I moved to this city because of my new job and my neighbors have been very homely and helpful to me especially the ones next flat,a young man and his wife with a kid . They have been very kind to me, sometimes when I get home late from work his wife calls me to join them for dinner and hangouts.

My issue now is I am beginning to grow fond of the man because of how gentlemanly he treats his wife and how dotting he is of their son. He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little.

What can I do to stop this feeling?
I don't want someone else man or to destroy a cute family.

Please don't insult me because I am in a relationship though it's a young relationship and I cherish my man I just see myself falling for this neighbor.

For violent deliverance with broom beating , locate a celestial church.

For deliverance by fire, locate MFM.

You are possessed.

Look at them! Giving us bad image both at home and abroad. Generation of fraudsters. na Buhari be dia problem

JIREN01:
Not really. A lot of students drive recklessly and even compete like fast and furious in broad daylight. Can't count the number of student who lost their lives back in OAU then. After drinking themselves to stupor, they take to the lanes. Some even run as fast as 120-140 km/hr on campus roads. Could remember back then, if you go cross road anyhow for night, you don go be that.

Especially on road one and road 7