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ednut1:
. Na u sabi. From wetin he write na him dey at fault jor. She said food had finished and u refused to send money cos u sent 2 days ago. Nawa

Don't be surprised if the amount sent doesn't exceed 10,000.

His problem is simply that the woman isn't dependent on him. He's finding it difficult to accept that. In retaliation he became distant. They're not married but he wants to be treated as a husband. Not everyone will bow to that desire of his.

He sounds like he was not there for two years. His only contribution is a box of juice and biscuits towards his child. How much does that cost? That's his offer for fatherhood. And he's surprised her parents refused the offer? He drove his car that he fueled with who knows how much to deliver juice and biscuits. Those old people have certainly seen the cream of it all.

He should move on. He's forcing himself on her. He doesn't even think she can speak English. If she was broke he would not want them. But because she doesn't need him he wants to be involved.

olawonder:
Your point throughout this conversation circles around ‘forcing things on you’! Who are these ppl forcing things on us? Fellow humans with different natural traits from us shouldn’t hv to be cutout along two separate lines simply because they are NOT the same as everyone else. I mean how do we know its our own look that’s better and not theirs? To me, the discriminations suffered by few in the hands of so many, in the past, are becoming obsolete and everyone’s becoming more accepting of one another now (a more appropriate way of integration) rather than your own ‘no they are ugly, they just forcing them on us’ version.

If you aren't an LGBT sympathizer, the whole LGBT thing is forced on you by a minority. Take it or leave it. If I tell you that you cannot have a job or will lose your job for expressing anti LGBT sentiments, which are your freedom of expression, what does that mean to you? What happened to Kevin Hart was that he was forced to accept them for the sake of his career, but deep inside him his sentiments have not changed.

By putting it everywhere you are forced to accept them and these freckled people even when you don't want to. So yes, that is force. Most campaigners for such things are paid by some people who want their ways to be seen and accepted.

Accept us or be dealt with, is basically the new slogan. That's what's making it "obsolete". Not acceptance.

The cake makers who refused to bake for two gay men were heavily discriminated against in a case that was meant to force them to do what they didn't want to do because a few people made so much noise while choking the majority who don't care or want to bake for them. If it was so bad to not be LGBT they would have lost the case and had to make the cake. After all, their bakery was shut down for gays during that debacle. Isn't that force? Accept us or end your livelihood.

As first said, speak for yourself on such matters. If you've been awed by white people and so do not discriminate some of their appearances then that's that. Because even among the most people with freckles, etc, there exist personal preferences and differences that people use to segregate. There will remain racial ideals whether you think it's there or not. That we want to include everybody doesn't mean the world is a better place. I feel that paedophiles deserve acceptance, too. All deviants need a place in the world and if we don't like it they put it in the media and give us the same threat: accept us or be dealt with.

Where did I say they are ugly? What makes you think freckles are a standard of beauty? It's your preference because you do not have freckles and have black skin to admire that. Just because I do not agree with your submission does not mean I have said they are ugly. Your assumptions are ugly.

^^^long. Summary: speak for yourself. It's a world of "acceptance" that is imposed and does not speak for the masses.

End.

eyinjuege:
Nothing wrong if mennists go on rampage for the assault on this man. Stop waiting for feminists to do anything for you.
The dictionary specifically states that feminism is the advocacy of WOMEN's rights on the grounds of equality of sexes.
Has any woman's rights being trampled upon in this case? So why are you calling upon feminists?
Face your own calling and don't wait for anyone else to fight it for you. It's laziness on your own part, waiting for feminists to talk on a matter you are passionate about

Lol.

I must say that double standards cannot be applied in this case.

We need to know what he said to her, because you know some of we men used to talk anyhow and say anything to women. We need to hear her side of the story, because men can paint a picture and cry foul. The defense of a woman who has been tongue-lashed is to beat up the man. I don't know why some of these men like tempting women. Later you see them crying everywhere that women are assaulting men-- they will never tell you what they said to make the woman treat them like that.

But most of them need destiny resetting slaps and beating because men are as stubborn as goats. They can cry foul and you will see the men rush to judge women without asking what happened. It is good that this woman is finally dealing with his sharp mouth.

Don't be surprised a man like this cannot kneel down to serve his wife water. It's their type that always gets beaten.

We need to hear her side of the story, because before devil, fear men.



To the real thing:

Nigerians need to work on the pervasive sexism. Treat each other like humans. No gender has the monopoly of short-tempered outbursts of violence.

olawonder:
Well if we are talking about ‘acceptance’ in this context, then I’m right to believe that the western world accepts it as part of the natural beauty that should be used in the beauty and fashion industries... pale or t5 are entirely different subjects. The part where it’s being forced on the society I don’t know but generally ppl see freckles nowadays as naturally beautiful. Take the LGBT community as an example, u might say that its being forced on ppl in the west, but in general discussions ppl would agree that they are becoming more acceptable compared to their African counterparts. So in the beginning of my comment, i only said in the west ppl see freckles as a thing of beauty compared to in Africa, and I think im right in that context.

I wouldn't say the LGBTQ are being accepted, we just have to tolerate them more because they do force it down our throats with their parades and nobody has freedom of speech or rights to express themselves against what the PC brigade want, which is to force their interests on the rest of the population. That's not acceptance. It's being forced. Kevin Hart is a very good example of this.

Reason pale and ginger are mentioned is because they frequently have freckles. I had several classmates, etc with all three things going​ for them. We were forced to accept that, not that we found it attractive, when younger. As adults we don't get to express ourselves as freely as we did when we were younger. We tend to keep it in better.

Because the West allows people with vitiligo to model, does that mean it is accepted?
If freckles are so much accepted why do many people with freckles use make up to hide them? Why do kids pick on the ones with freckles?

We're in a phase of forced acceptance. If you don't comply you don't get what you want. We stoop to conquer. By propagating their ideals of acceptance on the rest of us we have no choice but to act like we have accepted them. Most people have not. Even in the West.

Perhaps freckles are your preference. As such you will find them accepted.

olawonder:
Agreed that everything now goes. But freckles are still widely accepted especially in the beauty and fashion industries. In fact, models with freckles are encouraged to do either runway or photoshoots without covering them.

It's a new thing. In school nobody liked the people with freckles much. I know how many of them were bullied for being too pale and ginger.

Not too long ago we didn't want to see people's​ freckles let alone people with vitiligo, albinism or paraplegics on the runway. But now we do because we are trying to include them. But it does not mean that it is accepted. A vast majority still do not accept what is being forced down their throats. Eg. We cannot say that gays are accepted in the western world just because they make a lot of noise cycling with glitter and varnish, and are used for political gains. They're still largely disliked.

olawonder:
Nigerians can never see any beauty in freckles! They just ain’t familiar with that sort of beauty... in the western world, that face is so sexy it’ll be a wreck to put any make up on it.

Speak for yourself. Freckles are not a standard of beauty in the western world. The world is simply passing through an acceptance phase. Nowadays we want to normalize and accept any and everything and be PC about it.

VolvoS60:
Surprising that it wasn't muzzled.

Hyenas may have a reputation for being 'cowardly' but they have the strongest jaws among mammals - a bite force strong enough to make short work of elephant bones.

Those people would do well to steer clear or things could take a very different turn from what they planned. Keeping a wild hyena on a leash with its jaws free - and having humans standing just yards away isn't a good idea.

Surprised at the docility of the hyena.

With the bite force its jaws possess it is equally surprising that it has not made a dash to escape the crowd. This one is probably young and tired from the struggle it must have taken to put old pieces of clothing around its neck.

Perhaps their ignorance and crowding is protecting them, making the animal exhibit its notorious cowardice seeing as it is outnumbered. Maybe their talking is new territory and it would rather not explore.

I feel sorry for it. It looks like a dog in chains.

Leonardoreel:
No be lie eh
I say no be lie eh
Nah so GTB debit me wey i no see money collect eh
If no be for CBN eh
I for don lost the money eh
But I thank God for CBN eh
Dem reverse my money eh
Dem Kon add extra 10k untop am eh.
Nah so I Kon dey rejoice eh...

Are you being very honest about this?

How long before you reported to CBN? Can you help with the steps, so that I can learn?

bukatyne:
The people who thought it wise to expose a family's private fight did not seem it fit to give us what really happened.

That's the problem with most images/videos involving fighting partners. Nobody knows what happened before or what will happen after the clip.

Don't be surprised the man is acting cool because he is at fault and knows that even the bro code will not exonerate him.

princess1000:
There id no big deal, I and my husband are working class. I have raised three boys without house maid, two are already in the university now. I wake up 6am put food on fire and i get the baby ready for school. My husband drop them at school when the brothers were still in secondary and i picked them up. Shikena. My two boys in the university knows how to cook and do any house shores.

I never knew there were responsible adults on nairaland, especially among the females.

Elxandre:
if not for poverty in NIgeria, what's flashy about Apple watches that High school kids wear in civilized countries?

Do you know how the high school kids pay for them?

Tunasco4u:
Not only white bears but more larger nose to keep tapes

Beards.

Why do you guys call beards "bears"? The two words are very different in meaning, and if you got your other spellings correct why did you do this?

GrammarNazi would not have given you a pat on the back.

chineloSA:
Have you been to Namibia, Botswana, SA,Seychelles, Mauritius, Equatorial Guinea

I don't think they compare to India. And Indians, Pakistani, Bangladesh are moving in numbers to those countries and refusing to leave.

Some people have never left their backyard. Don't expect them to know these things.

SA is so good that the Singh's and Guptas have decided to naturalize.

Indians cannot complain about Africa because Africa is India and India is Africa. Maybe India is worse. The filth of India is terrible. The stench is by far the worst thing about the place. Wonder how they've lived so long with such a population and sewage is still battling for ground and airspace with the living. Don't want to talk about the dead bodies and fecal matter in the Ganges.

morpheus24:
You are vexing because I rubbished you on another thread now you are chasing my posts and leaving insults.

Please stay with the topic and if you can I dare you to counter anything I have said and lets see if you are able to defend it. Like I said in the other posts your IQ is quite low and if you insist it isn't please let's test it here.

Do shut up.

You're resoundingly empty. You never rubbished me. You rubbished yourself by insulting.

On the topic you lost all credibility and resorted to insults. From that point you ceased to be human to this moniker. All you have is insults. Do not try to sound like you have anything to discuss.

It's a common denominator in all your posts that you must insult people once they don't agree with you.

Your insults do not mean you have an IQ(something you talk about a lot but do not own). I have let you know from the post you made, that for insulting me first you will always receive insults from this end.

If you wanted logical discourse you would not have insulted me. You would have been sensible and polite.

But you get what you give.

Friend01:
Did you read the post at all?
I wonder if some of you leave your brains behind before talking.

LOL.

It is surprising that people read the post and didn't see the most important thing: rather than helping his own house of faith with acts of charity, This Kukah man is giving aid to millions of people who do not want it. He's not preaching to them, but giving them aid. Why doesn't he give it to those who represent what he's for that are suffering?

It's pointless aid.

HigherEd:
The greatest problem I have with Islam is the ability to colonise a person intellect in totality. Kukah is a Nigerian seeking to educate Nigerian kids who happens to be called almajiri.

These fools only now remembered the need to help almajiri simply because they see Christian missions now taking the initiative. If it were up to them, they don't really give a damn about those kids. And when those brainwashed kids are recruited into boko haram MURIC won't remember to tell them to only kill Muslims, . Muric won't remember to tell government not to deploy christian soldiers to go and die in the front line against book haram. They won't tell them not to vote in elections that would decide the fate of christians. They won't tell the almajiri kids not to beg money from Christians on the road but when it comes to empowering the Almajiri with western education just like their own kids got from western countries they tell Christians to hands off....

So the way I see it if we Christians in Nigeria want to live a peaceful life then we must be ready to give the almajiri the western education the Northern oligarchy is so afraid of. Western education brings liberty, emancipation from religious indoctrination, global perspectives, cross fertilization of knowledge, scientific advancement and so much more. That whole propaganda about kukah trying to force feed the almajiri with Christianity is blatant rubbish. The missionaries of old never did that neither would the missionaries of today try such in a place like sokoto or kano. The point here is this, the muric's of these world don't want the almajiri educated so they can continue to be foot soldiers in the jihad movement to islamise Nigeria or continue to serve as blind electoral bloc voters to continue to put bigot islamist in power.

Lalasticlala

The North has free/almost free education and receives a lot of aid from international bodies. They don't want it.

Why doesn't kukkah care to do this charity to the South of Nigeria and millions of unfortunate Christians who desperately need and want his help? How much more help can be given to people who resent it?

Why doesn't he extend his charity to the house of faith first before taking it out to others?

He's making noise.

Why didn't he help the DJ?

Why is he looking for others but himself to blame?

DukeofNZ:
make you no do like mumu. wetin you know. me know your type of somebody i de sure say you never crossed your state before and no know say bad woman na bad woman for any place for dis world. me i have successful parents and me i de successful so me i know wetin be good woman and wetin be bad woman. you tink say good career and money na dey be everything. no de yarn nonsense you hear. bitter woman na bitter woman

You don't know if I'm Nigerian or not. I know most of you don't leave your states. Which is a pity.

Thanks for your analysis, though it is incorrect.

DukeofNZ:
make you no de say nonsense. na who tell you say person we be career woman no suppose de humble and submit to man. me i don live for many countries, my mother na medical doctor for america and my father na successful businessman and i be successful man, my family de happy because my mother no de behave like bitter woman. bitter woman like pocohantas of nairaland na bad exmaple for wetin a career woman no suppose be and she no successful self. make she no de make noise de yarn nonsense. make she change her way. she de bitter.

woman can have money and de humble

Are you humble and submissive yourself?

Why are you looking for a humble and submissive person? Is she a dog? It's only a dog that will be all those things.

Let's be reasonable about the unreasonable expectations you place on women.

We're not being fair to them. They're human, too.

There's nothing like "humble... Submit". There's respect. Respect is reciprocal. Respect her and she will respect you.

pocohantas:
Nawa o, how can you be a male? A male cannot be this truthful on NL.

You are a female, a feminist

I'm not.

As for being a feminist, I believe all humans have a right to be heard. Women get the short end of the stick. Especially in Africa.

I have family and I know what they go through as females. Plus, I believe that people need to live and learn anywhere but Nigeria.

There's a disgusting misogynistic culture in Nigeria. Just a look at the comments shows the hatred of spurned men; it's so shameful. How do Nigerian women cope with this? A man at a bank was threatening to slap a woman because she asked him if he was on the queue (a ratty pathetic looking man for that matter). His reason? How dare she question him, all these women, blah, blah. Does she have a husband at home? Is that his only reason for charging up to her with the threat of battery?

You can bet his wife feeds him and he's as emasculated as the angry men on this site. How do they live with their mothers and sisters and aunts and in-laws? How? The slut shaming, body shaming... Don't they have females in their lives?

I have to say this.

Please, let us be men.

Nigerian men will misunderstand this post as feminism and begin the "alpha male" BS: impoverished, beggars, bending, opening, money etc. At the end of the day they're still the ones giving those girls monetary gifts. It's like an online rage against a hurricane. They want career women but cannot handle it. Things like : arrogance, rules, not taking care of the children, puffed up, etc. You can't eat your cake and have it. Worst are the female sympathizers, so damaged by years of abuse and disregard from their counterparts. Nigeria has a long way to go in the way its male citizens reason.

Gender is not a restriction. It's an unavoidable vehicle to getting your dreams accomplished.

You want the Western world? Get ready for all of it. The "alpha male" blather is the imagination of the weak. The people you copy take it all. Take it all, too.

Do not assume I'm female for saying this.

The career women v men threads are getting boring because the men need reorientation about life and the world.

morpheus24:
Still did not address a single point that was made. Lets test IQ's here see who is really slow.

Tellemalls IQ >150

Morpheus, worse than 15. Below average for an African.

Keep it up. The test results are fabulous.

prolog2:
I am not interested in back and forths with you or anyone on nairaland. So this is my last reply to you, you can later on add a huge comment pretending to prove whatever and then praise your ego for winning whatever. I am not playing a game contrary to you. In my book a historians is a guy who studied history in a credible University and wrote a PhD thesis on the subject. History is a science with it's logics and rules. I am not interested in définitions more or less from dictionaries, nor am I interested in non scientific semantics. Once again, your talk about the Bantu and linguists proves absolutely nothing since as I stated, linguists are not historians ! They can have a hypothesis, but still they aren't historians ! History is not based on language similarities, English speaking Indians didn't migrate to India from the UK. Now you can have your comment and be as disrespectful and condescending as you want, I have messaged you for the last time.

Don't mind that idiot.

It is fond of self-aggrandizement and empty noise. It is a little kid with an IQ of 65(that's what it told me).

It believes it knows everything and yet knows nothing.

Once you confront it, it resorts to insults. Don't quote it and it will still look for a way to insult. It is largely unintelligent and that's why it does what it does. It cannot win so it insults.

ednut1:
No one lives in this house tho

What's that place called? Is it an embassy or a bank?

Modarun:
lol did you read what you just wrote? Senseless to say the least. Bros stop mistaken English language mastery to intelligence.
- Albert Einstein isnt fluent in English, but he os more intelligent than you so called English profs. English is just a mere language, like Russia, Germany and Japanese, all of which are by far more advanced than England. What do you mean by intelligence? Mtchew

You don't come across as intelligent.

Save your broken rants for someone else.

You lack sense if you don't understand what a lingua franca is and how that applies to language as a test of intelligence. You're exactly the person the last paragraph was meant for. Just look at your reasoning.

Perhaps you wish to redefine an IQ test to suit your mediocrity.

Empty, senseless and unintelligent ranting from you.

Biglittlelois:
My points are based on the officiall language of a Country, i'm not equating or comparing intelligence of two or more countries, your previous comments talked about mental slavery of whites and all, my points being that, English, the official language in Nigeria, has greater percentage when measuring intelligence, not our different languages or how fluent one is.

You have really tried by arguing with a pebble.

Language is a test of intelligence and that is why it is part of an IQ test.

Other areas are logic and mathematics. A person who only knows mathematics can be said to be dull. How can intelligence only be based on Mathematics as a yardstick for "brilliance"? Is a 4.85 CGPA in mechanical engineering "intelligence"? If the guy cannot speak English then he probably crammed or cheated, because if he can't speak English he probably cannot read or understand the language either.

The arguments about a lingua franca, coming from your opponents on the issue, are just absurd and highlight further why English/language is a measure of intelligence.

Filthiness at its peak.

Just look at them slaughtering this fish in a rubbish dump.

[quote author=Imustreturn post=73928278][/quote]I can tell you enjoyed that.

Rumicarter:
How many cars dey follow those road?

Farm produce. Minerals being transported. Fuel tankers, etc.

Imustreturn:
louder ...


I mumu for here I swear. Standard roads.

For your Nigerian roads, they tend to have the best ones.

Who is talking about roads all over the world compared to these ones? Stop being shallow.

Northern Nigeria has the best roads.

Maybe only the farmers benefit from things like this.