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Angela777:
psychological control too but they use potions, objects and take your photo and some personal clothes to the shaman, some things in your food and some solution to his pe..s, making love with that solution so the woman feels attached more and more and even if you are intelligent and you feel it's something wrong, you don't like this guy too much but you get depressed, desperate to do all for his well being including all your money, just thinking what to do for him. And it's not because he is a King in bed, he was not good in bed, nothing to be desperate but the depression and desperation is killing you, crying all the time, very depressed then if you realize what's going on, you look for God, prayers, shaman cure and protection, there is I almost died when I started to apply the cure. It is strong, then I did read more about it , I am lucky I survived. He gave me the engagement ring, when I started to wear it, it got me stronger, when I took it off for a couple of days, he showed up in video claiming I should wear it. How did he know I wasn't wearing it? But wearing that ring made me so desperate and so in crying all the time, very bad experience. Evil person.

You've really been through something.

peacefull:
Thank you so much.
Yes!! Nobody is perfect. That's why anytime when I made mistake, I have to say sorry and try to don't make that same mistake again.
But sometimes when we had quarrel, we didn't say sorry for each other. Because both of them believed not own fault. But quarrel is finished. Most of times, that same day or next day is nothing happen again. Like not had quarrel
So I'm not always sorry or beg him.

That Japanese guy is still your friend?
He is very lucky to have friend like you!!!

PS, Noooo!!! Your Japanese is very good!!! My English is bad. I like Naruto too and I also old to watch it. I wrote same thing on TV section.
My mom also like Naruto. She is more than me I also like Dragon ball

You watch Dragon Ball as well? Tsu ba ra shi! Too bad I've not watched the new movie of it. Kudos to you and your mom, it has been hard to find adults who care for anime.

My friend and I both traveled out of the country we resided in and we lost contact. He is not online, I tried looking for him.

Wishing you all the best in your pursuit for balance in your marriage.

Angela777:
I know it by personal experience and it feels horrible, it almost killed me.

So it's real. I always thought they use psychological control on the people they get.

You have come a long way.

error4040:
Well you can Say it however you like, but Generalizing is False.



Wait Did you just mention Nigerian men using Voodoo on south Africans ?
Now this is some funny shit


As they Say Different tales for Different folks.
please just don't tag a Whole nation of 190million people as Cheat or scammers because we still have millions of honest Individuals

thank You.

I said charm. C. H. A. R. M. What is voodoo about charm? Please don't change the meaning of a word to suit your understanding of it. Charm is not voodoo. It is a quality of a person.

Corrinthians:
I would cut straight to the chase here because I have never felt so appalled by such brazen display of HATE in my whole life.

The 2019 elections have come and gone, and expectedly, there are the victors and the losers, and those whose mighty egos have been bruised, somewhat irreparably. Unfortunately, those who pride themselves as the beacons of literacy and civility have been the ones displaying the worst signs of barbarism and illiteracy.

A video has emerged of a guy, presumably an Atiku/Obi supporter, rebuffing a beggar who approached him, simply because the beggar is of Northern origin! More surprising than the brazen display of hate towards a destitute, are the comments which have trailed the video, especially on this forum. To those who seem to applaud the callous and shameful display of RAW HATE, the beggar deserves it because they aided the reelection of Buhari.

Now, the following questions arise, and these are questions a human with the heart and brain of a human, should ask themselves.

1. Majority of those who claim the election was a sham and that the actual winner is Atiku/obi, what more evidence does one need to prove they dont believe themselves when they say that?

If indeed you believe Atiku/obi won the election, isnt it then likely that AT LEAST 40% of those northerners voted them? We are talking about millions of people here. Allow that sink for a moment.

Therefore, if millions of those people did vote Atiku/obi, then, chances are there's a healthy probably that person towards whom you are directing your hate actually voted the same candidate you voted!!! How then do you justify your HATE for him?? Can you see how hate blinds reason?

2. If you claim Atiku/obi won but rigged out, what exactly concerns a beggar with rigging? Would someone who rigged an election be on the streets bagging? Do you think any of those people seen in those disgusting videos where folks were thumb printing rims after rims of ballot papers would have anything doing in the streets begging? Do the people you saw in those videos look anything like these beggars to you?

3. We take pride in our religion as Christians and those who are seen applauding the barbaric act are same folks who claim to be Christian's and speak of some phantom islamization agenda. Now, what I would like to ask is, what part of our religion encourage such acts of wickedness and hate? Isnt LOVE itself the greatest virtue of Christianity? Or is there some other brand of Christianity out there which we are oblivious of?

As a matter of fact, both frontline contenders to the office are from THE SAME REGION AND RELIGION, so why have we chosen to become so embittered by the loss of one of them? Or is the reaction born more out of Obi's defeat than it is Atiku's?

We thought we had seen it all as per the hate these folks are capable of after jonathan's loss, but from what we are seeing, it is instructive that we the good citizens of this country brave ourselves for the worse. Unfortunately, those pushing us to the precipice happen to be the most dispersed people across this country. There is hardly any corner of the country where you dont find their kith and kin doing business. What then do they think would be the fate of their loved ones if shiit hits the fan? What exactly is there to gain from this show of shame?

The APC endured opposition for sixteen long years under which period they suffered needless damages and oppression by agents of the state. We never saw them demonstrate such vileness. Why then is it so difficult for the pdp and her supporters to stomach just FIVE YEARS of opposition? Had the supporters of APC acted the way we see these guys act today, would there really be any country left to scramble over today? What is there to gain from burning down a country to whose leadership you aspire? Are you planning on ruling over her ashes?

I think it is time the government of the day uses all the resources within her powers, especially with the incoming NASS, to bring some sanity into the social media space before it consumes the country. China is doing it and heavens have yet to fall!!! As a matter of fact, one is tempted to think Nigerians aren't civilised enough to have access to social media if the things we see there every day is anything to go by. Ironically, the people who boast of being civilised are the ones pushing the boundaries of hate on the internet!

There should be a clampdown on those propagating hate in whichever form. If they can't learn to accept defeat like civilised humans do, then they should have no business having their inflammable opinions broadcasted to the general public. Let them keep that pollution to their nuclear families.

Thank you.

But you are a proponent and billboard display of that RAW HATE with your comments here.

What is the difference between you and him?

Look in the mirror.

You clamor for dictatorship and media control, like in China, just to suit your political ideology and personal opinions, are you not worse than the man in the video?

Look in the mirror.

error4040:
I refuse to believe this Statement. Cheating can never be Generalized to a whole Nation.
And Nigerians been with Foreigners for their Money is Also False!!!

Did you know that South African Ladies Admitting that Nigerian Men are the most Caring Men to set foot on their soil did Trigger The Xenophobic treatment from south Africans towards Nigerians ??
Just because you have come across Certain Number of individuals do not give you the Right to Generalize.

Please we won't accept This.

And lastly I checked Statistically We are no were Among the top 10 nations or country with high rate of Cheaters!

https://www.indy100.com/article/most-adulterous-countries-world-map-affairs-cheat-unfaithful-french-survey-7424631

OK.

Angela777:
Dear, married your husband in Nigeria or not, no difference. He travels and stays for long in Nigeria, he has women there and Nigerian women knowing he is living and working in Japan are going easy with him and having kids from him because they believe he has money and he will support them, specially if she has his child. In Nigeria is not easy life for a woman with no husband or a man giving her money and Nigerian women are very money oriented. So your husband and his friends are going each year to Nigeria and stay there for long because they feel there so easy to have any woman he wants and women don't care if he is married in Japan. I would worry if my husband doesn't care to lose his job in Japan and travels to stay 1-3 months each year, usually in Nigeria they are clubbing with friends and women, drinking, smoking and partying. And yes, he is coming back to you because he needs to make money in Japan and he needs you, it's more easy to live together and paying bills, than alone in Japan, also as a man he needs a woman in his bed in Japan and Japan is not Nigeria, not easy to go and get any woman there. Personally I don't stand cheaters and all the nasty deceases they bring. Just be careful and take care of yourself, think well and see what is good for YOU, it's time you look after yourself, not always about others.

You've said it all.

Though peaceful sounds a bit curious about the other wife if any.

peacefull:
Is he controlling me?

I can't tell.

But if he travels to Nigeria for months on end to the same place his supposed family is and you do not suspect him, you are probably in his jaws already.

peacefull:
Wow Thank you so much!!!
Daijobu desu. Arigato gozaimasu!!

My reply made feel bad and angry for one person who wanted give me advice in here. I never meant make him angry. But I did it. That is so bad. I'm really so sorry for him.

About my husband, He is not so easy to get angry with me. But He is very stubborn. Sometimes he don't wanna hear me and can't get my point what I want him to understand. When I married with him, difficult to told him what I don't like or I don't want him to do something. I was tried to stand it. But when I couldn't to stand it again, I told him with my anger. Now I know that was bad. So one day he told me that I don't need to stand it. If I don't like or I don't want, just tell him straightforward. He said he can't understand why I tried to stand it and just making stress myself. Then I started tell him little by little. Now I can tell him what I don't like about him I'm not always feel sorry for him. But when I make mistake and make him feel bad, I'm feel really sorry for him and I can tell him sorry.

Typical Japanese is making him feel bad?
I was really bad wife. Maybe wicked wife. I think he tried and still trying to be with me. That's why I can't say he is a bad person. Maybe sometimes he treat me bad. But I also sometimes treat him bad. When I realized my bad, I said sorry. But if I don't think I'm not bad, I can't say sorry. That he taught me.

If he married with me because of money, that is big his mistake. Because I'm not rich. If he married with me because of Visa, that is successful. But if his plan is married with Nigerian woman then dump me, that is still not success
If he wanna cheat on me or already cheating on me, he should not bring that matter for our marriage. He should not make me doubt him till I die. If someone married with him after me and know about he already married with me, I'm really despise her and my husband. But if that is their culture, I can understand. I don't like. But I can try to understand. Maybe something I can't understand. But I can't understand doesn't mean I can blame or insult their culture. I have to have respect for other cultures.
Anyway, Thank you so much advice me. I'm really appreciate you.

I'm really Daijobu desu! Arigato gozaimasu!!!!

I mean that the typical Japanese is a very polite individual who does not wish to offend anybody. You apologize a lot. I had a friend from Japan and even if you offend him, he is the first to apologize. No expression of anger even when he must be boiling inside. His honor, second to none.

That aside, provided you can accommodate your husband then that is fine. But some men control with anger and/or silence. They do it so that you keep begging them and feel that you are at fault. That way they can make demands of you and you, being eager to please and appease their anger, will do whatever they want you to. If you find yourself apologizing to one person all the time then something is wrong. That person is controlling or doesn't value you much.

You are not wicked if you make him "angry". It is in human nature to offend. Nobody is perfect. How you deal with it is what makes the difference.

Perhaps he married for a permanent residence, shi ri ma sen, nobody but him knows. Some Nigerian men prefer to be secret bigamists until they are uncovered.

Time heals all wounds. And time exposes all secrets.

Sayonara.

PS: don't mind my bad Japanese. I have tried to learn it from watching Naruto. I have this thing for anime though people think I'm too old for it. Age is but a number.

Angela777:
All true. He was so sweet and convincing, the sweetest person I ever met. Then angry all the time. Now he is so much in love with me again and wants to be back to me and America, ha.
Lady, believe your instincts, your eyes and his actions. Do NOT believe his words.

143. Oops. 419.

Don't worry, she will learn sooner or later what is going on.

Angela777:
Exactly my personal experience! And realizing that, I didn't stay married to my Nigerian ex for years, few months and he went back to Nigeria claiming it's all my fault and I disrespect him telling in his face no other women in my house, in my life and he should go back to his kids and women whom he was hiding from me.
Dear Japanese lady, check his phone and his chats, I didn't check but he left his chats open in our bed and beeping was bothering me and I did see sex chats and traditional wedding planning with a Nigerian woman and so much cheat. Check his phone and his chats or if he claims to be genuine to you, ask him to open his phone for you and check chats and texting. When I did see, I got the other women names and talked to them in Facebook, some were very honest and told me how he lies to them too.

I'm sure he was a very convincing actor until you caught him out. Those are their methods and they see nothing wrong with it. If you ask them, you are their "maga". I hope you have recovered from the treachery.

He will probably gaslight her until she thinks she is hallucinating his behavior and that she's the one with the problems and can't understand him when the truth is that he is the one with the problem.

He will keep getting upset to throw her off his trail then come back and act good to keep up the deception. Nigerians do not have real love. They only know how to use people because the poverty of Nigeria is such that they are dying to have any way out at all. She presents him the perfect opportunity and one that he will exploit emotionally. The more she apologizes the better his control evolves.

I know how many business "partners" have been humble, helpful, stolen my money, gotten what they want and then their true nature of deception becomes obvious. To the average Nigerian, love and Marriage are a business in which they must make the most profits and 419 scam you. If you are doing business, stay away from the ones from Benue, Kogi, Akwaibom and Delta. Their criminal intent is genetic.

The only Nigerian you can get close to is a Nigerian who did not grow up in or around Nigerians.

FreelanceRebel:
Try this, it will be forwared to the right department thereafter.
info@cenbank.org

Thank you.

I hope it works this time.

FreelanceRebel:
The last time I contacted them response came in that day. If you make your letter formal and reasonable

https://www.cbn.gov.ng/Contacts/

Which of the emails did you use, please?

FreelanceRebel:
Request for official bank statement(stamped)
Go to court and file affidavit
Get a police report
Print all your evidence and petition EFCC, forwarded a copy of you petition to CBN indicating it as a forward letter, via email (they will respond in less than 2 hours)
Forward same hardcopy (printed) to your bank branch and headquarter via email


At the bottom of your letter indicate CC: and state all the receipts full address for example.

CC:
EFCC recipient
CBN recipient
Bank HQ address
Etc

If you did not get your money with 10 working days, am in my house come and beat me.

This is reason why we should all have a charge and bail lawyer to handle small case like this.

Pls am not a lawyer o, my job is web design and am hungry now, pls epp me give me your website job, blog design, WordPress, Drupal etc

Am passionate about not starving to death

Which email of the CBN?

Is there another one not on their website that will actually respond to one without saying that the contact is forbidden?

Contacting the CBN is overrated.

peacefull:
Noooo. Don't say sorry. I'm appreciate you. I learned new English!!! MILFS I'm learning English in here. Thank you so much.
I don't know which is East place in Nigeria. I will ask husband which side is his place.
My reply, I made him feel so bad and angry. Really so bad. I'm really so sorry for him.

Dai Jo bu?

Your typical Japanese reactions of politeness and refusal to offend this husband of yours makes you an excellent Target for him to practice his manipulation skills.

If you said he is Igbo, then he is from the place Nigerians call the east.

From all your posts the man is definitely married or having a relationship with a Nigerian women while all you do is pine after him all day. He probably has up to five children while you are waiting to understand his behaviors. I have seen a Nigerian man in America do that. He's enjoying his life while you're feeling sorry for him. You should feel that way for yourself if you think he's not doing anything with another woman when he's in Nigeria. He is always offended/angry because he is looking for a way to get rid of you, probably.

Nigerians are cheats, both their men and women. They only want to be with foreigners for their money. If you don't spend on them they will not like you. And they always run back to Nigeria to have relationships with other people because the only people who can satisfy them are their selves, so that they can cheat each other and nobody is offended.

Capensis:
It is the mirror effect of the Universe as a computational simulation. The tougher the woman at home the better, cos it gives you the opportunity to win at home and transfer the effect holographically to the outside world.

How we do one thing, is how we do everything. How many men here have Sex Time Table, and give their wife excellent Yoni massage and Play Kama Sultra cards. How many? How many have erotic handcuffs, How many here wake their wives up with a cup of tea in the morning? You think you have money? You have no idea that money is useless if you do not know how to use it as a tool effectively. They think it is about buying expensive phone and human hair for their wives. That is important but not as important as waking her up with green tea. Pouring a wine unexpected and taking it to her and holding it to her lips.

It is why the elite does not mix up with the poor, cos they are timid almost always. I choose to mix up, cos I like to share information, hoping someone out there will appreciate.

Like I said, I can take anyone's wife if she is my spec and is maltreated and there is absolutely nothing the man can do. I am a real man, a real lion.

You'd be surprised who would dutifully return to his side. Some people are suckers for pain. Until they really want out, never help them out.

The guy is running for a divorce but will likely repeat the exact same mistakes he's definitely making now.

Capensis:
It is the mirror effect of the Universe as a computational simulation. The tougher the woman at home the better, cos it gives you the opportunity to win at home and transfer the effect holographically to the outside world.

How we do one thing, is how we do everything. How many men here have Sex Time Table, and give their wife excellent Yoni massage and Play Kama Sultra cards. How many? How many have erotic handcuffs, How many here wake their wives up with a cup of tea in the morning? You think you have money? You have no idea that money is useless if you do not know how to use it as a tool effectively. They think it is about buying expensive phone and human hair for their wives. That is important but not as important as waking her up with green tea. Pouring a wine unexpected and taking it to her and holding it to her lips.

It is why the elite does not mix up with the poor, cos they are timid almost always. I choose to mix up, cos I like to share information, hoping someone out there will appreciate.

Like I said, I can take anyone's wife if she is my spec and is maltreated and there is absolutely nothing the man can do. I am a real man, a real lion.

You'd be surprised who would dutifully return to his side. Some people are suckers for pain. Until they really want out, never help them out.

eyinjuege:
You have said it all. Even the OP thinks it's a crime the wife doesn't give him water to wash his hands before eating, and finds it disrespectful he has to get up and go wash it in the kitchen. OP, don't be a joker.

It never ceases to amaze me the unreal expectations the African man will place on his wife to enslave her not knowing that he rises when she does.

How can an adult man not know how to wash his own hands? His wife must be having back her pound of flesh now that he is in her shoes. His side of the story reeks of her getting back at him, but he doesn't seem to get it. It appears his ego is fighting back.

Capensis:
I am not bothered but any assertions out there, cos my template is the cosmic blueprint of how the universe was designed to work, so I design prototypes of ideologies and scale them into any field.

How we do one thing is how we do everything. If a man can not maintain a peaceful home irrespective of the nature of the wife and drive synergy into processes, how does he expect to seal deals out there and bring the spoils home to build empire?

Marriage is a serious business. Very serious and one must be ready to unite the home and the build a legacy for the next generation in the bloodline.

You've nailed it.

A strong reason I believe that men ill at ease with their family are all unsuccessful. People who suck at home will suck at work and everything in general when put under scrutiny. It's like a reflection.

Attain peace and just success at home and everything will fall in place. Home is just a microcosm.

Martinez39:
Men who believe women are to be robots with no ambition are not real men. Masculinity is not a throne and isn't superior to masculinity. Besides, as a disciple of gender equality, the man or the woman can become the bread winner as long as they agree and her happy with but the breadwinner must not insult and maltreat the other.

But we both know that most men cannot play the second fiddle, therefore they must man up and be the breadwinner or endure the marriages in which they aren't.

Toxic masculinity is forever on display on nairaland. The belief that a woman MUST help a man attain his goals is a wrong mentality that is so common here. Why is it never the other way round? Aren't women humans with dreams, too? You don't marry people so that they can build your dreams (what about theirs?).

You, Martinez, are accommodating because of your life experiences. Some other men desire to sit on that throne and do nothing when there. As you say, each party must respect the other. Nobody is lord over the other.

Unfortunately, religion and baseless customs have made men in Africa elevate themselves unnecessarily, thus creating needless problems on the home front. Check it carefully, if a man makes his wife an equal partner there will be no need for troubles.

Capensis:
Your ideology does not tally with your Dad's. Your mother is who she is to the family because of your Dad's strategic home management skills. Your Dad never considered your mum as a partner that 'must' assist, he was excited that your mum was able to assist.

No one is saying that women should not assist, but expecting them to assist compulsorily is the root of the crisis in marriage.

I do not think marriage is compulsory naturally, after all, other animals do not get married, but if you must be married, understand that as a man it is your responsibility to provide 101% of all in that marriage and it does not stop there, you must remain romantic, chief security officer, the caregiver and the breadwinner.

That is why you are called Husband from Husbandry etymology and Wife is called Mother, as in the giver of life. So, a woman must know how to birth beautiful kids and sustain the lives of families with great organic meals. Fathers are Heads of families.

You do not expect a woman to contribute to your responsibilities without dragging the headship of family with you. It is just natural.

This is not what most people expect to read, but truth is always bitter. I do not know why truth is always bitter, but it appears so.

Do that and you will not die young. You will enjoy your years with wisdom and always have a wet pusssy on your bed and wine in your cup.

Even if you say it a million times, the typical African/Nigerian Man will not understand you and will instead pick fault with you or claim that you are a woman hiding behind a male symbol. I do not know why as men we cannot handle the truth and put aside sentiment on family matters.

From the original post you can see a conceited man who expects his wife to bring him water to wash his hands! What on Earth are we reading here? What happened to his legs and hands and sense? Is this the African men ego or intelligence?

That is the genesis of his problem. He expects to be treated as a baby/tin god by his wife, not realizing the unrealistic expectations he is placing on her. Why does he feel his wife must bring him water to wash his hands to prove that she is a good wife? What expectations has he lived up to if he is always at the receiving end of this compulsory servitude of his wife? He must surely irritate her by being jobless, leaving everything to her and still demanding this fickle thing called "respect as a man".

He's upset that she gave out his number to the school. Sorry, but whose number should they have? Why is it that modern men want to carry the title of men but abscond the responsibility it comes with?

So many men want to be fed and clothed by women, but retain their distant aloof mechanisms for dealing with their families. It is disgusting. Just visit any of these threads and you see men with entitlement mentalities that permit them to think their wife MUST help them financially, spiritually and who knows how else. Oh, FFS.

Many people who disagree with you believe a woman is a robot without her own dreams and is dedicated to the man's dreams. This can never work out because every human has ambitions. Once they can live them out they will never want to get back to that place of no self-worth.

Africans need to change this mindset that they are Kings on some imaginary throne of masculinity. You rarely see a woman complain because she's always the slave while the overlord husband is fault picking.

You sound like a person called oolongtea, I think. All the men vilified him because they are most likely lazy and live off their women.

onecrate:
Ong Bak

This is the movie of movies. Glad to see it on here

colestephan86:
It was during celetine omehas regime, the padlock is more like a schacle , they don't sit . They only stand all day ta their post . Was really surprised when I saw them

I'm even more surprised reading this.

Sounds like human rights abuse to even people considered brutal animals by the rest of the Nigerian society. On the other hand, it could be some African voodoo.

If they don't speak they must only shoot, right?

colestephan86:
It was during celetine omehas regime, the padlock is more like a schacle , they don't sit . They only stand all day ta their post . Was really surprised when I saw them

Below, please.

colestephan86:
I schooled in uniport, rivers has always been a state of despirate folks , I will never forget when millitants came to my area n shot sporadically, thank Goodness I wasbt home that day. Wike and those politician there are just too despirate.
It was in rivers state I first saw soldiers with padlocks in their mouth, that was during a curfew in 2010

How does this look and what purpose do the padlocks serve?

1StopRudeness:
Lol....next generation won't be bearable for sane people..if ur are relegious, or just conventional, u probably would be thrown in jail......I try not to involve spirituality into things but clearly something more than physical is going on in the world...cos the trend is just too visible....
The they now added the word "tolerance"...to make everything fly is just annoying....they use that word to blur the thin line between sanity and insanity....there's no weird anymore, theres technically no wrong unless what a politically correct government tags as wrong...

everything has become a thing...soon therapist and psychiatrist won't have jobs anymore...because people that need help are not allowed to get help.. they just endorse everything, make it legal and they start to shout love and tolerance and start to play victim.
All of a sudden there's now something called "no gender" by a few people and I'm just surprised that the government is passing laws forcing majority to conform to no-gender laws in consideration of a few people who started it
They use TV and internet to make everything look cool..and like u said the sad part is they make people who stand for sanity look wicked, backward and uncivilised and sometimes they claim it's crime against them...

When I mentioned it here on nairaland that non LGBT are having LGBT and other such queer things forced down their throats, I was called intolerant.

Imagine a world where we accept everything and anything. Nothing is wrong. A powerful minority lobby so hard for some strange things all in a bid to destroy society and create a form of anarchy.

If you complain that there's too much gay promotional info, you get people telling you it's everywhere so you should accept it. No it is not! The number of gays are so few compared to the rest of the population that it is insane the way they force it down our throats and change the laws to accommodate such minority. It's absurd.

Very soon the pedos will get us to tolerate them because they have "strange love", too. They aren't "hurting" anybody. They're just doing their thing. It's between two consenting people, nevermind if it makes sense or not.

The support this faggy got is so much that you would think heteros are the odd ones. Just because he's gay there was so much noise. Look at what they did to Kevin Hart. All this from people who aren't gay themselves but want to push an agenda they don't understand as love.

It's now: accept us or lose your job, accept us or get off the train, accept us or do not communicate on social media, accept us or you will face serious consequences. It sounds like bullying the rest of us into their thing. The force of it is unbelievable. It's a crime against non LGBT Q.

If we can accept the LGBT and queers, the other depraved lot deserve to be accepted too. After all, it's their own way of loving. They were born that way, too. The murderers, the necrophiles etc. It's in their genetics. They're in love and you're all backwards uncivilized 1700s people if you don't agree. Why do we even arrest anyone? They can give the same arguments and get away with it. They deserve that much.

The world is getting stupid, that's for sure.

Smily202:
Oya come back Nigeria, we will accept you with open hands.

hope u ain't afonjo (Conehead) , potopoto republic (Igbo) , or Amajiri republic. ??


just manage that side , we r still batling ours here.

I was eagerly waiting for a comment like this.
Lol.

futurewise11:
sehr schon auto

Am altesten.

Ewedegubbler:
Here in SA oyibo people too like these kind ugly women. I see them a lot and shake my head. But na their choice and let them enjoy it.

Have you seen them carrying himba women to the malls? Shocking and bewildering.

Jbleenk:
Why are Nigerians giving bad reps to bmw? Looking at getting a 3 series but the negative reps I’m getting got me in a spot.

What u got to say?

Which years 3-Series?

BMWs are excellent cars. But you must ensure it has a motor plan.

Lexusgs430:
The ideal situation for a child, is to have both parents involved (if they are both alive)......

He must have handled some situations, in the wrong manner in the past, possibly hoping he would still win the battle with his attitude. It seems he has realised that the longer he left the issue, things are going from bad to worse......

What he needs is resolution, through the right channels............. Not litigation........

It's ideal, but believe me when I say that some of such children do not care about the missing parent.

Sometimes not both parents must be there. He doesn't need to force himself there and try to be included. He sounds so full of ulterior motives.

He hates the mother, there is no way the child will not pick up on that. He hates the grandparents, too. What is he forcing himself there for? Why did he not take the child from birth since he wanted her so much? It seems like Vengeance.

He should settle it peacefully (and it seems it's only a marriage or disappearance from their lives that is the solution). Why he will not move on is a sign that he does not really love this child. The child is just a tool for him.

Or he can take it to court. He will lose even if he gains custody of the child. He will lose by depriving her of a loving family.

He should move on like the woman has.

His only claim on the child is DNA not fatherhood.

Lexusgs430:
Rather than go down the legal route, creating more enemies along the way...... Your best bet is to seek a mediator (not a family member & not a pastor)..........

This bit you did not mention, you said was paid for by members of her family ......

Must he be involved in the child's life? He said the family take care of her. He's just looking for a weapon to use on the woman and it would seem the child is a tool of his vengeance. He's only interested in annoying the woman. It's obvious she doesn't want his involvement because nothing will come out of it, so why does he keep pushing and pushing to be included? There's something he's not saying.

He said the woman takes care of the child herself, now he says he does that. Let him pick a side of the fence.

If he has made things so bitter it is best he gets another family with whom he's ready to provide a stable family structure and not this caricature he presents while looking for sympathy and support.