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A lady posted a story here about how she cld save her marriage after both of them cheated on each other.The hubby confessed, but she of course was confused as to whether she should do the same. Then as usual yeah we replied in an effort to help her.
So as I leave office today theres a story on radio, topic being 'sexless marriages' and the cause.
A lady calls in with her story. She cheated on her husband and later confessed to him.He got pissed off at first then things took an ugly turn, they had to involve the elders/parents for reconciliation. As soon as they were back together,the hubby changed.He just couldnt trust her anymore and resolved to punish her. First he demanded that he sleeps with wife's sister or he leaves her. The 'silly' wife gave in and yeah he had sex with her sis. As if that wasn't enough,hes denied her sex ever since. Then now hes seeing another woman and wants to marry her.Hes stopped providing in the house and tells the wife that it is his punishment for cheating. The wife says he loves him soo much she cant leave him.The hubby is torturing her as punishment.
So my conclusion after hearing the story was 'just keep your mouth shut'. Thats crazy.What would you do if you were the wife/hubby?

Thank you so much for this, im aware of the post, How i wish Monkeyleg was here, How would you want your hubby to feel after confession that another man was sharing my wife with me and you still want that man to be happy internally with the wife?? Mehn, we are al humans, nobody go like hear dat kind story still love her wife oo, she even get luck say d man no poison her codedly!

Halo pals

Am into a very serious relatnship which i pray will end up in marriage. My friend happens to be a virgin and i tink i will classify myself as one too since i have not had sex for over twenty years now. We had promised each other sex only after our marriage. Now,our challenge is dat, she had an irregularity in her menstraul period last month, after wch we decided it is neccessary she sees a doctor. After seeing the doctor, he said she had some bacterial infection in the stomach and prescribed some antibiotic drugs for her. He also said the only way to reduce such infections later is for her to get married on time cos frequent sex will reduce such, shez just 23 now and about to graduate and am 28 though am working. Am really afraid cos i dnt want to break my vow. I intend to settle down in da next one or two yrs after her service. Pls your advice will go a long way to help us overcome dis situation especially on medical grounds.

Tnx.

Not until you tell me when you began having sex will i release my advise to you since you claimed it was 20yrs and you are 28 now. Trust me

Please help me clear my doubt over this women money palava, ,  Naturally, i like hanging out with gurls, bt i've come to realise How desperate most of them are in term of begging Stylishly for either gifts or money , I use to know of this gurl, who happens to be a close frnd of mine, she looks saint and Ajeboish(Butterish), so right in my mind, i had concluded she's not gonna cost me much even if i was  going to spend.

Not too long, i began observing some strange attitudes , She saw Laptop and BB with me, which she hasnt seen with me from onset, Nna mehn, she begin enter me oo, And not she alone even some other gurls around me are of the same attitude and this piss me off!!,   sure i give without hesitation, but not when you couldnt keep your eyes off trivial properties not worth a love we agreed on, I BE UNA PAPA NI? ABI WETIN UNA DEY OFFER ME WEY ME SELF NO DEY OFFER UNA??

I no stingy oo, bt no beg me

as far as im concern, the guy wasnt wrong, He knows what he wants and same applies to all these thieves( Girls) here spitting poo

Experience they say is the best teacher and there is no harm in experimenting. Just take a large dose of marijuana to get there and come back with the answer.

Na mad people u suppose go ask dis question, Just join mental/mad/insane forum and post your question there and i bet you shall find your answer

Refer her to me make i nack am

Monkeyleg wants to injure my tiny hole . I am still single o brother mii.Single and Ready to mingle.

Na so OMOBA!

I am convinced the poster already knows which way she wants to go, probably only came on here to get some sort of support for her decision. I think it is only fair that all possible outcomes are presented to her.

I wonder what the advise would be when her husband find out from another source, because these things sure do have a way of coming out.

Just last week we all read about Ryan Giggs having an affair with his brothers wife for 8yrs and guess what the borther found out through the press, not from the wife, but the british media. i wonder how that one will be sorted out

You better post your contact details, cos if this lady eventually tells her man and the man kill am, i dey come your house straight with the woman family.

ROTFLMAOOOOOOOO@Tellwisdom be honest would you really want to know?

Yes, cos i would be getting married to you in couple of months, Clear my doubt nw, Cos Oma LEKU btwn us!

Yes He is Gay.Hes also been chasing my tiny A.S.S for years

Ahh, u dont mean it??,  oboy even your tiny backside wey u dey try manage with your wife, he still wan share am with your woman #Badt guy

na wa oh wonders shall never end. So u bleep outside marriage, for the slightest marriage , God go help we men oh u c wetin young babes go dey reason, its a normal thing we can do it and conceal it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,but one day monkey go go market e no go come back,


when u say he was crying and sobing then u agreed for him to perfom cleansing on u, i laugh cos its clear that u reason with your p.u.s.sY NOT your HEAD AND SEX IS your MAIN MOTIVATIONS, IF I HAD A CANE I WOULD HAVE GIVEN U 20 STROKES OF THE CANE SO U CAN REASON WITH your HEAD ALWAYS.

IN ANY CASE ALOT OF LADIES REASON THIS WAY AND BLAME IT ON THE CRYING AND SOBING OF THE gUY.


BUT TIME WILL EXPOSE ALL OF THEM ONE BY ONE,

WELL THEY SAY A WOMANS MIND IS LIKE A DEEP OCEAN FULL OF MANY DIRTY SECRETS, I KNOW MANY LADIES READING THIS ARE GUILTY OF THIS/

CONFESS TO your HUSBAND AND GET A GOOD START ELSE your PRAYERS WILL BE HINDERED AND LIFE MAY BECOME DIFFICULT FOR BOTH OF U.

VERY IMPORTAND IF U GO TO CHURCH ELSE U JUST WARMING THE CHAIRS COS U ARE A STUMBLING BLOCK TO your HUSBAND,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

IF U IGNORE THIS ADVISE  PREPARE FOR DIFFICULT TIME AHEAD ,MONEY WISE AND FAMILWISE, .CONFESS CONFESS CONFESS

MUMU PIKIN, This wan wey u dey speak here na Chinese english??

and see where you are directing the issue.who is talking about fhucking his brothers wife. She said she doesnt want to lose her husband and she is not ready for a divorce(cant you get it dumbest a.s.s?).she is ready to make her marriage work again. Telling her husband brings the possibility of the marriage success to 0%. I dont even know if you are a man or woman,I bet you cant tell your gay partner you cheated on him

Dont make me believe this guy Monkeyleg is a gay Clear my doubt abeg

There is way too much holier than thou going on in this topic.

I really think you are being unrealistic Monkeyleg all this truth truth truth.

I really dont think the best solution is to go about blabbing without thinking.  She knows her husband best and she knows the situation she is in.  

Its ok for a man to have an affair it doesnt destroy them or their families infact if a woman makes too much noise they will tell her to sit down and shut up.

Now if a woman has an affair God save her she will be disgraced sent packing and have her life made hell.

Even if she tells him, now is not the right time she should solve the issues they have now before saying "oh by the way I have been haing mindblowing sex for months"

I hope you wont do this to me when im married to you?  

Ultimately it is upto the poster to choose what ever course  she wishes. Persoanlly I dont think healing can begin if lies still exist, and I would want to dreed the outcome if he ever found out, which remains a big possibility.

Poster really needs to understand that this kind issue comes with its consequences, and most times there is no easy way out.

Good luck

Brother its not this easy as you think, These guys will live under the same roof forever and youe xpect that guy to be happy whenever he remembers MONKEYLEG dey Bleep him wife, man mi,  if e hit u, u go knw watsup

You have to make a choice and be prepared for whatever the outcome.  You cant have your cake and eat it dear.

If you tell him be prepared for him leaving and telling everybody what you have been doing.

If you dont want to keep it a secret you cant expect him to accept and be happy about it.  He sounds like an alpha male.

your conscience will be free but you have a tough road ahead of you if he makes a lot of noise about it.

He may suprise you with his reaction 

Just prepare your mind for the worst stay strong and please protet your child from this mess you guys created.

Please expanciate, What were you insinuating here madam??

Excuse me where did I say she should tell him?

I told her if she really wanted to tell him she needed to be prepared for the back lash!

i don't know their names But if they are sinners their prayers won't work

E be like say u chop poo, cos u just spat smelling word!

anyone noticed that Jide Kosoko looks like Alao Akala the famed Amala Politician?

What abt it sir?? Shey make we dey run??

Great question . . . . .  The man will not even remember that he did it too

I swear, na dat time him own sin go become righteous one, Pkomor mehn spiting rubbish like they knew 100% what the man will do!

monkeyleg and LadyT, You guys fink  its this easy to just walk up to your husband and tell him you are YASHING ANOTHER MAN( No tushed word for it)

Honey, I dey Bleep dat guy, and you  would imagine how the husband would feel when he hears it??, #Una don dey madt abi??#

On a serious note, It wont be easy at all, and you guys will not be there to bear the pain with her, so why SPIT rubbish like you guys were the best PEOPLE, If you were with me most especially (Monkeyleg), I go don scrap all your ten fingers wey u dey take type and by then, we no go dey see you for NL again.# Bombombastical eleme#

I kinda agree with you

Na so, cos i no go like hear for paper tomorw say, A man killed her wife for infedility By then story go change

These same pple equaling themselves as Mr And Mrs Perfect would one day come here and seek for advise on similar issue, #No curse#, Cos right now, i can see perfectness in them as they claimed!!

Mehn!!, i really understand hw you feel, BUT MY ADVISE FOR YOU IS, , DONT TELL YOUR MAN OOOOOOOO!  GBESE NLA, ok??  #ONCODE

odes u will not tink of how 2 make your own money. awon olosi. busy bodies. always postin thins about rich pastors. is it a crime 4 a pastor 2 be rich. u will not attack your politicians dat ar d ones eatin your money. is it your money dat made d pastor rich or did d pple dat pay offering complain 2 u? better go and look 4 a job. freaks. mstcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.

MUMU PIKIN

Like he was seeing your posts and abuses, You guy wasting your strength hitting the keyboard , Wehter u like am or not, He has spoken and he is heard morethan anyof you here typing abuses

Baba, i no like u and i no hate u, bt i like ur crazy ways

Im a programmer too bt no saby my job.na futbolling i saby pass, hw much dem fit pay me

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badt guy




@Op, You self try go see doctor, Or try spraying sherturse or airfreshner into your mouth

Every problem now for lagos, fashola, dog die, fashola, yoruba man craze, fashola, light, na fashola And who says fashola owns these busess

People on nairaland are gradually making it a taboo for anyone to see and complain about anything wrong in lag.

How will attacking the writer and poster answer the question or solve the issue raised in the report. Some of us actually live and experience these things so stop making it a crime to cricticise, it isnt helping the guvnor as u might think.

Almajiris!

You must be refering to someone or re u soliloquizing??

D tin show for your face, cos e be like sey na BRT u wan dey rely on now for transportation!! Dont cry me a river

Black color, black voice, wetin u expect, NO BE NOISE??

If nobody talk about you, then you are nobody, Whether na true them talk or na lie
Ma guy
Wa lai
.Tuface  M-Aiya


Upto you naw

I swear, if them sue this matter reach KEYAMO CHAMBER, Jonathan go hear am hot, Free and fair my bombom

So far millions is concerned, The money still borku, E TOO MUCH, #SANGOKILLUNA#

mumu pikin

Go and retest, The result might come the other way, There was this guy i use to knw, who was given a fake test result, He later went to another hospital for a test and confirm negative, So no fear, Go and re-do it and u shall be glad u did