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Lalami3232:
Whatever business you're planning, I don't have an issue with it. But try make you learn programming and you go thank me later

some of us won learn but we no get resource, or we can't afford it. Can you help ?

ell77:
If this is all it takes for a red-blooded male to turn gay - God help humanity! Don't think it is that simple but I believe it may be true for a couple of peeps I guess.



HELL NO Star_Gates, I am glad if my advice is helpful but drink doe snot give confidence it only releases you inhibitions the two may sound similar but they are not even close. Confidence is loving yourself and having faith in yourself knowing that you are a good catch and that if someone does not like you it is their loss, it is knowing that yes you do have faults and are not perfect and knowing that everyone has faults and yours are no worse than the next guy, get this into your head first. Being drunk only releases your inhibitons and clouds your mind, it makes you think no one will turn you down which is obviously not true for anyone so when you approach a girl when you are drunk you will be more likely to get more emotional when she says no (i.e. violent, cry). Also you may approach a girl who is not on your level cos your judgement is clouded (as in you may approach a prostitute! - you said you were looking for a girlfriend not a one night stand!). Another thing is for me, and alot of girls I know alchohol is a big turn off, if I even smell alcohol on a guy I immediately move away or else I turn up my nose in disgust (I actually can't help it - but I am not alone). SO DON'T USE ALCOHOL TO BRING CONFIDENCE IT WON'T WORK!

Just suck it up and move to a girl with a friendly smile - not a cocky inyour face attitude think of the person as a long lost friend, or act like you are in an interview situation. Body language is important in interviews the same might apply in real life i.e. don't stand too close or to far (lets say an arms length away you may get closer if her eyes or behaviour tells you she is interested or flirting), don't fold your arms or raise your hands up in the air, (don't put your hands on your waist - bit gay to me), stand up straight, maybe one hand in your pocket, one hand at waist level for gestures. If you need to touvh her to get her attention, don't tap or thwack her and don't grab her just gently rest the tips of your fingers on her shoulder or forearm, whilst saying 'excuse me'. This way you look really confident, but not aggressive or disrespectful (as soon as she turns around remove your hand).

I can tell you how to look confident without looking cocky but not 100% sure how to make you feel confident. Try not to stutter or stammer when you speak but if you do, don't despair, because although some girls may not like that others may find it helplessly adorable ok?! The way you dress may help with your confidence. I know you are in Nigeria so 'apparently' girls like it when guys look like they have 'tasted' abroad i.e. Jeans, timberlands, T-shirt. However, to me, the best thing a man can do to make himself look on point is this:

- Wear a fitted black suit with a tie (if you don't wan't to wear a jacket, a crisp fitted white shirt will do no tie needed)
- Have a clean very low faded hair cut i.e. look at Pharrell, Usher, Jay-Z.
- Wear one watch on one hand (analogue not digital) and/or wear one silver thick chain bracelet (two different hands if wear both)
- Black polished closed-toe shoes (no sandals please) - with black socks

To me most men look good in this. It may bring you some confidence because automatically you will see girls start looking at you - probably wondering which bank or oil company you OWN. There is a saying 'Clothes don't make the man' - it is true but clothes represent the man to me! Good luck.

Oh yeah if you have a beard shave it off unless it is a clean crisp cut. Hope this helps with you - about the confidence thing, not really sure, maybe have a theme tune in your head like Sean Paul 'Like Glue' lol - seriously it may help! Also go to more clubs and socialise.

I doff my hat to you ma'am. I'm definitely learning a lot from you. Thanks for the tips

aujile:
What exactly do you want him to do for you? Person de find solution to him problem and you want to send a dm. Rather stick to the thread and get solution.
@op and mr man
Your issue is psychological and not medical (at least you have seen a doctor). I have met a guy that had same issue and i tried to guide him but he felt it i didn't know anything (as he came for medical assistance and i informed him it's psychological) he ended up spending so much money without any results.
Note those comments mentioning "mind" "psychology" and follow those steps

ok thanks for your inputs

ridbell01:
stop masturbation first then I can sell something for you you just need original honey

I have stopped masturbation sir.

SUPERPACK:
@seun should consider making me a paid antispam moderator. I will make sure their posts are deleted within a minute after creation.

same here. I wouldn't mind if he does pay me to do so. They wanna ruin romanceland for us.

Cutehector:
very soon nl will be hacked. The level of spamming is too much.

so sad.

Michelle70:
No, the mods are not bots, they too have something to do.

You see those porn guys, even if u block them for 80yrs, they could create 3more accounts in 10mins and post porn

nawa. They should create a bot capable of detecting nude images and deleting such threads then.

revaultng:
Hello.

I feel I’m impotent and I’m really worried. Extra worried. I’ve never had penetrative sex all my life and I’m 26. Since 2013, I’ve been a chronic masturbator. I felt it was safe since i read online that it had no side effect. So i felt I’m good till i was with my girlfriend. We tried having sex and I couldn’t penetrate her. I wasn’t hard enough. We tried several times again and it was the same thing. She broke up with me. Fast forward to February this year. I was with another babe, we linked up and tried to have sex but still the same thing. I felt I wasn’t attracted to her. Another in June and I wasn’t even erect one bit.

Then i got so worried. Went to the hospital, and the doctor said i was okay medically. Tried herbs and still didn’t feel confident. I read somewhere on nairaland where a guy saiid he used Zinc supplement. I’ve stopped masturbating. And I’ve been using the supplement too. But I’m really not convinced cos I don’t wake up with erections but when I’m awake, i get hard.

Please, I’m dying. I need help ������

I'm suffering the same. Can I send a DM please

Clique1788:
Good morning guys, imagine this early Monday morning I can't read anything reasonable here in RL, all these porn promoters has flooded everywhere or has Seun signed a contract with Bleep sites?

the useless mods have refused to do anything about it. They are all complicit! And it's very sad ..

Roseodd:
Guys please pray for me,if this game end like this,nah 5.1million I go hammer today

Baba God don do am for you. Abeg show boys love.

Ladipo35:
I'm 35, idiot. Will be 36 this year. Why do everybody around me think I don't have sense �. This is why I want to go to Canada, they'll respect me ther

no vex sir.

Ladipo35:
A break taken by a student between high school and tertiary education

oh!!! Thanks a lot brutha.

gapyeargirl:
Don't think white women attractive to all races. Firstly depends on the woman surely. Definitely not superior to any other race. Some might think so, but I know I don't think that. As for the the woman say she only date white men, well she probably racist. We all attracted to different things. Then again I am mostly white, ( slightly Hispanic but not much) and i prefer black guys, so maybe i reverse racist. Reading the woman's post, she sounds like an idiot. Some of us believe that 'white people' caused pain to the contient of Africa. Think we need to give back for pain caused. That one reason I choose Nigeria for my gap year.

Hey,,, welcome to Nigeria. What's a gap year? And where are you going to be settling when you arrive Nigeria? Good morning

Ladipo35:
A lady on Quora explained why white women are the most attractive of all race. There's no doubt that the white race is actually superior to all other race. They're beautiful than us, Africa and they're technologically advanced and smarter than we'll ever be . But still, if I have the chance to date a White girl, I'll deny my country because of such favor.

how old are you please?? You sound like a child suffering from a underdeveloped brain.

Vanilla4:
I ain't shy... Not until we visit Shyborough, I've got four tickets.

four tickets you say! I thought it only takes two to tango. Who's the other two for? I wouldn't fancy a crowd

Samantha123:
Okay, here in SA it's compulsory for us to do our home languages in school, no tertiary institution will accept you if your high school results don't have a home language as a subject.

wow! That's cool. No wonder a lot of SA'rians know their languages so well.

Samantha123:
Don't your parents speak to you in your home language

they did o. But my Dad was the one who didn't encourage us to speak in our dialect because he was always using English and we responded back in English. Mumsy was the one who never spoke English to us.

Samantha123:
How come you're not fluent in your home language? Weren't you raised in Nigeria?

I was raised in Nigeria..I dunno. Its just me not trying hard enough

lonikit:
Please explain it in details. I don't have the knowledge. Is it profitable, who are the buyers

yes it's profitable. I don't know much but they do give birth to lots of children and they are not prone to falling sick anyhiw

Samantha123:
So far I'm fluent in 6 SA languages and I'm still learning the other 3, I can speak them but I'm not that good.

wow! I doff my hat. That's impressive

Samantha123:
I mean you Nigerians, what do you classify yourselves as since you're not Bantu people?

oh. We don't do classifications jare. Lol

lonikit:
Thank you. But, is pig farming profitable Who are the people buying it. Is it marketable in the south West

try rabbits