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Dzzzz:
Oya come sweep oshodi under bridge..

Dzzzz:
You no get work..

olioxx:
Real World Experience:

Here is what I do, if you have followed my post here you'll know that what has always worked for me is the eye contact, see I'll first look at the girl I want to approach. I will look at her so she knows I'm looking at her, then I'll let her know I'm looking at her bum(I won't go for breast initially, as it's a little creepy), but you can never go wrong looking at her jiggling bum.

You think it's for no reason women snap pictures by posing with her bum?

Stare at it, look at it, admire it.

Then when you approach her, please don't start with "you are beautiful" instead compliment her cloth, tell her you found her interesting and you'll like to know her better.


If you are in a shop or public place, after the whole looking thing ask her about a particular product you want to buy and if she recommends you buy it or fake that you don't know a particular place if she can describe.
Regarding getting her number at this stage, the truth is it's dicey. Sometimes she will give you wrong number, so what I do to ease any tension is to say maybe next week I'll see you around, since I stay in the neighborhood.
That way no much tension.

But no lies it helps to be tall, handsome and with nice voice. Also if you can just change all your cloth(tops) to grey or black .... For pants, you can go with dark blue trousers or shorts. Those colors you can't go wrong.

JESHAL007:
True. The moment you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to get her, you've already started the game at a losing score: You 0, the Girl 1.

Its not that it's a crime to like someone but by liking her you're already more invested than she is because she feels ZERO emotions for you while you're on fire for her. You're already chasing.

Rizzputin:
You're not the only one experiencing this. Most guys on this thread and in red pill deceive themselves with books and quotes thinking they're making progress.

Unfortunately seduction is about real world experience. Nothing beats staying in the trenches of seduction to find what works.

For you, you became a bf/husband material to her. So she most likely encouraged him to keep it a secret. This way she doesn't ruin her chances of care from you.

And it's not about being ruthless. In fact, ruthlessness doesn't work long term.

You want to put yourself and your mission first. Once you do that, words like "wicked" "stubborn" "I hate you" will start flowing from women's mouths to you along with bjs and sex.

I've always told guys to drop the bf/husband material route. And go hard on being seen as fwb or fb material

That's how you win long term.

Anyways, there are still more lessons to learn. More wahala to see. Just man up and embrace them

It will all pay off. Soon you'll have a deep sense of calm knowing you get women anywhere and in in any place and in any situation

thrillionaire:
Why is this shitty topic in romance section? Mods, una dey do una work so?

okezuoemmanue:
And u said she returned from Owerri to Uyo (Calabar). I know want say wetin dey my mind

Antichristian2:
It's obviously not OUR Islam!

Why the lie?

lovediehatelive:
If I say my friend asked me to ask for advice, I know you all would come for me telling me to come out clean that you've heard this before, because, it's me not some imaginary friend.



Okay okay, let me confess: I accept. It's me. Not my friend.



So it has gotten to my turn. The girl I intend to settle down with is about to go for NYSC.



She was so overjoyed when she told me. I'm happy for her, but you know na...



Several stories of how them dey chop people serious girlfriend for NYSC.



We've heard about the 3 weeks camp, how some are caught doing weeweechu and sent home.



Even if she doesn't do that the 3 weeks as a decent girl I know her to be, the remaining service months are there and even though she is decent I can't trust her to that extent.


Had it been we are married now I can influence it, work redeployment and camp exemption for her to be with me while receiving the monthly alawee.


But things are still open since I haven't done a single thing on her head.


Normally with the news I've been hearing about durtty stuff going on during NYSC I am conditioning my mind to expect the worst and remove my expectations. Yes, she's decent, but she's human and can fall for it.



I can vouch for her a bit but not completely because some girls might still be doing it behind you no matter how decent they appear or how serious the relationship is.



And I know fully well how painful it can be when you use your whole mind in a relationship and she breaks your heart, how painful it can be. So actually it would pain me if anything happens, but I have conditioned my mind not to allow the pain to get deep into me. I've lowered my expectations in the relationship, but my mind still dey.

(Hoping for the best but expecting the worst)


Is there anyone that has been in similar situations?


How did it go?
How did it end?



What do you advise I do?


Move on?

Keep in touch?

moremuch1:
“Man suffers cause he takes serious what the gods made for fun”

Zehdbe:
christians always first to comment on any islam thread

JoeEeL:
E

My brother, u don nail am. Men still marry o. What a risk. Most times a man spends more, and also has more. And also far more likely to lose assets to his wife after a divorce, combined with the custody of the children.

Also he cant easily date multiple, otherwise his wife must never find out. And women are much more discreet in cheating in marriages than men. And its wayyyyyyy easier and much much cheaper for a woman to cheat over there. And its so expensive for a man to cheat. When u combine this with the thought of many men having previously drilled ur so called wife's punna, combined with the cost of marriage...ouch, ouch. It hurts!

Although some men these days decide to tint their windows so they can cheat right in their car for a much cheaper option but that has to be a banny uve known for long, probably b4 u met ur wife. 😃 Otherwise ana hotel, motel or airbnb. Rent: $50 - $150. Also food. Also transportation.

Besides most babes u meet over there, especially on dating sites, are simply african babes that have been passed around. Some have tasted white diiks but wont tell u. And the bannies coming from countries like Italo, Egypt, Oman, Libya, UAE... its over!!!

JoeEeL:
Its better to risk it alone and make it. Even if not loud making, but just comfortable enough. Thrn treat them like d farm tools they are. Spread ur "love" to many women, never concentrate on one to avoid had i known.

In fact, enh...I be proud follower of GehGeh and Odinaka the Jajant king!

JoeEeL:
Agreed. Im surprised as to how many men are still blindsided to the curent reality. Women simply want to have their cake and eat it.

They want all the advantages of men: inheritance, earn same, work same, date multiples...which admittedly isnt bad.

But where they are cunny is they want to continue receiving baby girl life treatment: hiding under the banner of relationship and marriage as a lifelong form of soft employment. And truth be told, they are winning...for now sha.

Thats why as a man, never ever be faithful. Never keep one. And if possible forgo marriage. If u cant, then marry multiple. And if ure in d western world, God punish u as a nigerian man if u go and marry

JoeEeL:
We will reduce d amount of okokos we have. My Annang chic that year been cheat on me. I wan craze.

Can u imagine in my 2nd relationship, after explaining all d trauma to my new gf, she still allow another guy kiss am. And she confessed after I queried her. And no be say this my 2nd girl loose like that o. And she say na only kiss but i suspect say d guy go don smooch too. If possible, sex sef possible but I highly highly doubt it.

But as an okoko I must never be, I must never erase any possibilities!

VeraAg:
Wow, that made my day. Thank you

I like dark skin men back. The ones I went to secondary school with were just cruel. They would come unsolicitated and ridicule me to my face. They made it clear what they thought of my skin complexion without me asking, even when we looked similar.

JoeEeL:
because the conditions were not met.

There are always conditions that will make her oblige.

It could be they dont trust d guy...hes a kiss and tell. Or the place is not private enough. Or hes not just attractive to her, or famous enough etc.

That girl that u want to vouch for, if they leave her in d same room with a star like lets say Adekunle Gold, u think she will not oblige? Talkless of a superstar like wizkid or even aged 2face.

If they dont fall for them, u know who might get their way into their panties? Yes it could be ur pastor, a deacon, an evangelist or a dedicated church goer or speaking in tongues guy.

If no, it could be the dedication of that gym guy u see across the street.

Only a fool trusts women! Women that dont trust themselves. Women that can do things and have no explanation for doing them.

U too funny

JoeEeL:
Yes. Now f off

JoeEeL:
What is the definition of classy women sef? If we check well and ask d guy, it probably means a woman wey no really dey too demanding and probably has an occupation that keeps her busy.

Thats all o. What a joke!

CHIEFCHICKEN:
Congratulations on your way to financial breakthrough and emotional freedom

Rearealki:
Seems i have configured my life to be single even tho i desire relationship
But it seems it impossible for me to have one

I lack basic skills of having a partner
Like communication skills
Leadership skills

I don’t even know how to woo a lady or talk to them

May be this is due to my childhood mindset that if don’t talk to girls I will make heaven now all my efforts on ladies dies on first trial

Sonnobax15:

I pity you..

Make Nigerian banny tell you --'I love you " for airport finish,and watch how she go rush hop into another diick the moment your plane don move

Nigerian bannies wey be Merlin . Relationships magicians

Ikennaford:
Been a minute nairalanders,,, how y'all doing,,

Saw alot of post on here about guys that think they're rich spending money on women here in nigeria to buy their love... Imma tell you what,,,i left my family house before i graduated from imsu, bought my car, FORD EDGE that year with a furnished 3 bedroom flat in my city owerri ,,, bro i swear to god, i never spend on women, they trynna make me happy with theirs, they trynna invest more just to keep me cos I'm already doing well,, my dressing, my car already did the talking, non of'em ever billed me for anything,, so i wonder why guys complain alot about girls billing them when they are comfortable, she comes to your apartment,she cook the food, chit chat, have sex that's it, why you trynna impress in a relationship,, now here in Chicago, got my baby mama,kenyan American, she's always trying every damn thing to keep a young niqqa like me,pls y'all my niqqqas on here try not to impress em ladies, they don't like it,,, say no when they bill you, I'm 32 now never had a heartbreak before, rather shattered alot with no remorse cos I'm the price,,, be good y'all

kpankpangolo:
All those muscles and he busts into a zesty dance. Lol. Femboys here are jealous.

VeraAg:
What prompted me to ask this questions is from my observations. Dark skin girls get called names from childhood while lighter girls are given compliments and if some decided to be messing around with a guy or two, they were rarely called out. I totally understand what is being said here about not comparing my life to others, I was heated at the moment of posting this.