essentialone: Teach your girl child or younger sisters to understand that NOTHING IS FREE, especially when given to them by a guy who is not their Father, their Brother, or their Son.
There is always a Price she is expected to pay back, and that is with her Thing. If she is not interested in doing so, then let her avoid all cash and gifts. Some girls always think that they are Smart, and that guys are fools, that they can eat their money and run away, until they meet the guy who will take it by force and rape them to death.
they'll never listen to this. They always think they are wise. They want to always eat their cake and have it
budaatum: I am beginning to be intrigued by this so called "average Nigerian" that is going about. I've just been told they are taught rubbish, and here's me being told they are not good people.
Please, "average Nigerians" on Nairaland, if any, are you a bad person, and do you expect the Executive and the Legislature to check their excess power for you?
how do you always do this? Embedding links inside your texts? Do you have experience in website dev cause I think it's amazing. Tell me how please.
Chidimma Adetshina is making headlines once again as the former South African beauty pageant contestant has reportedly taken her deportation battle to court.
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Jayhome24: Taaaaaarrr!!! mechionu biko may God punish that fan wey want blow shit.
Tinubu is not the cause of anybody failure so pls stop yarning nonsense and face front biko.
Obj was there same complain.
Yarduua/Gej same complain.
Gej was there same complain.
Buhari was there same complain.
Now Tinubu is there same complain so what is the fuss here? All we are saying is we will rather stop Nigeria from existing than obi or atiku to rule Nigeria these two bitch won't enter aso rock as the president so the earlier you understand what is on ground the better for you.
Tinubu reform must be completed either you like it or not.
No worry, when that time comes you go understand. Na then you go realize how indeed unwise you have been and been foolishly led to be the instrument of chaos of politicians that do not give a hoot if you died today. No worry jare, na time. I no read all your rubbish btw.
Jayhome24: Chief Kosoko with due respect sir no need to appeal or tell them. Sir leave us with them we are capable of handling them and rupture their balls.
We are not appealing to them we are telling them its Tinubu or nothing and we mean it. They thought we are joking with them.
"Pesin wey wan die don jam pesin wey go kill am" dat is the case on ground we will rather stop Nigeria from existing in world map than to allow obi or atiku to become the president we will do everything possible under the sun to make sure none of this 2 bitch enter aso rock as president. Dem go learn a lesson...
Quote me if you line I don't bloody care cus you can't change what we already plan to execute and you can't do nada about it...
It's Tinubu or nothing...
I really feel sad for you. One day when shiiit hit the fans and you find yourself in a position of helplessness due to How Nigeria is being run, you'll come to regret these things. Bur for now, enjoy.
ReluctantAdult: Sad boys who didn't get any female attention and care in childhood/teenage years, have grown into desperate, vulnerable men craving for love; thus becoming prey to manipulative women.
So when these dudes are shown the slightest of attention by an average woman (who probably is the most attractive woman they've had their whole life ) , they become zombies and activate their mumu buttons to the max; tolerating disrespect, abuse, and exploitation for fear of losing her.
You don't wanna have to deal with this set of men where their women are involved because they'd throw you under the bus to please the missus
One guy I knew from way back, hustled from the streets to a comfortable life. Got his own place, furniture, generator and all. This guy wasn't happy though, as he didn't have a girlfriend at the time. He was super desperate to get a woman and would always beg me to match him with one of the many girls I brought to his place. It was really surprising to me; seeing him centre his fulfillment on having a partner and sadly, this is true for many young men who have made some money as they're always going to immediately go looking for a woman to love and spend on next.
Well I'm not like that. I've always found peace and energy from within and not from other people. I've always lived alone without needing a live-in partner to cohabit with. A partner would disrupt my energy flow.
Well I'm writing this long epistle because some man did something really stupid and irrational today, because of a Smallie he calls his girlfriend. Made me lose money. Imma cut his weakass off any deals going forward.
TLDR: Naija men please decenter women and stop acting a fool to please women especially when another person's business is on the line. Thank you.
guy explaining how e take make you lose money. This story no complete. Let's learn
You are living in a dysfunctional system. Cash out and clean your money. Even the people you looked up to did it, so your case will not be different. If you like, dey there dey reason societal judgment including the hypocrites in nairaland, nah you go suffer the depression of being broke.
You think say capital go fall from the sky, if you don't hustle for the capital? Oga, go bomb celeb, celeb boys full your school.
big man can I have a word or two concerning this? Abeg
FayaBall: It is because of that lie "not all women are bad" which men unfortunately refuse to believe in their mind of being fair when already the women have shown that the game is not fair.
Kalatium: All of a sudden men are hiding their stories of how they messed up with women. Now everyone is claiming to be a pro with women as if they never pass through something like this in the hands of some ladies.
I'm not a pro, my ex was a single mother that bleeped me up. I know how much I lost. But I'll be damned if the same ever happens to me again. That's what I'm saying. How you managed to let 8 girls play you is beyond mey understanding
Kalatium: There is one question every man should ask himself before calling any woman the 'love of his life' .
If everything you have worked for disappeared tomorrow, if your job was gone, your business collapsed or your income suddenly stopped, would she still look at you with the same love, respect and admiration? What if she starts Earning more than you, will she remain with you?
For a long time, I believed the answer would be yes because love was supposed to be unconditional.
Life eventually answered that question for me, not once, not twice, but eight different times in a period of 10 years. Every relationship was different, every woman had a different personality, from different ethnic groups but the lesson at the end was painfully similar.
Story One: When I Lost My First Job
We had been together for two years and I genuinely believed we were building a future together. When my former company downsized and I lost my job, the first person I wanted to speak to was the woman I loved because I expected comfort, encouragement and reassurance that we would get through it together.
Instead, the conversation immediately shifted to : What would become of the relationship now that I was unemployed. The warmth gradually disappeared, the phone calls became less frequent, the replies became shorter and within a few weeks she had emotionally checked out. Before long, she had moved on with another man. Two years of commitment disappeared almost as quickly as my monthly salary.
Story Two: "I'll Find Someone Else"
Months later i got into another relationship. As of then i started a business i got introduced to and at it was booming. Then came a point, where the business became slow and money was unusually tight. For the first time since we started dating, I could not spend the way I normally did. I communicated this to her and she said okay but just a few days later she called and asked me to send her money so she could buy a dress and shoe she saw.
I honestly explained that I was struggling financially and simply needed a little time to recover. Instead of asking how I was coping or understand me or encourage me to stay strong, her response was, "It's okay. I'll find someone else." Those six words changed the way I see her because I suddenly realized I had been valued more for what I provided than for who I actually was. This was a major trigger that orchestrated our breakup later.
Story Three: Betrayal After Sacrifice
The lady was very lovely that i thought we will get married. She was from a humble background, looked gentle and portrayed herself like the kind that will be faithful to me (ride or die). I paid bills, solved problems, handled emergencies and constantly made sacrifices because I genuinely loved her and believed we were building something meaningful together.
Unknown to me, another man with a bigger bank account had quietly entered the picture and was doking her. By the time I eventually discovered what had been happening, she had already moved on emotionally while I was still investing my time, energy and resources into a relationship that had quietly expired. I felt betrayed and shattered.
Story Four: I Helped Her But She Left [b][/b] This one pained me the most because of extend i went for her. She is in the health profession and graduated without securing an internship placement. She was frustrated about her future because her mates have already started and are already ahead of her. I refused to watch her struggle alone. I reached out to people I knew, made several calls and eventually helped her secure internship in where i did mine previously. While she worked without salary for months, I continued encouraging and supporting her financially because I genuinely wanted to see her succeed.
All of a sudden everything changed. The communication reduced, the effort disappeared and eventually she walked away from the relationship. She gave no solid reasons saying it's not me it's her and she needs to find herself. Later, I got to found out she had already started earning before she broke up with me. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether she simply felt she no longer needed me as she is now earning or feel i will ask her for money or what . I became an overnight philosopher.
Story Five: She claimed not to have money and later got scammed.
We dated for three years and during that period I never hesitated to support her financially whenever life became difficult. Helping her was almost natural to me because I believed that was what partners were supposed to do for each other. This was the lady i loved the most.
One day I genuinely needed financial help myself and reached out to her after other options failed. She calmly told me she did not have any money. This was my first time of asking her this and since i trusted her, i thought she actually didn't have. Many days later, she was moody and closed off. I asked repeatedly what was wrong only for her to end up crying, saying someone had scammed her with a significant amount of her money. The painful part for me was not that she got scammed. The painful part was realizing she had the money all along but told me she doesn't have anything. She simply chose not to help me when I needed her. I felt betrayed. When i reflected on everything i realized that even when i am in a precarious situation, she won't ever help me. I never took her serious since then.
Story Six: I Was Always the One Giving
This relationship forced me to reflect on something I had ignored for a long time: reciprocation. I was having this mentality that when my woman needs help, I will always show up immediately without thinking twice. Whenever she faced a challenge, I considered it our challenge. However, looking back today, almost every meaningful sacrifice came from my side and i was shooting myself on the foot.
I began to notice that whenever I genuinely needed emotional support, encouragement or even small acts of kindness, there was almost always another excuse, another reason or another delay. I don't like to keep score but i can't help but noticed she has never did anything worthwhile, even when monetary aspect is kept aside. She is always asking and taking but have never giviing and she is 30. Loving someone should never feel like carrying two people on your shoulders while pretending the weight is equal.
Story Seven: The ₦100,000 I Never Saw Again
This relationship was still very new when she called saying she had an emergency and urgently needed ₦100,000. I explained that the money had already been set aside for something very important, but because she was my girlfriend, I agreed to lend it to her after she repeatedly promised to repay me.
The money never came back. Whenever I reminded her, she started making me feel guilty for asking for money i send to her oooo. At one point she even asked why I was behaving as though she were a stranger. That moment taught me that borrowing money should never automatically erase accountability. I ended the relationship out of disgust. This was the shortest relationship i had ever been.
Story Eight: The Experiment That Changed Everything
After everything I had experienced, I recently decided to quietly test one relationship earlier this year after the lady was claiming she is not after a man's money. So I deliberately reduced how much I spent while making sure nothing else changed. I still called regularly, stayed emotionally available and continued showing genuine affection. The only thing I reduced was the money.
The result shocked me. Almost immediately I was accused of no longer caring, no longer trying and no longer loving her like before. Nothing about my character had changed. My attention had not reduced. My commitment remained exactly the same. The only thing that changed was my spending, yet that alone completely changed how I was treated. That experiment taught me one lesson no relationship expert ever could.
My Overall Reflection
Before anyone misunderstands this post, let me make something very clear. I am not saying every woman behaves this way because that would be dishonest and unfair. These are not all the ladies i have been in a relationship with but this is a result of majority of those i have been with. I know there are loyal, supportive and emotionally mature women who genuinely stand beside their partners during difficult seasons.
My concern is that I have personally experienced this pattern repeatedly as well as others, and many men quietly carry similar stories without ever talking about them. Society constantly reminds men that their value lies in what they provide, while very few people ever stop to ask what emotional support men receive in return.
A man is expected to provide, protect, remain emotionally strong, solve problems and carry responsibilities without complaining. The moment he experiences financial difficulty, many people begin questioning his worth instead of asking whether he is mentally exhausted, overwhelmed or silently struggling with responsibilities nobody else can see.
Money is important. Bills are real. Responsibilities cannot be ignored. Every serious relationship requires financial responsibility from both partners.
Genuine love, however, should never disappear simply because someone enters a difficult season. Every human being will eventually experience moments when life does not go according to plan. Character is not revealed during comfort. Character is revealed when circumstances become uncomfortable.
Today I no longer judge relationships by sweet words, romantic promises or social media displays. I pay attention to how people behave when there is nothing material left to gain because hardship exposes intentions that comfort successfully hides.
My biggest lesson is one I will carry for the rest of my life.
Money can attract attention. Money can attract admiration. Money can even attract temporary affection. Money cannot buy genuine loyalty.
If someone's love expires the same day your money stops flowing, then perhaps what you had was never really love.
It was simply a transaction wearing the mask of a relationship.
So let me leave you with one honest question.
If you lost everything tomorrow, would your partner still choose you, or would they quietly begin searching for someone with a healthier bank account?
I swear if to say you be my mate I for say you no wise. How you allow women to burn you up to eight good times. Na man you be oh.
dollytino4real: Women these days come dey wicked pass satan himself, abi na new demon 👿😈 dey possess dem? Women were compassionate and lovely creatures but na i dey even myself dey fear myself as a woman
oh Una don finally agree say women today are extremely wicked and ruthless shey. Thank God. Una go finally admit the truth one by one.
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spiceadole: The first and only day I entered a club was during my housemanship year.. I was 26.
An aspirant won NMA elections and decided to celebrate in a club.
I was reluctant to go but my friends were all going and encouraged me to.
We got to the club .. the place was so full and noisy. I didn't understand how people enjoyed such environment and even spent money there.
While others were dancing and vibing, I sat there watching them sipping energy drink.
One guy came and started talking to me. Happened that he was a lab scientist in the hospital where I was undergoing housemanship. We exchanged numbers that night. He called in the morning and I blocked him. We saw on few occasions in the hospital but I never wanted to speak to him outside work business.
The guy vex tire.. But I was happy I didn't loose guard
wish more women today were like you. Many Women today are losing value as the day passes. They have no principles. Anything goes. It's sad. Na men wey carry marriage for head I pity pass. They'll surely end up with rubbish.
SoliBayNG: If you feel insulted, you must be one of the kids that need rewiring. Men and boys aren't the same thing, when by the way has very little to do with age. Learn and grow. Selah
Romance › Re: Rhennie: I Slept With 3 Guys In A Day - Nigerian Lady (video) by Tenrack: 1:54pm On Jul 17
Some women wicked pah
