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Ways to Avoid Affairs:


If you've only reached the point of temptation, but you haven't acted on it yet, make changes in your life so that it doesn't go any farther.

Some ideas:

Avoid spending time alone with people of the opposite sex. If you struggle with fantasizing about a sexual relationship with a particular person, stay away from the temptation by staying away from that person.


Refuse to act on (or even reveal) feelings of attraction to someone other than your spouse.

Don't share details of your marriage relationship — particularly problems — with a member of the opposite sex.


Avoid outside influences and environments — such as business parties and private lunches, especially where drinking is involved — that could encourage infidelity.


Make your spouse your top priority. Talk about problems and concerns and work through them together. Get joint counseling to help if necessary. If your spouse is angry or won't go to counseling, go by yourself. As he or she sees changes in you, your spouse might soften.


Change your attitude about your marriage. See it as a commitment that can't be broken. Love flourishes in a relationship where there is complete trust, respect, and acceptance.

Have fun with your spouse. Date each other again. How would you treat that person differently if you were trying to win his or her affections for the first time?



If You're in an Affair and Want Out


While it won't be easy, your marriage may be able to survive an affair if you work at it.


Ask for forgiveness from your spouse. Keep in mind that when you confess your affair to your spouse, it might be a big relief to you, but it will be just the beginning of the heartache, pain, and distrust for him or her. It may take years of counseling and work to regain that person's trust. While you’ll want to move on, seeking forgiveness is more than a one-time act; for your spouse to grant you forgiveness is certainly a long process. You can't try to rush through the emotional healing process.


Don't be afraid to seek help and support. Get counseling from a minister or a professional counselor who can help you work through issues of lying, betrayal, mistrust, etc.


Change your environment if necessary. If the affair happened at work, as hard as it is to take this step, maybe you need to find a different job. If it happened with a neighbor, maybe you need to move.


The good news is that infidelity doesn't have to be a marriage-killer. When couples are determined to work through the pain of adultery, to end the affair, to forgive and to seek counseling, their unions can often be restored.




If Your Spouse is Having an Affair:


After discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful, you'll likely experience a torrent of conflicting emotions. Here are some important things to keep in mind as you sort through your feelings.

Don't give in to the extremes of "love-hate" feelings. Don't immediately demand a divorce. Instead, affirm your desire to do whatever it takes to rebuild a healthy, vibrant marriage.


Don't give in to the extremes of "all my fault" or "all your fault" thinking.

Don't insist on knowing why your spouse has been having an affair. Instead, ask if he or she is willing to start over.


At this point, you need to turn to others who can help you. Don't ask a mutual friend or relative. Instead, ask an objective party who is in a position to help. That person might be an experienced senior pastor, certified Christian counselor, or respected marriage ministry.
Cling to the promise that — with God's help — even the most broken marriage can be saved.


Remember, nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair. A person has been unfaithful in heart and mind long before he or she begins an affair.


Be patient. It takes time to begin to rebuild trust, love and commitment.


http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/affairs_and_adultery/avoiding_and_ending_an_affair.aspx

zeemoore: You can discipline a child by witholding rewards and things they are entitled to as children
You tell him "you can't watch TV if you don't do what I asked you to do"
A swat on the bo.tt.om is also a mild way to discipline a child
Parents usually spank when they angry so giving the child a time-out gives you time to cool off and also gives the child time to think about his bad behaviour
You can also take away something he likes
You can take away a favourite toy or snack for a time or prevent him from playing with friends for a particular period.
*You set limits..... Set some rules but you have to acknowledge his perspective because kids accepts our limits when they feel we truly understand them
When it's past his bedtime and he doesn't want to go to bed, you tell him to go to his room in a mild way
"I know you still want to play but It's past your bedtime, darling. Go to bed so you won't be late for school tomorrow"
When you get a child involved in deciding what is and is not acceptable and what should be done when the rules are broken, he feels loved/important and not a 'kunta kinte' you can flex muscle on when you feel like

This is worth quoting. If you are not a mom now, you will one day be a great one.

LarrySun: The topic has once been argued here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1814779/corporal-punishment-significant-part-african

The topic is: Do you agree with this statement?



"It's a nice article . The way people react here in Africa is a bit different from what's obtainable over there, down here people are naturally stubborn and rebellious. Irrespective of the person's age and status . Corporal punishment only keeps them in check even when you place rules they flaunt them easily with relish and abandon that's why it's so hard to rule a nation like Nigeria. The only word that Adults and kids alike respect here is Force."

LarrySun: That should be from India or somewhere less developed. God help our generation.

I thought they were funny. I'm hoping others will bring more.

zyzxx: am not condemning her nor supporting her.
Am just sayin d fact
By the way are u an artist ?

No. I'm not an atheist.

What the....

LarrySun: Goodness! Certainly, it is unbelievable that these grammatical missiles were launched by American!

I'm almost certain this one was not.

zeemoore: Everyone knows there's a clear distinction between discipline and child abuse
Corporal punishment (physical punishment) is child abuse, plain and simple
Flogging has made many Nigerians aggressive and left many without a purpose.
Many victims later in life don't understand the need to do things without been 'caned'
Corporal punishment teaches that violence is an appropriate response to problems or frustrations with people and that can lead to a cycle of violence and victimization in the child's future relationships.
It puts children at risk for depression and anger management problems.

Bless you.

What type of alternatives can you offer. As another comment aptly put it, it is the only thing many know.

After mine, of course. Right?

TV01: Antonmys for disdain include;

admiration
affection
approval
flattery
liking
love
praise
regard
respect
compliment
esteem
favor

Should society view baby mamaism and divorce in those terms?


TV

Do you know what an Antonym is?

Ed killed Alex

And

More

Have you seen any funny signs in your travels?

Here are a few responses I got.


Me:
Is this true?


Replies:

1.
"That's because they've been taught to only do things by force.

If you train kids by beatings all the time then they grow up thinking that is only by beatings that they can do something right.

Very bad.

They are never taught to do things right because its good.

They're only taught to do things right to avoid punishment.

This means that if they can hide from punishment then they can do anything.

This breeds an irresponsible society

Just like Nigeria"


2.
"Wrong

It is a result of the unavailability of a better option."


3.
"Sadly yeah.

Its general mentality. Nigerians love to break rules."

Me:
"Hmmm

How can an entire country have that mentality?"


3.
"It all stems from the govt. Its complicated.

The system rewards rule breakers.

They're the ones living the life.


4.
People and children are more or less the same anywhere. The person saying this, if beating your child could land you in jail in Nigeria, would find another way to handle it.

But seeing as nobody frowns on it, it's an easy option for a frustrated parent of a stubborn child.

I wrote an article about alternatives to corporal punishment.

Here it is:
http://storried.com/category/family/#sidr


I then asked some of my Nigerian friends what they thought. This is one of the responses I got.


"It's a nice article . The way people react here in Africa is a bit different from what's obtainable over there, down here people are naturally stubborn and rebellious. Irrespective of the person's age and status . Corporal punishment only keeps them in check even when you place rules they flaunt them easily with relish and abandon that's why it's so hard to rule a nation like Nigeria. The only word that Adults and kids alike respect here is Force."

Do you agree with this statement?

Next!

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So how is your day going?

My day is going great Hun. I still have some daylight left. Y'all are almost ready for bed. Hope your day was good.