Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:58pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
nwanyiugbo122: Nothing like "top able body in Jw organization, every body volutarily contributes, every body is equal, you can see a Jw that is stinky rich sweeping the kingdom hall. Even in building,they don't hire anyone, they do it themselves. Ask your wife Holier than thou mentality.which church worships 'stinky rich' : A chief judge of a state is a toilet cleaner in Winners. An army colonel is a cso. A police Supol...one step from an assistant Commissioner of police.... worked under me as a security man... You can go and ask Dogara, Mikel and the likes which unit they belong to in their branches |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:51pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Jascon4: I have zero intention of engaging you in offering or tithe debate. I only meant to correct a misinformation from the poster I first quoted.
For clearer picture and understanding of the subject which you chose to dabble, I would suggest you carry out a deeper and broader biblical research and be open minded, the truth isn't far fetched afterall. The scriptures I quoted is the Bible of God's word.which other research will change it?...or you wet to tell me how tithe is on farm produce |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:41pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
blackmantis: I attended a marriage in a Catholic Church in AkwaIbom. When it was time for offering it was row by row... everyone on each row gets up dances to the front and put something in the tray or box provided.
If you don't get up you'd be the only one sitting down.....quite embarrassing. No vex.they won't do it next time |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:21pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Jascon4: I have no business with those who do, I was only correcting a misinformation. Whether you do not doesn't change what the Bible has to say about tithe and offering..... God's opinion is always the same but he, through the Holy Spirit, is ever ready to denounce your interpretation of his word..... Jesus personally supervised the collection of offering not free will donations ... He saw a poor old widow put money into the offerings box and didn't return it to her neither did he give her more money...that should tell you that nobody is exempted from giving to the course of the kingdom...how it ends up being used it of no concern to you.....whatever name you called it while giving it is what God records it as.... Gen 2:19.......see Luke 21:1-4 Jesus did not forbid the new Church from tithe. The church he met when he was on earth had teachers, scribes and the rest...no levites but yet they were paying tithes and making a show of it that he, Jesus had to teach them the kingdom order for giving. He did not stop tithe..... See Matt 23:23.... Tithe is received by men but is acknowledged by God in heaven....Heb 7:8 |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:03pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Originalsly: There are churches.....and there are businesses. Most churches are businesses.... you should be able to discern which is which. The two top priorities of a church are to help prepare you spiritually for Judgement Day....and to help the poor. The top priority of a business....is to make profit/accumulate wealth. When you make this kind of emphatic statement or contribution, it is best to use the scripture as your basis. Where did you get the two points from the scripture..... Jesus said I have come that they might have live and have it more abundantly.... John 10:10 and the same scripture supported this set when it stated that God gave his only begotten son so that Whosoever believes shall have everlasting life |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 3:00pm On Jul 29, 2018*. Modified: 3:56pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
intergral: Christianity has turned God into a begger... God gives money not the other way round, the only thing God wants is worship, praises, good deeds, morality, and spiritual commitment then follow his instructions but not money... Better use that money and help poor people around you, it will score you more than sharing it to your pastors that buy designers shoes and clothes... Ask your self did jesus ask his followers for gold and lively things or did jesus wear goldern shoes or expensive clothes... So Christians let me ask y'ol are you copying jesus or your pastor? Hall knowledge is more dangerous than no knowledge. It would be better if you don't know anything about Christianity than have this nonsense you wrote as the correct position of the scripture. Firstly, God doesn't give money since there is no money in heaven. If you receive money from God then it has to be counterfeit since it is government of nations that prints money. God gives power to get wealth through the manifestation of his blessings in and upon your life....see Deut 8 :18 secondly, Christ wore quality clothings. The soldiers had to Cast lots after he had died to share his clothes... You don't cast lot over rags...see Matt 27:35... Do you know any sars operatives that would Cast lotvto share the clothes of an armed robber that have killed if the clothes are Aba made? |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 2:47pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Jascon4: They don't do Tithe or offering, you need to correct that impression. The boxes are there only for voluntary contribution Whehter they do or not doesn't mean those who do are not Christians. Only doctrines makes them not to not whether it is scriptural to take offering and tithes. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 2:14pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
Ever8054: he is right...they must not dip hand in ya packet or chase you out but the treat and courses alone is something else..most pentecostal churches today has driven some people out of church in with there business activities in the house of God... Mention one of them that has a levy for harvest. Annual dues, one that taxes the individual on the basis of their places of origin like an Igbo woman would be expected to pay money to the church through the Igbo Catholic community. Is there any one of them that prints raffle booklets and distributes same to societies within the church on sale or pay basis? Is there anyone that takes offering because there is a diocesan levy they need to pay as a church? |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 2:01pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
lordizak: Stop being foolish, I have seen cases where offerings have been said to be too small... All these guys use is psychology. They focus more on preaching about tithes and offerings... do the witnesses do that? [b]Even my beloved catholic have joined them... the only rea[/b]son I still keep the faith is the Charity work like orphanages they run... Mentioning a pentecostal church you attended for like three months within which they focused majorly on tithe and offering would do more to your contribution here than a general and sweeping statement. The Catholic Church is not joining them. She is at the forefront of reaping members of through bazaar, raffle draws, first and second collection, annual dues for men and women, launching and booking of mass then new ones like family harvest. One can go on and on mentioning different schemes designed to rake in money, for the church. Money for those orphanages dint come from the regular offerings of the church, I hope you know that, it is from a special offering they take for them and even for seminary. It all comes after the main church offering..., they start it from the second offering when they will announce it and who it is going for. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Can Pentecostal Churches Make Offerings Optional Like Jehovah's Witnesses? by Themandator: 1:37pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
nairavsdollars: I attended the church of Jehovah's Witnesses and i noticed they don't compel people to pay Tithes and Offerings like most Pentecostal churches.
All they have is a box where any willing attendee is free to drop whatever he or she desires. No POS, no long sermon, no threat on giving like most Pentecostal churches. Jesus Christ never forced people to give and Christians are meant to emulate Christ.
I don’t like their doctrines but on this i am impressed. Can you mention one pentecostal that forced you to give when you worshipped with them? |
Celebrities › Re: Queenzhair: "Nina Stole My Hair Pictures!" (Photos) by Themandator: 1:34pm On Jul 29, 2018 |
She for add the nina picture make we know who she dey talk about |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 5:57pm On Jul 28, 2018 |
spongeisback: It's called FRAUD. Promising people what they can't see even when they die for a fee. Only the Catholic Church had done something like fraud when they promised the members a straight entry into heaven without the need for purgatory if they paid a certain fee. Even the popes used it to galvanised the members during their inquisition and crusades by promising that I ly one who died in the course of those campaigns would go to heaven without the temporary holding bay they called purgatory. |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 5:08am On Jul 28, 2018 |
alignacademy: It's right there in the article I just hope you are not alluding to this statement: Very soon and surely before Jesus comes, we shall be as strong as Paris Club; we shall be above IMF”. Bishop David Oyedepo, (April 3, 2011) |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 9:42pm On Jul 27, 2018 |
alignacademy: Thanks for sharing
From this write-up, it's clear that this is a man who
-Never makes mistakes -Always has access to Heavenly instruction -Even has an idea of the exact time when Jesus will return (as can be implied from his quoted April 2011 statement)
Can't you see why it is so easy for him to be practically worshipped by his followers?
It's easier to relate to characters in the Bible than with the picture you painted.
Have you read a few secular autobiographies of wealthy people?
As I type this, Amazon's Jeff Bezos is adjudged to be world's wealthiest man, with a net worth of $150 billion.
And as you can read from more practical stories about his life, wealth creation is NOT reserved for a few with access to "spooky data".
Thanks again Can you reproduce the quote or link to it. Thsnks |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 9:39pm On Jul 27, 2018*. Modified: 10:11pm On Jul 27, 2018 |
chuose: WINNER CHAPEL NA CENTRE OF ILLUMINATI
[img]http://2.bp..com/-KxtR7JcGTM8/VMF7QdKDeHI/AAAAAAAAAow/K_T0QbbY20A/s1600/INSIDE%2BWINNERS%2BCHAPEL%2BNAIROBI%2Bmarked.png[/img] [img]https://2.bp..com/-FOUBNk6ucuw/VMHOrMOB7WI/AAAAAAAAAqY/Jze-J1oyGqA/s1600/winners%2Bilorin4%2Bupload.jpg[/img] SEE LINK FOR MORE http://emperorundertheking..com/2015/01/winners-chapel-satan-illuminati-and.html So in your wild imagination, spirits need block and glass designed in a particular way to function. You reckon that is their signal. Get yourrself educated , spirit is only interest in filling people soul with their thoughts thereby taking over the spirit of that person. Every soul is influenced by a spiritual force. Your soul is the remote control of your spirit . It is either the spirit of God or of the devil. God and Satan are both interested in living human being to carry their spirits. Symbols are for initiates to easily identify themselves not for the spirits ... Winners identity themselves with their stickers and greetings. What you pointed with arrows means absolutely nothing to a member of Winners chapel. Unlike some churches were images are given prominence , it is not even in the thought of the members of this life changing church . God bless Bishop Oyedepo. His teaching me a Christian by making me fall in love with the Bible |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 9:31pm On Jul 27, 2018 |
TheUbermensch: By the "gates of hell" you mean simple criticism. Smh v
Winners chapel can't stand a reformation. It'd break the church into smithereens.
The main problem is there a no logical thinkers in this country. And it seems the moment someone becomes a Christian he leaves his commonsense by the baptism water.
So even if your religious leaders are screwing broads on the altar in broad daylight, you'd still find a way to defend them.
Pity. You are in the country and you state majesterially that there is no logical thinker in the country. Is it that your own logic is inferior |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 9:22pm On Jul 27, 2018 |
voicelez: Money is the root of all evil, but being broke is not holy Money is not the root . That is not what the Bible says .. it says the LOVE of money is the root ... Not money . Money is a good messenger in the right hand |
Christianity Etc › Re: How Winners Chapel Became A Mega - Wealthy Church By Leke Beecroft by Themandator: 9:19pm On Jul 27, 2018 |
Waakanda: This church made me a dangerous tither, self-same day effortless tither for that matter. I've actually been off and on with it until I received my own personal revelation concerning it (tithe)... and ever since then, I've been practically enjoying open heavens. To God alone be all glory  Mind to share your personal revelation? Mighty be the needed Push for somebody here . Bless you |
Politics › Re: 7 Years After, When Will Ijoko Flyover Be Completed? - Photos by Themandator: 6:57am On Jul 27, 2018 |
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Politics › Re: Defection: Lai Mohammed Thanks Kwara APC For Loyalty To Buhari by Themandator: 6:52pm On Jul 26, 2018 |
michae1004: Is the cursed broom party still existing in kwara. Or do they have cockroaches as members. The machinery of the party in the state is in the hands of Saraki. I expect him to keep hold of it and field lunatics as the flag bearer, bottom up |
Politics › Re: Benue Youths Stop Ortom From Attending APC Meeting. Remove APC Flag (Photos) by Themandator: 4:07pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
kitaatita: When you see neatly printed placards, know it is hired/arranged/planned 'protest' Were they supposed to use dirty cards or you imagine APC will be a party to beat in Benue state after allowing the miyatti terror Gang. Kill their people and take over their villages |
Family › Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Themandator: 12:33pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I like men like you...firm and in control.
But please do not be too harsh on her. Know whem to bend and allow Never harsh to her . It is just that She is too soft and prone to their manipulations. She is the type that wants to solve everybody's problem. I love her and I have never laid hands on her but when it comes to her family, I got to be firm..they made her lie to me once all because she wants to help them This guy should go to a park ad call that his inlaw to take a Uber or a chartered cab to meet there. Hollla at him there at the park, finish him there in public and put him in a bus back to where ever he came from. |
Family › Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Themandator: 11:06am On Jul 25, 2018 |
vickydevoka: This story seems cooked up. But if it's true dat means u caused it from de beginning, in psquares voice ' no start waiting u no fit finish'. u gave them the impression from de beginning dats y. I heard dat once an Anambara man got marry to an imo lady he will give them one conditions which is' nobody is invited to my house only when invite'. cus he paid dearly for her bride price Thank you. I am from Anambra state and married to an Imo beautiful woman but you see if you don't lah the ground rules this people will relocate to your home and make life unbearable. My wife knows that no mortal changes my order..... Not even my parents. The day the father gave her instructions to be in their village, I just called him and told him she won't be there... He said he is asking her to come and I told him, air,she is my wife and I have told her she can't do such...she only cried and resumed her life. Whenever they call her that this one is coming and she informs me, I simply ask her the month we are in.... If she says July, I says, it doesn't look holiday period here does it |
Family › Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Themandator: 11:02am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013: My wife and her family members are driving me crazy. Their involvement in my home is becoming embarrassing. I may have to give my wife the red card asap. Her family poke noses into all my affairs. How I spent my money, who I give my money to, who I visit, and so on. All they want is to continue to expend money on them and live my life for them. I got their daughter a job, her salary isn't enough for them, how can I be taking care of able bodied men who have refused to work with their certificates, looking for jobs with good pays before they'll work, their pensioner father is not also helping matters, very difficult to please. I have made it known to my wife that our marriage contract did not include pleasing her family members but she won't listen then I worked my transfer from Lagos to Abuja, yet they're on my neck. My wife's younger brother is presently in Abuja without any clear cut mission other than to come and monitor my affairs. He called me around 7pm yesterday to tell me he's in Utako and that I should come and pick him from pack, I told him I didn't invite him to Abuja so why should I pick him up? I asked him if he didn't have a mission before coming and why he should get to Abuja before notifying me that he's coming to my place. I shunned him and switched off my phone. I switched on the phone now only to read 3 abusive text messages from my wife and one from her father threatening that if anything happens to his son, I'll be held responsible. My people, can you see my life? My pastor have been trying to broker peace between us before I left for Abuja to no avail, what I intended to do is to settle down here and get her relocated so that if she's a bit far from her family, things will work out. I'll instruct a lawyer to file divorce papers tomorrow, I can no longer take it. Taaaaa Wife person or people pester my life.... They have not yet been born. Tell your wife you didn't marry her to run a foundation from your home for her people even if they are IDPs and mean it. They must never visit without your consent and the day they do will be the day you call of the entire nonsense. Be a man ooo. This thing is between just two persons. You and the woman. |
Politics › Re: Reps Hail Dogara, Onyema; Call Gbajabiamila 'Minority Leader' by Themandator: 1:37pm On Jul 24, 2018 |
emalek86: buhari is out of option. very soon he go vex arrest himself LOL. Bros abeg make I no spit for person body |
Politics › Re: APC Senators May Unseat Saraki Today - The Guardian by Themandator: 10:29am On Jul 24, 2018 |
almajiri101: This is an avenue for jagaban to knock him out.
Kwankwaso confirmed his meeting with the president yesterday was fruitful.
Kwankwassiya may likely emerge the new senate president today.
Saraki is technically finished. The man is not short sighted . His sight is on the long haul. Be a traitor for just six months. Nah |
Travel › Re: Sirika: We Are Not Paying $300m In Nigeria Air. Www.flynigeriaair.ng Registered. by Themandator: 8:46am On Jul 24, 2018 |
retsonbiz: Hadi Sirika, minister of state for aviation, says the federal government is not paying $300 million for a five per cent stake in Nigeria Air.
In responses to questions raised about the national carrier which was launched on Wednesday, July 18, Sirika said the government is providing startup capital for the airline.
“The government is not funding the entire project. It’s just providing startup capital in the form of an upfront grant/viability gap funding. Once the strategic equity investor is in place, they will be expected to build on the initial investment made,” he said in the compilation by Everyday website.
“$8 million represents startup capital for offices etc required for takeoff. But $300 million is the entire airline cash flow funding requirements (aircraft, operations and working capital) for three years (2018, 2019 and 2020).
“This funding can be in the form of equity or debt. The financial model estimates cash flow requirements as follows 2018 ($55 million – $8 million is included here), 2019 ($100 million) and 2020 ($145 million).
“In order to ensure take-off of the airline in 2018, the government will provide $55 million upfront grant/viability gap funding to finance startup capital and pay commitment fees for aircraft to be leased for initial operations and deposit for new aircraft whose delivery will begin in 2021.”
The minister said the strategic investor will only become known after the public-private partnership procurement process is completed....
SHARES TO BE SOLD AFTER ONE YEAR OF OPERATIONS
Sirika said the company’s shares will be sold through an initial public offering after which the government will own five per cent equity.
“Government’s equity share held in trust for Nigerians will be devolved to Nigerians via an IPO.
“The government will retain only 5% equity, the list of shareholders then will be available to SEC and the Nigerian Stock Exchange.
“The rest of the 95% equity of Nigeria Air Limited will then be owned by the strategic equity investor and the general public.
“At that point, Nigeria Air Ltd becomes a public company subject to SEC, NSE and relevant CAMA rules for public companies.”
Speaking further, he said the airline will begin operations with dry leases and the domain, www.flynigeriaair.ng, will become active soon.
Someone has already registered nigeriaair.ng apparently in anticipation of a buy-out by the proposed airline.
https://www.thecable.ng/sirika-not-paying-300m-five-percent-stake-nigeria-air What is the difference between this statement and that of Chike Obi? |
Politics › Re: Residence Of Senate President Blocked This Morning (pics/video) by Themandator: 8:27am On Jul 24, 2018 |
[quote author= post=69652102]Why can't the Senate President honour the police invitation if he is innocent? Is he telling us he is above the law or what exactly?! We thought it is only the guilty that are afraid![/quote]The video is not too long if you are concerned with your data. Opening it would have educated you better and you would not have had to wave your ignorance of the issue like a flag .
Receive empowerment today. You shall rise above data worries
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Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Themandator: 7:59am On Jul 24, 2018 |
nikenry: Look before you leap.
Just take a deep breath. Imagine what would have happened if you have used his name instead, and he had ordered you to park out of the house! Where would you have been? Where will your children have been?
Just stay calm. Things will normalize, but the two of you must be ready to shift ground. You may consider using Mr and Mrs on the land document. The fact that the man did not take a look at the documents tells you that he is not materialistic.....he is not too crazy about property. Ask the woman what she did to have made the husband to ask her to get out. She must have hurt him real deep with words..... Only the married can understand this. This lady is not a wife but a partner...probably she did partnership accounting and took the principle into marriage. Jow can you explain that a wife got a property that was planned between the two parties in her maiden name. Refers to the business return as his share and my share. And that he spent his own returns on his parents. This kind will ruin a chance at a big breakthrough for the husband because she doesn't see the husband success as hers until it is written down in her name or a percentage is expressly written in her favour..... She is not trained to be a under any man but as an equal The union is threatened by her conduct. She may retain the property after all but let her prepare her mind for a bigger surprise, going forward, for she has taught the man a very useful lesson on, my own and your own. This issue would encourage the man to worker harder and independently and be indifferent to her and her activities. |
Family › Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Themandator: 6:43pm On Jul 23, 2018 |
HEseesall: I had to open this account for anonymity I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1), You are not a wife to him but a dubious business partner. He is right to want to relocate and leave you and the house alone. |
Politics › Re: Soldiers Killed During Operation In Zamfara. Graphic Photos by Themandator: 3:00am On Jul 22, 2018 |
dainformant: Two Nigerian Air Force personnel simply identified as Uche and Sanni, have been killed by armed bandits in line of duty in Zamfara state. The soldiers were reportedly killed after an attack by the gunmen in the region. Their corpses have been recovered by the Air Force and efforts underway to apprehend those responsible.
Meanwhile, at least 30 persons were reportedly killed by cattle rustling and kidnapping gangs during raids on villages in Zamfara State on Tuesday.
According to the villagers, bandits on motorcycles stormed five neighbouring rural villages in the Maradun district of the state, firing indiscriminately and stealing livestock.
Source; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/07/soldiers-killed-by-armed-bandits-during-operation-in-zamfara.html The Security situation is so precarious that even navy and airforce that teams up with the army and police to do their job |
Family › Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Themandator: 2:30am On Jul 22, 2018 |
I am not familiar with this issue but I believe that she may have decided to put her name only in those document as an insurance against your travelling out wth your sick dad. As your rightly inferred , she was trying to be smart ..... she probably did not believe your dad was sick enough to seek medical solution outside the country but was a kind of decoy by a smart Alec to swindle her. She sees you more like a smart gold digger. Carry on as you have decided to: let her have the property. NB: don't trust the reaction of her people on this: when you dust settles you are definitely going to learn whenand how the seed of her action was planted from within her people through some seemingly innocuous statement ExtraExtra: Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".
My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.
"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.
Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.
YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.
I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it. |