₦airaland Forum

Toks2008:
Have you ever heard these words from ladies?, "I know John truly wants me but i dont have any feelings for him but i have strong feelings for Jude yet he is treating me like trash"

Ladies are ruled by their feelings but unfortunately, many ladies have been sent to their early graves cos of this same feelings and many are down with mental illness and some are even locked up in psychiatry all in the name of feelings.

Now understand this; your feelings are very important but you also have the power to control it. Not every man who approaches you for romance really desires you and not every man who proposes marriage really wants you for the right reason so you need to really have a strong grip on your feelings and the first step to achieving this is to be self-sufficient in all ramifications to avoid hinging your feelings on the material things the guy can offer but rather on his true intent which is expressed in how he treats you.

Every lady has Phronesis(A type of wisdom or intelligence) that enables her know if a man sincerely wants her but she usually develops feelings for another who will most likely treat her like trash.

Your feelings can destroy you if channeled towards the wrong person so no matter how attractive that guy may look, no matter how sweet and smooth he sounds, no matter the material things he showers on you, no matter how good he is in bed, as vital as these qualities are, please always press the pause button on your feelings and observe him carefully for the right attributes. Yes people do change but a man who truly desires you will most likely always desire you regardless.

The movie Beauty and the beast is more than a fiction...one secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...this is a mystery... so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

I know this is extremely difficult for many ladies but it is the only way you can reduce the possibility of ending up in the wrong hands.

Hope this makes sense.

ambient:
Nne run! A guy that loves you will want to spend on you even though its little...working or not.pls dont settle for less your kids will suffer oooo

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Zinny25:
I don't wear it.

but I think they wear it for:
1. fashion
2. to keep their weight in check
3. to show you that they belong to marine kingdom or some other covens

CHoccolaTE:
Personally I am all for female emancipation and women having jobs/not depending on some guy totally but topics like this are not for the average Nigerian man who believes he should be taken as a demi god by his wife.
You can't have a wife paying rent and buying food to feed her husband and and paying other bills and then her husband wants to exercise TOTAL control over her and the household in spite of her financial and domestic contributions.

That's why Nigerian women avoid men who want them to contribute financially.
Another thing is, after marriage the same man expecting his wife to split bills will expect her to be primarily responsible for housechores and be completely submissive and obedient to him. It doesnt work that way. If a woman starts feeding you or paying your bills you no longer have complete authority over her.
And it becomes imperative that you as the husband also take up housechores like cooking and cleaning and child care.

An average egotistical Nigerian man will not want to do all this.

Belafonte:
I mean, any dude with an above average IQ should get redpilled by this topic immediately. If any man thinks it’s being good to a woman that makes her stay, they should have a big rethink.

No finance; no romance.
True


I wish guys knew this simple, but powerful truth. Most would not be the broke, poverty-stricken pansies that they currently are.

Stacyomolola:
Seems u quoted the wrong one
It's op complaining not me
I can't go into something I can't condone
Op started the relationship, so I don't think she should back out
I can't start arguing with uban.ja's follower this hot afternoon

SweetCunt97:
Broke men are usually good, loving and nice.

Stacyomolola:
Yes no condition is permanent but that only works on a hardworking guy with a vision, tho she did not give much details but i dont think hes keen about moving out, which is a problem to her(which shouldnt)
Not all girls like that face to face compound compromising love.

presidency:
STATE HOUSE PRESS RELEASE
 
BATTLE AGAINST COVID-19: PRESIDENT BUHARI THUMBS UP ELUMELU, RABIU, DANGOTE, ATIKU, BANKS, OTHERS

President Muhammadu Buhari has saluted the public-spiritedness of wealthy Nigerians and organizations for standing up to be counted in the battle against the Covid-19 pandemic.

The President commends members of the Nigerian Private Sector Coalition Against Covid-19, made of people like Aliko Dangote, Abdulsamad Rabiu of BUA Group, Femi Otedola, Tony Elumelu, Herbert Wigwe, Segun Agbaje and Jim Ovia of UBA, Access, GT, and Zenith Banks, respectively, for contributing N1 billion each, and being in the vanguard of encouraging others in the private sector to do same.

UBA has equally donated the sum of N5 billion to Nigeria and Africa, former Vice President Atiku Abubakar has pledged N50 million,  while First Bank is partnering with government, the United Nations, and innovative technological firms to provide e-learning solutions to at least one million children under its ‘Keep Them Engaged, Keep Them Safe’ initiative.

The President extols every other helping hand that has been lent by individuals, groups and organizations, which may not necessarily be in the public domain, noting that God who sees all things will abundantly recompense.

President Buhari recommends these laudable strides to other high net-worth Nigerians and organizations, stressing that hand in hand, the country will overcome the challenges brought by the pandemic, and chart new course in nationalism and brotherhood.

Femi Adesina
Special Adviser to the President 
(Media and Publicity)
March 27, 2020

kikero:
That's because a good number of them were

1. Turned down by a girl for a 'richer' guy

2. Tried to date a girl above their station who turned them.down

3. Jilted by a girlfriend for a 'richer' guy

4. Many Nigerian men treat women like objects , and most of these men have grown up with that idea.

Winneygirl:
Spent 10 years plotting a revenge?
Evil fool.
I wonder what he will spend the next 10 years of his life doing... Probably monitoring her and not living his own life.
Vindictive fool.

Fortuna2:
As far as I'm concerned, men are too cheap. It takes extra discipline for a full ass grown man to reject sexual advances especially from cute chicks like us .QED.

Enwhen:
I know such kind of guys .... He is only studying her, he loves her beauty and physical appearance, but he wants to know her more before any move...it's better she also try to know him too, in order to know if he worth waiting for.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

ZAWs:
Hanty I put it to you that you're guilty as charged.
For bringing a man into another man's home that you're not even legally married to.
Are you a hoe?

Annie939:
well said , i believe her .

Sijo01:
What number of thing will leave traces of semen and tissue paper in the virginal? Birds of same feather!

dangotesmummy:
na them

Defending their likes.wontunde


Victim blaming as usual

sinaj:
A 2 year old child will frame a grown ass man? Please delete your post

sinaj:
Fucking ritualist!

He should be lynched

I dont even know why victims waste money and time in suing vultures

Romanoff:
They'll use one hand to give you food and the other hand to drop bombs on y'all.