₦airaland Forum

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

Mercychen:
You are the one who needs to shut that gutter you call a mouth and have been using to spew trash all over the place.

Common sense they say is not common otherwise you would have reasoned that every one is entitled to their choices and what they want in a relationship regardless of what the other person or society thinks. Dumbo!
It's now Left for both parties to agree on common grounds or disagree and go their separate ways.

Just try to be logic in your reasoning for once and stop sounding sentimental like a broken record.

Some of you men want more than what you can cater for and later you start seeking help from your single friends to feed the battlion you formed in future.

We are trying to be proactive about such situations to avoid overpopulating the country, you're here crying like someone cheated of his birthright.

Buzz off and don't even dare mention me.

Candidlady:
¤kabiru please pass me that chair and bring your lighter with you thanks¤

abortion of male kid should be legal while abortion of female kid should be illegal

TOAST TO THE DEAD

Bola146:
Haba! Kick her out ke? It's a very bad idea

Bola146:
She is human being, pray for her. I pray that you see a good job, a married man who lost his job is like someone who lost half of his life. You can tell people here who can help you to get a job. Best luck

FutureIsFemale:
The FUTURE is FEMALE. Like it or leave it.

And thou shall prostrate before her, and worship her and be submissive to her. You shall feed from the dust of her feet. For she is the future and the light.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Most guys have low self esteem and are intimidated by any girl they fee is better than them. They are intimidated by intelligent girls, If you earn more than them they feel intimated, If you look too cute they are intimidated, even something as simple a good looks intimidates them. Infact, once they perceive your are smarter or better than them they will want to DOMINATE you and the moment your refuse to be DOMINATED by them, they will call you a feminist, a prostitute or an evening news paper.
They want successful, intelligent, tall, smart and strong ladies, ladies who can bring something to the table, who can make good decisions and who they can have a meaningful conversation with but at the same time can't stand such ladies when they meet them. They are as confused as the present day Nigerian government.

Ayinke93:
And they should go ahead. Nobody cares
Boy bye :

Ayinke93:
And you are a loser really. Many of you became red polled after they broke your fragile hearts
We can see through your insecurities baby

Pussywar:
Only men who objectify women shame them for having multiple sexual partners. It also stems from a place of insecurity, where they believe it’s harder to please a girl who has had multiple sexual partners. Whatever makes sense to them I guess.

EndRape2:
Any man that can not take care of his wife is very useless, very very useless , the painful part is that most of this useless men small money that they are supposed to use and take care of their kids, they will use it to carry side chic

Very useless people .
If it's all about money then I can't see the reason why not to hv a side chic. Afterall yall ar just something to afford.



.quote author=TUANKU post=106247281]Any married woman with such mentality na okpo.

mariahAngel:
It is not a must that a man should marry.
As a man, if you cannot take care of a wife (how much more children), DO NOT MARRY!
You’re not entitled to a wife simply because you’re a man. No be by force to marry.
Raising descendants with the help of a woman is not cheap, neither is it free. Not every man can afford to.

adebenson155:
Wetin davido staff no go see for heavens gate...

Magnoliaa:
Hm-hmmm. This one is small. Me I feel as if my whole world is crashing and tumbling down on me, as if I'm going into a cardiac arrest and someone is pouring sand on my face, throat, ears to bury me alive. It's not a smiling something oh. I don't think I can ever try that nonsense with one yeye boyfriend again. Borrowing money from me is like cutting away a vein from my body o. I cannot fit to, I'm sorry.

salisuammy:
Let her kukuma marry the side chicks husband too

Temigirl95:
Is dat ur name? I never knew I said ur name. Oya sorry, go and buy sweet

Temigirl95:
No… You people are lamenting… go and face your village people, they are the reasons for your problems

Temigirl95:
By talking about women? Sorry dear