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What is life all about? It doesn't make a damn sense.

Face Drop - Sean Kingston

Ujujoan:
OK first of all, I wasnt 'yapping'. I think I stated it in clear and precisie words. I am friends with my ex and seriously, I dont see why that should be an issue. Like you said, not all relationships are meant to work . . not all romances lead to marriage. I beleive that what we shared was beyond romance and just because it cant go on dosen't mean I have to become strangers with him.

Honestly, I dont give a damn about you do 'personally' with your exes. I have my reasons why I need to remain friends with him and I think my BF should understand that. If he dosen't want to, then I dont think I want to be with him! Yes, it's serious!

He decided to buy me a gift, for a very good reason . . I accepted it not because I am gift-hungry . . but because it was from him! I've turned down a number of gifts, but I can't turn down one from him! And if I decide to buy him one too, I wont even hesitate about it!

I opened this thread because I started wondering if I did right. But after thinking about it, now more than ever, I have no regerets!

Yes, people value gifts (not just women) not because their lives depended on it, but because it's good to know that someone cared enough to bother.

I'm not surprised u decided to take sides with Lexi on this but I think I deserve a little credit to know when my relationships, friendships and associations is likely to put me into trouble. Despite what you guys think, people are not always as scheming and inconsiderate as you imagined them to be. If my BF knows me well enough then he would trust me. If he dosent, well . . . I dont need to overstress the fact that I dont need to be with such a person!

My word means a lot to me and yours should too. If I'm dating you and you have a r/ship with your ex and you tell me I dont have to worry about it . . . I'll beleive you. Because I'd expect the same trust if the tables were turned. If you lied about it, then dont you think you are the one with the problem We are all adults and we have a right to decide who to make friends with, if it means that much to me, I expect my so-called BF to understand!

All of a sudden you're making this seem like I attacked your personality. I was just stating my personal opinion on the issue and what you accept or do doesn't in any way affect me, so why would I want to bother that much to slur your decision? When I said 'yapping' I talked about the general things I've seen, not on NL but outside of it.

This isn't a matter of taking sides with Lexi. Whatever it comes down to, it is what it is. Simply because another man accepts it from his girlfriend doesn't mean I should accept it, in fact, it's best if she keeps it to herself than tell me about it, and if I did see it and ask her and she tells me, it won't bother me an inch. See, there are lots of headaches men give themselves in a relationship. I have learned in the course of the month and some few weeks back that some things aren't really worth it, seriously, you look back into things you do and some issues and you ask yourself if you're sane at all.

If your boyfriend understands why you're still friends with your ex, sure why not, go ahead and do what you gotta do. But if he doesn't support it, then what happens? You break up because you think he doesn't 'trust' you enough to believe you? Well, in my case, most times it doesn't have to do with trust because you know what, I choose to go by what she tells me, I don't dig, it's not my thing to do. Tell me and I'll believe you but when I start to see otherwise I'll be patient enough to see it through and make my decision at the end of the day.

A man that watches out his woman in suspicion, in my opinion, doesn't have anything tangible to do with his time. If she wants to go on a date with her ex, sure let her go; if she wants to hang out with him, let her; if she chooses to even sleep over at his house, let her - only when a man learns how to allow a woman have her freedom can he know peace and if I get the last category where Lexi mentioned that he doesn't give himself headache, I think that's the best category for every man. However, all these I've mentioned should be based on trust and nothing more. . . but there's no denying the fact that men are possessive and not like most women think it's insecurity which was why I said we should draw a fine line between possessiveness and insecurity.

It can also be deduced that when a man is possessive of his woman, either he's a freak, jerk, abuser or he truly loves his woman to that point and women shouldn't misconstrue that with distrust, disbelief or insecurity. That said, as much as I may want to contradict your opinions, I agree with you that we are all adults and should make friends with whoever we choose to and not be chosen friends for.

And what's going on here?

I always knew there was something not right about Oyedepo

Her

Gabry:
U are making me cry even more

Heeeeey, slow down, it's ok. Hold your peace, time is almost here when your family will come to terms that your heart's desire and wish is more important and is supreme over racial and cultural segregations. You will be fine, I can assure you of that.

Gabry:
Thats true and being 6 years with my bf. . . Gosh, . . U can imagine the number of ups and downs we've been through. ,

Gabry, if there's anywhere I see you in the next one year, it's you walking down the aisle in your white gown with three beautiful flower girls and blossoming beautiful and sexy bridesmaid.

Salute - Whitney Houston

Gabry:
U do? I hope you are right and I hope God blessed you with that gift of sight. To see the future. That would be so cool.

As for yours, how did it go?

As much as I'd like to claim the credit of being a seer, I'm a seeker that seeks everything from good to bad. I've found lots of things and tell you what, the most successful relationships are mainly those who have undergone different kinds of stresses and strains, trauma and tensions because believe it or not, if you're strong enough you'll derive your strength right there, and on the other hand, it's the beginning of an emotional wreck. . . all comes down to where you want to pick up your line from.

Posakosa, it doesn't make one bit of sense that you go on every thread insulting everyone at sight. . . it's intellectually debasing for a supposed controversial female turned male like you. How someone chooses to represent his/her opinion is of no importance to you - you either get blinded to read them or you comment with the accurate and on-point usage of your brainpower. I'm not insulting you but that's not to say I mind starting one, however, this is a forum and a kind of decorum should be maintained. What you're doing, so far, is troubling but indeed pushes you up on a higher scale of inconsiderably mental deterioration.

Gabry:
Well, not every man is the same brother. But I know for my guy, he appreciates this so Im going for it

Two peas in a pod, right? Gabry, all I can do is wish you the very best of luck, believing that one day you will rise above your faceted problems. Long as you both stand your grounds, everything else is good. Why do I keep having a feeling all your worries will be over soon? Keep your head up

FL Gators:
Excuse me? And you think I dnt believe that men are valuable?

I wasn't referring to you or anyone, I'm just saying what I feel. . . . but whether or not you believe men are valuable depends on your yardstick for what you call a man. To some women, a dunce man is a man, and anything different from that is a monster. Pardon the explanation but that's the best I can come up with right now.

Gabry:
The secrets of a successfull relationship is when you always imagine yourself in your partner's shoes when you want to do sumthyin. Like before you do sumthin, always imagine yourself in his shoes and how would he feel if you are to do anything in life before you react. The 2nd thing is to always treat him

If you ask me, I'll correctly say most women will think this is bullshit, but in fact, they are very intelligible golden nuggets. Unfortunately, the truth is some men won't even appreciate these, and men who would appreciate these, don't get them from their women.

It doesn't change anything unless some guys want to make an ego out of nothing

topup:
This is so beautiful. I'm happy you posted it Gabry, and now I'm really hoping you and your guy remain together always.

I love that feeling, that peace when you have someone beside you, always.
Thank God for making men, and thank God for God I guess

At least we have someone who believes men are valuable and in fact, thanks God for them. Thank God for some women too - people like you.

posakosa:
PUFF PUFF MOUTH---- if anything you had to say was true, I would have signed off and gone to sleep but im truly fascinated by the JARGON unleashing out of your FAT MOUTH

Loose some weight, Get some LIPO---- maybe your love life will be improved. Asiwin

And that emboldened part is what? What in the world is your problem?

^^^ More than enough sef.

Laugh in Swedish.

^^^Yeah we know you've called. Thanks

ElRazur:
You want the truth? Here is the truth. . . There is no magical pills, herbs, medicine or device that will make your man hood bigger. If your woman is getting you stuff to enlarge your size, perhaps you should be looking elsewhere?

Having said that, I have a feeling that your post is not true.

You definitely are not a Nigerian or simply don't know about it.


Poster, it depends on what you want to do but I hear a lot of people use it and I have a few friends who even ship it to their friends in the US and UK and shit works like hell. I wouldn't know if there'll be complications later but I don't think so because it's a natural herb which in fact, is good for the body. On the other hand, try eating ginger like daily for about two months and see the result.

Na today?

Don't just pay back but in double, if it takes you a little while to do so, triple the amount.

Leave me a message on my YIM, I could hook you up with a few chics down there

Na2Day, you still dey find your number?

Uju, it's funny how you women open your mouth to yap that you're friends with your ex, which also makes me do nothing but wonder why you can't work on your relationship or why it was started in the first place. But I understand, not all relationships are meant to work, while some practically will or won't depending on the basics and basis of the relationship in itself.

Personally, I don't make friends with exes, so it'll be darn difficult to accept any gifts from them, but that's not to say they don't offer, of course they do but I don't accept them. Nevertheless, the kind of gift differs: if it's a birthday gift, you can accept it and you'll be fine in my books; if it's Christmas, it's all good, thanksgiving, that's acceptable; but tell me it's a regular gift because he thought of you? That's insane.

Someone said it's exposure of insecurity. . . too bad, people need to refine the use of certain English words these days and only if that person knows what insecurity means because all of a sudden when a man has got principles in a relationship, it suddenly has turned out to be insecurity. . . go back to the basics of relationships and review the rules and you can have a look at what insecurity means.

[Quote author=whitelexi]You can argue with that word "Enemy" for as long as u like, the bottomline is women just are used to collecting, men are more disciplined cos we're more into giving than taking.

You've stated your view and said your bf doesn't mind, fair enough for u. I've made my own point, stating clearly that i'd gladly leave my babe if she does the same thing - Men are different, some accept shit from women, others dont. . . Women will most def prefer those that accept shit from them, cos that affords them more freedom to act up. . . hmmm

Why do some men accept shit where others dont? Well, some men tend to take relationships as seriously as the eventual marriage - understandably so. . . Others see a relationship as an avenue to study the woman, and so it is taken a lot less seriously. Such men can break things off and feel no hurt or pain. . . That category is clearly where i belong!

I have never, and still will not accept trash, principles are simple to read but difficult to keep. . . You're either in or you're out, there's no in-between point. . . Its that simple. Cool[/quote]You have stated my mind accurately. It's a pity how some women value gifts as if their lives depend on it, and with this principle, I tell you some women will want to see you as being bossy or overbearing. It doesn't even make sense to be close friends with your ex in this fragile world let alone accepting gifts. And the funniest thing is if you tell your girl you're not comfortable with her making close friends with her ex, she'll come off with this assumption that you don't trust her or whatnot and ask her, what ever happened to you not towing the line where you can't be trusted? Why not act in a trusted manner and see if you can't be believed? Act right and responsibly and your man will take you serious.

But like I have earlier said, there's nothing wrong if the gifts are mainly for some festive moments like Christmas, Halloween, Thanksgiving, New Year and all of that, but a regular gift? I'll just shut up and add it up to one of her shortcomings and when that day of reckoning comes, I'll pronounce it as part of her judgment.

Stale news and what else again?

Pweety4me:
^^^What have i got 2 do with u & Kunbee?anyhow i no dey use im sorry. . .

I laugh in tagalog. Never mind.

CrazyMan:
Its called love at first sight. Its quite rare these days but those that happen to find it confessed that its the best kind of love

No, love at first sight ko, love at second site ni

CrazyMan:
Alright let's get down to business.

I need a girl with the following features.

Age 18 - 26

Location Any of the eastern states.

Occupation Working class.

Preferred skin colour Fair/Light.

Preferred back side Extra large.

Preferred front side Normal.

Hobbies MouthAction, casual sex and energetic sex.

Favourite drink sperm.

What she should expect from me Sex and nothing more.

Religion Pagan

[b]Qualification[b] Any type would be ok.

If you find a girl that possesses all these attributes, then holla me, and I would reward you handsomely

Start getting my reward ready because you're getting your order in a few

Pweety4me:
Hey!gudluck with d search. . .

IM me on Yahoo messenger if you can, I need to ask you something in reference to what Kunbee told me. Thanks.

Here is a pic of JayZ and B in Kaduna.

That's not being a marketer.

CrazyMan:
Why dem go kill you?

I thought they loved you ;P

I'd better keep my mouth shut, but if you need a girlfriend on here who will take you serious and treat you right? Get in touch with me.