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Janelle08:
Yes, he is the first son. And his family respects and always agree with whatever he says.

He was the one that brought up the idea and they didn't object because he is their breadwinner and practically brought up his siblings.

Well,don't let him push you into a hard corner.There are alternatives so let him take those.
Don't let him foist the decision on you.Your marriage is young and you should enjoy it.
It's not easy raising kids.As much as possible,let people who birth them take care of them.

Janelle08:
[sup][/sup]Mother-in-law is young. She's in her fifties. The father of the child living in their area.

I suggested to him to send the boy to his elder sister (The elder sister wanted to take the child earlier on) in Lagos. But he refused. He wants to raise the child himself. He just enjoys calling he shots.

Is your hubby the first son?You have an alternative who even wants to accept the child.Tell your hubby again to consider his sister.
I can understand why the child may not stay with the grandparents.
Insist you are not adopting the child.

Janelle08:
She is about 22yrs. They want to send her to a relative in the North so that she will live there and get admitted into the university.

If she needs to go to school,someone can raise the child while she does that.I really think the child should stay with the grandparents.They should also make her visit her child from time to time.
They just want to hide what will eventually come out.So the child will grow up not knowing his true mother? The lady will live a lie that she has never had a child with a future suitor?

Put your foot down about not adopting the child.Tell hubby the child can come,stay a while and go from time to time.You can also be financially responsible for the child.

What plans do they have for the sister?Is she still going to school or works?How old is she?

I don't think you(a young couple) should take up that responsibility.You can be financially responsible for the child and even have the child live with you but I do not support the idea of making the child grow up like you birthed the child.
What happened to the grandparents raising the child?
They want to raise the child with a false identity which I do not support.

She go fly with this her gown.

Now no be living being people dey kidnap, na corpse.
Police don torchlight them small.

Sometimes people talk too much!
I don't support keeping secrets from your partner but at the level you were(after you had the triplets),all you had to tell your hubby was that you noticed your period had stopped coming.You didn't need to go into all that details!
It will bring distrust and make him react exactly as he is doing.Unfortunately,I don't know how it can ever change with him again.Men keep these things like a scar.
Keep apologizing and hope he can soft pedal.

Whatever you do,don't quit your job.

Na abroad sha.E go hard for naija.

chiommy123:
if she's not faking it then its reasonable

'Mood' alone is enough for some women.They don't need to fake it,they are just not in the mood.

It takes away the woman's rights and freedom.Even in marriage,consent is required.

chiommy123:
I don't know about a major sin and what he meant by that but I think its wrong. Why refuse your husband without any reasonable excuse and complain about cheating

What will you class as 'reasonable excuse'?Will a headache,tiredness or not being in the mood be reasonable?

Good of her though it would have been hard for her to get away with it except she keeps running.
Her BVN and her details are with the bank.

Why should lecturers have students' whatsapp numbers except it's a class group.Na so e dey start.
E don't red for this lecturer sha.That's an intimate chat.

Gbege.Now his uncontrolled lust got the better of him.

'his actions are putting you off'
'he tried to force a kiss on you'
'he tried to have sex with you'
'you're not ready for sex'

The statement above shows you are both going i n opposing directions.Don't let anyone force you to accept what you don't really want.
He may have sex with you and still dump you or may continue with you.If he dumps you after the sex,would you be fulfilled?
At 30yrs,many guys are still players,don't be deceived.

So you no need men advice?

Abasi mbok Iyanmi.
Chase her out na,why kill her?

You'll go to jail or get the death sentence now.

willi926:
Christianity don suffer. all these people giving Christianity a bad face should b dealt wit in one way or another. na so Muslims and atheist go dey laugh us.

These things were spoken of by the Bible.Only the ignorant will laugh.

Making people bleed by touching them with handkerchief.smh
The guy na guyman.

What kind of pose is that @last pic?
Sultry generation.

Some women and toxic relationships.

If they knew this will be their end,they would have thought of a better way of living.

Jungle justice isn't the best but these criminals shouldn't get away with their crimes.

Good one

Na wa o.Na rape of niece dey reign now.
Some men have simply gone back to being cave men.

I hope he doesn't use law to wriggle himself out.He should go to jail.

me69:
they will teach you how to beat the shit out of civilian

Yea,that's why they get aggressive with civilians.

The kind of beating training that goes on in that military training camp ehn.
Naija own get as e be.

So much carnage in the land.
The leaders are just not committed enough to stop it.

DaddyNimo:
happy paying huge fees for hoes.

A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

He must have had a bad experience with the father but for him to post that on social media is the height of it.
I hope the bitterness in his heart does not affect his relationships.
Some fathers though.

DaddyNimo:
do people actually marry akwaibom girls? and calabargirls? I tot they said they are only good in sex and taking care of a nigger, had no idea guys end up marrying them from anoda tribes o. why pay such amount for a girl that must have forked 100men before her 25th birthday.

Hasty generalisation.
Guy travel and see the world.Some girls from your area are worse than some of them.

DateMynd44:
even the picture showing the bride is an efik attire

Yes the bride in the picture is Efik but that list is from Akwa Ibom.It is from Abak L.G.A in Akwa Ibom.

Challspace:
Please the purpose of this thread is for enlightenment. Don't bring your stubborn religious dogma into this.

Enlightenment about what does not exist?
Na psychosis be that na.