₦airaland Forum

darlenese:
no It's not.
she is very very pregnant

darlenese:
thank God she is pregnant again.

Divay22:
One gat to be romantic and creative

Sadgirl1281:
House please is it okay as I see his Mum tomorrow to narrate every single thing to her even though it’s the past. My dad said there was no need to move on and just try to fix things but I’m worried about the damage about me. Even if it wouldn’t change anything as long as blood is thicker than water, can I just for the sake of my sanity?

NoToPile:
I salute my calabar people.

My cousin married one, this was around 2002-3, the list ehn


My akwaibom nysc friend that married around 2011/12 said her bride price alone was 400k as at then oo when 400k was quite valuable.


I think the way forward is that parents alone should be the one who determine what the groom bring. All these village association, elders, community, good mother's requirement is what makes it more cumbersome. This will be difficult to do in some cultures as they are very communual

2buffagain:
What makes you think she's an EX-stripper?
I've met a lot of strippers who are married.

Sadgirl1281:
Yeah but that’s going to be the very hard part not just him coming home. It is not just going to be easy recovering and being amongst his people. Remember I am the woman here, married into his own family in which all of them are even located here so any family function or activities, I would have to be or mostly there so I can’t really escape. Would I be frowning when I get there or what? It’s hard.

Also I’m not an introvert, the difference is just I’m not in my comfort zone. I just moved here after getting married, family isn’t here, have t started working so a whole lot to settle in here.

We spoke again today and he said he’s now convinced that I am truly remorseful and all that.. that it is now his own part to get past the hurt, that aside the pushing, the fact I insulted him back by saying at his old age, he didn’t marry early or that’s why he didn’t marry early which was a response to the hurtful words he said he said to me.He said that even though he said hurtful words to me, should I have responded?

The only part I may need help or let me not say help but God should help me is just the after,ath. Facing everyone.

Sadgirl1281:
That’s what I’ve been trying to do, he left about 3 days ago though we have been speaking... I couldn’t even tell my dad he wasn’t back home. Presently he’s even at his brother’s place with the whole family... [b]Imagine my thoughts and how I’m feeling... while I am alone here no single family or so, he’s in a full house and only God knows what is being said about me[/b..

Sadgirl1281:
According to him, if he didn’t love me, he would have walked out and ended it as violence is the limit.

I want to move on from that but how when he isn’t back home. My parents, family are in Nigeria... his whole world are right here in this country... So whatever the case before anything I have to bring him back home.

The painful part though I am not condoning any violence or pushing or whatsoever but this his family too both brother and sister that are married for years, are they also saying that they haven’t had any quarrel or such in their own marriage? My only pain is mine came open, the whole world just after few months of marriage

Sadgirl1281:
That’s the pain I’m on here sharing. The way it is seen even from my own side(parents) is I pushed him, that’s violence so no matter what he said or did or when he even pushed me back, all that is by the way... Everyone around me is all on me to have to make him come back home because he is my husband, I pushed him and wouldn’t want a broken marriage, blah blah etc

He came once to visit for us to talk physically and he said he felt better now us talking but he won’t just easily come home after just one talk that I have to prove to him and show him and make him want to come back. So meeting somewhere else wouldn’t really be an option, it has to be more like him coming to the house again to talk and all or if all things maybe return.

Sadgirl1281:
We do talk on the phone even him saying he’s worried I’m alone in the house etc it for him to want to come back, I should prove to him and show him.

Minjim:
Wow! This man really loves Nigeria

baby124:
A lot of suicidal people have wiped out their families before killing themselves. So we really can’t tell if his state of mind was better to have him around kid. Plus a psychologically unbalanced parent affects kids quite negatively.

baby124:
Are his kids really better off with a depressed and suicidal father?