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moji26:
tanx,i appreciate dis so much

checkengine:
I am interested in your story but as I read further, I begin to get feelers of garnishing. If my memory serves me right, anti natal doesn't start at 3 months. If you talk about going to the hospital for checkups because you are ill, that's a different ball game. I may be wrong sha about the anti natal stuff sha.

Meanwhile, a well articulated question was thrown at you and you are yet to provide any tangible response. It will help your course to be truthful 100%.

CheckEngine

ifyalways:
@Thorpido, can you also seek the mother's opinion of the baby daddies, for all we know, Moji26 could be lying about them especially the last one.

@Onegai, . Nothing new, it's the nld way.

doveda:
I don't know why people are castigating Onegai. For me, I think, she has spoken well.

Onegai:
You know what? All this is getting pretty annoying. Allow me to leave this young lady to you guys.

Jaybee3, thorpido and ifyalways, let us leave this matter, we have become monsters o. Abeg free this matter. To your tents o Israel

Thorpido, getting rid of the tab is not about money, it's about her showing she's willing to do whatever it takes: let's start getting rid of all the things that are of the past.

Onegai:
Listen to me. Open your ears and listen to me.

You need to get your life in order. It is wake-up time. No more excuses, go and sell that tab NOW. Go and apologise to your mother and you better kneel down for her. I'm going to call you in a short while and I want you to be quiet the entire conversation. We are going to have a talk. Is your whatsapp working now?

ifyalways:
What are her reasons?

Please when you can, meet with the mom so we can know the real truth.

ifyalways:
@Thorpido, there's definitely food in the house. Her mother is angry with her and she is too proud to apologize or maybe she is even doing inyanga for the mom ie revolting like a baby that she unfortunately is by refusing to eat.

I think she needs to first apologize to her mother. Then we can also come in and help resolve whatever lingering issues she has with her mom. She must be made to understand that she must respect,obey, help and listen to her mother so long as she lives with her. Once that is settled then we can talk about getting her external help like counselling. If at all help in the form of setting her up for business should be rendered, I'm of the opinion that it should be AFTER delivery and she has shown considerable progress in her behavioral pattern and life decisions but methinks its best she works and earn money herself for setting up whatever business she wants. That is the first step in taking responsibility for ones life.

I can send you the money to register her for ante natal. To you directly and strictly for her ante natals.

Onegai:
I actually thought sending her out would be a good idea but she would stvpidly jump into the arms of another bad guy or simply take up solicitation. She is like all those Black American girls called Shanaynae or Lakeisha. What about Gele tying, she can earn a decent income from it every Thursday to Saturday, all she needs is a chair, an umbrella and pins and she can pitch her tent at every open field there's a party going on in.

So they don't want to feed her and her son?

Onegai:
Thorpido, please does she have that weird pregnancy sickness that Kate Middleton has?

Onegai:
Sanchez01 there's food in the house, she's fighting her mum and came here to drop that line and the other line about Suicide. If we give her a bottle of Sniper, she ain't drinking it.

Thorpido, thanks for this. But what do they mean, "follow any stranger anywhere"?

ifyalways:
Nothing but laziness, vain ego and sense of entitlement is wrong with the OP.

She emailed me threatening to kill herself if we don't give her money today which I promptly told her to go ahead please as I'm sure I owe her nothing.


Her mom will definitely take care of the baby when and if she puts to bed. She got her a nanny, she won't turn her back on her when she delivers.

OP, prolly needs money to flex, buy new stuff or travel out of the country.

She just have to grow up and take charge of her life. She doesn't need money nor is starving.

ifyalways:
@Thorpido, Welldone and God bless.

What does she need money for?

moji26:
hello sir, I'm having a low battery since morning due to Nija electricity, my battery is low Sir, I will die soon if I dnt get any help, pls come and verify me tomorrow, I'm having difficulties with low battery

Onegai:
Don't trouble yourself. If anyone wants to help the OP, they can send her a message. Her phone has been off all day, so I'll just assume this is over.

Kaboninc and Thorpido, your idea will need an accountant and a lawyer. Plus someone who has experience in either fundraising or welfare. Someone genuine (I know a lady, but she has her hands full with her own NGO). So that's somewhere to start.

kaboninc:
Or you can open a trust fund or set up a trustee account. Have a group of people to organise and manage it. The group will be responsible for finding the school, liaising with the school and the trust company and administering the fund. They'll instrust the trust company on the modalities of payment.

That means you have a professional managing your funds and a team working with the firm.

Onegai:
I think it is because we treat contraceptives as a dirty word in Nigeria if you're not married. Imagine getting contraceptive subsidised at a Govt facility and those matrons giving you side eye.

My siblings used to tell me about young girls brought by their parents to hospital, the girls would be swearing that they didn't even associate with boys outside of school and the parents will be spending money paying for malaria test, typhoid test when the simple truth lay in front of their noses.

Blank, keepingmum, do you remember her initial moniker? She keeps choosing bad guys, after one baby she is still not keeping herself safe, she has learnt a trade but doesn't want to use it (instead she wants money to start a business, won't say what) and is expecting the world owes her help and making up silly tales to wring people's hearts. I dunno, but I think if we can get an NGO to agree to take the baby when born for a closed adoption, then we help financially AFTER the adoption has been confirmed (NGO from another state). Abortion if she's at 3 months is tricky and we don't want her claiming afterwards that she was forced to abort. We also don't want her claiming she was forced to sell her baby. Sometimes, loving a child is not enough and I would rather see a child with parents that will keep baby safe, not keeping a child beside you, suffering, when you know you're not the type mentally strong enough to beba good parent.

There's something called Safe Surrender, practised abroad, for mothers who want to safely give their babies up for adoption. I think an NGO should be formed around that idea: every LGA and GH and health centre and town hall has flyers with safe locations where you can drop a baby and walk away, no questions asked. But you don't come back.

Btw, a lot of NGOs are run for profit in Nigeria. So maybe a church/ mosque be involved cc Jaybe3

Mindfulness:
Are the other African countries they run their projects in so much better?
I guess they can't be everywhere.

Mindfulness:
Birth control pills should be free of charge or very cheap like in some other countries. It would prevent many unwanted pregnancies and suffering for both - parents and children.

Mindfulness:


I don't know why.

I was only interested in sponsoring education for the girl child when I came across the organization.

Mindfulness:
I am asking myself the same question. Is it naivety? Doesn't she know how to prevent a pregnancy?

Okijajuju1:
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Why is it that big though?

Jumaii:
I am grateful Sir. Thanks for the enlightenment ,

Mindfulness:
You're welcome darling.

A friend of mine is sponsoring three kids via this organization. He has been doing it for a long time now and even visited the region where these kids are from with his wife several times. He has confirmed the development initiated by this organization and the people supporting it. If you join, you will get an annual report about the projects initiated and completed. You can join any time and you can cancel your membership any time too. It's not expensive but you will make a huge difference.

E-hugs.

Jumaii:
Yes, thanks a lot doc. One more question. How do i determine which one is right for me?

Jumaii:
Good afternoon. Please what is the effect of long term family planning? Say for a duration of 5 years?

Dyt:
Ok
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EfemenaXY:
Onegai, Ifyalways, and Thorpido...

Question for you: I've been toying with the idea for sometime of sponsoring a child in need in Naija with their Education. Ideally, a young child in nursery to start with. How can this be done without being tricked? Or the money for the child diverted elsewhere?

Is this possible? What would I need to do and know? My preference is for a little girl.

Dyt:
Yes
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