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Feanah:
Everything o ...I just can't see myself with a younger man,I can't.I think if we have kids sef,I'll have to be on anti-depressants because it'll so hard for me to come to terms with the fact that I put to birth for someone younger.Lol It's that bad,the mind can be very wicked,I know I'm taking it too far;even my friends keep saying it's not as bad as I think it is.But I'm just so into the age matter ,atleast the man should always be older,even if it's just a day.

Keneking:
That's why the Catholic Church is best!

eolowu1:
its d mending type dat was done I was nt told to go for removing of stitches. d incision has closed up and d surface is dry, no much pain, can I av normal bath nw without avoiding water touching d incision

Onegai:
CC Thorpido. Please any ideas? Thanks

Ahmadgani:
are you telling me that as a Christian you are not suppose to work with the old testament?

Ahmadgani:
if cain was a Christian, it means that the first man to ever kill was a Christian.

Tolulope95:
Yes.. he is quite comfortable from a well to do family background.. I think he is only trying to cage me with the proposal or something

thelish:
I respect u a lot.

nelszx:
Hillary Clintons physician is not a Nigerian rather a woman named Dr Lisa Bardack don't believe every scam you see on NL

anonimi:
Did you read where they said he hugged and KISSED the women
Wetin be playful inside that one?
Shey na the hug be joke ni abi na the kiss?



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cococandy:
It seems Canada is more lenient than U.S in such matters. Because the consequences would have been worse for him in the U.S

amagunnerfan:
He wasn't joking mate. He actually did kiss as the article stated. Very irresponsible indeed.

adviseseeker:
Maybe you want me to say what she did not do? I will praise when she deserves praise. What's insensitive? Wanting to meet with my wife at least 3 times a week? Is that insensitive? Or expecting an apology from my wife whenever she does something not good enough?

Like you rightly noted, her siblings are with us for a while. My siblings were with us while we were in Lagos but I chose to relocate us because she was complaining too much. Way too much. I am absolutely okay with her siblings being with us as they make it easier for her. If I didn't like it, I won't have allowed it. It is for me better than getting a maid especially considering the Africa way and the many horror stories I have read about maids.

I won't bother discussing what the other so called mother is saying but let me give you an example;

I have complained jillion of times that there is no longer spark in our marriage. Last week we had to attend a family function. Rather than stay at my family's or at hers ( which I will not do due to my own customary beliefs ) I chose for us to be at the hotel together without the baby ( who had enough people to take care of her for just about 7 hours that we would be away for ) my wife said no, I pushed and pushed and pushed until I stood my ground before she agreed and getting to the hotel was busy with her phone, argued with me and then slept off. I had to let her know the next morning she needed the help of another lady which got to her and calm her nerves.

Yesterday I refused her food because it came by 11am. When her sister and the others that were with us chose to go out with the baby and only me and her left in the house, what I expected from a woman who values her home is for her to come to me and ask why I have been cold to her all day. But even though I was in the room lying down on the bed, she chose to do make ups...when she wasn't going out oo.. So I am still insensitive?

Or what can be more annoying than this... We recently got duped by an agent, who to be honest she warned me against, we got a place with a lot of repairs to be done which the landlord or the agent has refused to repair. We had to practically pay two times as the first agent who knows the agent that knows the land ran away with our money. When repairs wasn't being told to the new house, We asked for a refund which we are getting from the landlord, I decided I won't wait for the refund before we get another place. I asked her to start house hunting. My wife won't go. I only managed to force her to go once. Then when I found a place that I felt was good enough for us, I asked her to go check it out, she refused telling me it is okay if I like it. After I paid, she went to check it on Sunday only for her to be complaining the parlour is too small. This is someone who I begged and begged to go and check the house even way before I paid and refused. So I am insensitive to get angry in this case right? There is still yet no apology or explanation for this madness even as I am typing this.

Okay here is another one

I have stomach ulcer and she knows it is a big battle for me. I ensure I eat my breakfast as early as possible. She has the sister, myself and their family friend ( a young girl ) to help with the baby, yet my break fast can't be ready before 9am? Yesterday was almost 11am. I am insensitive to get angry there right? What if she was working? She won't bath the baby before going to work? How do those women who have to nurse their babies and still go to work manage to get to work before 8am?

Or you try to make move for romance and you get PUSHED away. Or when you are not pushed away, you are told NO in the most offensive way. I am insensitive to get angry there too?

Am I asking for too much by expecting my wife to at least be considerate even when she is not in the mood for romance? Do you push your husband away? If she says I offend her in anyway ( I have to consider this when the idiot, yes she is an idiot, you were responding to brought it up ) then it would be about 6 weeks back when we had an argument the very first time I actually spoke my mind.

I invited my mom over to ours for a discussion, a very important discussion ( and I explained to her before hand ) my mom got in my wife was lying down on the couch and said " welcome ma", while still lying down on the couch. Her sister came greeted my mom the prosper way a yoruba lady should greet her in laws ( and the way my own wife greets her own parents ). I was angry but my mom had noticed my annoyance over the way she greets her before this particular day and had called me to give her time hence I did not talk on this particular ocassion then I was expecting her to at least offer my mom water or food, I waited for 2 hours before I called her own sister to ask her if what her elder sister has done was right. She, GOD be my witness, confirmed she herself was shocked.

When I questioned her, she started playing one Tiwa Savage song " If start to talk" and some other rubbish. This got very serious and I was going to leave the house for her. She didn't apologise but said my mom coming to ours weeks after she left ( she first came to help with the nursing ) was choking her. This is even when I already told her we were relocating out of Lagos in order to have time on our own oo.

To be fair on her, my mom didn't cover herself in glory by wanting ( and actually sleeping ) to sleep over but I myself already called her and told her the solution ( my siblings do the same thing ) was for us to relocate which we did. The least you would expect from a reasonable girl is ... after all we will leave this place in few weeks ( about 4 weeks at that point ). And must you be rude to my family?

How about my little brother coming to ours and wanting to carry the baby and when my mom was about to hand over the baby to him she telling my mom not to give her baby to the boy. My own brother. Oh, I am looking for sympathy right.

You want another one?

On the day of the baby was christened, an indicent happened which she misunderstood. Her mom asked my cousin to help her take the shoe rack she bought and that was just delivered upstairs but because it was the day our daughter was christened, my cousin couldn't take it immediately and told her mom he will take it upstairs after serving people. Her own in law ( her brother's wife ) went telling her it was my mom who stopped my cousin from taking the rack. I over heard them but wasn't sure if I heard correct and forced my wife to talk. And when she told me what happened, I swear on the bible, I immediately told her my mom can do that ( of which she can do, it is her person ) and I immediately told her to calm down that it is absolute madness and I am not going to accept it in my house. I went straight to meet my father where her own father was. I called him upstairs and told him what I had. He also told me my mom can do such a thing but I should not conclude and investigate. He went as far as telling me this is the time for me to prove I decide my manhood ( he said my manhood in yoruba which was somewhat funny ). I took it up, I asked my cousin who explained exactly what happened. He, I swear on the bible once again, told me point blank that I should accept the fact that my mom could be making signals to him but that he did not see any and if he had seen, he won't have obeyed.

I went to my wife to explain what I have done and that I will find out the truth and that she should give me the chance to sort it out. The next day my wife refused to greet my mom nor come out of the room or allow her bath the child...I am insenstive here too right? Her father who I respect so much did worst to me which even her wasn't happy with but rather than be rebellious to him, I postrated and begged for an offense he THOUGHT I committed but I never did.

I can go on and on. But like many have said here, it is my fault. She knows exactly what I can do, when I will do it and the limit I can go.

5minsmadness:
I heard he's a very playful doctor and didnt mean any harm. Anyway, he carried the playfulness abroad where they dont play, see gobe

adviseseeker:
I thought of this but there are usually a way to say No without hurting the other person and if you constantly say no, when you then want it, you shouldn't be hurt and resort to malice when the other person also says no to you.

I wish I can reveal my real identity here and have the couple of people on here who know me to my house even before I got married to comment. I can be very understanding but I hate when you are being disrespectful. See for instance, we recently decided to change apartment as I was spending too much on fuel due to the constant heat in the house we were leaving. We want house hunting, she came up with one excuse to the other as to why she can't do the house hunting. I took up the task. I searched and searched and searched. Couldn't find anything tangible. Got one for 620k which I like. I told her to go and check it before I paid. I told her repeatedly she kept coming up with one excuse to the other. I made the payment only for her to go and check yesterday and was complaining the palour was small which I find insulting considering I have told her to go and check it severally. The least I expected is sorry, nah oo, she can't say sorry and this issue of not wanting to apologise has made me to invite her mother over once over a more serious issue than sex and food for which she refused to apologise.

I honestly do not think 3 times a week is bad. And many times I work 12 hours per day including weekends as I don't enjoy watching TV. My only way to relax is to play with my baby as wify is busy with instagram , youtube or Magic Africa.

I am not a good cook but I still try to cook but I can't and I won't do it all the time. I work, practically run a joint account with her just so she doesn't have to ask for money before she gets it, and then will do the cooking in the house as well while she watches TV. NAH. I rather do what I hate and did today - eat away from home.

Incrizz:
Hey isn't that my location?

Incrizz:
Awww...okay. Please add Benny Hinn to that list

Incrizz:
The evidences are just too strong.
He moves like him, operates like him, wears a lot of white like him, heresies here and there etc etc

~oh please donot quote me asking if Pastor Chris and Hinn are the only ones who wear white *rolls eyes*