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Get to the police station and make a report.
Post pictures if you have any with plate no and chassis no all over the internet.

This man did much damage to the structure and economy of Nigeria and seems he will leave without accounting for it.Such is life.
It's between him and His Creator.

What stops you from pursuing your career while still married?It depends on what you want to do however because marriage will require you go about it in a way different from if you are still single.

Your husband's concern has to do with how much you pursuing your career will affect the family.

......and they must strip him.smh

queenethlondon:
Lagos

I'm not sure you'll get the quality you want shopping online in Naija.Why don't you try and move around?Visit shops so you can see physically stuffs you want to buy.It's good for your body too to move around.It exercises your body.

Someone will come to give you suggestions on online baby shops soon.I can't recommend any.

Are you in London?

Ginaz:
Men should just take it easy on ladies, chaiii. I want a flat belly girl, I want a tally girl, I want a fine legging leg, I want a fine facing girl but their body is nothing to write home about.

They will carry their pot belly like a palm wine tapper around the full Nigeria. They have uneven skin tone, and stretch marks around their shoulders and buttocks and wears boxers for 10 months without minding if the colour is fading or tearing. But when it is a woman now, they want perfection. God should give men clay to create the women they need. Mtcheeeew.

Don't burst a vein.
You don't have to care what many men think.All you have to care about is that special man(or men-brothers,cousins,friends) and what he feels.The matured know how to deal with issues especially ones that have to do with nature and are irreversible or inevitable.

Some men care but that is where maturity comes in especially if the stretch marks come with pregnancy.
There are creams that help to reduce/remove stretch marks though and are worth trying.

This your snake is small but can be dangerous nevertheless.

You said you used this as a case study in a project?
I just wonder what you people learn nowadays.Education is so poor.

3weeks is a bit too early especially if you're still healing and feel sore down there.
You husband should try to be more patient.

Try and use a combination of your hand and mouth.That should do the trick.

FowlYansh:
We started digging it the next day after the birth of my twins

You're obviously not a woman.

oz4real83:
D lady owns d blame. It is d man's matrimonial right. It is NOT A MUST that every love making must result to pregnancy. Your husband won't open your womb to find out if you have a contraceptive in there. Let d husband have his way but d wife has final decision as to if it will lead to pregnancy!!! But there are matured ways of handling such issues. #say-no-to-violence.

The lady is not at fault here.She most likely would have discussed family planning which the man must have refused judging from the story.
I've seen women at the clinic whose husbands reject family planning.There are men who would never accept condom with their wives.
Some men are just blockheads.

Europija:
did u see my topics?Go n read them n u wil.found out all

I checked your threads.What I said initially still stands.You need to get a grip on yourself.
You can fall in love with the man you desire but when you see the relationship is hurting you,you will have to quit.
There are good men out there who will treat you right.
You don't have to rush to be in a relationship,it's okay to even be without one for a while.
Use that time on self-development.

Evidence1000:
What makes you think that she's not a nigerian ? Is it her dp?

Check her profile.Read her threads.

Evidence1000:
What makes you think that she's saying the truth ?

At least she answered.She's not Nigerian by the way.

Europija:
25

I asked just to know if you were a teenager grappling with puppy love.
Something is not right with the relationship you have now and you seem to need a wake up call to quit.Tell yourself you deserve more than you are getting now.A man who would treat you right and not one who messes up your head.

Evidence1000:
Have you ever asked a nigerian girl her age before and she answered ?

Europija:
25

Don't always assume!
I've been here long enough to know if I will get an answer or not.

Evidence1000:
What makes you think that she is gonna answer your question ?

What makes you think she won't?

You need to get a grip on yourself,that's all.
How old are you?

The world we live in now.

freecocoa:
Oh! Okay, that's probably it.

African man and him mentality.

Lol

freecocoa:
Why won't he be able to call her his baby girl anymore?


Beautiful girl.

He probably thinks when she is full grown,it will be inappropriate to call her my baby girl.

Just wondering what kind of a father-in-law he will be.

salisuammy:
Please OP do not think of abortion just to make your church wed you. I have seen people who abort before their weddings and never got pregnant again after wedding. please the pregnancy is not a sin but fornication is.Unfortunately most churches are responsible for so many childless marriages today as most of them go for abortion just to avoid discrimination. Kindly call one pastor, explain the situation and ask him to wed you in a beautiful garden and the reception follows immediately.

The churches are the ones who brought them together to fornicate?The churches are the ones who took them to the clinic for abortion?

The bible says,'judge righteous judgement'.

metalgear:
There's something most people here are misquoting me on. I never said we don't spend time with the kids. My wife and I don't go to work on Fridays and we are mostly indoors during the weekends with them. I close from work at 1pm on Thursdays and I immediately go pick them up. It's only the days we have classes at the same time that we pick them up late. My wife does her studying mostly in school (she works on-campus) and I read on weekends. So weekends she's at home with them if I decide to come to school to study. It's not as if we just decided to dump our kids with someone else while we run after education. We're not irresponsible parents. We know our kids need our attention. It's just those few days during the week that seem tight.

I actually didn't misunderstand you neither do I see you as irresponsible.
You both decided to pursue post-graduate studies while raising families.What we're saying is that it's a bit too much.It would have been okay if you had a trusted child minder at home or you were keeping your kids in a certified day care center.

Na ya people you say dey mad?Uwa umebi.
You can always negotiate on some of the things listed.The man that wants to marry should know what to expect before shouting.

You just have to make out time for your kids especially at their developmental stage.You and your wife decided to put all your sticks in the fire at the same time but it can't always work that way.
It's good to build a career but family is also very important.
The options that are most available to you now are either to pay a trained certified child minder or you cut your work/school schedule.

timonski:
sir, what do I need to do for TEHN to help me?

Send a mail to this e-mail address: ehelpersnetwork@gmail.com

justme2000:
I want to ask a question here and I need real judgement.

Where did I get it wrong?

Here is my story.

I was 30 when I got married just 2 years back.

Though I came from a very very poor background, I have God's favour, I was gainfully employed over the last 8 years and even before I met my wife, I was an international employee working in the best places in the world. I had real money from my hard work.

One committment I have made to God is to love and cherish the woman I will eventually marry. I dont womanize, no smoking and no alcohol.

Ever since I met my wife even before we were married, I do send her 80% of my monthly income. Basically she gets almost all my hard earned currencies as I do not earn naira.

I boght a house even before we met and when we got married, I completed the house taking 2m naira from her.

Suddenly the unforseen happened, I got suspended from work do to downsizing. Came back to Nigeria fully and tried to seek alternate employment. Eventually got one and left again due to same downsizing. Since the last 3 months I have been seeking another employment, meaning I am jobless.

Now my wife brought her brother 4 years younger than me to live in the house without seeking permission from me. I had to over look it to avoid family issues.

She is the violent type that always slap and tear my shirt at every little argument and because I have decided not to hit a woman in my life, I will just over look everything. I have had to replace her phones twice because she smashed same out of annoyance.

So this time, a little argument came up and she ended up tearing my shirt. So i had to slap her.

Then I got the shock of my life.

She started explaining telling her brother that

1. My hands are unfruitful as I have been experiencing bad luck to the point that I dont even earn a kobo
2. That she feeds me and my family
3. That this house she bought it with her money and all the assets in it so she is tired of helping me.

Jesus, I was shocked as I could not imagine this.

I worked really hard to make sure this woman is comfortable.

Sent her around the globe including the bahamas with this same unfruitful hand.

Paid house rent at 2m/yr using this same hands before I decided to complete the house i had bought as a bachelor.

Besides completing our current house, I furnished it fully with this same unfruitful hands

Sent her and her mum to the US when we had our baby with this same fruitless hands.

So my question is, is it bad for a man to treat his wife right?

If you were in my shoe, what will you do?

Seems your relationship was a long distance relationship.That means you probably didn't know your wife well enough.You should have known what her temperament is like and decide if you wanted a violent wife(using your words).
One other bad part of your foundation is showing your wife too much money from the beginning of your relationship.Why send so much money to the one you are dating when you are not her father?Moreover,you said you came from a very poor family so you should have family members to take care of.I hope your wife didn't marry you just for the money.
You should double your efforts to get a source of income so you have something to bring to the table.You should have saved enough too while you worked i hope so you have something to fall back on.
You should help your wife control her anger(talk to her about it when she is calm and let her attend anger management classes if she can.Since you have also started to slap,you both should work on managing conflict.

If your sister is attending ante-natal and doesn't have any issues like increased blood pressure,excessively swollen ankles or fainting spells,then she can drive up to when she is due to deliver.
One thing she should do is make sure the seatbelt is not too tight on her and she can do that by adjusting it.
She should be sensitive to her body and if she feels uncomfortable at any time,she should use common sense.

Sarifat:
Not so true, one of the reasons a woman will start adding after marriage could be rest of mind, when you are married and there is peace... Also, the fact that u are in total control of your kitchen, you can eat whatever u like. Also, u must add weight ones the kids start coming. Was a size 8 b4 I got married,became size 10 after my first child, size 12 after d second child, I nw have my 3rd child but not sure of what my weight is currently but I think I have not added aside d lil belly fat...

You are not working on your weight especially post pregnancy.You don't have to keep increasing in size with every pregnancy.