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Femi Aribisala should gerrarahia.
The purpose- life,death and resurrection is all that matters.

eyinjuege:
I personally don't think it's unethical. I would have said it was were the case still in his courts.

They might not have even had any romantic feelings for each other while the case was ongoing.

It's possible they might have met again after the case at a party/ function and started talking, got friendly and feelings developed from there.
Or they might have met at a club, got drunk slept together, and she got pregnant.

These are different scenarios, but no one can actually say for sure when those two started their relationship, or when they both started developing feelings for each other.

You're right there are different possible scenarios.She married the man after the divorce was finalised so she was free to have married ANYBODY.

eyinjuege:
Yes , he may have had intentions, but the question that matters is Did he act on his intentions while the case was in his court?
How can anyone determine that unless there's evidence of them eating out or visiting each other while the case was still in court.

He likely met her for the first time when she presented in court but I'm sure he had his eyes on her from that day.
The husband wanted divorce and that was what he got and makes the woman free to re-marry anyone but like I said,what the judge did was unethical,an abuse of office.

Controversialad:
The Moral is... Mind your Business. Stop poking into people's affairs. Face yours!

She's granting a public interview.How could that be her private business?
Moreover there are child right advocates whose business it is to speak about this situation.
Why have a child if you just want to do your own business and pursue a career?She should live up to her responsibilities.

The judge must have had intentions the very first day she presented in court.This should be termed an abuse of office.

chukslawrence:
I think he's frm Ondo State

Ogun state.He's an Ijebu man.

Tonydeeb:
Funny enough, I never heard of him before!...despite all these porfolios he's got?

He really doesn't like public life,can be quite reserved.
But you ought to have known something about those who run Firstbank,Econet that became Airtel and Honeywell flour.He's been atop these companies.

What I like most in their picture is the dog.

Evina:
Cos all they were concerned about was to print the slip and include in the bill.

It's part of the whole package.
That stuff was to monitor the heart beat of your baby and it's important.

Evina:
Hahahaha LOL @ she for bite you.
I was praying in tongues mostly.

When my baby started descending, the doctor wasn't even there cos according to him, I was 6cm dilated and he had a nurse fix some silly gadgets on my tummy to monitor contractions and baby's heartbeat. (Unnecessary stuff to add to bills)

When he eventually strolled in to check progress on dilation he saw that baby was already coming.

I told them the hour of delivery and it happened. I told them the week also and it happened that way.

Who told you so?

Evina:
Honestly! I really don't get all these women cursing husbands in labour room experience. I often think it's just an exaggerated tale.

I recall telling my husband, during the last trimester something along the lines of "you caused this", the guy just smiled and said, I gave, you received. You didn't have to receive

Also, I don't know how I would have coped without my hubby in the delivery room (I didn't go to any waiting room) he was a pillar of strength and support. I held onto his hands the entire time, until our son was born.

Pregnancy and childbirth is a spiritual experience and God was totally faithful to us.

Wassup Evina.
Yes o,the man gives and the woman receives so why curse the man.I know at that time the pain can be unbearable but it should be time to speak words of deliverance.

It is a spiritual experience.
Congrats on your baby.

Hernyolar:
No, I don't.
I believe each person Individual is unique in his own ways.
One's upbringing matters a lot but that does not automatically makes you responsible.
I've seen people whose parents are married for 40years and the kids couldn't make their marriage work for 12calendar months while people from broken homes keep marriages for decades.
But men can be so callous..imagine throwing your wife and your three innocent kids out is the height of irresponsibility. Even without a source of income o...haba..some men won't even see the express way to heaven...loll

Women too can be callous.I've seen a woman dump a baby with the father/father's mom and take off for life.

Hernyolar:
Hmmm...yes..but above all, I believe a race is a race, and a man is a man..a good background doesn't necessarily mean a better man.
May God help us.
Amen
Thanks for the prayers.

Hmmm,you believe all men are the same?

Hernyolar:
My dear.
Let the woman man up and face her children...I'm going through the same here(just that we were legally married). Let her focus on her kids, and she should get both family members involved, so they will be the witnesses cos the ewu will still come back after donkey years and start blaming the devil.

She should get the appropriate authority involved, so they can ask the husband to pay the kid's monthly upkeep.(that's even if he won't deny the kids sef)

@thorpido, people change...change that you'll be amazed at the speed in which things detoriated.

You're right though.People can change drastically but people who are well grounded(good family background,good mental health,good outlook on life etc) can't really change that drastically.That's why background is so important when considering a partner for marriage.

Sorry about your situation.God will be your strength.

Dasuki and co raised us to that point.

Doesn't he have a family?What of the lady's family?
Women should have a good self-esteem and earn their respect.If a man wants to marry you,let him marry you properly and take your time to know who you are marrying.Quit the relationship if he is acting up.

Congrats Op.She will live to fulfil her destiny.

You said you put her through it and those women cursing their husbands,don't they want the pregnancy too?Why curse their husbands.

GenyEbere:
I didn't lay the foundation well,he suggested I quit to have the kids and I agreed thinking thats the best for me but later realised I made a mistake,Am praying God to help me have my life back either in it with him or out,he has unforgiving spirit and believes God will answer his prayer while holding a grudge

1 Peter 3:7 says,
'In the same way,you husbands must give honour to your wives.Treat your wife with understanding as you live together,she may be weaker than you are,but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life.Treat her as you should so that your prayers are not hindered'.
Show your husband this scripture.

I don't know if your husband has anyone he listens to - an elder or pastor.Let such a person talk to him.I feel however that your husband is set in his ways from the way you describe him and such men rarely change.What you should do is begin to look for opportunities to earn an income.Get financial freedom.Your life may continue with him or may not.
You deserve happiness in life and should not be tied down with anyone who takes away your joy.
Taking your life is not the solution.

GenyEbere:
I felt like ending it all on sunday but thank God for the baby kicking inside me that keeps reminding me that he need a life,I have a husband who sees nothing good in me,insults me my mother relation at any slightest opportunity,no physical abuse but the emotional abuse is killing,he wants to do as he wish,dont question him even if he comes back 12am,my opinion is useless cos he doesnt need them,we dont talk now simply because I told he has time for other activities except church,he never allowed me to work,he has money and boasts about it and want me to virtually beg him for everything else he wont provide it,leaving is not an option cos I cant have custody of my kids cos of no source of income,i like being independent but he wants me to be crawling and begging him. How do I handle this situation already am depressed.

Sorry about your situation but truth be told,you didn't lay your foundation properly.Were you the one who chose not to work or he made it a condition for you in the marriage?No woman should go into marriage without a source of income except by mutual consent.
Your husband can't change.He has always been and will always be that way.
Whatever it is,you will have to get a source of income and become independent.Abusers usually don't want their partners to work so they have control over them.Leaving the marriage might be an option for you.You might not be able to get custody of the kids but you will have your life back.
I know someone in an abusive relationship who just left the house with the kids.I don't know if that could work in your situation.

Taking your life is not an option.You've got kids who need you.I'm sure you have a family too-parents or siblings.They need you.

MEN147:
Don't involve parents because you can't explain if their parents have cautioned them several times..

They could have but i'm sure they didn't do enough.

benedictnsi:
Where we wan go find d peace For Saturn or Jupiter

D worst be say no one d look for the peace sef

The bolded is where the problem really is.

I don't like Trump's controversial statements but he is right on this.Muslims are not doing enough because they don't want to appear like they are working against Islam.

I pray the world finds Peace.

Nice one.

leverage12:
Yes sir. I have sources of income

You can give her a ring since both of you are committed and don't derail.One year is enough for you to plan your wedding.

Noneed77:
I feel so dejected and unhappy with myself right now. It feels like a mystery to me that these things keep happening to me at the same period over the years.

It started way back in 2013 February to be precise, i felt sick and got admitted in the hospital. No body could detect what the problem was as i was placed on typhoid and malaria drugs. The sickness came with severe cough. The doctors had to discharge me even without recovery. It was later around April i discovered i had TB (that was after my three weeks orientation camp) let me say it was by the Grace of God that i survived it. I did test and it was confirmed that i had the virus. It took me some time before i recovered after taking the drugs for months.

In February again 2014 towards the end of my youth service, i met this girl (youth Corper also) and we started dating. Though it didn't last long but i must confess through out the duration of our dating i had no peace of mind. Its always one problem or the other. I can't say if the girl actually duped me or not but i spent alot for her out of my small allowance. There this guy that she was dating before we met i even had a little clash with him over her. She told me so many things about him that it's me she wanted. That the guy had connection and frozen her nysc account. That was what made me fell to the extent of spending for her. I spent roughly about 30k on her. Everything later ended.
Few months later God helped me to secured a contract job which i saved about 600k. After the contract i bought a car for business purposes. Though my family were against it but i didn't listen to them. I used few months to learn it.

Around January 2015 i started the work but i discovered it wasn't what i wanted. The business wasn't moving fine so i made up my mind to sell it.

In February 2015 when i was about selling it, i got involved in an accident that condemned the Car, i even had to use the remaining money left with me to pay the car i damaged because i was at fault (that was after police intervention)

I lost everything and back to square zero.

I went into sports journalism and seems to be doing well and even earning from it.

So i made up my mind to start living alone. I rented an apartment but before parking in, my family kicked against it saying why should i start living alone when i have sister that we have being living together for long. That it doesn't make sense but i didn't listen to them i went ahead and bought everything and parked it. The very day i finished everything that was when my eyes opened after calculating the money i spent (roughly about 30k because i paid half of the rent . I became angry with myself. Now i am thinking of renting out the room and sell everything that can be sold then return to my sister.

Why i am i taking the wrong decisions even when i advised not to? Why sad events keeps happening to me around February and March every year. Must i be involve in one thing or the other that make my life unhappy? Is it because i am still jobless? I am just confused about everything. I don't feel happy

I don't see anything strange happening to you.You are just making bad decisions based on the fact that you do not think through before taking actions.In life you go step by step and not just rush into things.
From the things you wrote,you go contrary to good advise from your family and that has been your greatest undoing.In as much as there is nothing wrong taking decisions on your own,you can also make do with good counsel.Begin to listen to you family and good friends whenever you decide to make decisions.Seek their opinions even if you won't follow their opinions,consider and weigh them.
As per your health,sicknesses can come at anytime to anyone.You just need to learn to prevent diseases by maintaining good hygiene and presenting yourself early at a hospital if you have symptoms of any illness.
When it comes to women,if a man does not date the right woman,it can be akin to pouring water into a basket.You need to use your head more than your heart when it comes to women.
Wish you well.

24yrs...do you have a job?Do you have your own apartment?Are you financially stable?

Getting married at 25yrs is possible.You must be ready however.

Irresponsible children of irresponsible parents.

Sad truth about life.Most friends abandon their friends when they have challenges or suffer setbacks.

......but there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.

Octobertwentysix:
Yes the mistake I made was to tell the assistant instead of the proprietress she is a nice woman and has a listening ear. The school is an A grade school and they have three nannies for each class in the kg and pr kg also the teacher said they no longer allow them to enter the toilet unsupervised again, and as for the name calling I will let the proprietress know.

I don't think you should rush to change the school.Let the proprietress know about the incident and the name calling.
They should just ensure boys and girls do not use the toilets at the same time and keep an eye on them.

You need to report to the authorities.Their teachers should keep their eyes on them and shouldn't let the boys get into the toilets with the girls.

Tallesty1:
Not again

Abi.

Op,ya papa dey beat ya mama?