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Op,how u take know say she beautiful?I dey suspect u o.

The man is not a young man.How do people grow old and still do this stupidity?

pinkhill:
20 years and still in secondary school...wetin happen

Na village school na.She dey go farm join.

What did he gain at the end with all the travels and siring of children with different women?
Men living lives that they later regret in old age.A lesson to the boisterous youths.

buskie13:
Osama Bin Laden is not dead...Obama is playing politics with all these stuffs....he died but no one saw his corpse..



America is an enemy to the world....take it or leave it..

You didn't see the picture of his corpse?It was in the media.
You don't think the navy seals who killed him will be smart enough to take his fingerprints and other samples to confirm it was indeed him?

Guy,are u a muslim?

veraponpo:
Thank you for the words of wisdom, as much as babyosis (don't know if I am correct) has wealth of wisdom, she is usually to fast to bring divorce to the fore. I have seen men who really goofed in their homes but with the wisdom of the wives, they salvaged their homes. You don't throw divorce up when a matter just occurred. She did not even mentioned separation pending when the case will be settled, she just said take a walk.

Our women need to think twice and seek for godly advice not from one lady on Nairaland who will lead them astray.

One should judge each case on its own merit.
If this man had an affair with a colleague and is remorseful,i will plead with her to try and forgive.How do you sleep with your wife's younger sister with the intention of making her pregnant because your wife is yet to have a baby?That to me is a marriage killer.I always wish couples should stay together and try to salvage their marriages but there are exceptions.
There are women who stay and take all kinds of sh#t because they must stay married.A woman has a man bringing a woman into the house to sleep and she stays there 'enduring'.A man has impregnated other women outside,gotten them accommodation and doesn't come home some nights?That is not 'wisdom'.
The Op has her prerogative to decide what she wants to do however.

Hmmmm...........some of the things I'm reading here.
I believe the op knows what to do now.She should move and stay on her own,maybe with a friend for now.
Forgiveness is a good thing but when your husband is sleeping with your own sister and not just the sex but the intention........trying to make a baby with your own sister?

Abeg,that marriage is dead.

Brandnew2:
I can't buy that lie.


I guess those who named their child Goodluck are half expectant that the child will one day become Nigerian president.


#Gibberish.

People always give their children names of famous people.

Christiano Ronaldo was given the name Ronaldo by his father because of the former US president Ronald Reagan.

Shiningmama:
I run a small business now. I will be the happiest person on earth if he should get another wife. Kaiiiiii! I am tired and sick of his attitude. He is veryyy wicked. His mum can't call him by name. I don't need any protection, if I can do without it for 10months then no problem. I don't even feel urge again because[b] I see men as beast[/b].

Men are not beasts........yea some are and you could put your hubby in that category.

For how long are you going to keep living the way you are?If this marriage is not working,you should get a separation.Find a way to get your kids with you if you leave.

MymothersKeeper:
Only evidence I have is the bank transfer no agreement on paper, he's a wayo guy and he can't report of his items missing. Even if he reports which he can't, It will be a domestic issue not criminal (there's a reason I said this) .
I just im not the type to take others property but I feel he shouldn't get away with cheating and stealing from me. It's such a huge blow really disappointed and yea it's a lesson. I can't even trust a man again

The problem is not men.It's knowing how to choose,how to know quickly that a man is no good so you can easily ditch timewasters.How not to get too emotional or desperate such that you are in control.

Seize those things and even much more if you can as long as you won't get into trouble for it.He deserves to pay for it.Be smart and ensure he doesn't move them before you can lay hands on them.
By the way,are you African American?

Ladies,stop giving so much money to a man.$5000 to a man who is not your husband?You can help a man you are dating but please stop doing too much.

chibic:
and the man accepted the child? This is one thing that can kill a man faster. Women sha..smh

He chose to keep the family together.They had a fourth child before he found out.The child still grew up in the house.

Stress.Pastors too should rest.

Floodgater:
Da fvck, quit wasting your time with da fvck people and things. It wont change a da fvck mind or thing.

LOL

Opiosko:
Stop going around in circles. If she cheated before he proposed and before the introduction, it's bad but can be execused. But cheating after her papa 'haf chop kola and drank pammy untop her head' she is not different from the 'bad' women who are married and had an affair cos that exactly what she did. I think u know nothing about how important trust is to a marriage. As it stand now, the poor guy is not even sure if it's only one guy she did it with or is she's still into it.

I do know about trust but i also know that there are couples who have had similar occurrence and have forgiven each other and moved forward together.I know a family where the third born is not the man's child.He found out,there was a period of hurt but they overcame it and kept the family together.
I'm not saying what she did is right,I'm saying if it was that incidence then and she has long cut off from every relationship,the man should forgive and keep the family.

Opiosko:
Dude what dafugk are u saying? Introduction is as good as marriage cos. Once u say yes to a man, and both families gave their consent then that's it. If she had taking in by then (through her cheating) she would have foisted a bastard on the poor guy.

It's da fvck we are talking about.What of women who have even married and still had an affair?
I'm looking at putting this couple together.The man can forgive and get back together.

Westendel:
yes I have a water tight proof.

That's okay.The meeting is important.

Westendel:
Even if I forgive him,I don't think we will ever live in the same roof as husband and wife,for the very thought of him disgust me right now. I have informed my parents and my Dad has called for a meeting with his people in tommorow. my sister is also coming for d meeting including him though they've not been told the purpose of d meeting.

what shocked me about dis matter is DAT my husband is one of the board members in the Church, so committed that it's impossible to guess that he will do this kind of evil to me and God.
I believe all things worked together for good. there is still hope for a tree,even if it is cut down, it will soon sprout again.I believe I will not end like this

Westendel,have you gotten proof?Do you have the chat copied to your phone?You need evidence.

Opiosko:
Cheating after introduction? That's adultery.... If she can do that then she can do anything.

Not to make excuses for her but she may have felt she had not done traditional marriage yet and she got carried away.

digitsolution:
you are right. But remember she confessed reluctantly......

Such confessions are always done reluctantly.It's not easy admitting such indiscretion.

SAMBARRY:
How can I come in? Let her state what exactly she wants

She is unsettled accomodation-wise.I guess she needs a job/source of income and some funds.

digitsolution:
Learnt a lot from this topic, guesss tolerance of each other and genuine love is the key to a happy and fulfilling Marriage.

Something happened to my colleague at work, just decided to share with you guys. He is really angry with his wife lately, and I was surprised because this is a guy who looks for any slight opportunity to talk about his wife and paint her as the most beautiful woman on earth why the sudden change in script. Then he opened up to me that when he met his wife she was a virgin and till of recent he felt he was the only guy she has ever slept with and she (the wife) confirms it too and even refers to him as the only man that has ever seen her nude and he is the best blah blah.. Now he just discovered she was sleeping with some other man shortly before they got married(after their introduction) and he confronted her and she reluctantly confessed.

Now the issue is they have been married for about 5years now. My colleague feels cheated that he might never trust her or believe anything she says again, because ever since they met he has being faithful because he loves and trusts her and she claims same. Now, is he justified to be angry with her? Or do you think the wife should have denied it to keep the flow in the marriage? Or did the wife do wrong confessing?

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Her conscience may have been troubling her and she did the right thing to confess.The issue is,is there still a relationship between her and some other guy?How come the issue is coming up after 5yrs?
The husband is justified to be angry but he should find it in his heart to forgive her as long as she remains faithful now.He needs to take a look at himself too.Is he giving her enough attention?Is he trying to meet her intimate needs?

SAMBARRY:
Ok

She don misfire already.

Now she has a child and needs to earn an income to take care of herself and the baby.

Can u assist in any way?

I've heard of cotton wool and scissors but phone?
Don't know how phone can be part of the surgical process.

This is sad.A real betrayal of very close people to you.
I think you should calm down so you don't do something irrational.Don't commit murder.

I want to believe you saved the watsapp conversation.It's your evidence.
Confront your hubby with the evidence and get his side of the story.You should let your family know about this also.Speak to your parents.
Go and meet your church leader and report the issue to him/her.

I don't think there's anything in this marriage for you to save however.This is one i definitely won't tell you to try to rehabilitate.

Crystal83:
Hi,

I just want to know the rules that come with being married to a very proud yoruba man. Thank you.

Proud people are always going to be difficult to work with whether yoruba or not.
Op,i don't think your husband is into you.For how long have you been married?

I think your man just married you for the papers.

Well,it's a problem now.Let her go and see a gynae.
Hope she won't need a surgery now.

If she had an incomplete abortion then,she should have done an evacuation then.
She should go and see another doctor(not just any doctor but a gynaecologist).

Girls won't stop to dey wound themselves.

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I want to believe the genotype result of either the husband or the wife is not correct.They both should go and check their genotypes again.

People should let them enjoy their lives.
Baba Osho,you go need help o.Your waist go need ginger.

philfearon:
It is called "instinct"....Other animals have it too,but somehow,we have a more mature one!

Your words in bold raises questions.Who is responsible for the 'somehow' and the more 'matured' nature in us?

philfearon:
That "thing" u r referred to,what is it?

some call it conscience.It may mean more than that.