₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
@topic, I will always gbadun chimamanda.

Under the sun and in the rain.
with dedication and selflessness.
Nigeria is ours Nigeria we serve.

Kpomkwem!!!

kandiikane:
Oh wow, you see why I hardly argue with guys like you anymore? It is because when you have someone teaching you life lessons, your inferiority complex starts flaring up and you start stating that, one is being emotional-obviously because I am a woman. Grow up please.

You did not say roles can be reversed you said you have a problem when a woman says they won't do something just because they are a woman. I educated you on that, now you want to start taking jabs. Why do you still keep on disagreeing when you say you agree? Abeg, jor! I am even insulting my own intelligence by staying here to have this discussion with you. Have a good day!

kandiikane:
without you feeling like your manhood has been detached from your groin.

missterious:
Is it such a bad thing? After all, that is what women do everyday. Or does that mean men are too weak to cope with it?

kandiikane:
Like I said you are confused. You still do not get it, the whole point is not to do something just because you are a woman, one can still wash dishes but she should not do it because society has said that is her role but she does it because she is not a dirty human who wants her home riddled with cockroaches and mice. When you both work and come home late tired, you will not expect her to go in the kitchen and cook just because she is a woman. When you finish at 2 for example and she finishes at 7, it's common sense for you to say ooh, my wife will be tired, I should maybe run a bath for when she comes home and make something for her to eat. Same goes for a woman if it was the other way round. It does not matter who it is, whoever is at home more should make more of an effort for the tired spouse coming home, be it male or female. There are instances where the woman's job might require longer hours, so you should be considerate and realise she is human and not a donkey that has to do everything just because society says so.
Even if both of you are home, you help each other out. There is nothing wrong in your partner saying, "hunny, please can you wash the plates or hunny, I feel like eating stew, can you make some" without you feeling like your manhood has been detached from your groin.

missterious:
You won't find them because people believe it's demeaning & against natural order, whatever that means.

kandiikane:
That's fine, let there be roles but for those who are not interested in such roles, they can live their lives without conforming to such roles. Is chidinma not married? Just like you believe it is wrong for roles to be changed, there are men who are not bothered with the roles and they do what works for their marriage. It's simple be with someone who share the same values with you but know that many of our generation will teach our children male or female the same roles equality, without any gender discrimination.

delishpot:
Then buy bigger clothes

kandiikane:
Yes I can say I should not cook because I am a woman. unless it is naturally in you like child birth and even that you can choose not to give birth. Any woman has the right to not want to be part of the societal structures put in place. We need to break this gender norms as cooking or cleaning is not gender specific anyone can do it. Same way, you have the right to not pay for a woman's meal just because you are a man or a man trying to impress, you do it because you are generally that kind of human and would do it regardless of who it is. I have a right to choose not to be allocated to something just because I am a woman.

missterious:
Why are people so scared of the female nipp.le? It's no different from that of the male.

Some men enjoy cooking & even cook better than their wives. It's all about doing what you're best suited for.

bukatyne:
Breastfeeding is natural to woman same as pregnancy

@bold: I also do not subscribe to quota system. Giving a woman a position because she is a woman means she is not deserving of that position in the first place.

smileysmiles:
Lemme rephrase if buhari was a woma under APC and a preaidential candidate.... would he get the same number of votes he got?

smileysmiles:
"They say" men dont or "Men dont" give them the chance?
In all honesty do you think if buhari was a woman with all his experience and good qualities and al that APC would have made him their presidential candidate?

Can you homestly say nigeria is in a state where Men will vote women as presidents ( evenwhen they are fully qualified)? If your answr is NO.. it raises the question ; why??

kandiikane:
Who talked about timetable, are they children? You are saying the same thing she said. Like I said earlier you have confused yourself. It could be done by a man at anytime because he is human and he needs to eat so can a woman.

Eddygourdo:
brother u on point. Though I will commit murder if he thinks let alone to talk to my sister.

kandiikane:
I believe you confused yourself, it was quite straight forward.

I'm not speaking of what she said here.I'm talking generally of some of the things she says
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She is right, you do not have to cook because you are a woman, you cook because you are human, you guys are hungry and need to eat. If you don't feel like cooking and the guy is at home, he can do the cooking because he is equally human, hungry and needs to eat. What exactly is ridiculous here?

smileysmiles:
Isn't it contradictory that women shouldn't do some things because they are women,yet they want political offices in Nigeria because they are women and should be given the opportunity..

Not because they are women; because they are humans who want to serve.. and it shouldnt be an "opportunity" makes it sound like its a "favor" of some sorts to a 2nd class citizen.

missterious:
Thorpido, women have been marginalized for thousands of years. At this point, we have to ACTIVELY fight to have an equal voice. For example, to make a poor man a millionaire like his neighbour, you give him a million naira. And you give the neighbour nothing. It's a crude example but it's basically what women want now.

Ologunjude:
Get your point. I believe female doctors should take delivery of babies with help from female nurses. I sometime wonder how Muslim men manage in such circumstances.

Reference:
There is no difference whatsoever between a sixty year old man and a forty year old woman in terms of the ageing effects on looks, physique, sexual prowess and libido. Normal women age and burn out faster than men. This woman represents a small percentile, the sexually hyper active with a malfunctioning moral compass riding on the wings of an evil spirit.

But what's with these third world press reports. If you have the facts why can't you simply name names. What is the meaning of 'a certain Jane Doe working in Generation X bank'. It is when facts are hidden that rumour prevails. May we know her please.

Evanscoth:
See the multitude viewing ds post.................una sabi the woman ?

freecocoa:
I may not agree with all the points made by the OP, but of what use is the abortion tale to the man? This is in a situation where nothing went wrong, that is.

Momcherry:
Yes..I agree there are things u keep secret but there are issues you don't keep secret.

Eg. A friend of mine once told me of a friend whose husband of 6yrs doesn't know that her father is not really her father but her uncle. I was like 'what'?? Such minor issue? So, what if the guy happens to find out someday(which I'm sure he will)? Will there still be trust?