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philfearon:
lol!
Is that what you tell yourself?
Let me give u a clue: Your life is in your hands! Take a knife and stab yourself at the heart or get a gun and shoot yourself in the head and see what happens next.......You die!

There must be 'something' that tells you that is not the right thing to do.That should tell you it's not totally in your hands.
It's just a question of self-denial.

The fact that you've been trying to get pregnant for some years has got you anxious.There's something called pseudocyesis.Your body creates a feeling of pregnancy where there is none.
You are just about a week late and the tests may not be conclusive.What you do is wait as the doctor said and do another test/scan in about 2 weeks.
I wish you baby dust.

What i have done with my christian faith is produce results with it.Thank God for Jesus.

@Op,you had a 'christian religion',what you didn't have was a fellowship,a communion,a relationship and a revelation with Christ.

The Op is not smart.Can't he see that that is probably a hotel room?

Juzzybabe:
Yes sir. We are fine.

okay that's good.

Abasi Mbok.iya mi

Juzzybabe,how are u?Are u in ur friend's place now?

ahnie:
@doc,my husband was coachin me on how to open my legs wide for the doc on the delivery Day.is it gonna be painful?i meant delivery?

Labour is painful but you will go through it.Your body is prepared for it.
As per the pains you feel,not to worry,it's just a few weeks more.

Whatever couples decide to do sexually within the confines of their marriage as long as there is mutual consent is alright.
The bible does not have defined restrictions on what couples can or cannot do sexually.

........but wisdom is profitable to direct.

You can't fade this man no matter the criticism he gets.

Only God can judge us all.

He doesn't know the difference between discipline and abuse.

onatisi:
to be honest and I hope the sensible women on this thread will forgive me for this comment,majority of nigerian ladies are the dumbest ppl I have ever seen . I was discussing with a lady who had 3kids for a married man and she claimed she didn't know he was married until after the 3kid!!!!! I asked her that when u opened ur legs wide for him the first time and u got pregnant ,why didn't u compel him to come and know ur parents and do the necessary things? It is now she is looking for a husband,because the man is married but has no children so most likely the man and his wife planned it so that at least the man will have kids . I told the woman that u can and will never marry because in nigeria ,no man will marry a woman with 3kids even those with 1child dey spend months in prayer at mountain of fire by fire by force before getting a man to hook.

Women always blame men for being deceitful but I'm sorry to say they act dumb when they ought to be smart.How can you have 3kids for a man before finding out he is married?Do you meet him only in the hotel?
Women ought to be smarter.

MizEmpress:
A friend told me about something similar last week, the man had two kids as well before he met the seconnd lady and he swore he never married their mother and the second lady (a very young girl too) fell for the gist probably because of the money. Right now, she gets beat up almost everyday whenever he's in Nigeria, he brings in different women into his matrimonial home because he clubs excessively, he has cut her off from her family and friends and even neighbors (she doesn't work) and he's always saying he suspects her of having extramarital affairs even after she has had two boys for him and he also keeps saying he'll deal with her the day he finds out and when he's done with her, no man will even want her. She later found out that he was very married to the first lady (traditional ceremony only) and he kicked her out when he found out she was committing adultery. In my opinion, maybe his habits pushed the first lady to that extreme and that was the only way she felt she could get released from the prison she was in with him. In this case too, the first lady isn't reachable too (the man kept the kids and she left), no one really knows where she is or they aren't telling.
My mom's friend also got married to a man who had three children from two ladies before her and today she's living very very well with her own three kids, her step-kids love her, her husband adores her. She said when she was getting married to him, her own mother told her, "the other women have had their own children and they left, you too, go and have yours and if it is favorable, stay".
I'm saying all this because I believe the OP, even though the details seem bogus. And OP, the issue is between you and your conscience, you know your guy more- we don't; so weigh everything over in your mind again after reading all our comments. Life's 50-50, he could turn out to be better than these single guys and give you a more beautiful life or he could turn out to be worse than a monster. I wish you well

What a statement!@bolded.
The mindset of women in our mother's generation though.That was rubbish admonition.
She is lucky things turned out well for her.......................maybe she just dey patch am.

The Op must be pulling our legs or like Phema said,this fish brain thing don bad reach like this.

nickibarb:
I have a vague idea, he's a politician and their movements, meetings and stuff sometimes lasts up to wee hours of the morning. I get that and I trust him cos I know he's really in love with me and he's a devoted father. but all I ask is let me know when you won't be coming home but that has been the major genesis of our issues. like he thinks I'm trying to control him or something. he comes back, knows i'll be upset and gives me the silent treatment so we don't have to talk about it. after like 2 days, he's back to acting all lovey-dovey again. before i know it, he's doing it again and the cycle continues. I'm really at a loss as to how to fix it. I know he's not cheating cos i'm the president of team snoop. (I trust him oh but i'm just checking just in case lol).

He's really in love with you and he treats you this way?Something is not right.

bukatyne:
I don't know o! You are the man naw

It was just a reaction to cook, wear bum shorts, sex him better advices given when a husband is cheating.

So you like pink? Madame must hear this

lol,she knows already.

keenn:
This is a pathetic one, a tale that discourages young ladies to struggle with men of their youth in early matrimony. Nevertheless, we all know what's good.
Adultery, neglect, loss of affection are good grounds for divorce. Its better she stays off from this fellow than risk the chance of having STDs. You and other friends can rally round her to get an affordable lawyer and SUE for child support.

Life is short for anyone to manage anybody, what u are telling her ('God will intervene') is also what the friends of other wives are also telling.

@bolded,what do women always mean by struggle with a man?Doesn't the man also struggle with the wife?Was the man not born and exposed to the same life as the woman?If the man does not have much,is the woman any better?

There is nothing wrong with starting with little.The key is to choose a stable man,good character and morally upright.As a woman too,you don't sit back like a cheerleader(cheerleaders even do some work).You have to develop yourself and improve career-wise,even if all you do is business from home.Be able to hold your own.

bukatyne:
I started it and byvan picked it up

CC: Ngokafor

Do men like the red pant and bra?I don't feel it though.
Pink makes more sense.

A lot of things we do not understand in this life.The bible says we know in part and prophecy in part......

We shall know all things at the end.

Isaiah 57:1 says the righteous perishes and no man lays it to heart,merciful men are taken away and none considers that the righteous are taken away from the evil to come.

We all will shed this body someday.

May your friend R.I.P.Be consoled.

olasha1:
You think you have made d worse mistake in life??just imagine what will be d feeling of those ladies that Dump Dangote ,when he was young like this..

Money is not everything.There are women who may have refused his hand in marriage even when he had become rich.

This is their own idea of 'chopping' life.

nickibarb:
I notice most people say if a man has a bad trait, it must be something you ignored when you were dating. but I've cast my mind back like a million times. my husband, then bf and fiancé was so excellent. he never did even one thing to upset me for the 2 yrs prior to marriage. Sometimes i thought it was too good to be true, but who am I to look for faults when there was none. It's not like I was desperate to get married or anything. I was just 24, had my undergrad and postgrad degree. Surprisingly, we got married and then this ugly trait shows up. its not like his cheating or anything.Sometimes I wonder whether he feels he can't say sorry to me because he's so much older than me.

The bolded might be the issue.There is nothing wrong with dating a man much older than you but he must be able to come down to your level if he wants a relationship.Some girls say if it's more than 4yrs,they are not interested.I guess this might be one of the reasons.A man they can relate with at the same level.
Many people are at their best while dating so your hubby may not have shown this while dating.

ireneony:
even a blind man know that m.j is not their biological father

He must be the biological father of Paris.There is a resemblance.I can't say about all the kids though.
He was just a weird man.He might have had them by artificial insemination though.

nickibarb:
sometimes I really wonder. my husband says he loves God. he loves me passionately. he's usually a great husband and father except for occasional slip-ups like staying out all night, not calling to give me a heads up, coming back the next afternoon and not even giving me the courtesy of an explanation as to why he didn't come home. instead he'll rather give me the silent treatment for as long as I can bear it, eat the food I put out, dress up and go out again. what happened to a simple "sorry I couldn't come home because of .......". Trouble averted

nickibarb,there are issues between you and your hubby and it may have been something you chose to ignore or let him get away with while you were dating.Your hubby does not RESPECT you.
I don't know how you can earn that respect now but you have to start to put your foot down and don't let him ride all over you.You are his wife,not his housemaid.

Is it your wife that has to tell you if your mum who raised you loves you or not?

She should move on with her life.She's not in a marriage anymore and the earlier she comes to terms with it,the better.

emorse:
Simple my brother! Those who live in glass houses don't throw stones. Since Ben has decided to throw stones, we should join him. If his hands are truly dirty, then he'll be one more corrupt as.shole going down. And Nigeria would be better for it.

Yes o.If he's corrupt too then the wind of change should blow him too.

ROSSIKE:
There's a saying in law that he who comes to equity must come with clean hands. He needs to explain what he did with the 8 billion naira NTA allocation as DG, the spending of which brought next to no improvement in NTA services. Meanwhile his company Silverbird has grown from strength to strength since he left NTA.....It throws a BIG question on his claims to honesty.

Well I'm not his supporter but except there is a probe and he is indicted,he can't be said to have embezzled the funds.

The comments above me are unbelievable.We say we want change and someone's trying to drive that change and he gets criticised.
Martin Luther King must have been a talkative.

cococandy:
yours and mine share the same birthday. That's nice

Hbd to our loving hubbies.

Belated happy birthday to your hubby.May your home be blessed.

Jambsupport:
It's wrong. There's everything wrong in such act.

psychologically wrong,culturally(in some places),emotionally wrong e.t.c.
Marrying a blood relation is the only WRONG thing.

Jambsupport:
I think it has to do with ur tribe. For me, it's a disrespect to d dead.

What's my tribe?You haven't seen white people do it?
I'm only stating reality.Every other thing is emotional,pyschological and cultural.There is NOTHING wrong with a widower dating or marrying the friend of the dead wife.