₦airaland Forum

Ayofaks:
Divorce is not a death sentence Oga, marriage is not a do or die something. How many years are we spending on this earth that one will spend the little time in sadness and perpetual gloom? God forbid!!!

Will God even ask for marriage certificate when we all die? The way some people directly/indirectly encourage women to stay in unhappy marriages is mind boggling.

Finelinks:
"When I grow up, I would be rich and would build houses and give to the poor "

This was one of my musings growing up. Now in my very late twenties, the dream looks utopian, quixotic and unrealisable. For I have no house of my own let alone one to give to the poor free or rent free.


Life can be uncertain.
The vulcaniser in his fifties, on the street, could have aimed to be wealthy but it never came to pass.

The 40 year old truck pusher could have struggled to be rich but it was never to be.


Life, some say, is best lived in the early 20s. For after then one might start shouldering responsibilities. This is worse if the family is not wealthy. And if one doesn't earn well, one might find oneself in a rat race, a vicious cycle wherein one lives from paycheck to paycheck-- with little or nothing to save and being stuck.


These days I am always downcast, thinking about my life, unsure of what the future holds. Indecisive. Uncertain about which option or decision to take. Many times , I have thought of migration from the East to Lagos, Abuja or even Canada.

[i]"Pray to God for direction, they counsel.'
[/i]I have prayed yet nothing.
Does God really care?.
Are our affairs his concerns?
Is there anything like predestination or determinism?
Are some people designed or destined to be poor?
What does the bible mean when it acknowledges ---- both in the old and new testaments-- that the poor would always be there?

But wait, could some be termed rich if there are no poor?
How could be one be said to be tall if there are no short people?

I am confused, very.

How do I get rich and help people too?

How?

Really tired, I am.

Fountainofyouth:
You reek of irritation, the world, especially women, has moved on from enduring bullshiit, especially someone who has no remorse, what am I reading this night? Wtf!!! Marriage is not a fvcking do or die something, where do people like it's come out from

Fountainofyouth:
You see this your words, would you repeat it if it was the wife cheating without remorse and the husband remains dutiful and caring?

Majlaw:
14 billion naira? Its a lie

catwalq:
Whenever you get that suicidal thought, tell yourself that you will live and do good. Even if you have to say it out loud,trust me it works.

Positive reaffirmations are catalysts to negativity. I wish you peace sir

sulasa07:
Dey deceive urself,Mark Zuckerberg no get cash,na only online stock money he get.Though he's richer than May weather,but he doesn't have the cash in hand like Mayweather

cococandy:
That you think this is about which poster is right or wrong as opposed to what promotes OP’s suffering for misogynistic reasons shows how much sense you have.

cococandy:
If you’d type the same trash when it’s the wife acting that way. Then you have a leg to stand on. Otherwise take your hypocritical self away.

Talking about bursting an artery, it’s amusing to see you nincompoops bending over backwards and twisting yourselves into unbelievable shapes to find more ways to tell women to accept abuse as a normal thing.

wonyi:
@ watch this movies war room and why did I get married. You need to be strong to work things out. It's a woman that builds a home. You need to put your home in order.

Look for someone your husband respect like pastor or an elderly uncle or friend. Explain things to them. Remember to remain calm.

Ask yourself, are you tired of the marriage?(I supposed the answer is no)
Do u want your marriage back?(yes)

If the answer is yes, then it's time to work things out. take charge. I believe the exam period is on, after the exam please Strategies.

Try and be focused now. Do things that make u happy. You have sacrificed to build your marriage, and no one can tear your family apart. Pick points from those movies.

Everyone is trying to make their marriage work. It's not easy anywhere. Don't be DECEIVED. Some of us , have gone through worse.look for that inner strength, you are strong and brave. Build courage up.

Keep your job. When responding to your hubby be calm and don't respond harshly. Maybe being mute may help or silent treatment for now. He will get scared because he doesn't know what you are up to.

Remember to dialogue when the atmosphere is calm.communicate and know the reason for his actions. Please and please DONT BEG. you didn't do anything wrong. Once you start begging, you will keep begging. Search yourself, you know yourself. Whatever you are not doing right be get it right.

[b][/b] it's not late yet. Good luck

cococandy:
Is the husband at fault here?

Yes or No.

So much disgusting BS

chekz169:
Yes! and expensive too, the price of a 128gb SSD will buy a 1 terabytes HDD

tabithababy:
You want to lose your job cos of a man

lilmax:
she's living in bondage because she's doing what makes her happy(the feminist line)?

As feminists do you guys use logic in your lives?

Najyin:
How many kw is 2k worth of power bought from the electricity suppliers.

Kingosytex:
Anybody that participates in BBN is automatically a celebrity. What makes them celebrities is what am still unable to figure out


The amount of energy and time invested by the youths into following up the BBN stuff is crazy, if only the youths could channel that zeal into something productive, the country will be better in no distant time

Soul47:
No need for the insult.

I typed in a haste and if that means first class graduates don't make mistakes, sadly I do and I learn from it when corrected.

Have a nice day.

successsurvivor:
Please my dear, don't be depressed. The fact still remains our Educational institutions in Nigeria are corrupt and money driven. It is worst in private and all state universities and polytechnics compared to federal universities where its minimal or non existence. I graduated from UNN, I know what am saying.

Please always attend a federal university. Also, my family friend that attended FUTO was intentional failed and delayed for 4 years after his mates have graduated. Group of lectures ganged up on him, saying he was chasing their girlfriend.

Word of advice, pay the Lecturer so your course can be passed, if you resit it, they will fail you again, secondly, never attend a state university, this scenerio is minimal in federal universities. YOU ALL READING THIS HAVE BEING WARNED.

Thirdly, try getting a university degree directly, all this ND/HND crap aren't worth it, you spend more years in school compared to a degree holder only to get an ordinary, unappreciated HND.

Most importantly, when sad, depressed, confused, afraid, uncertain of the future, run to God in PRAYERS, supplications, praise, worship and maditate on his words and believe all is well, knowing your heavenly Father is with you, walking with you through life's trials and tribulations.

You are not alone my dear. Remain blessed because you are already blessed. Don't forget the plan of God for you is for you to prosper and be of good health, and the devil will contest that, try to make you depressed so he can destroy, kill or divert your Destiny.

Stand your ground because he that is in you, is greater than he that is in the world. You are more than a conqueror. Raise, take up your battle Axe, and fight for what you believe in. The Lord doesn't make mighty men, he creates them through there truimph over life battles. More grace beloved. #Hugs

OvaSabi1:
Stop complaining, you should have paid the 15k. Even ACCA the world's largest Accounting body will charge you 25k for your script to be remarked. It is not even like they will remark it, they will just do a recount.
Stop doing strong head for everything, this is Nigeria. I will go out on a limb to tell you that you should have paid the initial 7k. Yes I said it. If you cannot cope, get out of Nigeria. The deficiency is endemic, only you cannot beat it.
Stubbornness is for 20 minutes, CGP is for ever.
Pick up yourself with the lessons learnt and try to balance your portfolio with professional certifications.

Soul47:
Quick question, if you have lost interest in school what do you intend doing then?

Best advice is for you to brace up, finish what you have started, study the books back to back and sort as others do.
Main thing is that you get what you want.

Am a first class graduate who know my onions in what I studied but the truth is the grade did not come through brains alone, I created interpersonal relationship with my lecturers and sorted the strong heads. Sometimes I even sort to get a B because that is the highest grade the lecturer can give to the students; of course very few of us.

If you can give ceaser what belongs to ceaser and behave like the Romans while in Rome, be sure to be successful anywhere you are.

Could have said more but no time.

Just keep studying but blend in with the system to get what you want.