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McCoy662:
Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.
It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.
Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf ( my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She don't even visit on a regular except for sex
Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much.
My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.

I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.

Of a true she sees you as a sex object and totally you have taken ur self so low all because of low she sees u as a tool to satisfy her sexual urges seriously you shouldnt have allowed it to get to this stage why don't you just forget this girl I bet you even if she comes back begging you to forgive don't because you reserve a better someone love has blinded you brother for how London do you want to be wasting your life on someone who uses you,take you time and invest in something better I get irritated when I see ladies treat guys like this is so terrible is it by force

Deicide:
abi i lie

if u have sense then you should know that you don't exist because it was nether your parent that created you

Auntyesther:
Yes o! Am broke laa maybe when i geh money ni i'll be like that

another thing you are what you believe the more you believe you are broke the more you remain broke and the more you push success away from you see yourself different and different noticed you attract what you believe about yourself

Auntyesther:
Some people are very fine o.. Choi! see skin! God when? Congrats

soup wet sweet na money kill am u are beautiful too it could just be money factor that is not there

Akinsoladwayne:
Good evening everyone, I'd like to make my story a concised one.
There's is a particular girl I met on FB mid last year,we got chatting and as time went on we were so fond of each other (she calls me daily so do I). On the long run I asked her out and she did well by accepting my offer. We have been dating since September actually and let me just say we are 5months old now. But recently she's been acting suspicious ,like anytime I call her and she's with her male friend (s) ; she does not really flow well with me compared to when she's alone. And anytime I get to complain about this,she says I'm too nagging and she detests that.
Now something really happened this afternoon when I called her. I noticed she was with a guy (that ain't my concern tho)
during the process of us talking,she placed the call on a hold .at first I was furious but I then called her thinking that was a mistake. Only for me to recall her she didn't pick the call not until the 3rd time and she picked but still wasn't talking to me but the guy she was with. I've been really sad about this cause different thoughts have been flowing through my mind.
Could she be cheating on me ? Cuz she's someone I wanna plan my future with even though we haven't met in person but the way we converse one would think we'd known each other for long.
Pls I need ur advice

it could be that she is with you because of other benefit she enjoys from you lemme ask how much have you spent in her,just because someon
e calls you does not mean the person like you how will she always be with another guy and you are comfortable save your strength find another woman is not easy but is better than heartbreak you are seeing signpost yet you are still asking for direction

you tell her ni,if you can open her legs for you they alshe has given you are biggest secret she did not withhold back while are you withholding truth from her,when she was at it she too had ready are mind to get any disease now,how will u have unprotected sex ,you are saying she will be mad at you she too would have know she was ready for anything when having unprotected sex with you ,anyway sex before marriage is a sin worst part if you don't end up marrying her who do you think should collect the disease from her,baba tell her

how true is this pears baby lotion how effective is it for a bleached skin or a whiten skin out of balance

abeg where is the church located lemme attend

how much

report her hare she is s terrible woman maybe God wants you to know the kind if wan she is that's why you were position at that place at that particular time you beta tell your friend to save him from a cheating spouse

Where is it written in the Bible tell us

How are u sure that he has been delivered from that gay act,the truth that the act is a spirit someone need to be delivered from it,chubby might want you because maybe he knows you know his dirty secret so don't fall flat you can't play with the devil too close even if he marries you he might still continue the act tell him or confront him

Please what do u advise ?

Hello nairalanders, my husband Micheal (not real name) and I have been married for 8 Years. God blessed him with a big job which was paying so much so he said I should stop working and take care of the home and the children.
The arrangement was fine but I noticed he was always cheating on me. That was the only problem. He traveled alot and everywhere he traveled to,there were girls following him. We quarreled about it but he would deny everything but I knew it.I would see chats,nudes of girls. I would even see bank alerts of him sending money to girls. For the fist 4 years of our marriage,it was fight every time because of cheating. I decided to let him be cos people were telling me that every rich man must cheat.As time went on,I began to tell him to make savings and let us start a project so that we can move into our own place. He kept telling me that he will buy a property in Lekki,that I should not worry.Well,God gave me wisdom and I saved money from what he used to give to me. I began to build something in Ipaja. Under 2 years,I finished it. I started investing in lands. I will buy and sell like 2 years after. I also built and started a school. Things were going well for me. I focused my energy on my business and allowed my husband to continue cheating.Around the middle of last year,My husband’s company packed up. The owners who are foreigners left the country. Before long,my husband spent all his savings on girls.Not up to 2 months after he lost his job,he started to beg me for money.
I was giving him 20k every week. But I knew he has to get a job cos I cannot continue like this. The worst is that he still spends the money I give to him on girls. Most of the girls have left him…only the hungry ones remained.
I decided to stop giving him money in October. I asked him to get a job. He keeps saying there is no job. Meanwhile,he gets jobs and refuses to accept them cos they were not going to pay him like his former job. He is living in a fantasy.Now,he is going around telling people that I am being wicked when he is the one that has been carrying the family all these years. That I am maltreating him,not giving him food or assisting him financially.Everyone is talking about me,in our family,that I am a wicked woman. I want to kill the man etc. No one is seeing that the more I give him money,the more he spends on girls and he will never take up a job. Fine,I have a school but its not making as much money as it should.I am the one totally responsible for taking care of our four children. Trying to maintain the standard we have been used to. At the end of our rent here,I said we will move to my property in Ipaja but he says no…but where do we get money to pay another rent when he does not have a job?He is putting me under pressure yet he still cheats on me….how am I supposed to be happy to even give him the little I have?does he want us to go completely broke before he decides to get his life back on track?…his people dont want to advise him.Instead they see me as wicked…
Tell me nairalanders,what else should I do?

YES

Abeg they should not allow that I know is all for evil they will soon start wearing miniskirt government should not agree is all a stategy of the devil to woo people

Funke akindele should not be on that list

Is not only in that schoo,l girls hostel are usually dirty the thing is that they don't tell anyone they just dress neat and come outside fooling the dudes that their hostel is neat like the way they appear to be neat

Why are we men frustrating this women like this in the 80s the thrending thing was a slim woman with fine face no need for anything in the 70s is a fat another too obsessed woman now in this generation is a woman with the big behind who is changing our orientation like this now I know after some years again it will be something different then you forced all woman toward getting those thing so that they can be admirer sorry ooo

If I caught my girlfriend cheating I will not confront her is waste of energy anyone who is confident to cheat on you does not like no matter her or his explanation so move on God wanted to know she was a xjeqt that's why he make you to know that the person you are dating is a cheater stop wasting you time forgiving cheaters if they are caught they will promise you heaven and earth never involving themselves in the promiscuous lifestyle but it is not true if you confront her they will beg you but it won't stop they will only become wiser and careful so move on the person does not derseve you I know is not easy but instead thank your stars that happen at least you caught her/him cheating what of those that are married but uptill now they haven't caught their spouse thank God and move on but this time take your mistake of your past as direction for your new relationship

U are stupid if your fiancee a pair of shoes In the market that everybody will be testing or a pice of meat that everybody will be testing you deserve what you got wisdom is profitable for direction ,let them marry you can not teat your fiancee your self if ur sister that will do the testing you are on your won oooo even of I am the one I will go after your sister because u don't trust your man

clevvermind:
advice this sister.

My Newlywed Husband Cannot Perform In Bed.
What Should I do?


I have two objectives of sharing this pathetic story of mine, one, to educate every young single lady out there. Two, to seek advice on what to do.
Growing up as a young lady, I always look forward to that day I will get married to my own husband, have children and in a happy home. But what am currently seeing now is the total opposite of my wish.
I met Tunji during my NYSC service in Kwara State, he is a handsome young looking guy, smart and a banker at one of the new generation banks in the state.
Just a year into our relationship, he proposed marriage to me. It was a wonderful thing to me and a surprise as he did this on the eve of my birthday. Without wasting time, I quickly gave him a “YES” answer.
Three months later we got married. On our wedding day, we received so many blessings from both parents and wishes from loved ones but it seems none of the blessings and wishes is working in our marriage.
The episodes of the story started on my wedding night. As a young lady and a newlywed bride, I expected that night to be special (you know what I mean) but what I experienced was a total difference.
My newlywed husband cannot perform his duty as a man (sexually), I mean his pen!s did not rise at all. It was just like a rubber hose. what should I do?

Sister I want to asked a question did you marry your husband as a virgin if you did not seriously u are50 percent in for abig trouble in your husbamd s house because probably your former boyfriend can be better than your husband in bed which would cause havoc because you will always want that kind of experience you had with other men and if you don't get it you might be force to go outside,secoudly if you are a virgin then ur problem is smaller in that God will bless your union marriage is honourable to all and the bedleft undefiled as a wife lay tour complain to God who gave you the husband he is fairful and is interested in your marriage tell it to God both of you prayed about it God would not put two faithful people together just to see their marriage have issues,and I heard there are some sexual enhancement drugs men can take probably this can help your man Google them but this should not be like a forced thing because those drug have side effect on the man and the woman too okay remain blessed

Take responsibility now,shey he is handsome enough and that's the only quality okay for him to have sex with you,okay now be happy that the handsome mans seed is in you at least when you keep seeing the baby you will be remembering Mr handsome anytime of your life sister you open your leg to the man then you did not ask what you should have done now you are asking us all nairalander what you should do ,sister keep the baby if you abort it you are guilty of murder and God will hold you responsible for the blood of the innocent child you kill if the man truly loves you he will acknowledged the fact that he is the father of your baby anyway OYo is your chase if the man no agree either you can kill an innocent baby and expect God to be showing you mercy u enjoy the sex so why are u sounding as if we(naira landers) was there when you were having sex

Dear Nairalanders,
My younger sister is 38 years old. I am 44. We have been praying for her to get married for so long. You can imagine our happiness when she told us she was in a relationship about 4 months ago.My sister as never been so happy and it looks like things are serious with the guy. She sent a picture of the guy on our family group chat and that was when I recognized the guy that she was dating.To cut the long story short,she is dating the guy who dis-virgined me at age 17. He was 15 years. 2 years younger than me but he was my first. We hid the relationship then cos we were in secondary school. I was in SS2 and he was in SS 1.But after secondary school,we dated until my 300 level in school. Still hiding our relationship cos he was not yet in school cos of JAMB. I was a little ashamed to be dating a guy not yet in school.Eventually,I moved on to other people and did not keep in touch with him. However,I met him about 3 years ago. I was already married to someone else but seeing him brought back such strong feelings. And to make matters worse,I was having issues in my marriage at that time.We had an affair for almost 2 months before we broke up again. I have not seen him in 2 years. My sister and him met about 4 months ago and they are dating. I do not know how to tell my sister …so I reached out to him to ask him what he is doing with my sister.He was like,if he cant have me,he wants my sister. That he is in love with her…that she reminds him of me…I feel like telling my sister that he may not really like her as she thinks but he is only trying to get back at me. But he says if I do,he will tell my husband about our affair.Since then,I have kept quiet. But my conscience is bugging me. I pretend to be smiling around him but I hate him so much. This hate actually,if I must confess is a deep urge for him. A deep longing for him.He has promised to keep quiet about us if I also keep quiet. That nobody needs to know. But anytime am around him…or even thinking about him..am messed up. He gives me that knowing look. I cant even let him come near me…I get wet instantly..This guy knows I have a weakness for him and him being around me is totally making me loose my mind. I get all kinds of arousal around him or thinking about him. Sometimes I wish I could marry him.My sister just announced in the group chat that he gave her an engagement ring…I could not sleep. I want my sister to be happy…she deserves it. But what do I do….I have strong feelings for this guy.I do not want to be around him or I do not know what will happen.Please advise me on what to do. Telling my sister is out of the question cos if I do,this guy will ruin my marriage. He has pictures of us during the affair. Should I just keep quiet and stay out of their way?
I am confused…please advice me.
Please your candid advise is needed

Ravibes:
A Nigerian has taken to his twitter handle to raise
condemnation against the richest man of God in Africa,a Nigerian minister of God popularly known as Bishop David Oyedepo.

Bishop David Oyedepo of Living Faith Church Worldwide, also known as Winners' Chapel International has been dragged out for scrutiny over his tremendous wealth he has acquired as a minister of God and alleged directive that members should pay to church their "first fruits", a term for their first salary of the year as offering.

Source below!!!

https://zulujam.com/entertainment-gist/oyedepo-owns-5-private-jets-3-universities-only-a-fool-will-pay-first-fruit-to-him-nigerian-man-reacts/

If It pain u too much go and start your church rubbish

How did they know that she use her menstral flow to prepare food for her husband

That's why i said you should join the group