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Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

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ifeomabernard:
ODE! and how should we address this your stupidity. mumu

you are only been sentimental and I don't blame you because you are a lady,during my time in those days people see thing s and try to reason matter out instead of pouring unnecessary insult of one another

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zexy2030:
The rate at which single women sex these days, the future is staring glare that, there would be no families but independent people with multiple sex partners. Soon men will allow or pay another man to have group fvck with their wife for satisfaction and against boredom.
Ask a boy/girl of 16 he/she would have had atleast 10body counts.
I remembered a girl, far back in secondary school, she was even a bit disabled on her left leg, she was 14. She fvcked 6boys straight before she got tired with the 7th guy. You know what , she voluntarily allowed us, because she felt inferior and needed attention. Unfortunately she was more hated. Now thinking back, before she is 18-30 and thinking of marriage, imagine the damage. At home she looks so mild but she is wild inside. Now, imagine a guy met this girl in church or somewhere and married her...can she be ever faithful, we have such girl many in churches or mosques today.
Honestly, this generation is doomed with sex.
I just pray its not wiped away soon like sodom.
My worry is about a girl who had been involved in group sex or had been a prostitute(maybe instagram-inmessage) encountered different dicks n strengths. Now she is getting married.
How long do you think that marriage would last.
Don't you think, they can't and won't be able to stay under a man for the rest of their lives?

Seriously I don't want to marry again woman matter tired me wetin person na go here with Nigeria ladies ,they are seriously disgusting if you asked that lady now she will say she is a virgin when the innocent dude marry her she go start to complain say the guy no they satisfy her anymore frustrating the guy making his life miserable ,better to remain single than to be with a promiscuous woman shit

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]A man was staring at my hair lustfully at an occasion....He could not stop staring at me.

What could this mean?[/color]

How does starting at your hair lustfully look like ,and how can u differentiate that from the normal admiration .wetin we know go here from Nigeria girls?

kufre2010:
Three years ago, I met my fiancée and being ready to settle down I made my intention known to her. Since then we had been together as friends though she live with her father but occasionally comes to my house. Last year September she took in for me. In November I found some text in her phone from her former boyfriend begging her to come back to him so that he can arranged for marriage as he want her as his wife. I ask my fiance she says she had not done anything with him since they broke up just that he had been begging and disturbing her. December 2019 we had marriage introduction of which I collected list of items. She had started anti-natal, but just two days ago I found another texts which her former boyfriend sent asking her why she embarrassed him by carrying my baby, that when she used to come to his house she will put her phone on airplane mode, sometimes when her phone is on and I called she will talk as if she is talking someone she is not related to and that he had my number on his phone which he remove from her phone a year ago. I ask my girl she said the guy is lying that she went to his house more than 2years ago. I am thinking she was still seing the guy after I knew her. I have fixed our wedding this year march. Cheating is what I hate most but I don't know if it is enough to cancel the wedding as she is 4 months pregnant for me. Pls advice

Go and do paternity test so you will know if that child self belongs to y

He be like say most of this Nigeria celeb second job na prostitution wetin be all this nonsense now,what kind of vile generation did I meet myself ,you are a celebrity and all you can do is exposed your body and I can see a lot of stupid comment from so called people am ashamed of myself look at how she is celebrated for rubbish

shakmati:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. She is a very nice woman who is not bossy and accepts situations the way they come. She is not the problem. The problem now is that I have become bored of the marriage. Maybe I would not be so bored of the marriage if not for the wife of my brother in law. That is my wife's brother.

I schooled in a university in the Northern part of Nigeria and the said lady was also a student of the same university though my junior. When I started dating my wife, I came to know the lady. Let's say her name is Angela. Angela was all I desired in a wife. Fierce, motivated, beautiful and to make matters most interesting, she was also attracted to me. Ever since we met in my inlaws place, Angela and I have always admired each other. Truth be told, we always steal the opportunity to be together on dates or other functions if the conditions permit. We have only managed to not have intimacy by unexplainable circumstances.

5 years down the road after marriage for me and 3years after Angela's marriage to my brother in law, we have both become bored of our spouses. I have a daughter and a son while Angela has a daughter. Since July 2019, Angela has let me know she is no longer interested in her marriage. I am also terribly bored of my marriage.

We are now seeking ways to amicably end our unfortunate unions to be with each other without causing too much pain to everyone involved in this situation. I am thinking of giving a house to my wife and telling her I want a seperation. Angela has stopped intimacy with her husband for more than a year now.

I need the advice of folks here on how best to do this so everyone involved can move on peacefully without much friction.

Only honest advice needed. No insults please.

You are a very greedy man,just because you want to have your way with the said Angela you are willing to forgo the happiness of your wife and that of your children ,even if you don't love your wife why don't you consider your children why are we so terrible like this ,just because both of you think you are in love the next thing is to forgo your spouses why is it that people don't think about God,please how do you feel that God will feel about this situation and how certain are you that this said Angela will be better than your wife don't judge a book by his cover you can't know a woman till she starts living with you,don't you know that the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know,as a writing this a feeling for you,you don't know what God has done for you he gave you wife and children and you want to throw all that away because of your selfishness,even the God I know will not bless such union the face that Angela even agreed to leave her child to follow you shows that Angela is a very bad woman if she can leave her own blood the child she carried for 9 month then know this it will not be difficult for her to leave you after she has gotten whatever she wanted from you,please love your wife so that you would not use your hand to destroy your family

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1. The way she looks at you
Anything that arouses interest in a person also attracts his or her look. If a girl holds her look on you too long, then you can definitely talk about her interest. Although it’s still too early to tell about falling in love. To verify the faithfulness of this conclusion, just look after yourself. And here you will notice that when the object of adoration falls into your field of vision, your eyes immediately concentrate on this person. This point of view is not only for girls.Can you catch her look on you when you are in a big company? If at least three or four times it happens during your meeting, the girl definitely is interested in you. But it is too early to say that she is truly in love with you. To understand such things you need a closer eye contact with the object. It is difficult to explain but when a person is in love the way she looks at you changes. The look is softer and deeper and while she is silent her eyes scream "I love so much". Our mouth can lie, but our eyes always say the truth.
2. External changes
Love can make a girl do another haircut, change the style of clothes, and indeed change interests and social circle. Here we are talking not only about falling in love. It is time to talk about true love if she wants to hear your opinion first and her eyes are craving a response, a positive response. You must appreciate such a girl because she is not afraid of changes just to please you, to look the way you like.
3. Desire to meet and chat
A woman in love will be looking for an opportunity to meet and communicate with the guy she likes. In this situation, absolutely any reason can be used, from a joint holiday by a large company to a chance meeting on the street. And such a meeting may not be accidental.We also recommend you to pay attention to the way a lady talks to you. It is not 100%, but if she is shy and lost in words, we can say that she has feelings for you. Of course, a lot depends on the character of a girl, some lady vice versa begin to talk a lot when they meet with the love object.
Also, it should be mentioned that a girl may likely be in love with you if she:listens with great pleasure about your affairs;tries to gather all possible information about you from someone else;is always ready to help you, regardless of her own affairs.
4. Care and self-sacrifice
Men are used to the fact they should take care of girls. And indeed, a man in love tends to take care of his beloved. A girl in love takes care of her beloved.If you are sick, and she comes to you much more often than other friends, if she wants to take care of your health, we can say that she has deep feelings to you. Here we also should add self-sacrifice. If a girl is terribly afraid of drowning, but she boldly seats near you into the boat, you mean a lot to her and she trusts you.A girl in love very often puts the interests of the guy to the fore, forgetting about herself for a while. If she adapts to your schedule, understands when you are tired or hungry, and takes into account what you like and hate, then she has feelings for you. Try to figure out if your girl has become more attentive and respectful towards you. But remember that any lady will expect from you the same, do not disappoint her. Sometimes big disappointment can kill the deepest feelings
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She will sit closer to you in cafes, in the cinema and other places. She hopes that at some point your hands will meet. If the girl is always trying to fix your hair, slap on the shoulder or remove an invisible speck of dust from you, you can safely admit to her feelings - and you will surely get reciprocity.Touches mean a lot in relationships and can tell a lot about the true feeling of a person. If you feel attraction and even love to a person you need to touch him, and it is a natural need. And vice versa, when there are no more feelings between two people, the fewer touches appear in their relationships. So, if you notice that she gets big pleasure even from a tiny touch of you, you should pay attention to this sign.

ifeomabernard:
ODE! and how should we address this your stupidity. mumu

Which one be DIS one again wetin person go call this one now,anyway I no blame you because you don't see anything wrong in the way the lady dress I think you should be ashamed to even come and be writing rubbish if you think the girl did right by putting on that provocative clothe that's ur problem ,have you heard of the law of attraction the kind of negative energy you give out by your clothing is the kind of negative energy you receive back abeg more grace to u,if you want come and dress naked I am not your GOD

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Midas01:
I have seen men's joysticks while they're urinating on the street and I didn't suddenly feel the need to rape them. I've seen a man playing football on the street wearing that was like a pant only and I didn't feel like raping him either.

the truth is we are different men are move by what they see woman on the contrary are moved by what they hear,so we view life different what would move a man might not move a woman and what a woman will hear to fall for her man, a man might not be moved by what another lady is saying

tomdon:
Don't address her anything, face your business. Idiot rapists like you should be in the zoo

U are an idiot for telling me that did you ever hear me say that I would love to rape abeg read wetin I write before you start to they talk,I wonder why you don't understand things before you draw conclusion if you don't understand the point the person is trying to ask simply ask instead of fooling yourself

Some ladies are really very confused if you come out like this how do u want the guy to see ,if I am the one self I will be thinking in my mind like see prostitute now they make boys list after them and tell us they are only looking for attention what kind of stupid attention is that one they put men on too much pressure yet they pretend to only be trying to look good pure nonsense why will you dress out like this and all you want is the boy to see that you are fine ,ladies should understand that we men tend to address woman by the way they dress

Where is the picture

Hello I will like to chat up with you please can I get your number

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Hmmmm the dude is playing you I see a setup here the best thing you can does to meet the guy try and talk thing with him or look for one of his closest friends u can trust explain everything to him he might be of great help to you

Baba tell ur wife the whole truth lemme tell u something there is nothing hidden that will not be made know it might take time truth will reveal itself why not tell her though hurtful free ur conscience ask God for mercy and move on than keep a lie that will be revealed after so many days which then will not only hurt her but damaged her feelings by ur reputation is on d line man, let the cat outta the bag

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Why gave prostitute taken over the nollywood abeg see nonsense

Stupid lady very gullible person am sure she is undersom demonic interest and her gain is to win souls for the devil nonsense,

I feel some of this actress are IndecentStar they are so shameless no iota of dignity tomorrow she will say she is a christsin look at the rotten words coming from a celebrity , my generation is in a big mess how did we end up in this way ahhhhh how I wish I could bring back those days in which you adorn woman by their dignity,I how I wish, which man will marry you someone so ignorant as you mtcheetw

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